The Marriage Life Coach Podcast – Details, episodes & analysis

If there’s something in your life that you want and don’t currently have, this episode is for you. I am excited to share some ideas about how to think about goals differently.

Recently, I started working towards a goal of my own that’s felt pretty elusive, honestly. 

During this process, I noticed I had the thought, “This is just as likely as going to Mars.” Which made me feel really defeated.

To feel like one of our goals is impossible just leaves us feeling like there’s nowhere left to go.

But the next morning, I woke up and thought, 

“Okay. If NASA was going to Mars, how would they do it? What would their actual step-by-step process be to getting to Mars?” 

And of course I came up with a few ideas, like desire, budget, plan. And that led me to wondering what that would look like for me and my goal, if I distilled this big process down to the main things I would need to do…

And that’s what I want to share with you today. 

So think about something YOU want, that’s yours and yours alone (meaning, something you have control over to a certain degree) and let’s get ready to apply these four principles to what you want to accomplish.

Listen and learn more about:

• How to be very clear about what you want

• The power of committing more to the process than the outcome

• Dispelling the idea that you have to accomplish your goals alone

• Why you should also think about what’s in the way of your goals

RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

• Episode 96: Thought Work and The Self Coaching Model

• Episode 62: Curiosity, Coaching, and Using Your Superpowers In Your Marriage with Lindsay Dotzlaf

• Episode 39: Soul Centered Communication

• Episode 76: Trauma, Resourcing, and Windows of Tolerance with Shelby Leigh

• The Questions for Couples Journal

• Private Coaching with Maggie Reyes

• The Marriage Mindset Makeover

On this special episode of The Marriage Life Coach Podcast, I’m sharing a rich, deep conversation I had with fellow coach Melissa Parsons on her podcast, Your Favorite You. This collaboration with my dear friend was so impactful that I asked permission to also share it with my audience, so that’s what you’ll be hearing today. 

It’s a sensitive topic, the urge to control. Mostly that urge comes from a desire to feel safe. Overworking, taking over responsibility – my hypothesis is that it all comes from a quest for safety. We think if we establish control, we can be more safe and feel better. 

But really, more often than not, that control leads to resentment, overworking, and burnout, which is exactly what Melissa and I unpack in this episode. 

As much as we might try to control others, we can only truly control ourselves. So what if we harness the power of influence, instead? How could we use our influence in a kinder, more compassionate way to get more of what we want without causing the harm that control does? 

What you’ll learn in this episode:

- Recognize the difference between trying to control others and positively influencing them. True influence comes from connection and understanding, not from imposing your will.

- Authenticity is key in relationships. It’s important to be honest about your feelings and experiences, even when it’s difficult. 

- Life is full of dualities, and it's important to hold space for seemingly contradictory truths. For example, you can be strong and still need support, or you can be independent while deeply valuing connection.

RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

• Episode 29: Releasing the Need to be Right with Dr. Melissa Parsons

• Episode 99: The Power of Going First with Melissa Parsons

• Your Favorite You Episode 98: Influence vs Control with Maggie Reyes

• The Questions for Couples Journal

• The Marriage Mindset Makeover

Did you ever wonder how feminist dating principles could make your marriage stronger? In this episode of The Marriage Life Coach Podcast, you’re going to find out.

I was joined by Lily Womble, my favorite dating coach and founder of Date Brazen, a coaching framework that’s helped hundreds of women around the world build a clear path to the best relationships of their lives with unconventional, feminist-led coaching. I got a sneak peek of Lily’s upcoming book, “Thank You, More Please” which will be released in June. We talked all about the concepts she explores inside and how it serves as a feminist guide to breaking dumb dating rules.

You know I could talk about navigating the patriarchy all day, so this was a super fun conversation and you’re going to love Lily’s insights.

Just a few things we talked about included:

- How women are taught to people-please and caregive in order to survive

- What internalized patriarchy is and how it affects your relationships

- Why I believe dating doesn’t end just because you’re married

- How to recast your spouse in a role that you both value

- My take on why it feels like women have to do “all” the emotional labor 

You don’t settle in any other area of your life, so let’s not start with your most important relationship. This episode will give you the tools to envision and create a partnership you want to be in.

Find full show notes, transcript, and links to resources at http://maggiereyes.com/podcast/159

On this episode of The Marriage Life Coach Podcast I dive into the wisdom and lessons learned from a very fascinating cucumber experience.

Although it may sound silly, I share how a cucumber taught me the power of moving through fear and using the right tools to get what you want. 

And then I explain how this relates to your marriage (or any relationship that is important to you), the fear that may be holding you back from building a stronger, better relationship, and how to move through that fear just like I did with my cucumber experience.

Find full show notes, transcript, and links to resources at http://maggiereyes.com/podcast/71

On this episode of The Marriage Life Coach Podcast, my favorite person on earth is joining us - my hubby Mariano. We share how a simple cup of hibiscus tea inspired this episode, and the concept of relationship inertia.

Tune in and learn what relationship inertia is, how it applies to relationships, and how it can help you focus on the life you want to create and cultivate with your partner. And as always, we’re going to have some fun along the way.

Find full show notes, transcript, and links to resources at http://maggiereyes.com/podcast/70

On this episode of The Marriage Life Coach Podcast, my Marriage MBA client, Stephanie Rosenfield, joins me to have a conversation about motherhood and marriage.

Stephanie is a Mom Coach and a Pediatric Speech Therapist, and her mission is to create a world where moms have the tools to be happier more often and have more fun as a mom. And a world where moms can create peace in their house, even with young kids living in it. 

Tune in as we talk about why she joined the Marriage MBA, some of her favorite Coaching moments, and the results she’s created in her marriage as a result of her time in the program.

Find full show notes, transcript, and links to resources at http://maggiereyes.com/podcast/69

On this episode of The Marriage Life Coach Podcast, Denise Duffield Thomas joins me to chat about money mindset and investing in yourself.

Denise is the money mentor for a new wave of online entrepreneurs who want to make money and change the world. She helps women charge premium prices, release the fear of money and create first class lives. 

Her Money Boot Camp Program, which I am a very proud member of, has helped over 6,000 students from all over the world. She's a Hay House author, and an unbusy mother of three. And Denise owns a rose farm and lives by the beach in sunny and beautiful Australia.

Tune in as we talk about money mindset, why it’s so important for women to upgrade their relationship with money, and the powerful lessons Denise has taught me about wealth.

Find full show notes, transcript, and links to resources at http://maggiereyes.com/podcast/68

On this episode of The Marriage Life Coach Podcast, Dr. Michelle Pearce and I have a candid conversation about our own concerns and experiences as well as guidance on how you can navigate re entry and go back to engaging with life after the effects of the pandemic subside. 

Dr. Pearce is a Clinical Psychologist and Professor in the Graduate School at the University of Maryland and the author of Night Bloomers - 12 Principles for Thriving in Adversity. 

She's a Board Certified Health and Wellness Coach, an author, a researcher, and a facilitator on writing for wellness. 

Dr. Pearce got her PhD at Yale and then completed two Post Doctoral Fellowships at Duke University Medical Center. But above all of those things, she is an amazing person.

Tune in as we talk about the effects the pandemic has had on all of us, exercises that can help you with the re-entry process, and how we each have an opportunity to be selective in what our life looks like after COVID.

Find full show notes, transcript, and links to resources at http://maggiereyes.com/podcast/67

This episode of The Marriage Life Coach Podcast was inspired by a question I received that essentially asked: how do you keep the spark alive in marriage (especially in a long term relationship)?

I share the reason I think a lot of people have average relationships, why you don’t have to be one of them, and four simple and practical ways to keep the spark alive in your marriage.

Whether you’ve been married 1 year or 30+ years, if you're in a situation where that flame feels a little bit burnt out and you don't know how to harness that spark, this episode is for you.

Find full show notes, transcript, and links to resources at http://maggiereyes.com/podcast/66

On this episode of The Marriage Life Coach Podcast I answer the number one question I get from clients: how do we communicate better?

I share a concept that will help you communicate more effectively called Closed Loop Communication, how I learned about it, and how to apply it to your relationships. And I'll also give you some practical examples and really concrete ways to think about it. 

Join me as I share one more powerful, life-changing skill to put in your relationship toolbox to help make your marriage stronger. 

Find full show notes, transcript, and links to resources at http://maggiereyes.com/podcast/65