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Today we dive into two listener emails on the topic of oral sex within a marriage and the dynamics of power that can be associated with it.

Everyone has different preferences and aspects of sex that they enjoy more than others - so we look at the issue through the lens of power and how it can be a way for people to feel sexy and in control.

Our conversation also addresses a listener's frustration with their spouse's reluctance to engage in oral sex and the power dynamics at play in their relationship. 

Takeaways

People have different preferences and aspects of sex that they enjoy more than others.
Engaging in oral sex can be a way for individuals to feel sexy and in control.
Power dynamics can play a role in sexual encounters, and it's important to navigate them in a healthy and consensual way.
Open communication and self-reflection are key to addressing challenges and frustrations in a sexual relationship.
Marriage should not be based on quid pro quo or manipulative power plays, but on love, collaboration, and mutual pleasure.

On the Xtended Version ...

A listener emails in about a fear he has that his girlfriends physical appearance may lead to potential performance issues if they get married. Even though she is perfect in every way!

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This week, Dr. Corey and Irene Fehr discuss the concept of highly sensitive people (HSPs) and how it relates to sexual desire in long-term relationships.

We explore the different types of sexual desire models, with most women being highly responsive. And we also delve into the characteristics of HSPs, including sensory sensitivity, emotional sensitivity, energetic sensitivity, and introspection.

Irene explains the importance of acknowledging and managing overstimulation for HSPs, as well as the need for emotional de-armoring and a slow, spacious progression in physical intimacy.

Our conversation emphasizes the importance of self-care and collaboration in creating a better connectedness within the dynamic of a relationship.

Learn more about Irene here - https://www.irenefehr.com/

Takeaways

Highly sensitive people (HSPs) tend to be highly responsive and sensitive to their environment, both sensorially and energetically.
HSPs have a sensitive nervous system wiring, which leads to more input being registered and more time spent processing that information.
HSPs may experience overwhelm, overstimulation, and a sense of armoring as a result of their heightened sensitivity.
Creating transition times and practicing self-care are essential for managing overstimulation and de-armoring.
Emotional dearmoring involves opening up emotionally and having heart-to-heart conversations to melt the armor and foster intimacy.
In physical intimacy, HSPs need a slow, spacious progression that focuses on touch that is first affectionate and comforting before becoming more sensual and sexual.

On the Xtended Version ...

Pam and I give our take on the concept of Highly Sensitive People. 

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This week was recorded live the 2024 SMR Getaway Q&A.

We answer a voicemail from a listener who has realized that since they began listening to SMR and talking more about their sex lives with each other, they don't fight anymore. 

We also have an email from a husband who is aroused by big, beautiful women, yet married a woman who is not. Instead she was safe and mature. What can he do?

On the Xtended Version ...

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Dr Chelom Leavitt joins me again on the show. Today we talk about the research she has found regarding the importance of touch in our lives, and relationships. 

Touch means lots of things - but both the non-sexual and the sexual touch are vitally important in our marriages. 

Learn more about Dr Leavitt here https://www.chelomleavitt.com/

On the Xtended version …

Chelom and I talk through the topic of how to talk about sex with your kids. 

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Think of today's episode as a primer for everything we talk about on SMR.

What are our basic frameworks when addressing life and marriage?

How do we approach the idea of growing up in marriage?

In the regular version we cover Dr David Schnarch's Four Points of Balance.

On the Xtended version …

We explore the principles of passion and desire and how they play out in marriage and life. These are natural dynamics found in every marriage.

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Dr Kelly Casperson joins us again as we dive into the world of women's sexual health - specifically the world of menopause and perimenopause.

Let's face it, every woman will face these stages in life - what are the things you need to ask, know and do to help you through this life stage?

Learn more about Dr Kelly here - https://www.kellycaspersonmd.com/

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Dr Justin Lehmiller joins me to talk about his research surrounding fantasies and sex.

On the Xtended version …

Justin and I continue the conversation about fantasies and discuss more about where they come from and what to do with them.

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Many, if not most, of us have some sort of sexual brokenness or shame or trauma in our pasts. Today we have a conversation with Jay Stringer about his work in this area.

Learn more about Jay and his work here - https://jay-stringer.com/

On the Xtended version …

Jay and I dive into his research on the subject of sexual brokenness and porn and trauma. How do you deal with unwanted sexual behaviors in your life when they may be coming from things in your past?

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A conversation about men and what it is we really need from men in our marriages, families and societies with author Brant Hansen.

How can a guy who plays the flute and accordion and with puppets write a book about manliness?

What is so terrible about men who are passive?

What should we as men really be doing in our lives and relationships?

Learn more about Brant here https://branthansen.com 

On the Xtended version …

We talk about how our society has become the world of the perpetually offended, and what can we do about it. 

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It's Feedback Wednesday so we answer listener's emails and voicemails.

A husband is more well-endowed than his petite wife is able to receive without anxiety and even pain. How can they navigate this kind of size difference?

A voicemail with a thought we missed on Episode #580, where a husband wanted to go down on his wife after climaxing inside her.

A wife went to the hospital to deliver a baby and came home with a different body. At least that's what her husband says.

On the Xtended version …

We've talked a lot about how we get in our own way when you're the higher desire spouse for sex. Could this also be true when you're the higher desire spouse for emotional intimacy?

A husband has lost his erection several times and now is struggling while his wife is pregnant. She takes it personally - and so does he. What can they do?

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