Tough Conversations with David Wood – Details, episodes & analysis

I was recently interviewed about my new book by Kathryn Thompson, host of Be the Sought After Entrepreneur. We had an exciting conversation about my book, Mouse in the Room, and I went over some key points on being the bad-ass leader people want to follow!

We discuss:

• How to have radical personal transformation.
• The RIGHT way to say what's on your mind so you don't have regrets.
• Your roadmap to truth.
• How to take advantage of the 3D Process.
• Create the space for what's truly meant to come to you.

A request for help!

If it resonates, we would love for you to be part of the mouse naming revolution! Here’s how you can do that:

• Get the book at Mouse in the Room or Amazon.   (Psst! There are some amazing bonuses for you!)
• If you think Mouse in the Room deserves 5 stars, please leave a review on Amazon.
• Post on social media that you got the book. Mouse naming is hard to do in isolation and easier if everyone does it! Let your friends have the opportunity to mouse name as well. We have some awesome promotional content and assets you can use on our site.

Kathryn Thompson is an award-winning marketing and communications expert, and the Founder of Creatively Owned.

🎤 For show notes and past guests, please visit http://focus.ceo/podcast

🐭 Become a Better Leader.  Check out my book, Mouse in The Room: http://www.mouseintheroom.com

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I'm excited to announce that my latest project - Mouse in the Room Book - has been funded. My co-author, Shaina List, and I thank you for your support!

Tune in to this special episode of Tough Conversations, where I'm joined by Zach Kellum and Lauren Rayburn. I cover:

• What is a mouse?
• Why naming your mouse (aka feelings) can give you more confidence, connection & leadership.
• Helpful examples, including naming some mice on the call.
• How to inspire people to name a mouse.
• Mirror mice as they relate to the body.
• Importance of self-awareness and how to cultivate it to know what's happening.
• How to build rapport by naming what's happening - super helpful for group rapport!
• Why Zack, Lauren and others backed the book.

I got into coaching by accident. This excerpt from my Vroom Vroom Veer podcast appearance tells my personal story – from getting paid to live and work in another country, to my huge crash and burnout, to my more recent comeback. I’ll even tell you why I left Bali in a hurry.

Listen in for:

• How I traveled for a whole year – loved it!
• Questions – How do I live and work in another country? How do I get a transfer?
• Took a risk – got transferred to New York!
• Climbed the corporate ladder
• How unhappy I was in my marriage
• The judgments I had about people who did self-help, and how those people cracked my cynicism
• How I got into coaching – by accident!
• The marriage I helped save
• The big sacrifice I made to pursue coaching
• Spent years diving into the coaching world
• How I built the world’s largest coaching business
• How I hit rock bottom; my burnout experience
• The golden handcuffs I had built for myself
• “What if I had 6 months to live?”
• What got me to Bali, and the life I built
• Teaching myself a programming language so I could write the Get Real app
• Why I got kicked out of Bali – the scary consequences of something I did there
• What got me back into coaching
• Who I serve now and why I love it, and more!

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For show notes and past guests, please visit http://playforreal.life/podcast

Sign up for David’s email newsletter and download the 4-Step Tough Conversations blueprint at http://playforreal.life/blueprint

See if you qualify for a free discovery session to explore coaching with David at http://playforreal.life/coaching

Join the free weekly zoom call to role-play your tough conversations at http://playforreal.life/zoomregister

70% of employees are avoiding a tough conversation. Learn about Just-in-Time or Spot Coaching for entire teams and companies to master their tough conversations at http://playforreal.life/teamcoaching

Follow David:

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YouTube: http://youtube.com/toughconversationswithdavidwood

LinkedIn: http://linkedin.com/in/toughconversations

If you enjoy the podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than 60 seconds, and it really makes a difference in helping to convince hard-to-get guests. I also love reading the reviews! 

What do you do when someone stands you up? Do you address it? Or... Don’t rock the boat. Don’t make waves. Don’t bring up something that might be awkward for both people and could go horribly wrong. Do these seem like familiar strategies? Unfortunately, staying silent can harm the relationship. In this episode, Adam Lewis Walker and I talk about a real life tough conversation I decided to have with him, and what it was like for him to be on the other side of it.

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For show notes and past guests, please visit http://playforreal.life/podcast

Sign up for David’s email newsletter and download the 4-Step Tough Conversations blueprint at http://playforreal.life/blueprint

See if you qualify for a free discovery session to explore coaching with David at http://playforreal.life/coaching

Join the free weekly zoom call to role-play your tough conversations at http://playforreal.life/zoomregister

70% of employees are avoiding a tough conversation. Learn about Just-in-Time or Spot Coaching for entire teams and companies to master their tough conversations at http://playforreal.life/teamcoaching

Follow David:

Twitter: http://twitter.com/_playforreal

Instagram: http://instagram.com/_playforreal

Facebook: http://facebook.com/toughconversationswithdavidwood

YouTube: http://youtube.com/toughconversationswithdavidwood

LinkedIn: http://linkedin.com/in/toughconversations

If you enjoy the podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than 60 seconds, and it really makes a difference in helping to convince hard-to-get guests. I also love reading the reviews! http://playforreal.life/itunes

Derek Loudermilk, host of The Art of Adventure podcast, interviewed me on a book he's writing, and I recorded it for my own records. But as I listened to the playback I realized that there was so much good content in it about what makes a great leader and leadership as a practice, and more, that I couldn't not share it with you. The audio is lower quality, but if you can get past the typing sounds, I think you'll be glad you listened to this one.

We cover:

-How can we develop as leaders given today’s challenges?
-Inside out leadership: to lead others you, first lead yourself
-Why personal growth is crucial
-You’ll be a terrible speaker if who you are is a terrible person
-How speaking is leading
-How to be watchable on stage
-How to lead a team for real
-Why you can’t lead from a manual
-The importance of acknowledging and praising yourself first
-How can you expect your team to do something you won’t do?
-Mastering Tough Conversations is an unconventional path to leadership
-How David’s speaking radically changed, almost overnight.
-Being natural and authentic in front of 1000 people
-How I was able to sell $337,000 worth of product in 15 minutes
-How to begin developing yourself as a leader
-The concept of vulnerability and knowing yourself
-The manager I coached to be able to receive feedback
-Why you should confront your soft spots NOW, before you get into a leadership position
-The Fly on the Wall leadership exercise: you should try it!

What is your biggest takeaway from this conversation on unconventional leadership? Leave a comment below.

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For show notes and past guests, please visit http://playforreal.life/podcast

Sign up for David’s email newsletter and download the 4-Step Tough Conversations blueprint at http://playforreal.life/blueprint

See if you qualify for a free discovery session to explore coaching with David at http://playforreal.life/coaching

Join the free weekly zoom call to role-play your tough conversations at http://playforreal.life/zoomregister

70% of employees are avoiding a tough conversation. Learn about Just-in-Time or Spot Coaching for entire teams and companies to master their tough conversations at http://playforreal.life/teamcoaching

Follow David:

Twitter: http://twitter.com/_playforreal

Instagram: http://instagram.com/_playforreal

Facebook: http://facebook.com/toughconversationswithdavidwood

YouTube: http://youtube.com/toughconversationswithdavidwood

LinkedIn: http://linkedin.com/in/toughconversations

If you enjoy the podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than 60 seconds, and it really makes a difference in helping to convince hard-to-get guests. I also love reading the reviews! http://playforreal.life/itunes

It can be a pretty scary world right now for men with the "Me Too" movement hanging over our heads. And it can be challenging for women to set boundaries and still express all of who they are. Saida and I talk about how we can navigate arousal and the masculine and feminine energies in the workplace with truth, openness and dignity on both sides.

We also talked about:
-Increase safety by INCREASING arousal
-Welcoming your own arousal without requiring reciprocity
-I talk about pain from my youth, feeling excluded from the feminine.
-How a woman can redirect masculine energy from predator to protector
-How men need to speak up and educate their brothers

Dr. Saida Désilets wants to live in a world filled with audacious, sexually sovereign women, living life on their own terms.

Saida is renowned for being the founder of the modern Jade Egg movement and visionary spokesperson for sexual Sovereignty, and has created The Daring Project—assisting women to audaciously move from being a victim to confidently thriving in life.

You can find out more about Dr. Saida Desilets at her website www.DareYourDesire.com.

Take a listen and let me know what you think in the comments.
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For show notes and past guests, please visit http://playforreal.life/podcast

Sign up for David’s email newsletter and download the 4-Step Tough Conversations blueprint at http://playforreal.life/blueprint

See if you qualify for a free discovery session to explore coaching with David at http://playforreal.life/coaching

Join the free weekly zoom call to role-play your tough conversations at http://playforreal.life/zoomregister

70% of employees are avoiding a tough conversation. Learn about Just-in-Time or Spot Coaching for entire teams and companies to master their tough conversations at http://playforreal.life/teamcoaching

Follow David:

Twitter: http://twitter.com/_playforreal

Instagram: http://instagram.com/_playforreal

Facebook: http://facebook.com/toughconversationswithdavidwood

YouTube: http://youtube.com/toughconversationswithdavidwood

LinkedIn: http://linkedin.com/in/toughconversations

If you enjoy the podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than 60 seconds, and it really makes a difference in helping to convince hard-to-get guests. I also love reading the reviews! http://playforreal.life/itunes

This time, we’re talking about “getting on your soapbox”, and giving the phrase a bit of a PR makeover!

We cover:

• How do you want to change the world? What is your mission?
• If you have a job, what’s your secret mission to impact the world, through your job?
• Are you shy about getting on your soapbox?
• How many of us have fallen out of love with our business or jobs
• How to get up on your soapbox!
• Three Practical steps to fall back in love with your business, job or message

Lisa learned that just because something is successful and people like it, doesn’t mean you have to keep doing it. She always knew she had a low tolerance for not being happy (after all she left a “successful” corporate career, with companies like AT&T and Lipton at age 28), but now she knows her mission is to help soulful entrepreneurs GFR so they can get out of their own way, help more people and make more money!

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For show notes and past guests, please visit http://playforreal.life/podcast

Sign up for David’s email newsletter and download the 4-Step Tough Conversations blueprint at http://playforreal.life/blueprint

See if you qualify for a free discovery session to explore coaching with David at http://playforreal.life/coaching

Join the free weekly zoom call to role-play your tough conversations at http://playforreal.life/zoomregister

70% of employees are avoiding a tough conversation. Learn about Just-in-Time or Spot Coaching for entire teams and companies to master their tough conversations at http://playforreal.life/teamcoaching

Follow David:

 Twitter: http://twitter.com/_playforreal

 Instagram: http://instagram.com/_playforreal

 Facebook: http://facebook.com/toughconversationswithdavidwood

 YouTube: http://youtube.com/toughconversationswithdavidwood

 LinkedIn: http://linkedin.com/in/toughconversations

If you enjoy the podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than 60 seconds, and it really makes a difference in helping to convince hard-to-get guests. I also love reading the reviews! http://playforreal.life/itunes

How can you double your productivity with a few simple steps?
How can you increase your Truth-telling by 30%, and what would happen?
How can you increase your Daring by 30%, and what might happen?
I address these questions in my speech to Ezra Firestone’s mastermind for successful e-commerce entrepreneurs.

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For show notes and past guests, please visit http://playforreal.life/podcast

Sign up for David’s email newsletter and download the 4-Step Tough Conversations blueprint at http://playforreal.life/blueprint

See if you qualify for a free discovery session to explore coaching with David at http://playforreal.life/coaching

Join the free weekly zoom call to role-play your tough conversations at http://playforreal.life/zoomregister

70% of employees are avoiding a tough conversation. Learn about Just-in-Time or Spot Coaching for entire teams and companies to master their tough conversations at http://playforreal.life/teamcoaching

Follow David:

Twitter: http://twitter.com/_playforreal

Instagram: http://instagram.com/_playforreal

Facebook: http://facebook.com/toughconversationswithdavidwood

YouTube: http://youtube.com/toughconversationswithdavidwood

LinkedIn: http://linkedin.com/in/toughconversations

If you enjoy the podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than 60 seconds, and it really makes a difference in helping to convince hard-to-get guests. I also love reading the reviews! http://playforreal.life/itunes

Laurie Lazar , the director of Authentic Relating International, is the reason I’ve been to prison several times to train prison inmates in authentic relating. We cover:

• What to do if you haven’t found your mission yet
• How Laurie discovered her mission
• The scariness, and power, of eye contact
• Teaching the power of vulnerability to prison inmates (who can be beaten or killed if they say the wrong thing)
• Some inmates haven’t looked into the eyes of a woman in years
• The courage to sell yourself (Laurie's experience of cold-calling prisons)
• Laurie and I have a tough conversation right here on the podcast (and I get a little teary)
  
  Support the awesome prison work of Authentic Relating International with a small subscription donation: http://authenticrelating.org

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For show notes and past guests, please visit http://playforreal.life/podcast

Sign up for David’s email newsletter and download the 4-Step Tough Conversations blueprint at http://playforreal.life/blueprint

See if you qualify for a free discovery session to explore coaching with David at http://playforreal.life/coaching

Join the free weekly zoom call to role-play your tough conversations at http://playforreal.life/zoomregister

70% of employees are avoiding a tough conversation. Learn about Just-in-Time or Spot Coaching for entire teams and companies to master their tough conversations at http://playforreal.life/teamcoaching

Follow David:

Twitter: http://twitter.com/_playforreal

Instagram: http://instagram.com/_playforreal

Facebook: http://facebook.com/toughconversationswithdavidwood

YouTube: http://youtube.com/toughconversationswithdavidwood

LinkedIn: http://linkedin.com/in/toughconversations

If you enjoy the podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than 60 seconds, and it really makes a difference in helping to convince hard-to-get guests. I also love reading the reviews! http://playforreal.life/itunes

An HR manager was worried about a potentially nerve-wracking conversation: how to tell her CEO he's abrasive! Listen in to hear:

• The 4 Step CASE model to having a Tough Conversation
• The importance of asking permission to have the conversation - and how!
• A great way to engage someone who could be dismissive
• How to manage the other person's defensiveness

Do you have a boss or authority figure you need to have a Tough Conversation with? What part of this call do you think could be the most impactful for you? Let me know in the comments below!

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For show notes and past guests, please visit http://playforreal.life/podcast

Sign up for David’s email newsletter and download the 4-Step Tough Conversations blueprint at http://playforreal.life/blueprint

See if you qualify for a free discovery session to explore coaching with David at http://playforreal.life/coaching

Join the free weekly zoom call to role-play your tough conversations at http://playforreal.life/zoomregister

70% of employees are avoiding a tough conversation. Learn about Just-in-Time or Spot Coaching for entire teams and companies to master their tough conversations at http://playforreal.life/teamcoaching

 Follow David:

Twitter: http://twitter.com/_playforreal

Instagram: http://instagram.com/_playforreal

Facebook: http://facebook.com/toughconversationswithdavidwood

YouTube: http://youtube.com/toughconversationswithdavidwood

LinkedIn: http://linkedin.com/in/toughconversations

If you enjoy the podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than 60 seconds, and it really makes a difference in helping to convince hard-to-get guests. I also love reading the reviews! http://playforreal.life/itunes