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Eternal Marriage Mindset: Living Today for the Streets of Gold

We get so caught up in the now—our needs, our feelings, our expectations—that we forget: this isn't forever.

And when it comes to your marriage, your mindset matters more than you know. What if the goal isn't just earthly happiness… but eternal impact?

Let's shift our gaze from the temporary to the eternal—from trying to fix our spouse to faithfully loving them like Jesus.

Because your marriage assignment? It impacts eternity.

A Marriage Mindset That Reaches for Heaven

If marriage is your god, you'll do it your way.

You'll chase validation, push for change, demand your rights, and stew in resentment when your spouse doesn't meet your expectations.

But if God is your God, and marriage is your assignment, you'll do it His way.

You'll put your spouse before your ministry, before your work, before the kids. You'll think about loving them the way they receive love. You care about peace, patience, kindness, and self-control in your marriage. You value reconciliation and you stop praying, "God, fix my spouse so I feel better," and start praying, "God, draw them closer to You."

It's a radical shift in your marriage mindset. And it changes everything.

Eternal Marriage Mindset: Your Assignment Is Bigger Than You Think

Think about this: your spouse isn't just your husband or wife. They're your brother or sister in Christ.

One day, they will stand before Jesus just like you will. What if your daily choices helped them be more ready for that moment?

That's the eternal marriage mindset. It's not about temporary comfort—it's about eternal glory. You're not just trying to survive your marriage. You're trying to love your spouse all the way to the streets of gold!

And, by God's grace, you'll be dancing there together one day.

You only get one marriage with this person.
One chance to love them well.
One life to serve them, selflessly.

And if that service brings them closer to Jesus? It's worth every ounce of sacrifice.

Streets of Gold and a Big Ol' Mansion Next Door

But all joking aside, imagining heaven should stir our hearts. Because eternity is real. And that means what you do in this short vapor of a life matters.

If you need help fixing your gaze upward, here's a powerful recommendation: Wild Near-Death Experiences: Proof of Heaven | John Burke | Ep:365 from the Blurry Creatures podcast.

John is a former pastor, engineer, and researcher who has explored over 1,000 verified near-death experiences—and the common themes are stunning. Even from those with no faith background, many report seeing a being of love, a city of light, a life review… all pointing to the reality of heaven. His ministry, Imagine Heaven, invites us to live today in light of eternity. And wow—is it motivating.

When we meditate on the realness of what's ahead, our marriage takes on deeper purpose. It becomes a divine assignment with eternal weight.

It's Not About Them, It's About You: Taking Ownership in Your Marriage

Here's the hard truth: You will stand before God alone.
You won't be able to say, "But my husband didn't…" or "But my wife never…"

This journey isn't about controlling your spouse—it's about surrendering your own heart.

If your marriage is struggling, start by asking:

• Am I doing this God's way?

• Am I praying for their character, not just my comfort?

• Am I serving them with an eternal mindset—or demanding love on my terms?

The shift starts in you.

Final Thoughts: Marriage Is Temporary. Your Influence Isn't.

Heaven is coming.

And when you get there—your mansion sparkling, the streets of gold beneath your feet—will your spouse be dancing beside you?

Will your love have drawn them closer to Jesus?
Will your sacrifices have sown eternal seeds?

Friend, your influence matters. Every word, every action, every reaction has a chance to draw them closer to Jesus.

So soften your heart. Adjust your mindset. And do marriage well—not for earthly gain, but for eternal glory.

We are rooting for you!

 

Blessings,

The Delight Your Marriage Team

 

PS - Want help living this out? We would love to walk alongside you. Start with a free Clarity Call and talk with someone who's been there, seen God work, and is ready to cheer you on.

PPS - Have you seen the impact of this work in your life and wish more people knew about it? We are launching our In-Person Training program globally in January 2026. For more information on bringing this program to your church (or small group or work or wherever you meet!), please email office@delightyourmarriage.com.

PPPS - Here is a quote from a recent graduate:
"The biggest area I have grown is in my relationship with the Lord.  I have a deeper walk and appreciate struggles as they point me to Jesus.  Our marriage has grown as well.  We are deeper in love and we are heading to our finish lines of life, united as a couple."

How Daily Habits Transformed His 36-Year Marriage: Harvey's Story

Marriage is holy work.

Maybe you're reading this today because you're hoping your marriage will change. Maybe you're reading this because you've prayed, "Lord, please help my marriage," when really you mean "Lord, please help my spouse!"

I hope this blog and episode will make you feel both comforted and inspired — that you'll be reminded your marriage can change, not by grand gestures or perfect communication, but by small, faithful, daily habits of love.

This is what Harvey discovered as well. That it wasn't grand gestures or big sweeping shifts that changed his marriage, but small, daily, consistent habits that brought it God's love, peace, and patience into his marriage.

Changing Your Priorities: When Hard Work is Leading to Disconnect

Harvey and his wife have been married nearly 37 years. Together, they raised four kids and built a life on their dairy farm. For decades, he worked two full-time jobs—teaching high school by day and farming by night.

He says, "Every day was between 12 to 16 hours. My wife was incredibly supportive, but I just wasn't there emotionally."

Maybe you can relate. Life's responsibilities pile up, and before you know it, years have passed. You're functioning—but not really connecting.

Despite his faith and commitment, Harvey admits that emotional and spiritual intimacy were missing. He wanted closeness, but didn't know how to get there.

A Different Kind of Prayer—and a Different Kind of Growth

After retiring from teaching, Harvey finally had space to seek help. He'd been listening to our podcast for years and decided it was time to join Masculinity Reclaimed, our men's program.

The first surprise? It wasn't about changing his wife!

It was about learning to love her the way Christ loves the Church.

He started with one habit: daily time with God. Reading Scripture. Praying. Reflecting. And eventually, he began praying with his wife in the mornings—a completely new rhythm in their 36 years together.

That quiet time, over coffee and prayer, became a beautiful and cherished time for emotional connection.

The Turning Point: Accepting Your Wife as She Is

Halfway through the program, Harvey realized that for years, he had been looking at his wife through the lens of what she wasn't.

She wasn't this, she wasn't that...

But when he stopped trying to change her and started accepting her for who she is, the woman he fell in love with, the woman she had always been, rather than who he hoped she might someday become–everything began to shift.

That acceptance made her feel safe. Seen. Loved.

And when a woman feels safe, her heart opens. His wife began to blossom before his very eyes and the connection Harvey had longed for finally began to grow.

The Habits That Build a Marriage

Here's the truth: marriage is a system of habits.

Paul says, if you're married, you will have trouble. (1 Corinthians 7:28)
You'll have to think about how to please your spouse. (1 Corinthians 7:34)

Are you in the habit of thinking about your spouse?
Are you in the habit of considering them and putting them first?
Are you in the habit of encouraging, loving, praying, and serving them?

It's not always easy work — but it is good work.

Every word, every look, every morning prayer can help build connection.

That's why transformation doesn't happen overnight.
It happens in the daily choices.

Final Thoughts

Friends, you don't have to wait to start changing your marriage. Harvey shared with us, "I wish I had learned these things earlier in my marriage." We want that for you as well! 

You don't have to wait to retire or for your kids to be out of the house. You don't have to wait to be a certain age or have been married a certain number of years. You can start investing in your marriage now, today, to say that the next 20, 30, 40, 50, 60 years of marriage were incredible.

That is what we want for you. And we know, that no matter where your marriage is at right now, it can change. Just ask Harvey.

We are rooting for you and we know that we serve a God who makes all things new– and that includes marriages.

 

God bless you!

 

With love,

The Delight Your Marriage Team

 

PS - If you're ready to take the next step and get into a community that knows what it's like and are doing the hard work themselves– we'd love to chat with you. Click here to schedule a free Clarity Call with one of our Clarity Call Advisors and take the next step in healing your marriage.

PPS - Are you a fan of this work and wish more people knew about it? We are launching an In-Person Training program this January and we would love to come to your church, workplace, community group, or wherever you gather! For more information, visit our In-Person Training page.

PPPS - Here is what another recent grad had to say about our program:
"I've become more contented and patient and focused on [my wife's] needs and a better listener I think. She says our home has less tension since I've been doing the program. I take that as a win!"

499-Sinful v. Holy Fierce Intimacy

I was confused.

There I was a new bride, having saved myself for marriage…

only to find out that my new husband wanted me to do SINFUL things.

Where did he get all this "inspiration" anyway?

Oh, I knew: sinful places.

So, of course, I refused. And of course, it brought mutual anger (covering each of our hurt).

What's your story?

If it's even remotely like mine, I needed to change the lens in which I was viewing sex.

I wasn't viewing sex from a biblical standpoint.

I was viewing sex from a sexually perverted lens. (Even though I saved my sex for marriage, I certainly received messages from the world that perverted the purity and unashamedness that is meant to be in the bedroom.)

I was thinking about a sinful visual I had, at some point, encountered that I knew was wrong. Instead of recognizing the COMPLETELY different and HOLY context of my marriage, I decided the act was associated with my experience that was not God's will.

Maybe you've gone through something profoundly tragic, if so, my heart goes out to you. And now you're married and there are so many things that feel hard to move towards because of the past. There is hope. Hope for healing and even hope for desire.

Be washed by truth. That's my aim in this conversation. That you will realize that our God is a God of intimacy and freedom in your marriage.

When you wash your mind with the truth of His design within the marriage bed, may you slowly wade (or dive in) into the waters of marital intimacy and find out it's nice and warm (with your spouse 🙂 )

Biblical Sexual Boundaries: What God Says Clearly

God's Word is not silent on sexuality. We're called to flee sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 6:18), honor marriage and keep the marriage bed pure (Hebrews 13:4), and rejoice in the wife (or husband) of our youth (Proverbs 5).

What does that mean practically? It means saying no to adultery, fornication, pornography, and lust outside of marriage. But it also means saying a big yes to intimacy within marriage.

God designed it. He delights in it. And He calls it holy.

Christian Sexual Freedom in Marriage

Here's the good news: within the covenant of marriage, you are FREE. Passion, tenderness, variety—when it's just the two of you, it's not dirty or off-limits.

Too often, we add rules God never wrote. We act like Pharisees in the bedroom, burdening ourselves with shame. But Scripture doesn't say you have to find every position or practice word-for-word in the Bible. It says to stay within God's boundaries.

That's it.

Inside those boundaries, freedom is His gift.

Masculine vs. Feminine Sexuality in God's Design

I often talk about a helpful framework: feminine sexuality tends to be calming, connective, tender—while masculine sexuality is passionate, fierce, and energetic.

Neither is wrong! In fact, both are needed! But here's the key: most wives won't feel safe to enjoy masculine passion until the feminine is deeply honored.

Gentle connection lays the foundation for fierce intimacy. When both are present, intimacy becomes the oneness God intended.

One Flesh Marriage Meaning

When Scripture says the two become one flesh (Matthew 19:5), it's not talking about shared bank accounts or chore charts. It's talking about the mystery and beauty of sexual union.

That oneness is not only for procreation—it's also for pleasure, connection, and spiritual unity.

You were designed to be "naked and unashamed." That's God's original intention for your marriage.

Repentance and Sexual Purity

Here's the challenge: what you consume shapes what you expect.

If your eyes are fixed on media that glamorizes lust, adultery, or pornography, your heart will follow. Jesus warned us—lust in the heart is adultery (Matthew 5:28).

But repentance is always available. God's kindness leads us to turn back (Romans 2:4). His grace washes us clean and empowers us to start again. Inside His boundaries, intimacy is safe, holy, and life-giving.

Healing and Hope for Your Marriage Bed

If intimacy feels impossible for you—whether because of past sin, abuse, shame, or just exhaustion—please don't give up.

You can heal.
You can rediscover joy.
You can learn how God wired you for intimacy, and how to give and receive love in your marriage bed.

I want you to know: fierce intimacy is possible, for men and women. And it is holy. Within God's design, it's not just permitted—it's celebrated.

Final Thoughts

Friend, don't let the enemy steal your freedom by pushing you into guilt—or into sin. God's Word draws the boundaries, and inside them, He invites you to DELIGHT.

We are rooting for you.

Blessings,

The Delight Your Marriage Team

PS - Ready to take the next step? Schedule a free call with one of our Clarity Advisors today. This free Clarity Call will give you insight into the health of your marriage and your best next step. Whatever is hindering you from taking your next step, you are not too far gone. Sign up here for your free Clarity Call!

PPS - Need a little extra coaching on this whole holy fierce intimacy thing? Well, the timing could not be better! Our very own Belah Rose is a keynote speaker for Date Your Spouse's 2025 Sex Seminar. All the nitty-gritty questions, all the understanding and support. Check out this link to register for this seminar and catch not only Belah's teaching, but other intimacy experts as well! 🔥 (Want to catch up on the Sex Seminars from previous years? You got it. Click here to register for access for this year's panel AND previous years!)

PPPS - Here is a quote from a recent graduate:
"Before DYM, there was a lot of tension and stress in our marriage and disconnect. My husband had affairs and these were replayed constantly in my head even though one of them occurred 25 years ago... After going through the program, the stress is gone... I told him I have forgiven him and intimacy is something I desire now and enjoy with my husband. We are both so much happier in our marriage! I have also started back on my spiritual journey with God, that I have been away from for many years."

"Why can't I be fulfilled by what I SHOULD be able to?"

-Higher-drive men, Higher-drive women

"Why can't I get aroused by what I SHOULD be able to?" 

-Lower-drive women, PI/ED men

 

I want to invite you to consider what brings you pleasure. 

I want you to consider what causes you to ENJOY life. 

At Delight Your Marriage we focus a lot of intimacy. (And this episode does too). 

God has designed sex to be a way to receive pleasure. 

But is it God's only way for you to receive pleasure in this amazing world?

Did Jesus receive pleasure in this world? (Even without sex?) 

 

For higher drive husbands/wives (or those in sexless marriages): You are a wo/man who doesn't receive the pleasure from sex that you crave.

Jesus was tempted in every way that we are, and yet he never sinned. (HOW???)

For lower-drive wives/porn-induced ED/ED men: When you go on a journey of resensitizing your pleasure to everything this amazing world has to offer, you also resensitize yourself to the amazing gift of intimacy your spouse's unique body that God gives you in marriage. 

Gaining pleasure in many more things in this life is incredibly important for you to fulfill God's call in the world. 

Too many leaders/pastors/preachers have secret (and sometimes horrific) sins because they have no pressure release from the HARD work of ministry. 

They do not have ANY pleasure activities except sex (at least that's what they think constitutes a holy life).

It's hard. 

Jesus knows it's hard to resist temptation.

But he had MANY ways of receiving pleasure that had nothing to do with sex

He had zero "sinful outside-of-marriage sex" and he had zero "holy inside-of-marriage sex".

I invite you to listen with a curious heart to how God might want to invite you to resensitize yourself to the pleasure in HIS good world (in and out of marital intimacy) so that you can do the will of the Father ...as Jesus did.

 

Blessings,

Belah

PS - We'd love to help you and your marriage be all that God wants it to be to ultimately support the life and call God wants you to have... go to delightyourmarriage.com/cc for all the information of first steps!

PPS -Recent wife grad: "I wish I could really express just how many celebrations I've had through my weeks in this program. Both alone, and in my marriage."

Let's go! delightyourmarriage.com/cc

Many of our wife listeners have lower drives than their husbands. (I hear you!) And that's just the way it is. Nothing to be done, just deal with it. 

 

Also, if they're like I have been, since she has a lower sex drive she just has to put up with the requirement of her to make love even though she's less than enthusiastic about it because she has to have sex and can't do the things she really wants to be doing. Or sometimes avoids it altogether. 

 

I have been there. And so has Sarah. 

 

She and I both have high drive husbands. 

 

And we both know that sex is supposed to be a beautiful gift and a joy for him but we just couldn't desire it even if we wanted to.  

 

I want to allow you to hear Sarah's heart because she knew something wasn't right. 

 

She loved her husband and they waited till marriage to engage sexually together, as is biblical, but her desire just wasn't there, and it was so disheartening. 

 

But, she rejected the idea that there was nothing she could do about it. Even when sexual assault was in her past, she hoped God could still redeem and heal her sexuality. 

 

I'm excited for you to hear her story and see how you might be blessed by the advice and encouragement.

 

Her first step was sharing her story with someone who gets it. That was the free Clarity Call she had with someone who had walked this road before and can share there is hope for change!

 

Love,

Belah

 

PS - Would you like help? We would love to help. Schedule a free Clarity Call at delightyourmarriage.com/cc to have a compassionate and helpful conversation to evaluate if you're a good fit for our programs.

 

PPS - If you're a husband who wants his wife to do what Sarah did, the best thing you can do is work on yourself first.

 

From a guy who has been there, took the next steps, and did the work:

"Before taking the course I would have defined our struggle as not being on the same page sexually. I thought that her view of me, and the attitudes that she held, were hurting our marriage. She thought I was too demanding and moody when my expectations weren't met. I felt she prioritized work, kids, church, her phone, etc. above me. The vast majority of the intimacy we had was duty sex. 

My biggest challenge has been my lack of understanding. I didn't realize how much pain I was causing her, or how self focused I was. I was trying to get her to change and should have been working on me. I am skilled at justifying myself and passing blame on my own heart.

Understanding the concepts of Safe, Known, and Cherished was a big deal. Forgiveness and apologizing have been huge. The disciplines of faith statements, gratitude, prayer, and Bible reading make for a solid start to my day.

My wife has told me she feels safe. She has begun to trust that my change is not a passing fad. I have gained understanding in how to love her well. I look forward to being around her, and to pampering her and loving her well. This has overflowed into intimacy emotionally, spiritually, and physically."

In approaching the new year, I invite you to rewind your calendar and consider...your marital performance in 2023.

What if I asked your spouse what it was like being married to YOU this past year?

Yikes!

If my spouse chose to be fully open and honest I think I'd have plenty of... ehemmm... "growth-opportunities". :)

 

Seriously though... feel free to go back through your calendar and check out what your priorities were throughout the year.

Day by day. Week by week. Month by month.

What was it like being married to YOU?

 

If marriage is your first human assignment, was that reflected in...

How you spent your time?

How you spoke/listened to them?

How you spent your energy?

 

How you loved them the way he or she receives love?

 

Assume you're looking at your year through your spouse's eyes.

What were your challenges of the year?

What were the things you should celebrate?

 

Now that you have thought through that...

We all know marriages are under attack, so what are you doing about it in your own home? You want it strong to withstand the challenges.

& If you're a pastor or ministry leader, what are you doing about this for your flock or in your organization?

(Aside: We have some exciting resources for ministry leaders that we'll be sharing with you in upcoming communications -- make sure you're on our email list to get notifications.)

 

In this episode, I have some practical next steps and things to ponder as you're setting out into this fresh year.

 

Love & Blessings,

Belah

 

PS - We'd love to help heal your marriage in 2024 (as has happened many times before), feel free to take us up on our gift to you: Clarity Call. delightyourmarriage.com/cc

 

 

As we are soon gathering together with loved ones to celebrate the Savior's birth, I would love for you to remember what life is all about. 

When we meet Jesus face to face, what do we want to be true of us?

In today's episode, I walk you through a meditation I did with our men's graduate group a couple of months ago. 

It is really meant to give you a chance to consider eternity. What is Christmas really about? 

It's about Jesus. And are we living in light of His life, will and ultimate sacrifice. 

I invite you to listen in and gain more insight into what you want that day to be. Because we are Delight Your Marriage we focus a lot on marriage, but we will all stand before Jesus one day and this is good practice :)

 

Love, 

Belah

PS - Maybe you're considering launching into a healing season for your marriage in the New Year -- if so, sign up for a free Clarity Call at delightyourmarriage.com/cc

PPS - A recent lady graduate: 

"Years ago I prayed to God for a short life. I didn't want to break my marriage vow, but I didn't see how I could be happy with him and it was getting harder as the children became adults.

Death seemed to be the only acceptable answer. I was obviously very unhappy. 

Now I enjoy spending time with him, look forward to dates and vacations, and we laugh and work things out together. I believe we are a great team! It's a miracle that we enjoy and like each other again.

Physical intimacy is better than ever. He cares about me and I feel secure. When we come together physically, we feel closer and both of us look forward to it!

I miss him when he gets busy with work and would be devastated if something happened to him."

Maybe you're transformation is next. Learn more in a free Clarity Call at delightyourmarriage.com/cc

It's hard to discern (or even admit) if we are obsessed. 

So here's the definition: 

"an idea or thought that continually preoccupies or intrudes on a person's mind."

Is your marriage an obsession? 

Or is God's will an obsession? (And your marriage is an important part of God's will for you.)

I encourage you to consider what God's will is for you in this next season.

It's all about priorities. 

If God is your first priority then everything else falls underneath. 

He puts all of our lives into perspective. 

Marriage shouldn't put all of our lives in perspective. It must be God first, then we can rightly serve our spouse well.

I want to invite you to rightly obsess over God's will and put marriage in its proper place so that it's healed and somewhat on "autopilot" so you can get on with God's will for your life. 

Listen in to understand more about what this means for you.

(I have an exciting announcement included in our conversation today, I'd love for you to hear it!) 

Love, 
Belah

PS - If you're in a really hard place or even a really great place, I encourage you to get on a Clarity Call. 

Maybe (as a gent emailed me today) your marriage is a 10, but you feel you need to take this course because YOU need to become the man/woman your spouse needs, then we'd love to help. 

delightyourmarriage.com/cc

 

A recent grad shared: (we try to never reuse testimonial quotes in multiple emails jfyi)

"I've grown a lot spiritually, I had thought that I had always been a pretty good Christian...but realized that I was very selective in when and how I followed God's word. I feel a lot closer to God, and now realize that I can't really do marriage well on my own and truly need Him. 

The program was great! It so aligned with what I needed...

If people seem stuck, don't hesitate to push...I know we should take that initiative ourselves but sometimes a spark or catalyst can help. 

I really believe in what you're doing...it's the best program out there… and think this program can really help a lot of people."

Learn more at delightyourmarriage.com/cc

After 33 years of marriage, they were disconnected. 

At that point, they were sleeping in separate bedrooms. 

Maybe you're at a spot where it's hard to have hope because it has been SO hard for SO long. 

Jacques is here to say, even when only you do the work, it can change. 

Glory to God. 

Blessings,

Belah

PS - Could your marriage be one of the next ones to transform? Schedule a free Clarity Call at delightyourmarriage.com/cc. You don't have to, but what if you do?

 

Quote from a client...

Before the program: "My biggest struggle coming into MR was openness with my wife about what I was thinking and feeling and fear of asking her about what was going on in her life. I had just come out of therapy for my addiction of lust and porn and trust was a big issue. I wanted her to know that she was the only one for me and I didn't know how to do that.

I knew our marriage could be so much more but didn't know how to make that happen. It was a constant weight on me that made my everyday life like walking around on eggshells."

 

After the program: "DYM has given me the confidence and tools to be able to handle difficult situations with my wife. It has given me such a better understanding of how my wife thinks and what is important to her. I have learned that I have to be the leader of the relationship. I love how the program was based on scripture in the bible. I learned how God wanted us to treat our wives and then how to do it. Surprisingly it has helped with my porn and lustful addiction. Now I respect women and my wife as they are all God's daughters. I am so excited for the next stage of my marriage."

 

You may wonder when God is going to show up in your life.   In your situation.    In your marriage.    You may believe in God but don't feel His love for you, or at least haven't for a long time.    Maybe you felt His love for you at first, and that is what brought you to give your life to Jesus, but slowly, things have really gotten stale.    Maybe like your marriage.    It was great at first. But slowly other loves entered the picture. Children. Careers. Commitments. Current events. Costs. Culture. Cars. Curtains. (Other things that also start with "C". :)   Ultimately, our job is to sacrifice for our priorities.    God.  Spouse. Kids. Everything else.   If you're not sacrificing for each (in that order), then it makes sense that you're not feeling the love from them.    I encourage you to listen with a curious heart attuned to what the Lord may be drawing you to.   Blessings, Belah   PS - If you'd like our help with your marriage, your first step is a Clarity Call (a free gift from us) delightyourmarriage.com/cc     Before the Delighted Wife Program:   "Problems with tension and unforgiveness, exhaustion from childcare, loss of connection and lack of wholehearted intimacy. Husband was extremely resentful of me. I've lost respect for him. Was close to divorce.

There wasn't peace at home, kids constantly saw us arguing, I didn't want to be at home, I was doing many things on my own with the kids because my husband didn't want to do things with me, I was craving for other male attention who valued me." 

After the Delighted Wife Program:           

"My heart has softened and I can now see the brokenness in my husband, that he was just a very wounded soul. He was trying to love me and wanted this marriage to work but he had no clue how to go about improving it and was instead making things worse. 

Wholehearted intimacy. Not arguing for a long time and the atmosphere has completely shifted, there is peace at home and he is a much happier and better father to the children...

Impacted everything, it turned everything around. My husband is now loving, patient, caring, and a very present and patient father."