NVC Life with Rachelle Lamb – Details, episodes & analysis

An exploration of the sometimes tumultuous relationship between mothers and daughters

Mentions:

• After 37 Years My Mother Apologizes for My Childhood by Sharon Olds https://www.writersalmanac.org/index.html%3Fp=7034.html
• Bloodroot: tracing the untelling of motherloss by Betsy Warland https://www.betsywarland.com/project/bloodroot-tracing-the-untelling-of-motherloss/

In this episode: different names for the moon, Earth Day mission statement, excerpts from an interview with Martín Prechtel by Derrick Jensen, a poem titled: Where Am I? (Strange World)

https://derrickjensen.org/dreams/martin-prechtel/

A glimpse into Alain de Botton's insightful book: The Course of Love (Simon & Schuster 2016) about a married couple's relationship struggles. Highly relatable!

Buy the book:

https://www.amazon.ca/Course-Love-Alain-Botton/dp/1501134515

Alain de Botton | The Course on Love

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lj2m31gekYc

Did you know that according to market analysis reports, the global personal development market size was estimated at USD 43.77 billion in 2022 and is anticipated to grow at a compound annual growth rate of 5.5% to 2030. Are we better people I wonder as a result? Are we better listeners? 

Book Resource:

The Exquisite Risk by Mark Nepo https://marknepo.com/books_theexquisite.php

A message for listeners as we step into 2024 ..

Stop, be still, make room for the darkness

Links:

1. O Night: https://www.facebook.com/photo?fbid=778236623110531&set=a.573965980204264
2. Praise to the Holy Dark: https://www.facebook.com/photo?fbid=776085349992325&set=a.573965980204264
3. Dark Still by Stephen Jenkinson: https://orphanwisdom.com/2014/12/20/dark-still/

This episode reexamines the concepts of duty and obligation as referenced in Nonviolent Communication. Might there be merit in rehabilitating these terms and understanding them as a meaningful way to contribute to life?

"We don’t want people to do things out of obligation or duty, or out of guilt or shame, or to buy love. With some consciousness, I’m confident we would each see that we only want people to do things if they can do it willingly, because they clearly see how it’s going to enrich life if they do. Any other reason for doing things is likely to create conditions that make it harder for people in the future to behave in a compassionate way toward one another." —Marshall Rosenberg

The Nonviolent Communication Book of Quotes (PuddleDancer Press, Sept 2023) https://www.nonviolentcommunication.com/product/the-nonviolent-communication-book-of-quotes/

In today's episode I speak with Dr. Joshua Coleman who is a recognized expert on the rapidly growing phenomenon of parental estrangement. He has written two books on the subject and provides ongoing support to parents, as well as grandparents, who struggle with being cut out of their adult children's lives.

In Dr. Coleman's words: "While there’s nothing especially modern about family conflict or a desire to feel insulated from it, conceptualizing the estrangement of a family member as an expression of personal growth as it is commonly done today is almost certainly new." (AEON Jan 2021 article)

A Shift in American Family Values Is Fueling Estrangement: https://www.drjoshuacoleman.com/post/a-shift-in-american-family-values-is-fueling-estrangement

Dr. Coleman's website: https://www.drjoshuacoleman.com/

This episode features an excerpt from a conversation with relationship coach Dolphin Kasper who invited me to his podcast The Better Relationship Podcast. The subject: our learned separation.

Link to full episode on The Better Relationship Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/episode/47S67umOuttRTNWsuu5Cyw?si=BGVTS2ovQ5-g7cJm_PXrpw

Last week I shared Part 1 of a conversation I had with Sofie De Wulf, Outreach & Programs Coordinator for NVC Academy. Here is Part 2 of our conversation where Sofie and I discuss ecology, our relationship with nature, our lived separation from nature and from each other, how we speak about needs, as well as how people concretely benefit from learning Nonviolent Communication.

Learn more about the course I will be offering in Feb/Mar 2024 through the NVC Academy:

⁠https://nvcacademy.com/live-nvc-courses/video-conference/bridging-differences-2024