Recipes for Grief – Details, episodes & analysis

Tunde Lasode has an upcoming concert, Audience of One: Tribute to the King, on Friday October 18th at Lesher Center for the Arts in Walnut Creek, Ca. Our conversation has stretched and tested me, and you might be surprised at the differentiation he makes between being a follower of Jesus vs. being religious. We talk about the weight of importance of faith, hope and love, and grief as a call to attention.

Tunde Lasode is a producer, a prolific saxophonist, a pianist and multi-instrumentalist based in the San Francisco Bay Area, Northern California. He is a Registered Nurse with one of California’s and the United States leading healthcare institutions and has won multiple awards including the Nightingale Award and the Daisy Award for exceptional nurses. Tunde Lasode, also known as t-Las, is an exceptional musician, who balances music with healthcare, using music as an alternative therapy in his healthcare and healing profession. According to him, music plays a pivotal role in healing, both physically, emotionally, and spiritually. It also promotes mental health and wellness. He has many experiences performing music therapy at clinics, hospitals, and nursing homes across California, and has seen first hand, the healing power of God through music. As a telemetry nurse, he has learned that music can affect human physiology positively or adversely, depending on the type of music (worthy of note is that research is still ongoing in this area). He was also part of a group that conducted research on the effect of music on delirium in hospitalized older adults.

Over the past decade, he has raised bands and performed across the state and the country, produced and executive produced musical videos and concerts.

In what he describes as a ‘new beginning’, Tunde Lasode (t-Las), a lover of God and follower of Christ, released his debut gospel instrumental album in 2022, titled Audience of One. Having experienced first hand the divine healing  power of God through his music, his goal is to dedicate his gift to the glory and praise of the One who is truly deserving of it,  our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, and to continue to promote healing and deliverance from bondage, oppression, and depression, through his saxophone playing. According to him, "music is as powerful as the power and driving force behind it, and the power of the Holy Spirit is the driving force behind my music". This same power raised Jesus from the dead (Romans 6:10-11).

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- God teaching him how to play music instead of being "self taught"

- The homemade guitar his friend made him when he was 7 years old

- Resistance of God's gifts

- How he manifested his upcoming performance

- His brother says he's "speaking the soothing word of God through his instrument"

- His relationship with grief as a nurse and empath

- Yearning for the source of the infinite, the creator

- Faith and what do you get from it

- Hope as a loaded word, especially in grief

- Grief as a call to attention

- The difference between Christianity as a religion vs. Christianity as a relationship with Christ

- Manmade grief due to greed, not God

- The time he saw angels in a cloud of glory during his wilderness period

- Meditate to hear God

- Love is a choice...Love is God

- The context of the story of The Good Samaritan

- Be the hand of God

- Evidence of the things unseen (like dreams)

- Being a "Doubting Thomas" amid God's unconditional love

- Things that we hold onto that Jesus said were inconsequential

- I share how I reframe h8 by staring at photos of certain people as children

- Song: "Be a Fence " by The Anointed Pace Sisters

- Black tourmaline

What a fun conversation this is with artist and death doula Brianna L. Hernández. Brianna shares a few stories about her mom, Miss Sylvia, including her sense of humor and her complicated relationship with cooking. We actually recorded on Miss Sylvia's birthday, so that was really special. Brianna talks about being a grief-y kid and her multimedia art installations that have been born out of caretaking her mom. She also shares some of the things that have become really important to her, like the artist's role in creating cultural death rituals and death education. See below for links to her art installations, articles and Ma's House Art Studio.

Brianna L. Hernández is a Chicana artist, curator, and death doula guided by socially engaged practices. In the studio, she creates multi-media installations focused on end-of-life care, grief, and mourning rituals based on lived experience, cultural research, and collaborations with peers including death education workshops. She proudly serves as Director of Curation and Board Secretary of Ma’s House & BIPOC Art Studio on the Shinnecock Indian Reservation, and as Assistant Curator at the Parrish Art Museum in Watermill, New York.

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- death education

- emotional public expressions of grief

- burials that are better for the environment

- healing our relationship with death and dying through creativity

- cooking for and caretaking for her mom, Miss Sylvia

- Miss Sylvia's sense of humor

- creating a living cemetery

- the way she approaches making matcha

- no difference between love and grief

- "mix to combine"

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Episode 012: The Harriet Tubman Episode

Much has been said about Harriet Tubman, and for very good reason, but less attention paid is to her divine intuition that guided her so much in her fight for freedom on the Underground Railroad and during the Civil War. Listen to me dissect the response that Tubman has conspired to answer my question: what is the purpose of intuition?

The time is now. You are the one.

Whatcha Gonna Do - Jayo Felony f. Method Man and DMX

Rest is Resistance: A Manifesto by Tricia Hersey

HooDoo Tarot by Tayannah McQuillar

Harriet Tubman, Precog

The Spirit of Harriet Tubman: Awakening from the Underground by Spring Washam 

Parable of the Sower by Octavia Butler

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Gran's Rolls aka Milk Line Rolls...the recipe that started it all. Tune in to hear the full story of me recreating an aunt's roll recipe while in the deep grief of infertility. Dreams, ancestors, endometriosis, flour, butter. Knead, rise, bake, taste.

Julia Mallory is Black and alive and hates bios. Listen as we chat about creativity as a recipe for grief and rice.

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Etheridge Knight

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CONTENT ALERT: There is brief mention of s3xual abuse. Also, if you're in acute grief, save this episode for another time.

Sour Cream Cake: This Cake is Made for Sharing

Gracelyn Bateman shares how she returned to humor after her father died and how his famous cookies, Kip's Chips, were a gift to other grievers even before he died.

Gracelyn Bateman is the co-founder of Luna Peak Foundation and builds the Instagram community @snapshotsoflifeafterloss. She specializes in photography and helping people tell their stories of loss, survival, and resilience within the grief and cancer communities. Her grief books include “Beyond Grief” a photography book of 80 grief interviews, “The Grief Workbook” and the holiday version titled “Season’s Griefings.” She loves hosting workshops and helping people express themselves and process their grief with humor.
www.lunapeakfoundation.org - nonprofit website

www.lunapeakpublishing.com - multicultural books of hope

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"Recipe for Starting a Podcast". Ride along while I tell stories about pizza, singing in the car as a child with my auntie, my grad school failure and hearing that same auntie's voice in the shower...and what any of that has to do with starting this podcast.

Book recommendations: Parable of the Sower by Octavia Butler and The Will to Change by bell hooks

Pedro Navarro is an educator by trade, originally from Guatemala, now firmly rooted in Long Beach, CA. He enjoys company with family and friends, yet appreciates time alone under the sun running or tending to his plants and observing nature.