The Anxious Love Coach – Details, episodes & analysis

Scientific, biological, and spiritual reasons why you might feel disconnected from your partner before and during your period. I speak both to women experiencing this, and men who might want to know how to respond to this! I would like to reasure you that this dynamic is NOT a problem -- it is merely a symptom of one, and I'd like you to think much bigger at the internal imbalances at play so that you can enjoy one another all cycle long. If you get PMS, PMDD, anxiety, OCD, breakup urges strongest during your second half... this episode was MADE for you.    Nat's Amazon book recomendations   My previous episode of Anxious Love Coach on the menstral cycle   Consciousness Exercise Series has been renamed to:

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In the past I've touched on this as an incompatibility, but as usual — I think it's more nuanced than that, and there are a few things you might do to try to get on the same page before you either hang up your desires or call it quits.

 

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If you tend to compare your partner to other people in real life or online, this episode is for you! I used to struggle with this a lot, but these tools have become second nature to me now and both my husband and I are much happier and more in love than ever.

 

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Who we are:

Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach

 

Time Stamps:

3:50 Grieving the lives that you were unable to live

4:40 Tips to stop comparing your relationship to those of others

13:40 Both Feet In - Abridged

So many clients of mine feel ashamed when they experience a crush while in partnership. It’s a highly charged, delicate topic! You’re not alone, and you’re not a bad partner. If you’ve experienced this, I’d like to give you some tools to navigate it ethically while also honoring your humanness. I’ll be covering 5 tips to get you from freaking out, to getting under the surface of your crush, to using it to enhance your relationship with yourself and maybe even your loved one.

 

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Who we are:

Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach

 

Time Stamps:

3:50 Allowing the fantasy of the crush

5:30 What happens in your mind is private

6:40 Who we perceive ourselves to be in the fantasy

9:15 Grieving your unlived lives

12:10 Working with the tension between opposites

15:20 Acknowledging what is going right in your relationship

 

Trigger warning: this episode is a story. It is chock-full of triggers, pain, grief, mentions of death, blood, and gore. If you've experienced miscarriage and there are some sore spots and tenderness, I might wait until you've gotten enough support to grieve before listening to this. In this episode, I share a recent loss, and how I've coped with it through ritual, embodiment, and dark humor. I'll also share the incredible things it taught me about love, loss, and letting go...

 

This may not be a "relationship anxiety" episode, but for those of you who are willing to traverse with me to a darker, messier place, I'm hopeful you'll gain metaphorical, transferable lessons on self-trust from a story where I go deeper than I've ever been able to go before... you may find it applies to you deeply still if you have ever loved.

 

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Who we are:

Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach

 

Time Stamps:

8:15 - Finding out that I was pregnant

13:15 - Dealing with my miscarriage

30:04 - Surrendering to and trusting the universe in the midst of fear

48:00 - My feelings after the miscarriage

1:00:01 - Gratitude as a response to adversity

I entered my relationship "knowing" Preston was the one... but then, years in, I stopped knowing anymore! In this episode, I speak to the younger version of myself that was struggling horribly with relationship anxiety. Some of you are in this place and I want to remind you that A) you're not alone, and B) you don't need to suffer with this forever. There are tools to give you clarity and support you with your doubts and fears.

 

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P.S. Thanks so much for your support after my last episode... I am feeling much better. I plan to speak on my experience more in a separate episode. But for now... I'm so grateful for my life and want to keep going.

Also, I tried to make a shorter episode and failed 😄 OH WELL

 

Who we are:

Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach

In this episode, I'm sharing a vulnerable story and a recent personal loss... and what it has taught me. I want to share how loss, pain, grief, and disappointment are portals to the divine... if you will let them be so.

 

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Who we are:

Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach

 

Time Stamps:

4:15 Relationship anxiety as a spiritual calling

7:25 If you want to be comfortable with anxiety, you must be comfortable with loss and feeling “naked”

16:00 The myth of “when you know, you’ll know”

29:00  Being free of anxiety means you just say “yes'“ to what is

30:25  How to be with disappointment

38:15 Both Feet In - Abridged

Are you feeling an intense urge to break up right before Thanksgiving or winter break? You're not alone. It's actually very common! In this episode, I outline some common reasons behind holiday break-up urges and what you can do instead.

 

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Who we are:

Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach

 

Time Stamps:

3:00 Breaking up and coming back to my partner during the holidays

7:40 How the holidays can bring up difficult feelings about your relationship

13:00 Wanting control over your life

19:40 What to do when you have breakup urges during the holidays

28:04 Earlybird discount for the upcoming Both Feet In coaching program

If you:

-are with someone struggling with relationship anxiety/ROCD and want to do your part...

-were broken up with because of someone's RA...

-are struggling with RA, but want to see what your partner's "work" is...

-want to look at your RA from an outsider's perspective...

... then this episode is for you!

 

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Time Stamps:

4:26 Being the most attracted to my partner when he was more selfish

7:51  Your partner’s relationship anxiety is not your fault/this person is wounded and trying to resolve their issues through you

12:40  Tools for a person whose partner has relationship anxiety

15:14  Keep focusing on yourself

20:00  Become ok with them leaving

24:10 Let control and let your partner be without trying to fix them

28:15 There is always the option to leave

31:12 You can still stay out of their inner process while still staying in the relationship

36:50 Don’t try to control your ex-partner if they break up with you by telling them they have relationship anxiety

39:23  My upcoming Both Feet In program in January

In this episode, my friend and other relationship anxiety practitioner, Chelsea Horton over at Healing Embodied, and I share our counter-cultural relationship beliefs that have served us well and brought us deep peace in our long-term partnerships.

 

This episode was recorded as a joint effort - meaning it showed up on both our podcasts, and there is no formal host. Enjoy 🙂

 

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Time Stamps:

7:00  Taking a non-entitled perspective on relationships

12:00 Creating a culture of gratitude in your relationship

14:30  #1 saying thank you to your partner even if you deserve what he/she gives

16:00 #2 I receive what I am given (say yes to what is

25:05  #3 I don’t need my partner to have similar interests to me in order to be happy

40:15  #4 I “settled” and I am deeply fulfilled (redefine what settling means to you)

46:55  #5 Trying to make my partner what I think they should be is not love, it is control

50:55  #6 I am 100% responsible for my own aliveness and pleasure

1:01:00 #7 I am okay with my partner not being perfect and fully evolved