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When we are raising children with big emotions, it can be frustrating watching them struggle when things don’t come easily. Even when we encourage them and remind them that they can do hard things, they may continue to complain or resist, leaving us wondering: Should we push them, or should we give in? Fortunately, there is a simple way to make this decision… and a way to help them handle discomfort when a push is appropriate. 

In this episode, you’ll learn: 

• Why children with big emotions often avoid doing hard things

• How to decide when to push them do hard things and when it doesn’t make sense to push 

• How we can help deal with their discomfort so they can become the best version of themselves

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While some kids with big emotions blame others, others are incredibly hard on themselves. And it can be devastating to hear them beat themselves up when they make a mistake! Often when they do, our instinct is to tell them it will be okay, that it’s not a big deal, that everyone makes mistakes. But as you’ve probably noticed, that doesn’t make them stop this behavior in the long run, and it can even make them feel worse in the moment. The good news is that we can use Leadership Parenting strategies to help our children – and ourselves! – handle these situations more effectively. 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why previous attempts to help our kids calm down haven’t worked -- and often make things worse instead

• Qualities that many children with big emotions have in common (and why it feels like they regularly get stuck in cycles of negativity)

• How to stay regulated and help kids get unstuck so they can learn how to handle their mistakes in the moment… and build resilience for the future

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Often when we ask our kids with big emotions to do things they have to do, instead of doing what we ask, they resist, negotiate, or even become disrespectful to us (or themselves!). And when we feel helpless and stuck, we often then fall back on strategies that our parents used with us… which tends to make things worse. So how can we motivate responsible and respectful behavior when our attempts seem to just lead to more drama? 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Two reasons why rewards and punishments don’t work for kids with big emotions

• Common reasons why children struggle (and how we can identify these reasons when our kids are having a hard time)

• How to go beneath kids’ behavior to motivate more positive behaviors, moods, and attitudes with less resistance 

One of the defining qualities of children with "big emotions" is that they have a hard time when things don't go their way. But explaining to them why they need to be more flexible doesn't seem to work, and it only frustrates them and us more! The good news is that we can help our children handle frustration and disappointment when we shift from telling children WHY they need to be more flexible to teaching them HOW to be more flexible.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why we reduce our influence when we try to get children to accept that things won't always go their way
• What they truly need in order to become more adaptable
• A simple formula (with examples!) to teach them to maturely handle the fact that things will go differently than they expected -- even if they are currently resistant to talk about this

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We want our children to feel respected, and we know that it’s important to connect with them and validate their feelings. But when they’ve behaved in an unacceptable way, it’s easy to wonder if, when you’re connecting with them, you’re letting them “get away” with negative behavior. 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why our influence does depend on being able to balance both validation and firmness

• A simple formula (with examples!) to show our kids that we sincerely care about what they’re going through without condoning negative behavior 

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Changes and new situations – especially a new school year! – can create a lot of worry for our kids with big emotions. But no matter what the change is, or what their worries are, we can empower children to handle hard things. 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Simple steps to help kids get ready for a new school year (or any other situation that they’re nervous about)

• How to make it less likely that they’ll worry about changes and transitions 

• How to help them feel more in control of situations that they are anxious about

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Many children with big emotions can seem spoiled or entitled at times -- like they expect to get everything they want, all of the time. And even though it can be tempting to give in for the sake of family peace, there are better ways to help our children in these situations… so they can learn how to handle not getting their way in the future. 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why kids with big emotions seem to always want more, more, more

• What we can ask ourselves to know if we’re giving our children what they truly need (or just want they want)

• One thing all parents can give their kids so they don’t keep asking for more

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Despite the fact that they experience emotions very intensely, it’s very common for children who feel strongly to NOT want to talk about their emotions. But in order to address negative behavior, moods, and attitudes, we need to have these conversations!

The good news is that using specific phrases will allow us to improve our influence with our children so they are open to hearing us, rather than trying to avoid us. 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• The real reasons why our children tend to avoid talking about their emotions

• How to start conversations with our kids (without triggering their resistance)

• How we can help our kids handle their discomfort more effectively and maturely 

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We ask our children to do things all the time, and (of course) we assume that they know how to do what we ask. Why wouldn’t they? In reality, a lot of negative behavior stems from skills that children are missing – which means they actually don’t know how to do what we ask. In order to improve our influence and their resilience, all we need to do is teach them a few strategies for success. 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• What actually stops children from doing what we want them to do 

• How one simple shift can decrease our frustration and our exhaustion

• What it’s like to be a child who wants to do better… but can’t 

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It can be exhausting to parent children with big emotions -- especially when it feels like our efforts to improve behavior, moods, and attitudes take longer than we would like. Even if we understand (in our minds) that it takes time for our kids to learn how to deal with their discomfort and develop new skills, that doesn’t always make us stop wishing they would feel and act better more quickly! 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why wanting things to go more quickly actually slows things down 

• One question we can ask ourselves to change our perspective and our attitude (so progress does happen faster) 

• The key to less frustration if children do take time to change 

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