Unblock Your BS – Details, episodes & analysis

⚠️ Trigger Warning: This episode includes open discussion of suicide and self-harm. If you're in a hard place right now, it's completely okay to skip this one and come back when you're ready, or pick a different episode. If you do listen, go gentle with yourself and take breaks if you need them.

"Tom" came into the Healthy Men-tality program looking, from the outside, like a man who had it all figured out. Successful career, two decades of marriage, the kind of life that checks every box. Underneath it, his marriage was falling apart, he was living out of a suitcase in a different country every couple of months, and he was running on a survival pattern he'd built as a kid. Be the strong one. Protect everyone. Never let it show.

A few weeks into the program, the weight of all of it caught up with him and he hit his lowest point. What happened after is a big part of why he's on this episode. Not because everything is fixed now, the separation conversations are still happening, but because of how differently he's able to move through it.

Inside this conversation, we get into:

• How men get conditioned to be "the strong one" and what it quietly costs them

• Why living in survival mode and gripping for control keeps you disconnected from your own life

• The line running from childhood trauma to attachment styles to the patterns you keep repeating as an adult

• What detachment actually means, and why it doesn't mean you've stopped caring

• Breaking generational cycles instead of handing them down to your kids

• Forgiving yourself without using shame to do it

• What shifts when you stop walking on eggshells and start regulating your nervous system

Healing is a long game. You catch the pattern, name what's happening in your body, and choose something different than what you were handed.

JOIN MY FREE TRAINING HERE

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• Men on a Healing Journey - Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: unblockyourbs.com/healthymen 

Connect with Tara:

• Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram
• @unblockyourbs on TikTok 
•  Watch the episodes on YouTube
• Book a 1:1 call with Tara
• Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit
• Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE

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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

Most men don't lose their relationship overnight.

It happens slowly.

Long work hours. Emotional avoidance. Constant stress. Feeling like roommates instead of partners. One person asking for connection while the other thinks, "I'm doing all of this for us… why isn't it enough?"

In this episode, Marcus opens up about the collapse of his six-year relationship, discovering his partner was emotionally involved with someone else, and the spiral of shame, grief, panic, and self-blame that followed.

But this conversation goes deeper than cheating or heartbreak.

We unpack how childhood trauma, nervous system survival responses, overworking, emotional shutdown, conflict avoidance, and people-pleasing quietly shape adult relationships… especially for men who were never taught emotional regulation in the first place.

Inside this episode:

• Why overworking is often emotional avoidance in disguise

• The difference between guilt and shame

• Fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses in relationships

• Why some people move on quickly after relationships end

• How childhood abandonment wounds show up in adult intimacy

• Why many men outsource their self-worth to being chosen

• What emotional safety actually looks like in a relationship

• The hidden cost of living in survival mode for years

• How nervous system work and breathwork help process grief and emotional overwhelm

This one is raw. Honest. Messy. Human.

And if you've ever thought:
"I know better… but I still keep reacting the same way."

You'll probably see yourself somewhere in this conversation.

If you're ready to stop living in survival mode and learn how to lead yourself differently in relationships, you can learn more about Healthy Men-tality here: JOIN MY FREE TRAINING HERE

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• Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: unblockyourbs.com/saa

• Men on a Healing Journey - Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: unblockyourbs.com/healthymen 

Connect with Tara:

• Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram
• @unblockyourbs on TikTok 
•  Watch the episodes on YouTube
• Book a 1:1 call with Tara
• Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit
• Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE

__________________________________________________________________________________

Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

If your partner is constantly sending you relationship content…
and your first instinct is to feel annoyed, confused, or defensive…

This episode is going to challenge that.

Because what looks like a "TikTok problem"…
is usually a communication and emotional safety problem.

Inside this solo episode, we break down what's actually happening when someone avoids direct communication, and how your response might be reinforcing the very cycle you're frustrated with.

• Why sending TikToks is often a safer form of communication

• How social media algorithms reinforce emotional patterns

• The difference between symptoms vs. root problems in relationships

• Why defensiveness shuts down emotional safety instantly

• How to shift from reactivity → curiosity

• What emotional safety actually looks like in practice

• The role of childhood wounds in adult relationship dynamics

• Why labeling your partner (or being labeled) keeps you stuck

• How to take ownership without taking all the blame

This episode will help you stop pointing fingers…
and start understanding what's really going on beneath the surface.

If you're realizing you don't have the tools to navigate this… you're not broken, you were just never taught.

If you want to become the kind of man who:

• Stays calm instead of reactive

• Knows how to communicate without shutting down or blowing up

• Creates emotional safety in your relationship

That's exactly what we work on inside Healthy Men-tality.

👉 You can apply here: www.unblockyourbs.com/healthymen
Or DM me the word HEAL on Instagram or TikTok

No pressure, just a conversation to see what support makes sense for you.

• Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: unblockyourbs.com/saa

• Men on a Healing Journey - Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: unblockyourbs.com/healthymen 

Connect with Tara:

• Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram
• @unblockyourbs on TikTok 
• Watch the episodes on YouTube
• Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community
• Book a 1:1 call with Tara
• FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download
• Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit
• Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program
• Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE

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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

Most people don't go into marriage expecting it to end.
And when it does… they don't have a roadmap.

If you're a man facing divorce, you've probably heard the same story on repeat:

You'll lose your money.
You'll lose your kids.
The system is rigged against you.

But what if most of that is just noise?

In this episode of Unblock Your BS, I sit down with Joe Dillon, co-founder of Equitable Mediation Services, to break down what actually happens in divorce, and how to navigate it without destroying your finances, your relationship with your kids, or yourself.

Joe has spent 17+ years helping couples avoid courtroom battles and unnecessary chaos. He also lived through a highly contentious divorce as a child, which shaped the way he approaches this work today.

We get into:

• Why divorce becomes a financial and emotional war zone
• The biggest myths men believe (and what's actually true)
• How mediation works—and when it doesn't
• What you can do right now to protect your time, money, and future

And where this conversation really lands… is in how you approach the process.

Because most people are making decisions way too early,  based on eмоtion, assumptions, or incomplete information.

One of the biggest shifts Joe shares is simple: do the discovery before the deciding.
Don't agree to anything until you actually understand what you're working with.

We also unpack:

• Why the "system is rigged" narrative isn't the full story

• What 50/50 parenting actually looks like in real life (and where most men get it wrong)

• What child support really is (and why it's often misunderstood)

• How to build a parenting plan that doesn't fall apart

• What actually damages kids during divorce… so you don't make it worse. 

• Divorce isn't just emotional—it's a negotiation
• Most conflict is driven by fear, control, and miscommunication
• Child support is shared responsibility, not punishment
• Parenting doesn't stop when it's "not your day"
• Your kids didn't ask for this… protect them from the fallout

If this episode hit for you:

👉 Want to stop reacting and start responding?
Download my free 5-minute breathwork session

👉 Want support around relationships, emotional regulation, and rebuilding?
Join the Self Aware Army

👉 Ready for deeper work?
Apply for 1:1 coaching

About Our Guest:

Joe Dillon is the co-founder of Equitable Mediation Services, where he and his wife Cheryl (a divorce coach) help couples divorce without lawyers. Joe has an MBA in Finance and combines that financial expertise with deep personal experience—he is the child of a litigated divorce that left scars. Over the past 17 years, Joe has helped hundreds of couples avoid the courtroom nightmare and walk away with agreements that actually work. His approach is tactical, financial, and refreshingly honest. He practices in six states: Washington, California, Illinois, New York, New Jersey, and Pennsylvania.

Connect with Joe Dillon:

You can find Joe and access free resources, courses, and consultation options at Equitable Mediation Services. He is also active on social media where he shares divorce and co-parenting advice:

• Instagram:@equitablemediation
• Facebook:Equitable Mediation
• YouTube:@Equitablemediation
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/josephfdillon/

Connect with Tara:

• Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram
• @unblockyourbs on TikTok 
• Watch the episodes on YouTube
• Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community
• Book a 1:1 call with Tara
• FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download
• Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit
• Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program
• Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE

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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

At 25, Coleman was cheating on his wife, chronically lying, and living in constant fight-or-flight.

He didn't just lose his marriage.
He realized he didn't like who he had become.

This episode is the raw, unfiltered story of what it actually takes to change,  not through mindset hacks, but through nervous system healing.

From rock bottom…
to somatic work, subconscious reprogramming, breathwork, and rebuilding emotional integrity.

Today, Coleman helps women regulate their nervous systems,  and teaches men how to create emotional safety instead of control.

This conversation goes beyond "self-improvement."
It's about what happens when your body finally learns safety.

In This Episode, We Unpack:

• Why trauma isn't just the event,  it's the story the body keeps telling

• Talk therapy ("mind down") vs somatic coaching ("body up")

• How breathwork completes the emotional processing loop

• Why peace can feel unsafe after years of chaos

• Co-regulation vs codependency… and what "fixing" is really about

• What emotional safety actually means in relationships

• How anxiety shows up in the body (and why you're not "just an anxious person")

• Why many men resist emotional work, and what shifts that

Coleman shares the moment he looked at his life and thought:

"I don't like who I am."

That moment led him into:

• Plant medicine

• Somatic healing

• Inner child work

• Reparenting

• Intensive breathwork practice

And ultimately….  into becoming a nervous system coach.

If This Episode Hit…

Send it to someone who:

• Says they're "just anxious"

• Struggles with control in relationships

• Feels stuck in fight-or-flight

• Wants to feel safe in their own body
  
  

Coleman is a holistic health and wellness coach with over 12 years of experience. His work now centers on nervous system regulation, subconscious reprogramming, and lifestyle transformation. He helps clients reconnect with their inner light and build emotional resilience from the body up.

🌐 Website: Coleheartedwellness.com
📱 TikTok: @coleheartedwellness
📷 Instagram: @colehearted_wellness

• Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: unblockyourbs.com/saa

• Men on a Healing Journey - Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: unblockyourbs.com/healthymen 

Connect with Tara:

• Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram
• @unblockyourbs on TikTok 
• Watch the episodes on YouTube
• Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community
• Book a 1:1 call with Tara
• FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download
• Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit
• Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program
• Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE

__________________________________________________________________________________

Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

Some moments in life split your story into two chapters:
Before. And after.

For Charlie, that moment happened the night he discovered his wife was having an affair.

After 15 years together, his marriage collapsed overnight.
His nervous system spiraled.
His identity shattered.
And he found himself sitting in his car wondering how his life had fallen apart so quickly.

But that breakdown became the beginning of something unexpected.

In this episode, Charlie shares the real story behind his healing journey inside the Healthy Men-tality program, from emotional shutdown and codependency to learning how to regulate his nervous system, rebuild his self-worth, and show up as a safer father and partner.

What started as survival turned into transformation.

Today?

He's rebuilding his life, reconnecting with himself, strengthening his relationship with his kids, and discovering what it actually means to feel confident, calm, and emotionally safe.

Not because his life became perfect.

But because he changed how he shows up inside it.

In this episode we explore:

• Why men often suppress emotions until everything explodes
• The nervous system spiral that happens after betrayal
• The codependency patterns that quietly destroy relationships
• How childhood wounds shape adult relationships
• The breathwork experience that completely shifted his healing
• Learning to observe thoughts instead of being controlled by them
• Setting boundaries with parents for the first time
• Becoming a safer parent for his kids during divorce
• Rebuilding identity after a relationship ends
• What happens when a man learns emotional regulation

Charlie didn't just learn how to survive divorce.

He learned how to trust himself again.

And that changed everything.

If you're a man navigating heartbreak, divorce, or feeling stuck in survival mode…

You don't have to figure it out alone.

The Healthy Men-tality Program teaches men how to:

• Regulate their nervous system
• Lead themselves emotionally
• Build relationships rooted in emotional safety
• Break patterns that sabotage connection

Apply or learn more here: www.unblockyourbs.com/healthymen

• Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: unblockyourbs.com/saa

• Men on a Healing Journey - Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: unblockyourbs.com/healthymen 

Connect with Tara:

• Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram
• @unblockyourbs on TikTok 
• Watch the episodes on YouTube
• Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community
• Book a 1:1 call with Tara
• FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download
• Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit
• Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program
• Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE

__________________________________________________________________________________

Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

Heartbreak has a way of exposing patterns we didn't even realize we were living inside of.

In this episode, Tara sits down with heartbreak and relationship coach Erica Wright to unpack the deeper dynamics that show up in relationships, especially after betrayal, divorce, or emotional disconnection. The conversation explores how codependency develops, why people often ignore their intuition in relationships, and what it actually takes to rebuild trust with yourself after a painful breakup.

Erica shares how she helps clients heal using parts work and inner child work, explaining how the different "parts" of our psyche, like the people pleaser, the protector, or the abandoned child can drive our behaviors in relationships without us realizing it.

Together, Tara and Erica explore the connection between nervous system regulation, emotional safety, and self-awareness, and why many relationship struggles aren't really about the surface-level conflict at all.

They also dive into one of the most misunderstood concepts in relationships today: emotional safety… what it actually means, why so many men misunderstand it, and how learning to stay present with emotions (rather than fixing them) can completely change the dynamic between partners.

If you've ever struggled with codependency, ignored your gut feeling in a relationship, or wondered how to trust again after betrayal, this conversation offers practical insight into how healing actually happens.

• Why codependency often looks like "being supportive" or "loving deeply"

• How parts work (Internal Family Systems) helps people understand their emotional patterns

• The role of inner child work in healing anxious attachment and people-pleasing

• Why betrayal and cheating can create trauma to your sense of reality

• How rebuilding trust after heartbreak starts with trusting yourself again

• Practical ways to understand what your body is communicating through emotions

• What women mean when they say they want emotional safety in a relationship

• Why trying to "fix" your partner's emotions often makes things worse

• How curiosity and presence can transform difficult relationship conversations

Erica Wright is a relationship and heartbreak coach who supports people navigating breakups, divorce, and emotional healing after relationship loss. Her work integrates parts work, subconscious reprogramming, inner child work, and nervous system regulation to help clients rebuild self-trust and create healthier relationships moving forward.

You can find Erica on TikTok and Instagram:
@thewright_erica

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Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit here: https://unblockyourbs.com/toolkit
Use the couple code PODCAST to get 20% discount

• Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: unblockyourbs.com/saa

• Men on a Healing Journey - Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: unblockyourbs.com/healthymen 

Connect with Tara:

• Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram
• @unblockyourbs on TikTok 
• Watch the episodes on YouTube
• Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community
• Book a 1:1 call with Tara
• FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download
• Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit
• Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program
• Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE

__________________________________________________________________________________

Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

Divorce is messy. It's grief. It's a relief. It's rage. It's freedom.
Sometimes all in the same week.

In this solo episode, I break down what really happens after divorce, especially for the men I work with inside Healthy Men-tality. The bitterness. The bargaining. The shame spiral. The temptation to jump into something new just to avoid being alone.

And here's the bold truth:
Dating while you're still legally or emotionally tied to someone else often isn't healing… it's avoidance.

We talk about:

• The 5 stages of grief in divorce (even when you initiated it)

• Why second marriages have higher divorce rates

• The nervous system rush of "new love"

• Shame as a childhood motivator…  and how it follows men into adulthood

• Why being alone isn't proof you're unlovable

• How your partner reflects your self-worth

• Standards vs. protection

• The difference between choosing singleness and hiding in it
  
  

This episode is about reclaiming yourself,  not rushing to replace what you lost.

If you're navigating separation, divorce, or life after a long-term relationship, this one's for you.

If you're ready to rebuild as a grounded, regulated, self-aware man, DM me HEAL and let's talk about Healthy Men-tality.

• Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: unblockyourbs.com/saa

• Men on a Healing Journey - Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: unblockyourbs.com/healthymen 

Connect with Tara:

• Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram
• @unblockyourbs on TikTok 
• Watch the episodes on YouTube
• Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community
• Book a 1:1 call with Tara
• FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download
• Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit
• Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program
• Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE

__________________________________________________________________________________

Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

You're good teammates.
Good parents.

But behind closed doors?
Something's missing.

The spark.
The fire.
The "I can't wait to touch you" energy.

Most couples don't talk about sex or nobody knows how to actually talk about it.

In this episode, I sit down with sex and intimacy coach Dan Purcell to talk about what's really underneath the roommate marriage phase  and why trying to "get more sex" is often the exact thing killing desire.

We unpack:

• Why desire discrepancy is so common (and what it actually means)

• The "sweatpants phase" and how polarity shifts over time

• How covert contracts and duty-based sex quietly destroy intimacy

• Why trying to control or convince your partner backfires

• How men can express sexual desire without entitlement or blame

• The real role nervous system regulation plays in attraction

• Why emotional safety is the foundation of sexual chemistry

• Practical, playful ways to bring novelty back into your relationship

The truth?

You don't improve your sex life by controlling your partner.

You improve it by regulating yourself.

When emotional safety increases, desire often follows.

When nervous systems calm down, intimacy has room to breathe.

And when conversations shift from entitlement to vulnerability, connection deepens.

If  you've been feeling rejected, frustrated, or confused about why intimacy feels harder than it used to, this episode will give you clarity and next steps.

Learn more about Dan Purcell:

Website: ⁠www.getyourmarriageon.com⁠
Podcast: Get Your Marriage On
App: Intimately Us (Available on Apple & Google Play)

Have a story to share on your own healing journey or insights on self-awareness?

We'd love to have you as our guest, reach us at ⁠unblockyourbs.com/podcast⁠ ⁠

Men on a Healing Journey - Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: ⁠unblockyourbs.com/healthymen⁠ 

Connect with Tara:

• Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram
• @unblockyourbs on TikTok 
• Watch the episodes on YouTube
• Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community
• Book a 1:1 call with Tara
• FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download
• Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit
• Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program
• Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE

__________________________________________________________________________________

Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

Two D' Days. 

That's what Clayton calls them.

The day he discovered the sexual affair.
And the day he found out it wasn't the only one.

She cheated.
Twice.

When he found out about the affairs, his reality shattered.
He stopped functioning.
Sat on the couch.
Scrolled TikTok for answers.

Six months later?

His marriage is still rocky.

But he's calm.
Clear.
Grounded.
And not afraid anymore.

In this episode, Clayton shares what happened after joining Healthy Men-tality and how nervous system regulation changed everything,  not by saving his marriage overnight, but by rebuilding him.

We unpack:

• What betrayal actually does to a man's nervous system

• Why breathwork felt "sketchy" (until it rocked his world)

• The physical experience of emotional release (yes… including the T-Rex arms)

• Killing the people pleaser without becoming an asshole

• Emotional detachment vs. emotional shutdown

• Setting boundaries when trust is gone

• The moment divorce stopped scaring him

• How showing up for himself made him a better father
  
  

Clayton shares what it looked like to:

• Stop performing for love

• Stop negotiating self-respect

• Stop trying to control someone else's choices

• Draw a line in the sand

• Show up as a father with presence and clarity
  
  

He says something powerful in this episode:

"The old me is dead."

And what replaced him?

A man who can sit in sadness without collapsing.
A man who doesn't fear divorce.
A man who doesn't chase breadcrumbs.
A man who can say:
"I'm not abandoning myself anymore."

If you're in a relationship that's falling apart…
If you're trying to earn love through performance…
If you feel shattered, dysregulated, stuck…

This episode will hit.

If you resonated with Clayton's story, I'm hosting a free 60-minute live training:

We'll break down:

• Why you shut down, blow up, or chase

• How survival mode sabotages connection

• The 3-step Regulate. Lead. Connect. framework

• What it actually means to become emotionally safe

There are only 3 live class times and I cap attendance so I can answer questions.

👉 Save your seat at: ⁠unblockyourbs.com/rebuild⁠

• Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: ⁠unblockyourbs.com/saa⁠

• Men on a Healing Journey - Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: ⁠unblockyourbs.com/healthymen⁠

Connect with Tara:

• Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram
• @unblockyourbs on TikTok 
• Watch the episodes on YouTube
• Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community
• Book a 1:1 call with Tara
• FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download
• Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit
• Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program
• Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE

__________________________________________________________________________________

Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.