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Talking points: parenting, attachment, mindset, psychology, neurology The internet behaved badly in this episode, but Eli is so knowledgeable and thorough I had to put this up! The Attachment Nerd herself brought a TON of info and practical tips for parents this week. Strongly encourage you to listen to this with other parents. I certainly learned a lot. Her new book comes out Sept. 3rd; go pick it up! (00:00:00) - What is reflective functioning, and when does that start developing? (00:06:58) - How does a parent support a child who’s still developing that reflective functioning? (00:12:58) - The problem with treating kids as little adults, and why we do it (00:20:44) - How to tell if you’re raising a securely attached kid; 4 simple tips (00:32:05) - The importance of presence and support over adult logic, and on staying grounded (00:40:18) - How to foster discipline AND self-esteem in your kids Eli Harood, known as Attachment Nerd on social media, is a licensed therapist, bestselling author, and highly sought-after educator who has more than 17 years of experience helping people process relational traumas and develop secure connections with their children. Her life’s mission is to help make the world a better place one relationship at a time. In addition to her clinical work, Harwood also offers online courses and in-person retreats to help individuals better understand their attachment styles and build stronger bonds. She has also served as a faculty member at The Denver Family Institute and is the author of “Securely Attached.” Eli has three children, one husband, two cats, and an extraordinary number of plants.  Connect with Eli -Website: https://attachmentnerd.com -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentnerd/ -Book: Raising Securely Attached Kids: https://attachmentnerd.com/books/raising-securely-attached-kids -TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentnerd *** This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Find a therapist who can help empower you through the tough times and cultivate your best self. Visit BetterHelp.com/mantalks today to get 10% off your first month. Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: suicide, culture, masculinity This isn’t an easy episode, but it’s important. If you’re someone who works with men, whatever kind of work that is, please share. (00:00:00) - A part of my story I rarely share (00:04:30) - What I’ve learned (00:07:35) - What’s contributing to this? (00:10:36) - If you’re somehow involved with men, here’s what to do. If you’re in this situation, here’s what I’ll tell you *** Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: attachment, relationships, intimacy You’ve heard about attachment. Maybe you’ve discovered you or your partner (or both!) have a specific kind. Ok, cool. But what do you DO with that info? How do you move forward? That’s exactly what Sarah Baldwin and I sat down to discuss. From the deep origins of our survival strategies, to their impact on intimacy, and how to work WITH it all and get some self-security going. Listen in. (00:00:00) - What is a disconfirming experience? (00:07:54) - How do our early experiences with attachment inform the partners we choose later? (00:17:15) - Remember this is all subconscious, very human, and can be changed with work (00:27:47) - What happens in someone’s body when they have a more anxious or avoidant attachment style (00:35:38) - Insights on what to do if you’re avoidant or anxious (00:43:33) - What CAN a securely attached relationship look like? (00:50:57) - How does all of this impact intimacy? Sarah Baldwin is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and trauma-trained Life Coach who specializes in helping individuals overcome emotional barriers and trauma. With training in somatic healing, polyvagal theory, and inner child work, she guides clients through a transformative process to achieve a more fulfilling life. Through multiple modalities, Sarah offers a comprehensive coaching approach that to fully support her clients’ growth and well-being, no matter where they’re at in life. Connect with Sarah -Website: https://www.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/ -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahbcoaching/ -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Sarahbaldwincoaching/ *** Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: solitude, contemplation, mindset By the time you hear this, I’ll be way out on the Isle of Skye, the home of my ancestors, for some intentional solitude. This kind of deliberate aloneness is something I think every man needs, but doesn’t really attempt. Listen in for a reflection on what and why I’m doing this, and why it might help you too. (00:00:00) - Intro(00:01:35) - For years, I didn’t like being alone(00:03:35) - I believe every man needs SOME responsibility and distraction-free time(00:05:30) - Why I chose Scotland(00:08:54) - The kind of questions I’ll be asking myself while alone(00:11:02) - Men crave clarity This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle. Get 20% off your order here: https://www.curednutrition.com/mantalks/ Men, join me for an intense, depth-oriented training regimen called the Men's Self-Leadership Program. Customized curriculum, direct work with me, and limited to just 8 men: https://mantalks.com/mslp/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: workouts, form, nutrition, fitness The last time Ron was on the show, he shared an incredible story of overcoming adversity, and crafting a life of resiliency. I wanted him back on the show to discuss some foundational aspects of getting fit and eating right, something Ron has spent most of his life working on. Bear with us; we had some audio troubles but you should hear everything loud and clear. This is a great episode to listen to if you're starting out on your fitness journey or are looking for refreshingly simple advice on proper form, proper nutrition, and other tips. Lots of info here. (00:00:00) - Intro (00:05:19) - When you want to be more serious about exercise, where should you actually start? (00:09:34) - Are deadlifts worth it, and are they something the average person needs?(00:11:07) - What some the foundational pieces of squat form?(00:20:34) - What are some other core workouts and foundation pieces for chest, biceps, etc.?(00:31:08) - What can do you (if anything!) for small calves?(00:41:29) - What are some of the other key pieces people should incorporate    into their fitness life?(00:47:36) - On HGH and sprinting, and Ron’s final thoughts on pairing the right energy system with right kind of work Ron Williams is one of the most decorated natural bodybuilders in the world, having achieved the highest honor ever awarded in Natural Bodybuilding by becoming the sole recipient of the “Natural Bodybuilder of the Decade” award. As a 21-time world champion, he’s leveraged 40 years of experience to develop transformational processes of winning that help to build Champion Men.  Ron has devoted his life to educating, inspiring, coaching, and encouraging people. He’s a nationally recognized motivational and inspirational speaker, with a unique connection to his audience stemming from his own personal journey of physical and spiritual transformation.  The principles Ron teaches and uses in his own life are easy to embrace, simple to understand, and effective. Ron’s desire is to equip men with the necessary tools to live, as he calls it, a Champion Life. Connect with Ron -Main Website: www.ronwilliamschampion.com -Ministry: www.ronwilliamsministries.com -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ronwilliamschampionlife -YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Ironchestmastervip This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle. Get 20% off your order here: https://www.curednutrition.com/mantalks/ Men, join me for an intense, depth-oriented training regimen called the Men's Self-Leadership Program. Customized curriculum, direct work with me, and limited to just 8 men: https://mantalks.com/mslp/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: addiction, masculinity This mini-episode is a bit of a departure in style, but the topic is deeply important to me. Most men have an uncanny ability to push forward despite intense pain and suffering. That can be a blessing in times of hardship, but it can also turn on you. (00:00:00) - Intro and the skill of being silent about your suffering(00:02:40) - We look down on men for doing this, but oftentimes it’s a blessing(00:03:33) - The curse is this(00:05:03) - “There’s a hungry ghost in the basement of my heart”(00:09:40) - Why I wrote this This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle. Get 20% off your order here: https://www.curednutrition.com/mantalks/ Men, join me for an intense, depth-oriented training regimen called the Men's Self-Leadership Program. Customized curriculum, direct work with me, and limited to just 8 men: https://mantalks.com/mslp/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: masculinity, fatherhood, culture The man himself! Larry Hagner of The Dad Edge joins me to talk all things fatherhood. Deeply grateful to finally have Larry on the show and to dive DEEP with him on so many topics. This is a great episode to listen to if you’re searching for insight on how to maintain some level-headedness is what seems to be a tough time to be a parent. Check the timestamps for some of the depth-oriented questions we covered! (00:00:00) - Intro Larry’s defining moment(00:18:30) - Fathers wield an incredible amount of influence on a boy’s life. How did you prepare for fatherhood given how you grew up?(00:21:13) - How would you prepare now? Given everything you’ve experienced?(00:24:44) - What do you see modern fathers struggling with?(00:31:16) - What pressures does a modern dad face from culture itself?(00:39:59) - How do you talk to your kids about what your values are?(01:02:29) - What are some of the keys to raising sons in particular?(01:09:51) - What do you hope your sons will learn from how you treat your wife? Larry Hagner, founder of The Dad Edge, breaks down common challenges of fatherhood, making them easy to understand and overcome. Tackling the world of fatherhood can be a daunting task when we try to do it alone. Thus, Larrys mission (and his podcast, The Dad Edge( is to help you become the best, strongest, and happiest version of yourself so that you can help guide your kids to the best version of themselves. Simple as that. Connect with Larry -Website: https://thedadedge.com -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedadedge/ -Twitter: https://twitter.com/thedadedge -Podcast: https://thedadedge.com/podcast/ -YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheDadEdge This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle. Get 20% off your order here: https://www.curednutrition.com/mantalks/ Men, join me for an intense, depth-oriented training regimen called the Men's Self-Leadership Program. Customized curriculum, direct work with me, and limited to just 8 men: https://mantalks.com/mslp/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: libido, anxiety, sex drive Having a high libido isn't all it's cracked up to be. In truth, it can be surprisingly difficult to navigate, can impact relationships, finances, you name it. This week, a look at where high libido can come from, and some ways to navigate it effectively. (00:00:00) - Intro and my own issues with high sex drive(00:02:39) - Indicators that high libido might be becoming problematic (00:05:49) - But what causes high sex drive?(00:06:49) - Grief, anxiety, stress, and unresolved trauma(00:08:33) - Shame surrounding sexual preferences(00:08:53) - A lack of fulfillment or sense of control over your life(00:10:12) - A lack of self-esteem(00:10:26) - A struggle to properly process emotions(00:12:10) - So what do we do? Number one: do your best to date people with similar libido(00:13:37) - Prioritize routines and habits that help regulate your nervous system(00:14:43) - Desexualize your brain(00:15:37) - Surround yourself with high quality men This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle. Get 20% off your order here: https://www.curednutrition.com/mantalks/ Men, join me for an intense, depth-oriented training regimen called the Men's Self-Leadership Program. Customized curriculum, direct work with me, and limited to just 8 men: https://mantalks.com/mslp/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: grief, loss, anxiety, helplessness Every so often, I'll have an anonymous guest on the show to give listeners a glimpse into what men's work at ManTalks is really like. This is going to be a three-parter, so stay tuned for more. This man is someone I've known for a while through his participation in ManTalks, and he's come to me looking wanting to feel more in charge of his life, and more able to handle when life, business, or relationships take a hit. Behind much of it is ungrieved childhood loss. This is a great episode to dig into if you feel like you manage fine when life is good, but fall apart when it doesn't. There's insight on some of the consequences of not having the chance to properly grieve. (00:00:00) - Intro and what our guest would like to work on(00:10:07) - A pervasive feeling of inadequacy, and how it relates to making money(00:14:02) - How the loss of a mother led to feeling helpless and inattentive (00:21:40) - Feeling sorry for dad, and feeling like it’s “too late”(00:31:00) - Connecting with the loss of a mother on a deeper level(00:40:37) - Next steps This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle. Get 20% off your order here: https://www.curednutrition.com/mantalks/ Men, join me for an intense, depth-oriented training regimen called the Men's Self-Leadership Program. Customized curriculum, direct work with me, and limited to just 8 men: https://mantalks.com/mslp/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Fair warning, a focal point of this episode is suicide. Talking points: therapy, self-help, masculinity More men than ever are actively seeking help. They're going to therapy, they're working on themselves, they're doing "the work". I know because they come to me and people I know—either in the coaching or the therapeutic industry—by the thousands. And yet a significant percentage of them don't come out it "helped". Many don't come out at all. To be clear, I am NOT saying therapy as an industry is totally broken or something to ignore. But there ARE some things I think it could do better. (00:00:00) - Intro and some statistics(00:04:47) - What I’ve seen and heard from men who come to ManTalks live events(00:05:40) - I’m not saying the therapeutic industry is broken(00:07:06) - We have to acknowledge that there are differences in men’s and women’s experiences(00:09:25) - The three things the industry underestimates or misses with men(00:11:43) - I’ve known a lot of men who looked great on the surface(00:13:27) - Many of us don’t know how to help men get their direction back This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle. Get 20% off your order here: https://www.curednutrition.com/mantalks/ Men, join me for an intense, depth-oriented training regimen called the Men's Self-Leadership Program. Customized curriculum, direct work with me, and limited to just 8 men: https://mantalks.com/mslp/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices