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Do not cross my state line, obey the legal limit, and is it time to reexamine negotiation?

Often the words boundaries and limits are used interchangeably in BDSM and kink but there are differences. Find out what those key differences are and why they are so important.

Next, the phrase "negotiate consent" covers an incredibly important topic but when it comes to consent are we really negotiating? Should we be negotiating something so precious? Ascertain why we can do better.

All in this episode!

You had questions, and you did not hold back. From the awkward to the bold, the curious to the complicated, your inquiries about BDSM, D/S, and kink were sharp, honest, and wide ranging. In part one, the conversation began. Now it is time to get into the rest, including the surprises, the tougher dilemmas, and the ones people usually keep to themselves. Grab those earbuds and settle in. Part two is ready for you.

BDSM Without A Script takes a fresh look at how bringing your true self into BDSM makes it more fulfilling. From something small, like the way you write D/S, to the pet names, avatars, and usernames you choose, every detail matters. This episode explores the importance of personal expression in BDSM. Forget about following someone else’s formula, BDSM is about creating a unique journey that reflects who you truly are. Tune in for an honest conversation about how embracing your individuality is key to a meaningful, kinktastic journey.

One of the most well-known sayings about advertising is “sex sells”. This is certainly the case in the D/S lifestyle as many lifestyle sites use sexual imagery as click bait and then some share sensual photos to gain likes which is designed to gain followers which then will bring profit, so it can feel that those seeking more than kinky coitus, those wanting substance over sexuality can be left wanting. So in this episode, we will get it on and chat about the quest to connect with those who seek something deeper from the lifestyle.

Within the D/S lifestyle there are many conversations, writings, blog posts, and so on about red flags, warnings, and things to be on the lookout for as these discussions are critically important but sometimes we can lose sight of what is good or those gorgeous green flags because we hyper-focus on what to watch out for. So this week the conversation is going to talk about all the great green flags D/S brings as well as lifestyle partners. So buckle up, it’s going to be a great go of goodness and going green in 3, 2, 1…

Everyone’s path to and in the lifestyle is unique but digging deeper, there are some amazing similarities in circumstances that brings people to explore and grow in D/S. While it is natural to feel a bit solitary as we start walking in the world of D/S, discovering that while our paths are unique, many commonalities link us, so this week’s conversation will flow around these common denominators that continue to bring amazing people into the lifestyle.

When we are newer to anything from being the new person at work to being less experienced in the lifestyle, we often allow our inexperience to be the reason we do not ask questions or present our perspective. It is easy to say in our mind that because one is new it is best to stay quiet and think our thoughts silently. In the world of D/S, experience shows that people who enter the lifestyle often join with fresh outlooks that need to be shared and this week the conversation revolves around the importance of sharing new and divergent viewpoints within the lifestyle.

Have you ever wondered how the lifestyle came to be? Where did all these kinks come from? Did they all just appear and grow out of conversations on the internet?

This week, we will chat about the history of the lifestyle, and unlike history classes in your past, this is not going to put you to sleep. So let’s hop into our time machines and discover a bit of the history behind D/S.

Welcome to this episode of Chatting With The Lightkeeper where the inbox is opened up, questions are asked and opinions are shared. Thank you to everyone who has asked a question and those who will be going forward. As a lover of books and bookstores, here are the books discussed in this episode and linked to the host's favorite bookstore: The Ethical Slut, Third Edition: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love By Janet W. Hardy, Dossie Easton The New Topping Book By Janet W. Hardy, Dossie Easton The New Bottoming Book By Dossie Easton, Janet W. Hardy Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism By Philip Miller, Molly Devon SM 101: A Realistic Introduction By Jay Wiseman

So you have been exploring, learning, and growing in your journey into all things D/S online and you find yourself ready to possibly meet someone amazing for a relationship or perhaps curiosity is getting the best of you with wanting to feel what a flogger impact is like all the while wanting to stay as safe as possible. How do you meet others and build connections in real life? The answer is munches, classes, play parties, and conventions. In this episode, the conversation will break down what they are, how to find them as well as what to expect when you attend so you can confidently start exploring the lifestyle in person. For reference: FetLife.com is a great site to find events local to you as well as larger regional/national gatherings. Should you be on FetLife or sign up to find an event near you, drop me a note and say hello while you are there, just search for TheLight_Keeper.