Husband Material – Détails, épisodes et analyse

If you've spent years wishing your sexual thoughts and feelings would go away, this episode is for you. 

Related resources:

• Unwanted, by Jay Stringer (paid link)
• How To Interpret Sexual Fantasies
• How To Analyze Sexual Fantasies
• Why We Sexualize Emotions...And How To Desexualize Them

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Take the Husband Material Journey...

• Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube
• Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community
• Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn
• Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy

Thanks for listening!

Have you ever felt unable to enter into your wife's pain? In this episode, Nathaniel Gustafson explains how to come close to your wife in a way she is more likely to trust. You'll learn how to stay out of shame, keep the spotlight on her, and practice these skills before "game time." Sobriety is not enough. You must learn empathy. Nathaniel's compassionate guidance will help you develop it.

Watch the video of this episode here.

Nathaniel Gustafson is a licensed professional counselor and ordained pastor who specializes in working with men and couples recovering from pornography and affairs. Nathaniel also offers monthly webinars alongside his wife, Tammy.

Learn more about Nathaniel at tenderheartedmen.com

Join Nathaniel's next Know Your Why Workshop in October!

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Take the Husband Material Journey...

• Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube
• Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community
• Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn
• Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy

Thanks for listening!

Have you ever been disappointed by traditional counseling or talk therapy? In this episode, you'll discover the power of a whole-brain approach to outgrowing porn. You'll learn the why, what, and how of experiential healing work. This episode is required viewing for my clients.

Related episodes:

• How To Heal Your Inner Child
• Experience Healing Through IFS
• Experience Healing Through The Immanuel Approach
• Experience Healing Through Psychodrama
• Healing Through Artwork And Storywork
• Attunement: The Key To Connection

Are you interested in doing experiential healing work?

• Join the waitlist for HMA: joinHMA.com
• Apply for 1:1 coaching with me: drewboa.com/application
• Apply for our next healing weekend: husbandmaterial.com/apply

Support the show

Take the Husband Material Journey...

• Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube
• Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community
• Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn
• Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy

Thanks for listening!

Do you know what it's like to struggle with depression or anxiety in addition to porn? Ben Bennett does; he has also experienced years of freedom. In this episode, Ben unpacks how mental health challenges and unwanted sexual behavior are related. Using a mix of science and Scripture, he also highlights the path to healing. This episode is important!

Ben Bennett is an author, podcast host, and speaker with Josh McDowell Ministry as the Director of Resolution Movement–a global movement helping people overcome hurts and struggles and thrive in life. Ben helps individuals young and old understand and work through the underlying factors driving the unhealthy patterns in their lives.

Buy Ben's book, co-authored with Josh McDowell (this is a paid link):
Free To Thrive: How Your Hurt, Struggles, And Deepest Longings Can Lead To A Fulfilling Life

Connect with Ben on Instagram @benvbennett

Support the show

Take the Husband Material Journey...

• Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube
• Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community
• Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn
• Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy

Thanks for listening!

Listen to my sermon about embodied brotherhood from the recent Husband Material Retreat in Santa Barbara.

Psalm 133 (NIV 1984)

"How good and pleasant it is
    when brothers live together in unity!
  It is like precious oil poured on the head,
    running down on the beard,
running down on Aaron's beard,
    down upon the collar of his robes.
  It is as if the dew of Hermon
     were falling on Mount Zion.
  For there the LORD bestows his blessing,
     even life forevermore."

The Beauty Of Brotherhood
Sermon on Psalm 133 by Drew Boa 
Sunday, September 11th, 2022 

1. Embodied brotherhood is precious & rare
2. Embodied brotherhood is powerful & refreshing
3. Embodied brotherhood is eternal

Watch the original video recording of this episode here.

Support the show

Take the Husband Material Journey...

• Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube
• Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community
• Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn
• Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy

Thanks for listening!

Marnie Ferree understands sex addiction from both sides: from personal experience, and from being a partner. In this episode, Marnie shares her story of grief and growth after discovering her own sexual betrayal trauma.

Marnie Ferree is a licensed marriage and family therapist in Nashville, Tennessee, where she directs Bethesda Workshops, which provides Christian-based treatment for sex addicts, their partners, couples, and teens affected by sexual addiction. Learn more at bethesdaworkshops.org.

Buy Marnie's books here (these are paid links):

• Out Of The Doghouse For Christian Men: A Redemptive Guide For Men Caught Cheating (co-authored with Dr. Rob Weiss)
• No Stones: Women Redeemed From Sexual Addiction

Support the show

Take the Husband Material Journey...

• Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube
• Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community
• Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn
• Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy

Thanks for listening!

What is intimate deception betrayal trauma? Why is it so hard for partners of porn users to get help? When it comes to healing, what (doesn't) work? Dr. Sheri Keffer explains how porn impacts partners—and more importantly, what we can do about it. She even guides you on how to share this episode with your wife or girlfriend without triggering her. If you're married, your wife will love hearing from Dr. Sheri!

Dr. Sheri Keffer is the author of Intimate Deception (paid link) and a regular cohost of New Life Live! with an audience of more than two million people each week. For over twenty years, she’s worked as a Doctor of Marriage and Family therapy in Newport Beach, California. Through her own personal story of recovery, Dr. Sheri understands the trauma symptoms often associated with sexual betrayal. As a Certified Partner Trauma Therapist Supervisor (CPTT-S), Certified Clinical Partner Specialist (CCPS), Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT) and a Consultant in EMDR, she brings new tools and a fresh look at what’s needed not only to heal but heal well. Dr. Sheri also holds a degree in theology from Fuller Theological Seminary. You can follow her on social media on Instagram or Facebook @drsherikeffer.

Have you been impacted by sexual betrayal?
Take Dr. Sheri's quiz: braveone.com/takethequiz

Buy Dr. Sheri's award-winning book (this is a paid link):
Intimate Deception: Healing The Wounds Of Sexual Betrayal

***For A Limited Time***
Check out Dr. Sheri's BraveOne Community for women healing from intimate deception betrayal trauma 

Support the show

Take the Husband Material Journey...

• Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube
• Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community
• Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn
• Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy

Thanks for listening!

Attunement is the ability to be aware of and respond to another person's needs—and our own needs, too.  In this episode, you'll learn the building blocks of good attunement, why over-attunement is unhelpful and exhausting, and how to practically sharpen your attunement skills and improve your relationships. 

How Husband Material can help:

• Receive attunement from a Husband Material Coach
• Observe attunement in Husband Material Academy
• Practice attunement in a Husband Material Group

Support the show

Take the Husband Material Journey...

• Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube
• Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community
• Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn
• Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy

Thanks for listening!

What does redemption look like for men who experience unwanted same-sex attraction? Harrison Bly grew up "too gay to be Christian, too Christian to be gay." In this episode, Harrison shares his story of freedom through vulnerability, sonship, brotherhood, and redefining masculinity.

Harrison Bly writes with a firm and unusual resolve about male sexuality. He uses story as a way to make sense of taboo subjects that are often over-simplified and misunderstood. Secretly gay in a conservative Christian world, Harrison compromised authenticity only to find shallow acceptance. On the crooked path to manhood, Harrison fumbled in the dark between ideologies on faith and homosexuality that failed to acknowledge his deepest wounds and longings. But through unplanned and unlikely relationships, Harrison discovered the transforming power of male love that reframed his obsessions, cravings, and curiosities, challenging everything he had come to accept about his masculinity and sexuality.

Buy Harrison's book here (this is a paid link):
Bent On Men: A Memoir On Taboo Feelings, Fraternal Curiosity, And Faith

Learn more at bentonmen.com

Join our upcoming live event on SSA & OSA friendship inside the Husband Material Community

Support the show

Take the Husband Material Journey...

• Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube
• Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community
• Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn
• Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy

Thanks for listening!

What does it look like to untangle unwanted same-sex attraction toward men? Harrison Bly grew up "too gay to be Christian, too Christian to be gay." In this episode, Harrison shares vulnerable stories from boyhood that shed light on why and how he sexualized masculinity.

Harrison Bly writes with a firm and unusual resolve about male sexuality. He uses story as a way to make sense of taboo subjects that are often over-simplified and misunderstood. Secretly gay in a conservative Christian world, Harrison compromised authenticity only to find shallow acceptance. On the crooked path to manhood, Harrison fumbled in the dark between ideologies on faith and homosexuality that failed to acknowledge his deepest wounds and longings. But through unplanned and unlikely relationships, Harrison discovered the transforming power of male love that reframed his obsessions, cravings, and curiosities, challenging everything he had come to accept about his masculinity and sexuality.

Buy Harrison's book here (this is a paid link):
Bent On Men: A Memoir On Taboo Feelings, Fraternal Curiosity, And Faith

Learn more at bentonmen.com

Support the show

Take the Husband Material Journey...

• Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube
• Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community
• Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn
• Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy

Thanks for listening!