Polyamory Weekly – Details, episodes & analysis

How do you handle moving, job loss, death, and other relationship changes?

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• We’re heading to Croatia for a vacation!

The gap between people’s stated positions and what they actually vote for.

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Dan and dawn have been a lifestyle couple since 2001 and have presented at over 100 events around North America. Not only do they enjoy teaching workshops and classes, they also share via books, specialized events, and fun consent negotiation playing cards! They were last on Poly Weekly in 2014 on episode 400: Poly for introverts.

They are also the co-hosts of the Erotic Awakening Podcast, an educational show that explores “all things erotic” since 2011; co-founders of the Columbus Space, an alternative community center; 2016 MAsT International Member’s Choice Presenter of the Year Award winner; Great Lakes region title holders (2010); creators of the Scarlet Sanctuary and Path of the Qadishti (sacred sexuality spaces); featured educators on both Kink Academy and Creative Sexuality; and mentioned in a number of books, articles, and other media.

• Embrace the power of “I don’t know”
• Balance appreciating what you have with mourning the loss of a partner or lifestyle
• Understand that emotions happen
• Change is a type of loss. Don’t avoid that grief; lean in to it.
• Update your partner before your Facebook status

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A listener writes in asking for advice on continuing a romantic relationship. She was poly but agreed to marry her now-husband P with the idea that they would open up the marriage later. She has a friend of seven years, J, with whom she recently connected and wants to pursue a romantic relationship. She is anxious every time J goes on a date with someone else, fearing he’ll dump her for someone who will be monogamous with him. How does she avoid getting hurt by love?

• You don’t. To love is to risk vulnerability. You minimize risk by minimizing joy and intimacy.
• Take the Buddhist approach: embrace love, accept the pain that comes with it.
• If you really want to minimize pain, have some difficult conversations. Where is P in all this? Does he support you? Talk through best and worst case scenarios with P and J.

Herbalwise recommends the 2014 movie The One I Love as semi-poly-friendly.

Welcome NS to the Poly Weekly playmates!

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Leanne is a bisexual, autistic, Asian poly polyamory educator, influencer, comedian, blogger, community mentor, and founder of Poly Philia, the largest page dedicated to non-monogamy education in the UK.

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Leanne was on the British version of Fox News talking about polyamory, and she ran circles around the host!

A white cis man’s view on abortion. Our big mistake is loading abortion with value and framing it as a women’s issue. It’s an issue of civil rights and bodily autonomy for all of us.

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Leanne is a polyamory educator, influencer, comedian, blogger, community mentor, and founder of Poly Philia, the largest page dedicated to non-monogamy education in the UK. She created the #PolyamoryTipoftheDay series, and has narrated several polyamory audiobooks. Her polyamory advocacy is influenced by her experiences as a bisexual, autistic, Chinese woman.

• Her poly origin story
• Why she started the PolyPhilia blog
• How to meme (Minx asks for a tutorial!)
• On being Asian and poly
• On being autistic and poly (her own experience only)
• How the hell do I use TikTok?

She offers peer support to non-monogamous individuals and couples worldwide, polyamory merch, Ko-Fi (like Patreon) with exclusive content for supporters, and narrates audiobooks about polyamory. All her links in one place.

Her blog is here, Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok channels.  

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Thanks to David for writing in with such nice compliments, including “Your show has been nothing but truly enlightening to me.”

Lusty Guy shares his own happy poly moment!

Thanks to our Poly Weekly Playmates for your financial support! We also love when you review us on Apple Podcasts or your favorite podcatcher (including Spotify!) and when you share us with your friends directly. Thanks also to Pacemaker Jane for letting us use their song Good Suspicions as our intro and outro music and to you for listening and sharing.

A listener wants to know if it's OK to consider nesting with a partner if she's not sure she'll be comfortable hearing them have sex with someone else.

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• Thanks to L for taking the dog so we could record! And forgive Baloo saying hello a few times in the episode. J
• D asked for our poly pet peeves, so here they are:
  • Sex negativity in the poly community. Nothing wrong if it IS all about the sex!
  • Folks who describe polyamory as “more evolved.”
  • Poly gatekeepers.

Three best poly 101 articles: https://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/2021/03/the-3-best-poly-101-articles-to-share.html

We all need to listen to BIPOC voices with respect to U.S. history. Watch the Netflix series Amend: The Fight for America, executive produced and hosted by Will Smith.

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E and her partner of two years are moving in together but concerned about hearing metamour sex and having private space. She asks if being completely okay with hearing one’s partner getting down with a meta a pre-requisite for being good nesting partners? What are your thoughts on ways to progress to this point of compersion/okay-ness?

• Don’t borrow trouble. You don’t know how you’ll react, and your actual reaction will probably be different, anyway.
• If it turns out that you don’t, own your shit. It’s your issue to address, not your partner’s.
• What would monogamists do? When monogamists are concerned about living together, they do test runs--a weekend away, a week or two vacation—to experiment with domesticity.
• It’s a two-way door decision: if you don’t like it, you can go back to living apart.

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Mica encourages us and you to continue the hard work of being allies to BIPOC.

Gigi writes in with a happy poly moment about community. Even though her local meetup hadn’t met since February, she wanted to build community by giving back and adopted a family for the holidays. The group jumped at the chance, got every item on the family’s list, including four bikes, and more! A great demonstration of building community by giving back.

Welcome Ivo to the PW Playmates!

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We are trying poly for the first time; it was his idea. I like the idea, but I'm having a hard time. At what point do I decide if poly just isn't right for me? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

Solo poly and getting off the relationship escalator with Aggie Sez. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

How to love someone who is in an abusive relationship. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly.

I'm meeting lots of guys on OKCupid but can't find one I like. Am I being too picky or too impatient? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

If three partners ran off to be in monogamous relationships, does that mean that poly doesn't work for me? Or is it me that isn't working? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

How has Dan Savage's position on polyamory changed, and is he poly himself? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

How and when to come out to your doctor and how to advocate for yourself when asking for STI screenings. Visit www.polyweekly.com for full show notes and episode archives. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.facebook.com/polyweekly.