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Confidence in the bedroom isn’t about looking a certain way or knowing all the “right moves”—it’s about feeling comfortable in your body, embracing your desires, and communicating openly with yourself and your partner. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, building sexual confidence can transform your experience of intimacy, bringing more pleasure, connection, and self-assurance.

In this episode, we explore how to overcome self-doubt, let go of performance anxiety, and step into your sexual power with confidence, self-love, and mindfulness.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• How to overcome insecurities around your body and sexual performance
• Why pleasure is more important than performance and how to shift your mindset
• The power of mindfulness, breathwork, and sensory awareness in enhancing pleasure
• How self-love and daily confidence practices translate to the bedroom
• Breaking free from societal expectations and embracing your authentic sexuality

Have a question about building sexual confidence? Struggling with self-doubt or body image? Send in your anonymous questions, and I’ll answer them in future episodes!

Pleasure isn’t a destination—it’s about being fully present in your body and desires. When you let go of fear and embrace confidence, you unlock deeper intimacy, joy, and freedom.

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As we step into 2025, many of us are setting big, bold goals for the year ahead. But let’s be honest—pursuing those dreams can sometimes feel overwhelming or like a grind. What if there was a way to approach your goals that felt energizing, exciting, and deeply fulfilling?

In this episode, I introduce a fresh perspective: incorporating pleasure into your goal-setting and achievement process. Join me as I explore:

• Why shifting your mindset can make goals feel fun instead of heavy.
• The power of breaking big goals into small, enjoyable steps.
• How to align your goals with what genuinely lights you up.
• The importance of celebrating small wins and resting without guilt.
• Why self-love is your secret weapon for staying motivated.

Pleasure isn’t just a reward at the end of your journey—it’s the fuel that can help you move through anything with joy, ease, and confidence. Tune in to discover how to make your goals more digestible, more sustainable, and a whole lot more fun!

You don’t want to miss this phenomenal conversation with the incredible Kate Bailey, a passionate advocate for neurodiversity. Kate's mission is to help neurodivergent women reclaim their brilliance, play big, and create a life and business that aligns with their unique strengths. In this episode, we explore the power of embracing neurodivergence, the challenges faced by those with ADHD, autism, or other neurodivergent identities, and how Kate has reinvented herself to embrace her own neurodivergent journey.

We’re breaking down:

• What neurodivergence is
• Kate’s powerful and healing role in my own neurodivergence journey
• Her massive reclamation of her identity)
• What masking is and how it shows up for people
• The role of self-diagnosis and self-awareness
• Addressing the shame and feelings of wrongness often associated with neurodivergence, especially when undiagnosed.
• How The Whore Crawl was born and why it’s so fucking powerful and healing
• The sexy side of neurodivergence and how your hypersensitivity can be sensuality superpower
• Rejection sensitivity dysphoria (RSD)
• How to be a great advocate for yourself 
• How to be inclusive and supportive for neurodivergent people
• The sometimes deadly consequences of misinterpretations of and lack of education around neurodivergent behaviors

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Book yourself a FREE 60 minute consultation with me: https://wethelightschedule.as.me/schedule.php

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Grab your copy of my free e-book, “”From Perfectionist to Pleasure Expert” at: https://wethelight.org/subscribe

Sometimes, this work is about expanding your capacity for joy and good and easefulness, and sometimes it’s about expanding your capacity to hold yourself through the hard shit. Either way, it requires discipline and it’s so fucking powerful.

I’m breaking down how I use this work to support me through difficult times, what aliveness really means to me, and how I went from doing all the things to avoid my aliveness to becoming a disciple of it.

Are you ready to make space for YOUR aliveness today?

In this episode, I’m sharing:

• My self-reclamation journey around my neurodivergence
• The tools that have helped me to stop living on autopilot
• How daily practice of my tools has helped me through this period of grief and holding a lot
• The recipe for me in this season

Feeling the nudge to work 1:1 together? Send me an email at info@wethelight.org 

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Grab your copy of my free e-book, “”From Perfectionist to Pleasure Expert” at: https://wethelight.org/subscribe

It’s easy to step into and own your aliveness and radiance when things are going well in your life…but what about when you’re going through grief, loss, or devastation? 

It can feel pretty fucking hard to even function during these times, let alone stay connected to your aliveness and radiance, amiright? But babe, finding ways to return to pleasure, turn on, radiance, and aliveness DURING the times when shit hits the fan can feel so incredibly supportive for you and I want to help you get there.

So if you’re struggling to fight for your turn on, radiance and aliveness amidst devastation in your life right now (I’m right there with you, boo), this episode is for you. 

I’m breaking down:

• The new way that I’m approaching grief 
• A favorite quote of mine from one of my mentors, Mama Gena, for finding your radiance even when you’re going through some deep shit in your life
• The things about aliveness that you probably are overloooking (it’s so much more than pas de bourréeing around live, laugh, loving, my friends)
• What “turn on” means for me (vs what “turned off” means to me)
• Why expecting and waiting for THESE things to turn you on is a dangerous game
• Some of my favorite quick and easy turn on tools you can go to even if you’ve just got a couple of minutes
• How to move yourself through a contraction

Ready to take this work deeper?I’ve got a handful of 1:1 spaces open and I’d love to help you. Head over to my website and book yourself a free call with me: https://wethelightschedule.as.me/schedule.php

Or drop into my DMs on IG: https://instagram.com/wethelight_llc

Grab your copy of my free e-book, “”From Perfectionist to Pleasure Expert” at: https://wethelight.org/subscribe

I know what you’re thinking when I say I’m a pleasure expert…. but that’s not what this work is about.  Pleasure doesn’t look one shade, one color, one texture, and what I do isn’t at all about toy parties or hanging around naked (trust me, I’ve heard it!) Having a pleasure practice is just about living a life that feels really good, feels rich and full, and regulates your nervous system. And angel, you’re so worthy of that.

In this replay of my most popular episode, I’m bringing you a super transparent journey on the subject of pleasure, which is a huge component of my work. We’ll dive into the different ways pleasure can be cultivated in your life, the benefits you’ll see and feel when you do, and some simple tools and practices to get you there.

I’m breaking down:

• Why it’s so important to create a pleasure practice you can come back to throughout the day
• The struggles men have around openly enjoying pleasure, and why this work isn’t just for women
• Pro tips and super simple, quick ass tools to bring pleasure into your life so that you can go from feeling crunchy to bringing joy and fun into your life
• The benefits of cultivating a pleasure practice to take care of your nervous system, even if you’ve experienced trauma or sexual abuse
• How to experience the magic of slowing down
• The other fun side effects of getting into pleasure we don’t often think of
• How having a healthy relationship to pleasure can also help you with money
• Practicing self-care and self-love, what does that even mean?
• The massive gift that being connected to your pleasure gives you
• ONE thing to ask yourself every day so that you can really start stepping into your pleasure
• And more!

Book yourself a FREE 60 minute consultation with me: https://wethelightschedule.as.me/schedule.php

Connect with me on IG: https://instagram.com/wethelight_llc

Grab your copy of my free e-book, “”From Perfectionist to Pleasure Expert” at: https://wethelight.org/subscribe

Today I’m bringing you a juicy, quick and dirty episode for you about embodiment. There’s so much amazing wisdom in your body, and I want to help you get good at being in communication with yours. So are you ready to shift your relationship with your body? Let’s go!

I’m diving into:

• What embodiment really means (it’s not just about movement!)
• The importance of knowing our body’s messages
• The crunchiness I had that used to convolute the idea of being in my body and the revelation I had that helped me shift it
• A dramatic story for you as an example of how embodiment recently showed up for me in my life
• Simple ways you can start getting in touch with your body TODAY

Book yourself a FREE 60 minute consultation with me: https://wethelightschedule.as.me/schedule.php

Connect with me on IG: https://instagram.com/wethelight_llc

Grab your copy of my free e-book, “”From Perfectionist to Pleasure Expert” at: https://wethelight.org/subscribe

And we’re back with the juiciness that is Yelena, my good friend and Sex, Love, & Relationship guide, in this Part 2 episode. Join us today as we continue the conversation and dive deep into adding some magical pleasure into your everyday tasks. Whether you’re washing dishes or driving around town, Yelena is giving us all the help we need to add that 1% of pleasure that can make all the difference! She’s breaking it down & keeping it simple, so let’s dive into the magic!

We’re exploring: 

• Why everything can be magical if you want it to be
• A simple exercise for connecting & finding presence that takes only moments
• Tips for meditating for those with an active mind 
• How to activate pleasure with what you have right now, wherever you’re at
• Why it’s time to focus on YOUR pleasure & stop settling for love crumbs
• And much more!

Yelena is the creator of The Art of Over-Communicating™, The 3 Pillars of Pleasure™ & The Muse Method for a Pleasure-filled Life™. 

You can read more about Yelena and her work at https://communicationismagic.com. 

Book yourself a FREE 60 minute consultation with me: https://wethelightschedule.as.me/schedule.php

Connect with me on IG: https://instagram.com/wethelight_llc

Grab your copy of my free e-book, “”From Perfectionist to Pleasure Expert” at: https://wethelight.org/subscribe

If you’re into loving your life, seeking pleasure, or finding magic in the mundane you don't want to miss this 2 part episode! 

I’ve invited my good friend, Yelena, on the show today to share how she lives life with intention and supports her clients to do the same. Yelena is a Sex, Love, & Relationship guide who specializes in the intersection of communication & pleasure. She knows people don’t have a lot of time to add lengthy rituals to their life, so she’s sharing her wisdom on how to add magic in just moments of your day so your life can be filled with pleasure. This one is so, so juicy, so let’s get into it! 

We’re exploring: 

• How Yelena stays in her intention & clean energy (with tips for you!)
• Why your life gets to be delicious & safe
• How we block the magic that’s offered to us with shitty habits surrounding compliments
• The crucial info we’re NOT taught in schools that can make or break your life
• How befriending death creates a relationship with your aliveness 
• And much more!

Don't miss part 2 of this conversation in episode 59!

Yelena is the creator of The Art of Over-Communicating™, The 3 Pillars of Pleasure™ & The Muse Method for a Pleasure-filled Life™. 

You can read more about Yelena and her work at https://communicationismagic.com. 

Book yourself a FREE 60 minute consultation with me: https://wethelightschedule.as.me/schedule.php

Connect with me on IG: https://instagram.com/wethelight_llc

Grab your copy of my free e-book, “”From Perfectionist to Pleasure Expert” at: https://wethelight.org/subscribe

Self-love. Self-care. 

We see the terms and inspiration videos everywhere (which I love!), but there’s more to it than face masks & bubble baths! So, how can you love & nourish yourself on a regular basis rather than one & done? What is it you’re needing to feel fully seen & fully held, continually? 

Today’s episode is juicy & so, so necessary. I’m looking at how to cultivate a relationship to self so YOU can take that self-love & self-care to a whole new level. We’re bringing the sexy back to inner work & body work because it IS fucking exciting when you can hold yourself through the good and the bad, when you can rock it out & be a good human, and when you can show up in relationships from a place of love WHILE also fully taking care of yourself & owning who you are. It’s possible & you’re fully capable of it! I’m here to help, so let’s get into it! 

I’m exploring: 

• How self-care turns to shame when results aren’t quick or predictable 

• Self-love as a muscle & why it’s ever-changing & never really “done”

• My journey with body love, vulnerability & openness  

• How to cultivate a loving relationship with your body

• The different sexuality seasons we ALL experience over time & how to embrace each one

• Mini-exercises so you can check in, reframe, & bring awe into the conversation with self

• Plus much more!

Book yourself a FREE 60 minute consultation with me: https://wethelightschedule.as.me/schedule.php

Connect with me on IG: https://instagram.com/wethelight_llc

Grab your copy of my free e-book, “”From Perfectionist to Pleasure Expert” at: https://wethelight.org/subscribe