Talking points: parenting, attachment, mindset, psychology, neurology The internet behaved badly in this episode, but Eli is so knowledgeable and thorough I had to put this up! The Attachment Nerd herself brought a TON of info and practical tips for parents this week. Strongly encourage you to listen to this with other parents. I certainly learned a lot. Her new book comes out Sept. 3rd; go pick it up! (00:00:00) - What is reflective functioning, and when does that start developing? (00:06:58) - How does a parent support a child who’s still developing that reflective functioning? (00:12:58) - The problem with treating kids as little adults, and why we do it (00:20:44) - How to tell if you’re raising a securely attached kid; 4 simple tips (00:32:05) - The importance of presence and support over adult logic, and on staying grounded (00:40:18) - How to foster discipline AND self-esteem in your kids Eli Harood, known as Attachment Nerd on social media, is a licensed therapist, bestselling author, and highly sought-after educator who has more than 17 years of experience helping people process relational traumas and develop secure connections with their children. Her life’s mission is to help make the world a better place one relationship at a time. In addition to her clinical work, Harwood also offers online courses and in-person retreats to help individuals better understand their attachment styles and build stronger bonds. She has also served as a faculty member at The Denver Family Institute and is the author of “Securely Attached.” Eli has three children, one husband, two cats, and an extraordinary number of plants.  Connect with Eli -Website: https://attachmentnerd.com -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentnerd/ -Book: Raising Securely Attached Kids: https://attachmentnerd.com/books/raising-securely-attached-kids -TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentnerd *** This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Find a therapist who can help empower you through the tough times and cultivate your best self. Visit BetterHelp.com/mantalks today to get 10% off your first month. Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: suicide, culture, masculinity This isn’t an easy episode, but it’s important. If you’re someone who works with men, whatever kind of work that is, please share. (00:00:00) - A part of my story I rarely share (00:04:30) - What I’ve learned (00:07:35) - What’s contributing to this? (00:10:36) - If you’re somehow involved with men, here’s what to do. If you’re in this situation, here’s what I’ll tell you *** Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: attachment, relationships, intimacy You’ve heard about attachment. Maybe you’ve discovered you or your partner (or both!) have a specific kind. Ok, cool. But what do you DO with that info? How do you move forward? That’s exactly what Sarah Baldwin and I sat down to discuss. From the deep origins of our survival strategies, to their impact on intimacy, and how to work WITH it all and get some self-security going. Listen in. (00:00:00) - What is a disconfirming experience? (00:07:54) - How do our early experiences with attachment inform the partners we choose later? (00:17:15) - Remember this is all subconscious, very human, and can be changed with work (00:27:47) - What happens in someone’s body when they have a more anxious or avoidant attachment style (00:35:38) - Insights on what to do if you’re avoidant or anxious (00:43:33) - What CAN a securely attached relationship look like? (00:50:57) - How does all of this impact intimacy? Sarah Baldwin is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and trauma-trained Life Coach who specializes in helping individuals overcome emotional barriers and trauma. With training in somatic healing, polyvagal theory, and inner child work, she guides clients through a transformative process to achieve a more fulfilling life. Through multiple modalities, Sarah offers a comprehensive coaching approach that to fully support her clients’ growth and well-being, no matter where they’re at in life. Connect with Sarah -Website: https://www.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/ -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahbcoaching/ -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Sarahbaldwincoaching/ *** Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: solitude, contemplation, mindset By the time you hear this, I’ll be way out on the Isle of Skye, the home of my ancestors, for some intentional solitude. This kind of deliberate aloneness is something I think every man needs, but doesn’t really attempt. Listen in for a reflection on what and why I’m doing this, and why it might help you too. (00:00:00) - Intro(00:01:35) - For years, I didn’t like being alone(00:03:35) - I believe every man needs SOME responsibility and distraction-free time(00:05:30) - Why I chose Scotland(00:08:54) - The kind of questions I’ll be asking myself while alone(00:11:02) - Men crave clarity This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle. Get 20% off your order here: https://www.curednutrition.com/mantalks/ Men, join me for an intense, depth-oriented training regimen called the Men's Self-Leadership Program. Customized curriculum, direct work with me, and limited to just 8 men: https://mantalks.com/mslp/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: workouts, form, nutrition, fitness The last time Ron was on the show, he shared an incredible story of overcoming adversity, and crafting a life of resiliency. I wanted him back on the show to discuss some foundational aspects of getting fit and eating right, something Ron has spent most of his life working on. Bear with us; we had some audio troubles but you should hear everything loud and clear. This is a great episode to listen to if you're starting out on your fitness journey or are looking for refreshingly simple advice on proper form, proper nutrition, and other tips. Lots of info here. (00:00:00) - Intro (00:05:19) - When you want to be more serious about exercise, where should you actually start? (00:09:34) - Are deadlifts worth it, and are they something the average person needs?(00:11:07) - What some the foundational pieces of squat form?(00:20:34) - What are some other core workouts and foundation pieces for chest, biceps, etc.?(00:31:08) - What can do you (if anything!) for small calves?(00:41:29) - What are some of the other key pieces people should incorporate    into their fitness life?(00:47:36) - On HGH and sprinting, and Ron’s final thoughts on pairing the right energy system with right kind of work Ron Williams is one of the most decorated natural bodybuilders in the world, having achieved the highest honor ever awarded in Natural Bodybuilding by becoming the sole recipient of the “Natural Bodybuilder of the Decade” award. As a 21-time world champion, he’s leveraged 40 years of experience to develop transformational processes of winning that help to build Champion Men.  Ron has devoted his life to educating, inspiring, coaching, and encouraging people. He’s a nationally recognized motivational and inspirational speaker, with a unique connection to his audience stemming from his own personal journey of physical and spiritual transformation.  The principles Ron teaches and uses in his own life are easy to embrace, simple to understand, and effective. Ron’s desire is to equip men with the necessary tools to live, as he calls it, a Champion Life. Connect with Ron -Main Website: www.ronwilliamschampion.com -Ministry: www.ronwilliamsministries.com -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ronwilliamschampionlife -YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Ironchestmastervip This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle. Get 20% off your order here: https://www.curednutrition.com/mantalks/ Men, join me for an intense, depth-oriented training regimen called the Men's Self-Leadership Program. Customized curriculum, direct work with me, and limited to just 8 men: https://mantalks.com/mslp/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: addiction, masculinity This mini-episode is a bit of a departure in style, but the topic is deeply important to me. Most men have an uncanny ability to push forward despite intense pain and suffering. That can be a blessing in times of hardship, but it can also turn on you. (00:00:00) - Intro and the skill of being silent about your suffering(00:02:40) - We look down on men for doing this, but oftentimes it’s a blessing(00:03:33) - The curse is this(00:05:03) - “There’s a hungry ghost in the basement of my heart”(00:09:40) - Why I wrote this This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle. Get 20% off your order here: https://www.curednutrition.com/mantalks/ Men, join me for an intense, depth-oriented training regimen called the Men's Self-Leadership Program. Customized curriculum, direct work with me, and limited to just 8 men: https://mantalks.com/mslp/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: masculinity, fatherhood, culture The man himself! Larry Hagner of The Dad Edge joins me to talk all things fatherhood. Deeply grateful to finally have Larry on the show and to dive DEEP with him on so many topics. This is a great episode to listen to if you’re searching for insight on how to maintain some level-headedness is what seems to be a tough time to be a parent. Check the timestamps for some of the depth-oriented questions we covered! (00:00:00) - Intro Larry’s defining moment(00:18:30) - Fathers wield an incredible amount of influence on a boy’s life. How did you prepare for fatherhood given how you grew up?(00:21:13) - How would you prepare now? Given everything you’ve experienced?(00:24:44) - What do you see modern fathers struggling with?(00:31:16) - What pressures does a modern dad face from culture itself?(00:39:59) - How do you talk to your kids about what your values are?(01:02:29) - What are some of the keys to raising sons in particular?(01:09:51) - What do you hope your sons will learn from how you treat your wife? Larry Hagner, founder of The Dad Edge, breaks down common challenges of fatherhood, making them easy to understand and overcome. Tackling the world of fatherhood can be a daunting task when we try to do it alone. Thus, Larrys mission (and his podcast, The Dad Edge( is to help you become the best, strongest, and happiest version of yourself so that you can help guide your kids to the best version of themselves. Simple as that. Connect with Larry -Website: https://thedadedge.com -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedadedge/ -Twitter: https://twitter.com/thedadedge -Podcast: https://thedadedge.com/podcast/ -YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheDadEdge This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle. Get 20% off your order here: https://www.curednutrition.com/mantalks/ Men, join me for an intense, depth-oriented training regimen called the Men's Self-Leadership Program. Customized curriculum, direct work with me, and limited to just 8 men: https://mantalks.com/mslp/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: libido, anxiety, sex drive Having a high libido isn't all it's cracked up to be. In truth, it can be surprisingly difficult to navigate, can impact relationships, finances, you name it. This week, a look at where high libido can come from, and some ways to navigate it effectively. (00:00:00) - Intro and my own issues with high sex drive(00:02:39) - Indicators that high libido might be becoming problematic (00:05:49) - But what causes high sex drive?(00:06:49) - Grief, anxiety, stress, and unresolved trauma(00:08:33) - Shame surrounding sexual preferences(00:08:53) - A lack of fulfillment or sense of control over your life(00:10:12) - A lack of self-esteem(00:10:26) - A struggle to properly process emotions(00:12:10) - So what do we do? Number one: do your best to date people with similar libido(00:13:37) - Prioritize routines and habits that help regulate your nervous system(00:14:43) - Desexualize your brain(00:15:37) - Surround yourself with high quality men This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle. Get 20% off your order here: https://www.curednutrition.com/mantalks/ Men, join me for an intense, depth-oriented training regimen called the Men's Self-Leadership Program. Customized curriculum, direct work with me, and limited to just 8 men: https://mantalks.com/mslp/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: grief, loss, anxiety, helplessness Every so often, I'll have an anonymous guest on the show to give listeners a glimpse into what men's work at ManTalks is really like. This is going to be a three-parter, so stay tuned for more. This man is someone I've known for a while through his participation in ManTalks, and he's come to me looking wanting to feel more in charge of his life, and more able to handle when life, business, or relationships take a hit. Behind much of it is ungrieved childhood loss. This is a great episode to dig into if you feel like you manage fine when life is good, but fall apart when it doesn't. There's insight on some of the consequences of not having the chance to properly grieve. (00:00:00) - Intro and what our guest would like to work on(00:10:07) - A pervasive feeling of inadequacy, and how it relates to making money(00:14:02) - How the loss of a mother led to feeling helpless and inattentive (00:21:40) - Feeling sorry for dad, and feeling like it’s “too late”(00:31:00) - Connecting with the loss of a mother on a deeper level(00:40:37) - Next steps This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle. Get 20% off your order here: https://www.curednutrition.com/mantalks/ Men, join me for an intense, depth-oriented training regimen called the Men's Self-Leadership Program. Customized curriculum, direct work with me, and limited to just 8 men: https://mantalks.com/mslp/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Fair warning, a focal point of this episode is suicide. Talking points: therapy, self-help, masculinity More men than ever are actively seeking help. They're going to therapy, they're working on themselves, they're doing "the work". I know because they come to me and people I know—either in the coaching or the therapeutic industry—by the thousands. And yet a significant percentage of them don't come out it "helped". Many don't come out at all. To be clear, I am NOT saying therapy as an industry is totally broken or something to ignore. But there ARE some things I think it could do better. (00:00:00) - Intro and some statistics(00:04:47) - What I’ve seen and heard from men who come to ManTalks live events(00:05:40) - I’m not saying the therapeutic industry is broken(00:07:06) - We have to acknowledge that there are differences in men’s and women’s experiences(00:09:25) - The three things the industry underestimates or misses with men(00:11:43) - I’ve known a lot of men who looked great on the surface(00:13:27) - Many of us don’t know how to help men get their direction back This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle. Get 20% off your order here: https://www.curednutrition.com/mantalks/ Men, join me for an intense, depth-oriented training regimen called the Men's Self-Leadership Program. Customized curriculum, direct work with me, and limited to just 8 men: https://mantalks.com/mslp/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: success, achievement, addiction, cycling, athleticism, personal development Kevin Miller is a powerhouse. More than that, he's deeply humble and intentional in what he does after a lifetime of hard work and the pursuit of excellence. I sat down with him last week to dig deeper: what makes drive "drive"? What's the meaning of really going beyond your limits? What really, truly drives you, and where are you going with that? You know, just light conversation. (00:00:00) - Intro and Kevin’s defining moment(00:06:04) - What it takes to be a professional cyclist, and what drove Kevin to pursue it(00:11:10) - What might be underneath a valiant can’t-quit-won’t-quit attitude, and what’s the difference between pursuit of excellence and addiction?(00:19:11) - When it comes to the pursuit of excellence, what’s actually rewarding about it?(00:26:26) - How did the pursuit of excellence filter its way into your parenting?(00:31:49) - Intentionality versus pursuit, and where the addiction to pursuit might come from(00:47:35) - Do you think it’s healthy and meaningful for men to pursue some kind of physical excellence?(00:51:39) - How the self-help industrial complex has shifted over the last few decades(01:04:45) - Is AI going to help or harm people and the self-help industry? Kevin is a former pro athlete, respected personal development guide, top-ranking podcast host, published author, and father of nine who has devoted himself to helping people elevate their personal experience and improve the way they show up for others. Kevin hosts the Self-Helpful podcast, which has over 60 million downloads and is routinely visited by today’s most influential changemakers. His book, What Drives You challenges today’s myths on “driven people” and serves as a guide to clarity and conviction in what you authentically value and what truly motivates you. Connect with Kevin -Website: https://www.kevinmiller.co/-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kevinmiller.co/-Twitter: https://twitter.com/kevinmillerco-Podcast: https://www.kevinmiller.co/podcast-Book, What Drives You: https://www.kevinmiller.co/whatdrivesyou This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle. Get 20% off your order here: https://www.curednutrition.com/mantalks/ Men, join me for an intense, depth-oriented training regimen called the Men's Self-Leadership Program. Customized curriculum, direct work with me, and limited to just 8 men: https://mantalks.com/mslp/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: masculinity, culture, misandry Look, this is a charged topic. It’s also deeply complex, and it deserves serious attention MINUS the immediate rush towards dismissals, name calling, and blame games. I’d love to get your take on this topic too. Feel free to message me on Instagram or comment below. (01:16) - Intro and how society tends to react to men’s issues (05:37) - What systems could use changing, and their current impact on men(10:59) - When you bring this up, it’s easy to get labelled anti-woman (16:08) - This discussion should be a bipartisan issue, and in many ways it would benefit women Men, join me for an intense, depth-oriented training regimen called the Men's Self-Leadership Program. Customized curriculum, direct work with me, and limited to just 8 men: https://mantalks.com/mslp/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: addiction, culture, history, enlightenment, Zen, purpose, non-duality The ManTalks Podcast has grown exponentially over the last couple years, so for all you newcomers, I like to release a sort of cross-section or "best of" episode to showcase what the podcast is all about—after all, I have talked to some brilliant and varied experts over the years! This time, the themes are the widest ever: addiction and enlightenment. I chose this to demonstrate my love of the scientific and the spiritual—and my constant goal to balance the two. As Albert Einstein said, science without religion is lame, and religion without science is blind. I hope you enjoy. (00:00:00) - Dr. Anne Lembke on defining addiction and the addictive aspects of our modern world(00:17:19) - Dr. Carl Erik Fisher on addiction through history and across cultures, and how society divides addicted people(00:36:53) - Zen Henry Shukman on enlightenment as defined by Zen, his childhood, and his own story of kenshō(00:58:45) - The acclaimed non-duality teacher Rupert Spira discusses the necessity of moving past the myth of separation Full episodes: -Dr. Anna Lembke: https://link.chtbl.com/9IfZ8XzU-Dr. Carl Erik Fisher: https://link.chtbl.com/a53WmGq9-Henry Shukman: https://link.chtbl.com/F7Kdo_05-Rupert Spira: https://link.chtbl.com/F7Kdo_05 Men, join me for an intense, depth-oriented training regimen called the Men's Self-Leadership Program. Customized curriculum, direct work with me, and limited to just 8 men: https://mantalks.com/mslp/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: mindset, death, change Alright, you’re past 30. Assuming you’re past the usual advice you get from all the corners of the internet, what’s next?  Because all the “you need to make more money, you need to get to the gym, you need to wake up earlier” stuff is fine—don’t get me wrong—but it's also entry-level work. Listen in for the harder stuff. (00:00:00) - Intro and the first thing: regret (00:03:10) - Don’t make your future self suffer because of who you’re being now (00:06:06) - Death is right around the corner (00:10:52) - Your unwillingness to find or create your definition of freedom is a kind of death, too *** Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: boundaries, independence, relationships, nice guys Yeah, it's a somewhat controversial title. It's also a challenge. Many, many men bend over backwards to prevent a partner from ever feeling disappointed, and when they inevitably do feel disappointed (because that's life sometimes), they spiral. Listen in. (01:15) - Intro and why I'm talking about this(03:05) - Caveats(04:42) - Why this is important(07:09) - I'm not saying don't have wiggle room! Men, join me for an intense, depth-oriented training regimen called the Men's Self-Leadership Program. Customized curriculum, direct work with me, and limited to just 8 men: https://mantalks.com/mslp/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: anxiety, suicide, mental illness, neurology, culture, psychology This was SUCH a thorough and enjoyable interview. Always a pleasure to get the practical yet caring advice from Dr. Kennedy, someone I’ve known for a long time. If you or someone you know has been diagnosed or deals with anxiety, this is THE episode for you. We cover all the ways anxiety, the body, and the mind are connected, where to begin helping yourself (or others) with those anxious feelings, what the therapy and personal development industries often miss out, and way way more. (00:00:00) - Intro and Russell’s defining moment(00:04:03) - How Russell dealt with the complexities of a schizophrenic father(00:11:33) - How anxiety is a manifestation of something much deeper(00:15:38) - What are some of the most common anxiety myths?(00:18:35) - What is the actual purpose of anxiety?(00:21:54) - How do you talk to people who dismiss anxiety and trauma?(00:33:37) - Do you think kids are more anxious than ever before?(00:40:10) - What do we do for kids knowing that distraction culture will likely worsen?(00:47:30) - What do you mean by “anxiety isn’t a feeling”?(00:51:11)  - Anxiety vs Alarm(00:58:26) - Where do you begin helping someone with anxiety?(01:08:17) - Is there a difference between anxiety and stress within the brain? (01:12:36) - Russell’s final thoughts on anxiety  Dr. Russell Kennedy, aka “The Anxiety MD” specializes in the art and neuroscience of helping people recover from anxiety disorders. He knows anxiety from the inside out, as he developed his own anxiety disorder as a result of growing up with a dad with severe schizophrenia.  Dr. Kennedy has degrees and advanced training in medicine, neuroscience, and developmental psychology—but it’s not all science, as he is also a certified yoga and meditation teacher and was a professional stand-up comedian for over a decade (no joke!) In his award-winning book and audiobook, ANXIETY RX, he shows a practical, actionable program for anxiety relief that incorporates a combination of the latest in neuroscience with the grounding wisdom of the body with the ultimate goal of relieving the anxious thoughts of the mind. Using neuroscience (think "The Body Keeps the Score") and blending that science with a more artistic approach he learned through living at a temple in India, taking psychedelics, and being a natural and gifted intuitive, Dr. Kennedy gives a unique and never before seen understanding of what anxiety truly is,  and further, exactly how it can be successfully treated. Dr Russ wants to make sure that nobody has to suffer with anxiety as he did. Connect with Dr. Kennedy -Website: https://www.theanxietymd.com/ -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theanxietymd/ -Book, Anxiety RX: https://amzn.to/3QBpl46 Men, join me for an intense, depth-oriented training regimen called the Men's Self-Leadership Program. Customized curriculum, direct work with me, and limited to just 8 men: https://mantalks.com/mslp/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: dating, relationships This one is quick and to the point, friends. Is there REALLY a decline in great partners, mates, dating prospects, whatever you want to call them? Or...is the issue more complex than we think? Listen in. (00:00) Introduction and perceived decline of viable mates (02:12) The choice paradox and expanded dating pool (04:34) The consequences of the choice paradox (05:53) Is there still a decline? Other ways the dating world is impacted Men, join me in an intense, depth-oriented training regimen called the Men's Self Leadership Program. Customized curriculum, direct work with me, and limited to just 8 men: https://mantalks.com/mslp/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: anxiety, 12-step, addiction, personal growth, energetics, belief, money It’s been over six years, but I finally got my friend David back on the show! We cover a ton of ground here, but the core of this episode is limiting beliefs. This is an excellent episode to dive into if you’re searching for a unique look at what they are and how they’re overcome.  (00:00:00) Intro and Dave’s defining moment(00:07:51) Do you believe people need to hit rock bottom in order to grow?(00:12:50) What is the intersection between personal growth and communal development?(00:25:23) What role have 12-step programs played in your life and work?(00:31:07) The intersection of relational repair and addiction(00:40:19) Limiting beliefs: what are they and how do we unwind them?(00:59:34) How do we start tackling limiting beliefs around money? David Bayer is an author, speaker, entrepreneur and CEO of David Bayer Transformational Programs, an Inc #171 global coaching and training company focused on helping entrepreneurs, organizations and individuals harness the maximum power of human performance, intelligence and potential. David and his wife Carol have built an organization from $0 to $25M in the last 7 years while helping tens of thousands of entrepreneurs and individuals via their live events, digital courses, coaching and certification programs. Inc and Success Magazine named David ‘a leading expert on both mindset and business strategy’ making David a unique resource and mentor for individuals who truly want to achieve their full potential. His annual event The Powerful Living Experience was named by Inc. as ‘a Top 3 must attend personal development event.’ Connect with David-Website: https://davidbayer.com/mantalks-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidbayer33/-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/coachdavidbayer-Twitter: https://twitter.com/davidrbayer-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKCS2T2uR_7h4zpVETbcFjg Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A solid chunk of my job is helping men get free from porn addiction. It was also something I struggled with for years. Lately, there's been a slew of questions coming at me surrounding porn usage and addiction, so here are seven reasons why it's so damn hard to quit. If this resonates and you're looking for some free extra resources, DM me on Instagram with the word "QUIT" for a free guide. (00:00:00) Intro and reason #1: dopamine(00:02:51) Reason #2: nervous system conditioning (00:05:00) Reason #3: porn’s accessibility and availability(00:05:49) Reason #4: not fully understanding your triggers (00:07:46) Reason #5: no replacement ritual or routine(00:09:21) Reason #6: last time-its(00:11:06) Reason #7: lack of external support Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: masculinity, dating, relationships, patriarchy, balance This is a hefty one, folks. The legendary Dr. Glover and acclaimed coach and writer Tony Endelman sat down with me to analyze the shifting roles, needs, expectations, and environments that men find themselves in. This is a great episode to listen to if you'd like a frank but broad-minded lens to look at the male experience with. A lot of what Dr. Glover, Tony, and I talk about are things we've seen again and again in clients, friends, and our own research. (0:00:00) - Intro(0:03:19) - What's happening to boys and men and why?(0:16:33) - Tony's perspective, and masculinity in the digital age(0:24:23) - Male relationships in dating and in general life(0:37:22) - Is modern dating a s***show?(0:49:13) - Conscious dating, emotional tension, and the friend zone Dr. Robert Glover, therapist, coach, speaker, and educator is a relationship expert with over 40 years of professional experience. The author of the groundbreaking, No More Mr. Nice Guy, the best-selling Dating Essentials for Men, and the recently released, Dating Essentials for Men: Frequently Asked Questions, Dr. Glover has helped thousands of men world-wide transform their lives and get what they want in relationship, sex, and career. Tony Endelman is an author, blogger, entrepreneur, and certified transformational life coach. He is also certified in the Psychology of Happiness. His website has been named one of the top 100 personal development blogs. Tony was born and raised in Omaha, Nebraska, and graduated from the University of Wisconsin-Madison with a degree in communications. Tony currently lives in New Orleans. Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: isolation, masculinity, rationality, validation A woman on Instagram DM'd me a great question a while ago: what do I need to know about men that I might not understand? Well, I came up with five ways to understand the average guy's lived experience. Enjoy! (00:55) - Imagine having few or no close friends(03:27) - Imagine overindexing rationality and logic(05:37) - Link your sense of self-worth to productivity(07:36) - Imagine getting 1/10th the validation you normally do(11:59) - Imagine getting condemned and praised for dominance Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: motivation, resiliency, transformation, Mt Kilimanjaro, Kona marathon, family secrets, doubt, shame I'm proud to have known Bonner for some time now, thanks to him being a member of the Alliance, my private men's group. But the reason I wanted him on the show is to share his powerful story and how he's alchemized his life and his troubles into something that serves others. Many others, as you'll find out when you hit play. I strongly recommend checking this one out if you or someone you know has any form of disability. It's important not just to help each other along, but to gather perspective on the extra hurdles many of us face, how they're managed or overcome, and the radical change that can stem from all of the above. (00:00:00) - Intro and Bonner's defining moment (00:10:21) - Growing up with cerebral palsy (00:14:31) - The different kinds of family rules, and how came to hide his CP (00:20:44) - How Bonner used athleticism to both get attention and distract himself (00:32:00) - The story of Jakey (00:42:10) - How "dark motivation" got Bonner to the top, but couldn't get him down (00:58:15) - Challenges of completing the Kona Triathlon (01:04:10) - Next steps, and a return to Kilimanjaro Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: maturity, parenthood I get asked this question a lot, so here's an honest, off-the-cuff response. I get why a lot of people choose not to, but I think there are also some powerful reasons in the other direction. Listen in. 02:17 - Bringing children into a troubled world07:09 - The importance of the human spirit14:15 - How parenting matures you20:11 - There are beautiful moments in parenting Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: addiction, sex, porn, narcissism, relationships, therapy I've yet to meet a man who hasn't struggled at some point in his life with porn addiction. I was one of them. But is sex addiction any different, and is it more or less complex? I sat down with Dr. Doug Weiss, himself a recovered sex addict (37 years and counting!) to get some insight. This is an ep to listen to if you're looking for more insight on a pervasive problem for many, many people. One that can heavily impact relationships, work ethic, and even overall success. [00:01:11] - Dougs defining moment[00:03:27] - Defining sexual addiction[00:19:41] - What is intimacy anorexia, and what’s contributing to it?[00:30:37] - Reinforcing yours AND your partner’s experiences, and matching types of expression in sex[00:39:28] - Partner betrayal trauma[00:44:08] - What makes intimate relationships unique[00:46:19] - More on sex and porn addiction[00:50:45] - Sex addiction and ADHD[00:54:11] - Can you be addicted to validation? [00:57:58] - Can sex addiction escalate into something darker?[01:00:51] - On narcissism Dr. Doug Weiss is the Executive Director of Heart to Heart Counseling Center and has been helping couples and individuals for over thirty years. He is the President of the American Association for Sexual Addiction Therapy where his treatment model for sex addiction, partner betrayal trauma, and intimacy anorexia is used in counseling practices all over the world.  His direct and charismatic approach to handling tough issues has made him sought after for professional appearances on television shows such as The Oprah Winfrey show, Dr. Phil, Good Morning America, 20/20, The Doctors, Daystar, FoxNews, CNN, Montel, and more. Dr. Doug Weiss has written and filmed over 40 books and therapeutic teachings that directly address specific issues in relationships regarding intimacy, sex, partner betrayal trauma, sex addiction, parenting, and more. He has had more than one Lifetime movie made about his counseling practice (Heart to Heart Counseling Center) in Colorado Springs.  Connect with Doug -Website: https://www.drdougweiss.com/ -Intimacy Anorexia: https://intimacyanorexia.com/ -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drdougweiss -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drdougweiss -YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/drdougweiss Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: grief, loss, relationships, masculinity, anger I met David at a psychotherapy symposium a while back, and it wasn’t long before we were sharing some of the things we’ve grieved. He just has that calm yet strong presence. He’s also, of course, an absolute expert therapist. We dig into everything loss in this episode; how the 5 stages actually work, what death does both for and to us, and much, much more. This is absolutely an episode to share with someone you feel could use it. (00:00:00) - Intro, do men and women grieve differently, and the toll of not grieving (00:06:34) - Why unprocessed grief manifests as anger, anxiety, and more (00:11:10) - What brought David into grief work, the five stages, and where people get stuck (00:24:43) - On the loss of David’s son (00:32:12) - Does grief reshape identity, and the different ways of moving through it (00:35:50) - How to move through grief, and discerning when to “live again” (00:42:51) - David’s take on death denial, living currently, and how death challenges our assumptions (00:50:43) - The sixth stage of grief, and the nuances of meaning after loss David Kessler is one of the world’s foremost experts on grief and loss. His experience with thousands of people on the edge of life and death has taught him the secrets to living a happy and fulfilled life, even after life’s tragedies. He is the author of six books, including the new bestselling book, Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief. He co-authored two books with Elisabeth Kubler Ross, including On Grief and Grieving updated her 5 stages for grief. His first book, The Needs of The Dying received praise from Saint (Mother) Teresa. David’s personal experience as a child witnessing a mass shooting while his mother was dying in a hospital helped him begin his journey. For most of his life, David has taught physicians, nurses, counselors, police, and first responders about the end of life, trauma, and grief. He facilitates talks, workshops and retreats for those experiencing grief. However, despite his vast knowledge on grief, his life was turned upside down by the sudden death of his twenty-one-year-old son. It inspired him to write his newest book, Finding Meaning. David’s volunteer work includes being an LAPD Specialist Reserve for traumatic events as well as having served on the Red Cross’s disaster services team. He worked for over a decade in a three-hospital system, and was even trained for bio-terrorism events and epidemics/pandemics.  Connect with David -Website: https://grief.com/ -Book: Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief: https://grief.com/sixth-stage-of-grief/ -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamdavidkessler/ -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/IamDavidKessler/ -YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/davidkesslerongrief *** This episode is also brought to you by BetterHelp. Easily match with a therapist who can help you through the tough times and empower your best self. Visit BetterHelp.com/mantalks today to get 10% off your first month Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's not easy. It's not simple. It's not comfortable. It's definitely not fun. But it's good for you, and in times like these may be one of the most important skills to cultivate. Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: anger, relationships, finances, birth, mental health, masculine/feminine dynamics Delighted to have the frank yet eloquent honesty of Christine Hassler on the show. This episode is a top choice to listen to with your partner if you're looking for some relationship advice that combines practicality, spirituality, and much more. [01:02] - Christine's defining moment. [07:59] - Christine on women and anger [12:23] - How Connor and Christine define ego. [15:25] - Women and anger. [28:14] - How can men effectively address a woman's anger? [36:57] - How modern relationships have changed for men and women. [48:59] - What conversations should people be having about money? Christine Hassler is a master coach, spiritual psychologist, facilitator, and speaker with 20 years of experience. She is the best-selling author of three books, most recently Expectation Hangover: Free Yourself From Your Past, Change Your Present and Get What you Really Want and is the host of top-rated podcast “Over it and On With It” where she coaches people live on the show. Christine is the co-founder of Elementum Coaching Institute, a premier coaching certification program. She also holds in-person retreats and teaches online courses on relationships, calling in love, healing your inner child, and personal mastery. Connect with Christine -Website: https://christinehassler.com/ -Podcast: https://christinehassler.com/podcast/ -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/christinehassler/ -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/christinehasslerpage/ -Twitter: https://twitter.com/ChristinHassler -YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/christinehassler Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter     See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There are a LOT of relationship tips and tricks on social media. Lots of traps too, and this one is possibly the worst. Dig in, dear listener. What's your take? Would love to hear your thoughts on Instagram (or check the YouTube video)! Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: relationships, IMAGO therapy, emotional intelligence, social media, attachment theory, conflict, sex, intimacy, artificial intelligence Deeply grateful to have sat down with Nick last week to chat about all things relationships. Nick is, frankly, one of the best in the biz, and his compassionate yet no-nonsense approach has helped a great many people. If you’re interested AT ALL in levelling up your intimate relationships, this is an episode to listen to. Strongly recommend you listen alongside your partner—or at least share it with them later. [00:01:04] - Nick’s defining moment[00:09:48] - What made you choose IMAGO certification?[00:12:15] - Where do you see modern relationships breaking down most often?[00:15:57] - How would you say social media has affect modern relationships?[00:21:08] - What does it mean when your partner says “I’m not feeling seen”?[00:25:50] - What other ways can we support our partner in being heard?[00:28:52] - So what is IMAGO therapy based on? What tools does it deploy?[00:44:49] - What are some of main challenges couples face in the realm is sex and intimacy?[00:59:11] - Do you think AI is going to impact the future of intimate relationships?[01:07:33] - We ultimately want to bump up against each other at a deeper level[01:10:25] - What’s your definition of a conscious relationship? Nick Solaczek Certified IMAGO Relationship Coach, working with individuals and couples to boost their emotional intelligence and success in romantic relationships. He emphasizes safe conversation techniques, mindfulness, authenticity, and boundary setting. Nick is based in Vancouver, Canada, and has coached Hollywood celebrities, CEO’s, secret agents, high-profile lawyers, therapists, doctors, fresh partners and lifelong marriages. He’s also been privileged to assist Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt (founders of IMAGO and authors of the bestseller Getting the Love You Want) in their online training for couples. Connect with Nick -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicksolaczek/-Couples Course - Romatic Relationship Reset: https://nicksolaczek.com/reset/-Website: www.nicksolaczek.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I didn't always have it figured out. There are times even now when I still feel lost. But after relentless work and coaching thousands of men over the years, there are a few ideas that have risen to the top and truly helped me and others overcome that feeling of being rudderless. Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: anger, inner critic, passive aggressiveness, shame Haven't done one of these in a while! Every so often I'll have an anonymous guest on the show to give listeners a glimpse into what men's work at ManTalks is actually like. This time, my guest is already familiar with what we do, so I dive right in. If you're the kind of person who has difficulty standing up for themselves, or can't seem to control negative self-talk, this may be a helpful episode to dig into. We talk a lot about something I call "implosive anger", aka when instead of having a healthy relationship with the anger you feel, you suppress and direct it back at yourself. Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

First off, why is this happening? Second, is there any kind of silver lining? These are the two major questions on my mind this mini-episode, plus why I think there's a growing number of people (men especially) searching for more hands-on, apprenticeship style training. Listen in. Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: addiction, psychedelics, the trouble with success, death, grief, masculinity, How I Met Your Mother Honestly, there's not a single topic Josh and I didn't cover in this episode. We've been friends for years and wanted to jam together for a long time, and it's clear we had a ton to talk about. Deeply grateful for his insight, perspective, and stories. This is a great episode if you're looking for the perfect combo of candid, vulnerable, and funny. [00:06:02] - Josh's defining moments [00:18:43] - Addictive personalities [00:23:01] - The power of empathy and forgiveness [00:31:04] - What's brilliant about 12-step [00:35:03] - What was happening in Josh's life when How I Met Your Mother became successful [00:42:06] - What made HIMYM successful, and it's portrayal of masculinity (and Canadians) [00:50:47] - "The baseline question [of HIMYM] was 'Who Am I?'" [00:58:55] - Depth vs growth, Jung's puer aeternus, and death [01:14:03] - The role of a parent, unconditional love, and what Josh's dog Nelson has taught him [01:24:46] - Josh's experience with plant medicines Writer, director, and actor Josh Radnor is a multifaceted talent, bringing a wealth of experience to all his endeavors. Radnor is perhaps best known for playing Ted, the central character in the seven-time Emmy-winning comedy, "How I Met Your Mother." Premiering at the 2010 Sundance Film Festival, where it won the Audience Award, Radnor directed, wrote and starred in his first feature film, "happythankyoumoreplease." The film was released in March 2011, and featured an ensemble cast including Richard Jenkins, Malin Akerman, Kate Mara, Zoe Kazan, and Tony Hale. Radnor's second directorial effort came with the Sundance Film Festival favorite "Liberal Arts", which he also wrote and starred in alongside Elizabeth Olsen, Richard Jenkins, and Allison Janney. His upcoming music album, "Eulogy", will be released later this year. In addition to film and television, Radnor starred on Broadway as the title character in "The Graduate" opposite Kathleen Turner and Alicia Silverstone. Off-Broadway and regionally, he has appeared in productions with the Manhattan Theater Club, The Vineyard Theater, and Baltimore Center Stage, among others. A gifted writer, Radnor has published several articles in the Los Angeles Times Magazine, Guilt and Pleasure Magazine, Moviemaker Magazine, Indiewire, and The Huffington Post. A native of Columbus, Ohio, Mr. Radnor attended Kenyon College where he won the Paul Newman Acting Trophy. He received his MFA in acting from NYU's Tisch School of the Arts. He currently resides in Los Angeles. Connect with Josh: -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/JoshRadnor/ Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Artificial intelligence is already changing the game for a number of industries, and I'm thinking erotica won't be an exception. But how? In what ways? And what's next? Lastly, I'd love to get your thoughts on this. DM me on Instagram to let me know! Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: trauma, sexual abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse, trauma culture, therapy I was connected to Katherine Ann through my own mentor, the incredible gestalt therapist Duey Freeman. Her story is intense, powerful, and most importantly, it's shows the importance and possibilities inherent in trauma work and group work. I applaud Katherine Ann for coming forward and sharing her story. [00:01:12] - Katherine Ann's defining moment [00:08:50] - the role Katherine Ann's father played in her life [00:15:12] - Were you believed about what was happening, and how did your trauma start manifesting? [00:26:44] - How did what happened shape your perception of men, and how has that evolved since doing trauma excavation? [00:40:16] - What would you say to people who struggle with forgiving what's happened? [00:45:27] - What is trauma excavation? [00:54:44] - Do you get the sense that trauma work has become so mainstream it's been watered down? Katherine Ann is a mother of five grown children – 2 daughters and 3 stepsons. She resides in Boulder, CO with her beloved husband. After years of abuse and trauma, followed by 30 years (thus far) of healing, she recently released her website – see KatherineAnn.com – and is sharing her life story and experiences in hopes of helping others heal from trauma and abuse, and transform from a place of just surviving to thriving in life. The connection Katherine Ann has with (Connor) is through Duey Freeman, who has been a therapist for almost 50 years with about 80,000 contact hours with clients. Katherine Ann has worked with Duey individually and collectively with her siblings. Recently, Duey stated on Traver Boehm’s podcast that, Katherine Ann, and her brother and her sister, “were involved in probably the most bizarre and intense situation of abuse – both physical and sexual – that I’ve seen.” In 2008, in a letter of promotion for the three siblings when they planned to write a book together, Duey wrote about the abuse as, “the most intense, insidious, and malicious case of abuse and incest I have ever known. It is a story of love and hate, of physical and sexual abuse, of incredible humiliation and manipulation. A story that makes you cry and then pray for both forgiveness and healing.” Katherine Ann’s book will be published later this year. Connect with Katherine Ann -Website: https://katherineann.com/intro/introduction/ -Facebook: https://bit.ly/3NbKOyF -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katherineannhealing/ Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter       See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: self-worth, mindset This is a wildly simple fact, but so easy to miss. Self-esteem is built along the way, not something you find at the end of the work. Listen in. (00:00:00) - Intro and real reason your self-esteem takes a hit (00:03:14) - The secret hope (00:07:16) - It’s that simple, and that hard *** Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google  Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Having a bit of give and take? Good. Being flexible within reason? Great. But in my opinion, there's one area of your life where you should never, ever compromise. Listen in. Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: porn, sex, psychology, sexual technique, sexual health Note: there were some technical troubles on this one, so forgive the rougher audio! I polled my followers on Instagram for a lot of the questions Stirling and I covered this episode, so expect a great combo of thoughtful "why" answers and actionable advice on everything sex, arousal, attraction, and more. [00:01:08] - Stirling's defining moment[00:05:23] - How it shifted Stirling's perspective[00:12:57] - How DID you end up in porn, and what is it really like?[00:21:22] - Why OnlyFans took off[00:28:39] - What porn can do to a guy's sexual psychology[00:38:03] - How would you talk to your son about porn?[00:46:44] - How do you map out male dominance in the bedroom in today's society?[00:55:41] - How do you get your partner in the mood?[01:01:56] - How do we bridge the gap between women who want a more dominant man in the bedroom and men who are worried about being so?[01:18:14] - How to get better erections and last longer Stirling Cooper is an Award Winning Australian Pornographic Actor. Born in rural Western Australia, Stirling started off his Porn career in 2017 shooting for smaller studios based in Melbourne. He then moved to the United Kingdom and used his experience and connections to get his foot in the door in the British Porn industry, shooting for numerous studios throughout 2017 such as the notorious Fake Taxi, Dorcel, and many more. His career started to really kick into gear in the beginning of 2018 when he shot his first scene for Brazzers in 2018 and after that was flown out to Budapest, Hungary to shoot for other MindGeek brands like Babes. He stayed in Europe for several months working between Budapest, Hungary, and Prague, Czech Republic building a lot of momentum and gaining tremendous experience after being cast by big names like Rocco Siffredi and the FakeHub Network. Stirling now uses his wealth of experience as a professional sex machine to teach men how to improve their own sex lives and through his Youtube channel he also helps enlighten men on the virtues of living an unapologetically masculine life. Connect with Stirling -Website: https://www.stirlingcooper.com/ -Twitter: https://twitter.com/stirlingwisdom -YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0YIbCZJoYV1BeZ5qHDIJyQ -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cooperstirling/ Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

They're simple, but they consistently bear fruit. In this episode, three straightforward ways to be cultivate higher status—that do NOT involve buying a Bugatti Bolide—that you could start on the second you finish this podcast. Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: AI, gender wars, masculinity, culture, relationships, dating, archetypes, myth All I can tell you is: this is a big one! Traver and I did an episode exchange for this one, and we always (I mean always) have great, wide-ranging conversations. It’s one of the bes gifts that comes from having old friends.  This is the episode to listen to if you want to hear directly from two men’s coaches who have hands on experience with what men are undergoing these days, and some of the ways we can regulate and manage what seems to be ever-increasing chaos. [00:03:52] - How social media conversations have gotten a lot more intense—and why[00:11:03] - How this is affecting men in general[00:16:57] - So much bad s**t is happening. What does your average man do?[00:26:56] - What used to be “luxuries” like a morning meditation practice are now tools for survival[00:33:02] - The effect even a basic participation in online toxicity can have[00:43:39] - “How do we get men back engaged in relationship itself?”[00:58:43] - The greatest gift you can give your partner[01:05:16] - Men need myth[01:11:50] - Why AI needs to be trained on myth Traver Boehm is the author of the books “Today I Rise” and “Man UNcivilized”. He’s a two-time TEDx speaker, men’s coach, and the founder of the UNcivilized Men’s Movement. He’s helped men worldwide to become UNcivilized as they wake up to the power of their hearts, the brilliance of their bodies, and the wisdom of their souls so they can blaze their own path by uniquely blending both the primal and the divine within them. He is dedicated to doing his part to help end the suffering in men, and the suffering caused by men, by guiding them through their own journey into an actualized version of masculinity. Connect with Traver -Website: https://www.manuncivilized.com/ -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/traverboehm/ -Podcast: https://www.manuncivilized.com/blog/ Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is something I'm seeing a lot on social media, but also in everyday dialogue and even some clients: labeling someone with a definitive psychological term to shut down dialogue or shame someone else, usually without really knowing what's being talked about. This only speeds up our polarization and harms our ability to connect. How about we...stop doing that? Note: the article in the NYT I mentioned was written by Dr. Tara Isabella Burton, not Bayo Akomolafe. I'll link it below, along with his interview on the Emerald Podcast. The Problem With Letting Therapy-Speak Invade Everything: https://www.nytimes.com/2022/11/12/opinion/mental-health-therapy-instagram.html The Emerald: The Revolution Will Not Be Pscyhologized, Part 2: https://podtail.com/en/podcast/the-emerald/the-revolution-will-not-be-psychologized-part-2-in/ Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: Navy SEALS, grit, BUD/S, hardship, mindset, rehabilitation, paralympics We had some network issues near the end, so Dan is coming back for round 2 soon! I'm grateful for every single interview I get to do, but it's less often that I'm so deeply humbled. Listening to Dan's story, and his thoughtful and considerate approach to such intense trauma, is something that will stick with me for a long, long time. Listen to this episode for a gripping and honest look into the life of an incredible athlete. (00:00:00) - Welcome and Dan's defining moment (00:06:09) - What was BUD/S like for Dan? What were some the greatest lessons? (00:19:20) - What goes into being a SEAL? (00:27:41) - What was your first deployment like? (00:33:11) - How Dan lost his legs (00:42:00) - The aftermath and the injuries (01:02:51) - Where did the desire to become a paralympic athelete come from? Lieutenant Commander Dan Cnossen was serving as the platoon commander for SEAL Team One in Afghanistan in September 2009 when he stepped on an IED (improvised explosive device) and was wounded in the explosion. The accident caused Cnossen to lose both his legs just above the knee. After over forty surgeries, Cnossen went through rehabilitation at the Bethesda National Naval Medical Center and later at the Walter Reed National Military Medical Center, where he learned to walk with his new prosthetics. Dan was awarded both a Purple Heart and a Bronze Star with Valor from the Secretary of the Navy for his service in combat. Grew up on a fifth-generation family farm in Kansas, and his hobbies include running, reading, traveling, and surfing. Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: regret, purpose, direction I was recently reminded of a powerful moment I had with an old mentor. At the time, I was having trouble deciding what I wanted to do, where I wanted to go, and I felt directionless and fearful of regret. This is a topic I've covered before, but it's one worth reflecting on. Listen in. This podcast is brought to you by Organifi! Plant-based nutrition that's science-backed, high quality, and something I use literally every day. Hit up the link for 20% off your next purchase here: https://www.organifi.com/mantalks Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking point: centrism, politics, social media, racism, censorship, AI, China, CRT Hot on the heels of last week's chat with Amir Odom, Coleman and I dug into a wide range of topics. We mostly focused on political polarization and where that's coming from, but also how AI might play into further issues, his definition of critical race theory, and much more. Listen to this episode if you've been curious about any of the above talking points, don't know where to start, and want a level-headed discussion. Coleman is a smart guy, and (I'd say) mostly center-right in his politics, so this is a good place to begin gaining awareness of the issues. [00:04:33] - Coleman's defining moment [00:10:16] - Do you think we live in a death-phobic culture? [00:14:50] - When you look at the American political landscape, how do you describe what's happening? [00:22:45] - Do you have any hope for the de-polarization of America? [00:31:55] - What are you most concerned about re: American democracy in 2023? [00:41:02] - CRT and education [00:51:50] - Cultural power vs political power [00:57:34] - On victimhood [01:05:31] - Can you define a race-blind society? Coleman Hughes is a writer, podcaster, and opinion columnist who specializes in issues related to race, public policy, and applied ethics. Coleman’s writing has been featured in the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, National Review, Quillette, The City Journal, and The Spectator. He has appeared on many TV shows and podcasts, including Real Time with Bill Maher, Making Sense with Sam Harris, and The Jordan B. Peterson Podcast.     In June 2019, he testified before the U.S. Congress. Born and raised in northern New Jersey, Coleman briefly attended the Juilliard School to study jazz trombone before dropping out to pursue a career as an independent jazz/hip-hop artist. Shortly thereafter, Coleman discovered a passion for applied ethics and public policy at Columbia University, where he graduated with a B.A. in philosophy. Connect with Coleman -Website: https://colemanhughes.org/ -Podcast: https://bit.ly/41egvuT -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coleman_hughes/ -Twitter: https://twitter.com/coldxman -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/colemancruzhughes1/ This podcast is brought to you by Organifi! Plant-based nutrition that's science-backed, high quality, and something I use literally every day. Hit up the link for 20% off your next purchase here: https://www.organifi.com/mantalks Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: porn, stress, hentai, isolation Every year, Pornhub releases a bunch of stats detailing how long people are watching, top search terms, when people are watching, and more. This data is from Dec 2022, so it's a bit old, but I wanted to share some thoughts on what some of these stats might be implying, particularly for men. This is an episode for anyone curious about porn's implications outside of just "sexual entertainment". I go into how it might be affecting (or a be a response to) other parts of our lives, and offer up some thoughts on what to do. This podcast is brought to you by Organifi! Plant-based nutrition that's science-backed, high quality, and something I use literally every day. Hit up the link for 20% off your next purchase here: https://www.organifi.com/mantalks Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify Looking to build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Lastly, check some more free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: growing up gay, LGBTQ+ issues, trans issues, culture Fair warning, this is a different kind of episode than the ones I usually put out. I encourage you to listen to it fully. Thanks to Amir for his candor and willingness to come on the show. Amir Odom takes time every week to reflect on…well, anything that’s been on his mind that week. Sometimes it’s current events, sometimes it’s a story from 10 years ago, sometimes it’s a conspiracy theory and sometimes it’s his alter ego “Jamal” going on a rant. You never know what you are going to get, but that’s what keeps it interesting. [05:17] - Amir’s defining moment[10:24] - What was life like for Amir growing up?[21:34] - Do Black Americans still face systemic issues?[27:27] - Is the culture most Black men grow up under not conducive? Why?[29:14] - Broadly, what’s going on in the LGBTQ+ community?[48:54] - Amir’s mission Connect with Amir -Website: https://www.amirodom.com/ -YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@amirxodom This podcast is brought to you by Organifi! Plant-based nutrition that's science-backed, high quality, and something I use literally every day. Hit up the link for 20% off your next purchase here: https://www.organifi.com/mantalks Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify Looking to build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Lastly, check some more free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: stuckness, energy, trauma Back in May, this anonymous guest came to me trying to solve what’s blocking him from making important decisions and taking action. We uncovered a traumatic event that started this, but that’s just the start of the process. Here are the next steps in understanding and healing this man’s trauma and helping him move forward. Strongly encourage you to check out part 1 here: https://link.chtbl.com/VaiRj0Oy (00:00:00) - Intro and catchup: the feeling of stuck-ness (00:12:00) - What punishment is stuck-ness protecting you from? (00:20:17) - Learning that feelings and energy can be moved (00:32:28) - An assignment for my guest to help him move forward *** This ep was brought to you by Chubbies. Your summer wardrobe awaits! Get 20% off @chubbies with the code mantalks at https://www.chubbiesshorts.com/mantalks #chubbiespod Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: marriage, relationships With marriage rates seemingly at an all-time low, and most of the old reasons for marriage largely defunct, it's a question many men are asking. It was something I wrestled with too. So...why bother with marriage? And why did I get married? [00:00] - Statistics on marriage and some of the reasons we used to get married [06:56] - Why I chose marriage This podcast is brought to you by Organifi! Plant-based nutrition that's science-backed, high quality, and something I use literally every day. Hit up the link for 20% off your next purchase here: https://www.organifi.com/mantalks Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify Looking to build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Lastly, check some more free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: masculinity, femininity, achievement, dating, psychedelics, competition, culture, truth, what men and women want (and what they get wrong) Wow. Danica and I covered a LOT of territory in this conversation. Like, top 3 widest-ranging conversations I’ve had on the podcast. Listen in for everything from masculine/feminine dynamics, to the nature of truth, to sharing psychedelic stories, to what men get wrong about women (and vice versa). This is a brilliant episode to dig into if you’re looking less for answers and more for wonder. Much of what we discussed is better served by not forcing solutions, but simply wondering about viewpoints. Plus, you get a little of everything in this one!   [00:03:54] - Danica’s defining moment [00:11:41] - Women and the masculine [00:17:49] - How did masculine energy show up in Danica’s career? [00:23:47] - How does it feel to be told, as a woman, “You’re more masculine than I am”? [00:37:17] - The intersection of achievement and spirituality [00:44:52] - Psychedelic experiences [00:54:24] - How has your imagination and curiosity shaped your life? [01:08:28] - How do you view the masculine and feminine culturally? [01:30:18] - What do women get wrong about men, and vice versa?   About Danica Patrick At just 10 years old, Danica’s racing career began after her parents bought her a go-kart. After winning numerous regional and national go-kart titles, Danica left the Midwest at 16 years old to compete in the cutthroat world of European road racing. As a racecar driver, Danica Patrick broke barriers and set records with her on-track performance. With her racing career behind her, Danica looks to her next chapter as she focuses on her passions: good food, great wine, fitness and helping others achieve their goals. Moving into her next chapter, retired from racing, Danica’s focus has shifted to her role as an entrepreneur and business owner. Danica has launched the clothing line – Warrior by Danica Patrick, authored a book Pretty Intense, and is the sole proprietor of Somnium, a vineyard in Napa Valley, California. In addition to these passion projects, Danica also continues to do inspirational speaking engagements and she plans to build upon these initiatives in the coming years. Connect with Danica -Website: https://www.danicapatrick.com/ -Podcast: https://www.danicapatrick.com/podcasts -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/danicapatrick/ -Twitter: https://twitter.com/danicapatrick This podcast is brought to you by Organifi! Plant-based nutrition that's science-backed, high quality, and something I use literally every day. Hit up the link for 20% off your next purchase here: https://www.organifi.com/mantalks Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify Looking to build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Lastly, check some more free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shorter episode today, but something I'd love to get your thoughts on. This came from a recent conversation between Lex Friedman and Aella, a sex researcher, writer, and sex worker. She surveyed her followers on what men and women actually want in the bedroom, and noticed an interesting discrepancy. I polled my own followers and found something similar. Listen in! Check out Aella's work here: https://knowingless.com/ This podcast is brought to you by Organifi! Plant-based nutrition that's science-backed, high quality, and something I use literally every day. Hit up the link for 20% off your next purchase here: https://www.organifi.com/mantalks Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify Looking to build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Lastly, check some more free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices