Pivot Parenting: Expert Tips for Navigating Teen and Tween Challenges – Details, episodes & analysis

Is your parenting actually keeping your teen safe—or just an attempt to keep you comfortable? In this episode, we unpack the hidden fears that drive so many of our rules, reactions, and routines as parents. From fear of physical harm to fear of emotional disconnection, we all create “safety systems” that can backfire—leading to control, resentment, and emotional distance.

You’ll learn:

• The 2 main types of fear that shape parenting (and the one question that will tell you the difference)

• How “safe” parenting can actually feel unsafe to your teen

• Why overprotection and overreaction erode trust—and what builds it instead

If you’ve ever said, “I just want to keep them safe,” but still feel anxious, disconnected, or constantly in conflict, this episode will give you a fresh lens—and real tools—to parent from clarity instead of fear.

Book your free Peaceful Parenting Coaching Call today and start creating a safer, stronger connection with your teen.

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What if healing your own body image could help your daughter avoid the years of shame, obsession, and insecurity so many of us grew up with?

In this powerful episode, we talk about how to build a healthy, connected relationship with your body—and how to model that for your kids (without even saying a word). Whether you're raising daughters, sons, or anyone in between, this one’s for you.

You’ll learn:

• 3 myths that keep parents stuck in body shame

• The subtle (but damaging) things we say around food and bodies—and what to say instead

• 3 practical ways to create a more respectful, loving relationship with your body

• How to raise body-confident kids without passing down your own insecurities

This isn’t about perfect eating or loving every inch of yourself—it’s about creating safety, respect, and honesty around the bodies we live in. For you and your kids.

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About my guest: 

Few things hurt more than watching your teen struggle—and knowing they don’t feel safe enough to come to you with it.

You try to connect, ask how they’re doing, offer help… and all you get is a shoulder shrug, an eye roll, or a slammed door. And it leaves you wondering—What happened to us? Why won’t they talk to me? Am I failing?

In this episode, we’re digging into what it really takes to become a safe person for your teen to open up to. I’ll walk you through the do’s and don’ts that shift the energy from shut down and distance to trust and connection. You’ll learn simple skills that make a big impact—so your teen actually wants to talk to you again. And when that safety is there, it doesn’t just help your teen—it transforms the tone of your whole home.

If you’re tired of feeling shut out or unsure how to reconnect, let’s talk. Book a free Peaceful Parenting Strategy Call here. You don’t have to guess your way through this—I’ve got you.

Part three of Bill and Anne. Today we discuss their thirteen year olds' poor self-talk. He thinks he's the worst and Bill and Anne feel terrible. We discuss their reactions, ways they can help him, and how they are unintentionally creating more of what they don't want. We also discuss the struggle of other kids wanting to parent their siblings, how Anne is affected by this, and how she is buying into the lie that she isn't doing it right. It doesn't play out well for her, but fortunately she sees it and is empowered to move past the lie. 

To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

Parents can mimic their teens without even realizing it. I coach Anne and Bill for a second time as we discuss how their son disgusts and annoys them with his rude behavior and self importance. They want him to start seeing things like they do. They want him to make progress, which is creating the exact opposite experience than they want. 

Getting stuck on what he's doing wrong is leading them to similar behavior that they don't even see until today. Maybe you're invalidating yourself like they are? Come listen and find out. 

To learn more about parenting your teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com

Todays episode is the beginning of a series. You will meet Bill and Anne. Their exuberant son, Gilbert, is too much for the whole family to handle and they struggle to see eye to eye on how to help him best while keeping their cool and managing the other children's frustration towards him.

Parenting your teen can be a stress to the marriage, but it doesnt have to be. Both Bill and Anne want the same thing- to feel good and successful and to help their son feel the same. Listen in as I show them how they can both solve for the frustration that is daily. 

To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

In todays episode, Katie Parker and I discuss the struggles that our tween ladies are experiencing and how we can encourage, love and support them better. Adolescence is hard but we can educate ourselves to be more supportive. We can also give our girls an opportunity to engage in meaningful emotional education. This is Katie's life work. I loved hearing about her tween program and all of the skills she offers young ladies and I know that you will, too. 

To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

About my guest: Katie is the President/CEO of Bloomfully, LLC and has a passion for building the confidence of young girls, tweens and women. Her mission is to help them grow above the comparing, the criticism, and the self-doubt that are plaguing girls. She honestly believes EVERY girl and EVERY woman is remarkably unique and needed in this world. Katie is married to Matt Parker of Album Surfboards and they live in Orange County, CA with their six children. In the Summer they surf and in the Winter they snowboard. Family and faith are at her core and the blooming businesses are an extension of that foundation. She is the creator of Singers Company, I Believe in Me, Bloomfully and Tavi’s Fairy Festival. She received her BA degree in Communications/Public Relations from Brigham Young University. As she watches the world become ever more complex to navigate for girls, she longs to create programs that help them stay grounded/rooted yet willing and able to bloom wherever they may be in the world. After participating in a Bloomfully program she wants women and girls to feel happy and excited about life and empowered to create! She hopes Bloomfully will help girls believe in their gifts, encourage them to grow and motivate them to share with the world. The world needs strong minds, and strong hearts in strong girls. You can find Katie at www.bloomfully.com

Guesting on Pivot Parenting for a fourth visit, Jennifer Finlayson-fife and I discuss triangulation in families. What is this, how it plays out, its relationship to codependency, and the role that our parental anxiety plays in all of it. 

There are 3 typical roles in triangulation: victim, perpetrator and rescuer. We can play all three roles in parenting and none of them are good for us or our teens. 

Listen in as Jennifer describes how we.. "can allow our problem to teach us." She breaks down what triangulation looks like so that we can identify if and how we are participating in an unhealthy dynamic and what to do if we are. 

To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

About my guest: 

Every parent's worst nightmare: Realizing that they are the worst parent ever. Our teens are happy to tell us the reasons why, their choices are ample evidence, our world is crushed as reality washes over us. 

But what if it's not true? Listen in as I discuss how the fear of failing as a parent plays out it real time and what to do about it. The good news is, you haven't failed and the future is yet to be decided. 

To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

You might not think this applies to you. That you're super open minded and easy going. This can be true and you can also be wanting to be right to the detriment of your relationship. In todays episode I outline 8 sneaky ways that our brain kills connection with the desire to be right, and most of us do at least a few of them. 

In parenting, the details matter. This was the one thing that I needed to change before I could have a quality connection with one of my kids. The desire to be right can be sneaky and hard to see if you don't know what to look for. 

To learn more about parenting, visit me at heatherfrazier.com