Flirtations! with Benjamin, the Flirt Coach – Details, episodes & analysis

On this episode of Flirtations is reality tv star and podcast host Courtney Revolution and together, we're gonna explore how the media influences our dating lives and shapes our perceptions - and expectations - of love.

From reality tv dating shows to social media, and the roles of celebrity and influencer culture on our dating lives, we're getting into all the ways the media impacts the ways we date!

Some questions we explore in this conversation are, "How much of our love lives are influenced by what we see on our screens?" "Are we setting ourselves up by chasing versions of love, dating, romance, and relationships we see on tv and social media?" "How does what we watch impact how we feel about ourselves? And where we're at with dating?"

Join us as we share insights on how to navigate the intersection of media and modern dating and get into some reality tv tea only an insider would know about!

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About our guest:  Courtney Revolution is a pop culture commentator, entertainment host, and lifestyle influencer based in Los Angeles. Best known for his sharp insights and witty commentary on reality TV and celebrity culture, Courtney has captivated audiences as a standout on Netflix's The Circle and as the cohost of the Toast To Tea podcast. With a passion for nostalgia and a mission to inform and inspire, Courtney connects with his audience audiences through content that celebrates the best of pop culture, music, and more!

You can connect with Courtney on Instagram and Tik Tok, and listen to the Toast to Tea Podcast on YouTube!

About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!

As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.

You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

💗 Happy flirting!

We're dating on the apps today y'all and swiping RIGHT on this episode!

On the show for this conversation is Damona Hoffman, dating coach extraordinaire, online dating expert, author, podcast host, and dating correspondent for the Drew Barrymore Show (among other accolades)!

Damona takes us through the process of using the dating apps as a tool to meet potential dates and find long lasting romance that begins with our mindset. We then go through the search, the match, and setting up the first date as we learn how to make the apps work for us rather than have them work our nerves!

Along the way, we answer questions like:  Which app should I use? What if I'm frustrated cuz I don't feel they have worked for me in the past? What if I haven't been happy with my quality of matches? What should I put in my profile? What about pictures? How long should I talk on the apps before going on a date? What if I'm feeling burnt out? Do the apps even still work?

Whether you're currently on the apps or thinking about making a profile, if you're asking yourself any of these questions, this episode is for you!

About our guest:  Damona Hoffman is a regular contributor to The Drew Barrymore Show, NPR, and The Washington Post. She was also featured in Season 11 of The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. Damona has created content and collaborated with most major dating apps including Bumble, Match, and OkCupid. Her podcast, Dates & Mates, was named Best Podcast of the Year by The Black Podcasting Awards. Damona’s first book, "F the Fairy Tale," was released January 2024 (Hachette/Seal Press) and is endorsed by Dr. Drew Pinsky, Drew Barrymore, Lori Gottlieb and more.

You can connect with Damona on Instagram, online at www.damonahoffman.com, and grab of copy of "F the Fairytale" here. The "Dates and Mates" podcast is streaming on all major podcasting platfroms.

About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!

As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.

You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

💗 Happy flirting!

Ooooo it's the texting and digital communication episode! And we'll be having this conversation with legendary dating coach Sabrina Zohar! 😮

We start off the episode with one of Sabrina's HOTTEST takes about texting and then answer your most burning questions!

How much should you be texting? Why do you get anxious when you're waiting for them to text back? What can you do about this? How can you tell if someone is lovebombing you over text? What if you're always initiating? What if someone is a "boring" texter? What are some fun ways to text?

We'll also be talking about conversation on dating apps - and how quickly you should move off of them and into text.

Finally, we wrap up the interview talking about social media ... like, should you follow each other early in dating? What does it mean if they watch your stories, but don't text you back? If you're connected on socials, should you keep following an ex or someone you went on a few dates with? Or no dates?

But that's not all for this episode!

In segment two, it's another round of Trader Joe's story time! This time, we welcome Terri Allen, a fellow crew member at Trader Joe's! Terri had a REAL life meet cute moment at the grocery store with a gentlemen, and they are now dating! Terri will tell us allll about that, then I asked about the role of texting and how they navigated communication and differences in texting styles.

Thank you for listening to this episode, Flirty! If you enjoyed it, please consider leaving a rating and subscribe so you don't miss a thing!

The conversation on Flirtstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/benjamincamras/

And Flirttok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@benjamincamras

For all Flirt Coach offers and to schedule your 1:1 call:  https://stan.store/benjamincamras

About our guest:  Sabrina Zohar is a dynamic entrepreneur and dating coach renowned for her transformative podcast, The Sabrina Zohar Show. With a clear, no-nonsense approach to relationship advice, Sabrina's podcast has resonated globally, ranking in the top 0.05% of all podcasts. Each episode features practical tips backed by board-certified and licensed psychologists, aimed at helping listeners improve their dating lives by fostering self-worth and personal growth.

You can connect with Sabrina and learn more about The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube, and online.

It's the Flirting Episode of Flirtations!

Flirting week continues with the big debut of the first ever solo episode of Flirtations as I bring you a conversation all about my favorite thing in the world ... the FLIRT!

This episode kicks off with more of my story and the evolution of the Flirt Coach, then we get into three big flirting topics that are the foundation of my flirt philosophy:  flirt styles, my signature F.L.I.R.T. framework, and the 5 D's of the flirt.

We'll get into what flirting truly is and how to do it. I'll talk about how to tell if someone is flirting with you, ways to have more flirt confidence, and offer plenty of strategies so you can flirt like you've maybe never flirted before. 

Finally, we wrap with answers to your burning questions about the flirt. How do I flirt if I'm shy? What if I get too nervous to flirt? What if I get rejected or they don't flirt back? Is the flirt created equal? If a guy is just giving me compliments, is he flirting? How do I flirt long distance? What about flirting in a long term relationship?

Mentioned in the episode, please check out the FREE Flirt Styles quiz and download the companion Flirt Styles and Confidence guide to interpret your results!

For my effortless flirting and conversation guide, Textual Chemistry, follow this link and use code "Flirt25" for 25% off!

Then, the conversation continues on Flirtstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/benjamincamras/

And Flirttok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@benjamincamras

For all Flirt Coach offers and to book a 1:1 call:  https://stan.store/benjamincamras

Thank you so much for listening, Flirty! 💗

It's "Flirting Week" on Flirtations, Flirty!

And the first of two flirting themed episodes is a conversation all about flirting through the lens of improv comedy with multidisciplinary teacher and improv comic Jamie Clark!

Lemme ask you ... does flirting make you nervous? Do you sometimes overthink the flirt? Or be critical of yourself that you're not good at it? Maybe weird or awkward when you flirt? Do you have a fear that it can go wrong? What about a fear of being seen, of putting yourself out there? Do you have a hard time staying in the present moment and not feeling anxious?

If you answered "yes" to even one of these questions, please listen to this episode!

We break down the flirt in a unique way by looking at flirting though the framework of improvisational comedy and offer a plethora of practical advice and mindset shifts to see the flirt in a whole new way, build your flirt confidence, and unleash your inner flirt, flirty!

Then, at the end of the episode, we play the "ABC" game, a classic improv comedy skit.

This all plays out now on this episode of Flirtations!

Please don't forget to rate the show and share it with a friend!

After each episode, we keep the flirt alive on Flirtstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/benjamincamras/

And Flirttok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@benjamincamras

To work together and for all Flirt Coach offers:  https://stan.store/benjamincamras

About our guest:  Jamie Clark is an artist, performer, somatic coach, and improv teacher who's passionate about living a life that is bold and authentically expressed. If you told the 12 year old version of her that one day she'd be performing hour long romantic comedies that are completely made up on the spot based off of a suggestion from the audience, she would look at you like you had three heads. She was the shyest little bunny growing up and historically struggled to speak up for herself, let alone speak in front of other people.

If her life was a movie you were watching and she was the main character- let's just say you'd probably be on your phone scrolling or gettin' busy with your partner on the couch instead of actually watching. Through a mix of very intentional inner child work, somatic practices, and learning the art of improv comedy, Jamie now travels the world guiding students virtually and in person in the art of public speaking, authentic expression, and bringing more play to your everyday life. Often the things we are most afraid of are the very direction we're meant to go for our greatest and most exciting expression. It takes an open heart and a willingness to do the scary thing to try out a new character in the movie of your life - and it's so worth it. 

She's grateful for the opportunity to hear your story, witness your humanity, and catalyze your transformation. While she is not currently very active on social media, you can connect with her on LinkedIn or Instagram.

If you listened to this episode and want to share your experience, she'd love to hear from you! You can drop her a note at intentionalimprovbiz@gmail.com 

I know you've heard this piece of dating (and life!) advice before. I've even said it!

Be your authentic self. Just be you. And don't forget to be vulnerable! And have fun, too! 

Ummmm, ok, thanks?! But what does this mean? What if you aren't sure who you are? How do you be vulnerable? What does that look like? How do you have fun dating?

In this episode of Flirtations, I sat down with Scott Spraags and together, we've got a conversation on all things authenticity, vulnerability, expressing yourself, and getting creative with your dates!

Authenticity and vulnerability will be foundational to your life, in dating, relationships, and beyond, and I'm so excited to bring you this episode.

Please don't forget to rate the show if you're enjoying it!

Then, join me on Flirtstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/benjamincamras/

And Flirttok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@benjamincamras

To work together and for all Flirt Coach offers:  https://stan.store/benjamincamras

About our guest:  Scott/Scottie is a working professional in entertainment and creative currently based in Los Angeles. He has worked with major artists such as Post Malone, Martin Short, and Broadway Choreographers, such as Connor Gallagher, and Patti Wilcox to name a few. You can find him performing, acting, singing, and spreading love and joy all over the world .

One of Flirtations most highly requested topics!

We'll be getting into dating and sex after divorce with not one, but TWO special guests!

On this episode, we have intuitive dating coach, astrologer, and author Nicole Richmond to guide us through dating after divorce.

Then, we'll be talking with licensed relationship and sex therapist Michelle Herzog about sex after divorce!

Y'all came through with questions and we'll be answering them ALL today!

When should I date again? Should I date someone that is recently divorced? Or still going through the process? What if I have kids? I've been with one partner for a long time and I'm nervous (but ready?) to have sex again? What if I was in a sexless marriage, how do I navigate that part of dating? 

If you're asking yourself any of these questions, we've got the answers in this episode!

Then, join me on Flirtstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/benjamincamras/

And Flirttok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@benjamincamras

To work together and for all Flirt Coach offers:  https://stan.store/benjamincamras

About our guests: 

Nicole Richmond is an Intuitive Dating Coach, Astrologer, and author of Making A Stylish Exit: Random Stories of Dating After Divorce, teaching divorced women to swipe with intention, style, and confidence. For more information, please visit Nicole's website, connect with her on Instagram, and for retreat information, follow this link!

Michelle Herzog, LMFT, CST, is a licensed relationship and sex therapist and nationally recognized dating coach on a mission to make modern dating easier for singles who are tired of wasting their time dating all the wrong people. After years of working as a licensed therapist, she's leveraged her psychology skills to build a coaching system specifically tailored to help singles date with confidence, both online and IRL. Her dating and relationship expertise has been featured by publications including TIME Magazine, Glamour, Cosmopolitan, SELF, Women's Health, Vice, and others. Connect with Michelle on her website and Instagram!

Download the FREE resource mentioned in the episode here!

What an episode coming your way!

Whether you're sober, sober curious, dating someone sober, or simply curious about this conversation, this episode is for you!

On the show today, we'll be talking with Jamie Mercadante and the topic is sobriety and dating.

We'll learn more about Jamie, her sobriety story, the changes she made to get sober, and how sobriety changed her relationships. The theme of fear comes up again and I love how Jamie talks about her experiences!

Then, we'll cover sober dating strategies, how much to share (and when) on a date and in your dating app profile, and navigating a dating landscape that can center drinking (and more).

The conversation continues on Swell with bonus clips, extended interviews, and more! After each episode, head on over to Swell and let's keep flirting!  https://www.swellcast.com/BenjaminCamras

Then, join me on Flirtstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/benjamincamras/

And Flirttok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@benjamincamras

To work together and for all Flirt Coach offers:  https://stan.store/benjamincamras

About our guest (in her words):  My name is Jamie Mercadante and I am a Yoga Instructor and Content Creator. I grew up in Newport News, Virginia and now reside in High Point, NC with my husband and kids. I have taught yoga for a decade and began creating social media content consistently in the beginning of 2024. With that being said, none of this would be possible if I did not make the choice of being Sober. My sobriety date is July 7, 2013. 

For me, teaching Yoga has been an authentic way for me to truly connect with others. Yoga has been a path I wholeheartedly embraced after making the decision to change my life that has provided me with a true contentment and being grounded. I try to live by example that Yoga isn’t “what you do” it’s how you live”. I love teaching teacher trainings, workshops, vinyasa and yin classes, as well as meditation. I have taught yoga in the Triad for right at a decade and have really made long lasting connections with people. Recently, I have taken a pause from teaching to learn more and to expand possible teaching opportunities outside of the Triad. 

This year I found a new passion that has caught me by surprise, which is being a content creator. I love being genuine and authentic, putting myself out there, and really wanting to be relatable to others. We all have similarities about us; being feelings and emotions, situations and experiences, traumas and celebrations, that we all can relate to. I have found in an organic way, that with being vulnerable and authentic on social media, that I can be relatable to others and build relationships through discussions on yoga, sobriety, women supporting women, and day to day life experiences.  You can find me on Instagram under my profile @justcall_me_james_and my contact is Yogajamie108@gmail.com for yoga, collaborations, and to share my sobriety story.

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For US residents, more information on Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous can be found using these clickable links! The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration can provide acute services with a 24 hour helpline. The Sober Pod is a great resource for recovery support.

Thank you for listening! I couldn't do this without two amazing collaborators! Thank you to Corey Claxton for mixing down and editing each episode to perfection. You can connect with Corey on Instagram and via email coreyclaxton@gmail.com. Thank you to Joey Collins for the original music you hear in each episode. You can connect with Joey on Instagram and Soundcloud! 

Flirty, I have some questions for you!

Does your tummy hurt sometimes? Maybe before a first date? Or when thinking about talking to your crush? And you feel like pooping your pants? Or barfing?

Cuz same! And if you've ever felt like this in the past, present (or future), this episode is for you!

On the show, we're joined by Madisen Smith, aka the Gut Goddess and together, we'll go on a journey through the digestive and nervous systems to learn more about why your belly hurts when you get nervous!

We're gonna get into the nitty gritty details about WHAT actually happens to your body when you feel anxious and WHY your tummy hurts! But that's not all, no way. Madisen also has a bunch of practical things you can do feel better in the short term AND what you can do begin to heal your gut in the long term - for good. 

Later in the show, I take your submitted questions, including what to do if you're too nervous to eat or have to poop on a date.

Then after the episode, please head on over to Flirttube for your embodiment practice where I have a meditation for you! In this short video, I'll set you up in a luxurious, supportive child's pose and guide you through a relaxing meditation for decreasing anxiety.

The conversation continues on Swell with bonus clips, extended interviews, and more! After each episode, head on over to Swell and let's keep flirting!  https://www.swellcast.com/BenjaminCamras

Then, join me on Flirtstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/benjamincamras/

And Flirttok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@benjamincamras

To work together and for all Flirt Coach offers:  https://stan.store/benjamincamras

About our guest:  Madisen Smith, aka the "Gut Goddess," her story in her words:  Since I can remember, I've struggled with digestive issues. As a kid experienced stomach pain, food reactions and unexplained bouts of diarrhea, gas and bloating. I thought my symptoms were normal. I always saw doctors as a kid and they simply told me "everything was normal". My digestive issues took a turn when I was prescribed multiple rounds of antibiotics for reoccurring tonsil infections at the age of 18. My symptoms became a daily struggle and debilitating. I spent years getting blood work, stool tests, colonoscopies and seeing multiple specialists, all to be told I had a bit of inflammation and IBS.

As defeated as I was over the course of 8 years trying to figure out my gut issues, I became incredibly passionate about health. I decided to go back to school and study holistic nutrition. I attended National University of Natural Medicine in 2016 and received a Masters Degree in Holistic Nutrition.I know what it feels like. I know your gut issues are impacting SO much more than the food you can eat. I created my business and programs for people just like my past self. I wish I had the support, guidance and direction of someone who understood what I was going through all those years. 

You can learn more about Madisen and her coaching on her website and Instagram.

Thank you for listening! I couldn't do this without two amazing collaborators! Thank you to Corey Claxton for mixing down and editing each episode to perfection. You can connect with Corey on Instagram and via email coreyclaxton@gmail.com. Thank you to Joey Collins for the original music you hear in each episode. You can connect with Joey on Instagram and Soundcloud! 

The BONUS episodes of Flirtations continue!

For this one, I sat down with Donna Davidge, owner of Sewell House yoga retreat and together, we'll bring you a conversation all about purpose and healing. We'll learn more about Donna, how she started the Sewall House, and hear about the significant shifts Donna made in her 20's, bucking all the trends, to carve her own path and live life on her terms.

Flirty, if you are at a point in your relationships or career, wondering if you are on the right path, perhaps feeling like there is something different, something greater out there for you, this episode for you. If you are wondering if it’s too late to make a change in your life (it’s not!), this episode is for you. if you are wondering how to deal with the fear and uncertainty that comes up in going deep within to discover the truth of who you are, this episode is for you!

The conversation continues on Swell with bonus clips, extended interviews, and more! After each episode, head on over to Swell and let's keep flirting! For this episode's extended interview, I asked Donna how she has embraced independence in her adult life outside of dating. Here her answer here:  https://www.swellcast.com/BenjaminCamras

Then, join me on Flirtstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/benjamincamras/

And Flirttok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@benjamincamras

To work together and for all Flirt Coach offers:  https://stan.store/benjamincamras

About our guest: Donna Amrita Davidge has been a seeker and searcher since writing poems like "Why" at age 12, which she begins her 2019 memoir with, "Balancing with Bunions". She has found some answers that help deal with life through yoga and meditation, taking her first class in 1972.  She owns and operates her retreat Sewall House (since 1997!) in northern Maine, long before wellness retreats became a “thing” and has been teaching a variety of forms of yoga and meditation since 1985 in New York City. She believes these tools are even more needed in our current times and continues to share them with others, including on her YouTube channel @Amritayoga. You can learn more about Sewall House and Yoga Teacher Trainings on the web and Instagram.

Special Flirtations offer! Through the 2024 retreat season (until early October), please use code "FLIRT2024" for 10% off your stay!

Thank you for listening! I couldn't do this without two amazing collaborators! Thank you to Corey Claxton for mixing down and editing each episode to perfection. You can connect with Corey on Instagram and via email coreyclaxton@gmail.com. Thank you to Joey Collins for the original music you hear in each episode. You can connect with Joey on Instagram and Soundcloud!