Explorez tous les épisodes du podcast Husband Material
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| Why Doesn't God Remove My Sexual Thoughts And Feelings? (LIVE) | 02 Sep 2024 | 00:39:59 | |
If you've spent years wishing your sexual thoughts and feelings would go away, this episode is for you.
Thanks for listening! | |||
| How To Develop Empathy For Your Wife (with Nathaniel Gustafson) | 26 Aug 2024 | 00:48:56 | |
Have you ever felt unable to enter into your wife's pain? In this episode, Nathaniel Gustafson explains how to come close to your wife in a way she is more likely to trust. You'll learn how to stay out of shame, keep the spotlight on her, and practice these skills before "game time." Sobriety is not enough. You must learn empathy. Nathaniel's compassionate guidance will help you develop it.
Thanks for listening! | |||
| How To Do Experiential Healing Work | 24 Jun 2024 | 00:24:21 | |
Have you ever been disappointed by traditional counseling or talk therapy? In this episode, you'll discover the power of a whole-brain approach to outgrowing porn. You'll learn the why, what, and how of experiential healing work. This episode is required viewing for my clients.
Thanks for listening! | |||
| Porn, Anxiety, And Depression (with Ben Bennett) | 03 Oct 2022 | 00:31:34 | |
Do you know what it's like to struggle with depression or anxiety in addition to porn? Ben Bennett does; he has also experienced years of freedom. In this episode, Ben unpacks how mental health challenges and unwanted sexual behavior are related. Using a mix of science and Scripture, he also highlights the path to healing. This episode is important!
Thanks for listening! | |||
| The Beauty Of Brotherhood (Psalm 133) | 26 Sep 2022 | 00:40:01 | |
Listen to my sermon about embodied brotherhood from the recent Husband Material Retreat in Santa Barbara.
Watch the original video recording of this episode here.
Thanks for listening! | |||
| Wisdom After Sexual Betrayal (with Marnie Ferree) | 19 Sep 2022 | 00:31:21 | |
Marnie Ferree understands sex addiction from both sides: from personal experience, and from being a partner. In this episode, Marnie shares her story of grief and growth after discovering her own sexual betrayal trauma.
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| Healing From Sexual Betrayal (with Dr. Sheri Keffer) | 12 Sep 2022 | 00:53:27 | |
What is intimate deception betrayal trauma? Why is it so hard for partners of porn users to get help? When it comes to healing, what (doesn't) work? Dr. Sheri Keffer explains how porn impacts partners—and more importantly, what we can do about it. She even guides you on how to share this episode with your wife or girlfriend without triggering her. If you're married, your wife will love hearing from Dr. Sheri!
Thanks for listening! | |||
| Attunement: The Key To Connection | 06 Sep 2022 | 00:29:54 | |
Attunement is the ability to be aware of and respond to another person's needs—and our own needs, too. In this episode, you'll learn the building blocks of good attunement, why over-attunement is unhelpful and exhausting, and how to practically sharpen your attunement skills and improve your relationships.
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| Bent On Men, Part 2 (with Harrison Bly) | 29 Aug 2022 | 00:29:08 | |
What does redemption look like for men who experience unwanted same-sex attraction? Harrison Bly grew up "too gay to be Christian, too Christian to be gay." In this episode, Harrison shares his story of freedom through vulnerability, sonship, brotherhood, and redefining masculinity.
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| Bent On Men, Part 1 (with Harrison Bly) | 22 Aug 2022 | 00:40:20 | |
What does it look like to untangle unwanted same-sex attraction toward men? Harrison Bly grew up "too gay to be Christian, too Christian to be gay." In this episode, Harrison shares vulnerable stories from boyhood that shed light on why and how he sexualized masculinity.
Thanks for listening! | |||
| What Does The Bible Say About Purity? (LIVE) | 15 Aug 2022 | 00:33:18 | |
The word "purity" must be defined without the damaging messages of purity culture. In this episode, I'll explain 3 types of purity in the Bible. I'll also share a vulnerable story about my own lack of purity. Then at the end, I'll answer questions and clarify the true meaning of purity.
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| How To Track Your Heart (with Josh Glaser) | 08 Aug 2022 | 00:35:07 | |
How do you discover the deeper roots underneath surface-level sexual symptoms? Josh Glaser guides us in "tracking the heart," revealing where unwanted thoughts, feelings, and behaviors come from.
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| How To Teach Children About Sexuality (with Adam + Karissa King) | 01 Aug 2022 | 00:49:19 | |
What should sex education look like in today's world? Adam and Karissa King explain why parents must teach children about sexuality from a young age—and how to make these conversations easy, effective, and even fun.
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| Restoration After Porn Relapse (with Rocky Pisor) | 17 Jun 2024 | 00:40:36 | |
How do you pursue restoration after a relapse, especially in marriage or ministry leadership? Rocky Pisor tells his own story of processing a porn relapse after 17 years of sobriety. You'll learn how to notice the warning signs of impending relapse, and how to respond to relapse with curiosity and compassion rather than punishing yourself or pretending like everything is fine. There is wisdom in this episode!
Thanks for listening! | |||
| Internal Family Systems And Jesus (with Kim Miller) | 25 Jul 2022 | 00:48:06 | |
Are you frustrated by internal conflict? Tired of being overwhelmed by thoughts and feelings? Kim Miller explains a Christ-centered approach to internal family systems (IFS). You'll learn the 5 steps of "taking a you-turn" so every part of you can encounter Jesus and be led by your Spirit-led self.
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| Outgrowing Porn From A To Z (Part 2) | 18 Jul 2022 | 00:26:34 | |
N is for Ninety Days
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| Outgrowing Porn From A To Z (Part 1) | 11 Jul 2022 | 00:25:54 | |
In this episode, you'll learn 13 key concepts for outgrowing porn based on the first 13 letters of the alphabet. Check out the list below for further information about each key concept (including paid links):
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| Neglect: Hidden Trauma (with Stephen Thomas) | 04 Jul 2022 | 00:50:49 | |
How do I know if I was neglected? And what can I do about it? Stephen Thomas unpacks 6 types of neglect, why neglect fuels shame and addiction, and what we can do as we recognize ways we have been neglected.
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| Redeeming Heartache (with Cathy Loerzel) | 27 Jun 2022 | 00:46:09 | |
Heartache has a pattern, and so does healing. Author and therapist Cathy Loerzel explains the 3 types of heartache, and a powerful path to healing for each one. Learn how your past has uniquely prepared you to experience more joy.
Thanks for listening! | |||
| The Five Types Of Intimacy | 20 Jun 2022 | 00:17:42 | |
What is intimacy? How can I find it? Most intimacy is not sexual. Most intimacy is spiritual, social, emotional, mental, and physical. Learn why each type of intimacy matters, and how to experience each one without sex or porn.
Thanks for listening! | |||
| Get Your Man Cards (with Henry Brown) | 13 Jun 2022 | 00:46:55 | |
Men are lonely. How can we develop deeper friendships? Introducing Man Cards: a card deck of conversation starters for men designed by Drew Boa and Henry Brown. In this episode, Drew and Henry introduce Man Cards and show you how to use them.
Get your Man Cards at getyourmancards.com
Thanks for listening! | |||
| Why Porn Is A Solution (with Matt Dobschuetz) | 06 Jun 2022 | 00:37:09 | |
You'll never outgrow porn if you believe it's the problem. In this episode, Matt Dobschuetz explains why porn is a solution, and the surprising reason why one particular type of porn has appealed to him. This man overflows with kindness and hope!
Thanks for listening! | |||
| Long Distance Friendship (with Drew, Stephen, Marcus, and Mike) | 30 May 2022 | 00:45:25 | |
Do you ever wish your friends lived closer? In today's world, long distance friendship is more possible and pervasive than ever. What are the blessings and drawbacks of this? In this episode, Husband Material coaches talk about how to maximize authentic connection, both long distance and locally.
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| Becoming Emotionally Mature (with Dr. Eddie Capparucci) | 23 May 2022 | 00:39:17 | |
What is emotional maturity? How can we increase our emotional intelligence? In this episode, Dr. Eddie Capparucci explains the three components of emotional maturity, why men struggle to love, and what we can do about it.
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| It's Good To Be Aroused (with Sam Jolman) | 10 Jun 2024 | 00:46:24 | |
"There is nothing inherently wrong with an aroused man." What is arousal? Why is it good? Sam Jolman helps us reclaim the heart of masculine sexuality for the purpose of awe, play, and worshipping God. You'll learn how arousal always has a script, why evil hates arousal, and the difference between sexuality and sensuality. At the end, you'll receive a beautiful blessing from Sam. This episode is amazing! Sam Jolman (MA, LPC) is a trauma therapist with over twenty years of experience specializing in men’s issues and sexual trauma recovery. His writing flows out of this unique opportunity to help people know and heal their stories, and find greater sexual wholeness and aliveness. He received his master’s in counseling from Reformed Theological Seminary and was further trained in Narrative Focused Trauma Care through the Allender Center at The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology. Sam lives in Colorado with his wife and three sons. Fun fact: Sam and Drew attend the same church! Buy Sam's new book (paid link): Join Sam's newsletter for a free copy of the first chapter: samjolman.substack.com Learn more and connect with Sam at samjolman.com
Thanks for listening! | |||
| Sexual Arousal vs. Sexual Desire (with Dr. Doug Carpenter) | 16 May 2022 | 00:15:43 | |
What is the difference between sexual arousal and sexual desire, and why does it matter? In this episode, Dr. Doug Carpenter powerfully explains this concept and why it is absolutely essential for outgrowing porn.
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| Should I Count The Days Since I Last Used Porn? | 09 May 2022 | 00:21:23 | |
Let me help you decide if “counting the days” is right for you. In this episode, you'll learn 2 bad reasons to count, 3 good reasons to count, and what works for me... If you loved this episode, you will probably love my book, Redeemed Sexuality. Buy it here (this is a paid link): Redeemed Sexuality: 12 Sessions For Healing And Transformation In Community.
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| Porn And Centering Prayer (with Matthew Lyda) | 02 May 2022 | 00:35:24 | |
What is centering prayer? How can it help us when we're triggered or preoccupied? In this episode, Matthew Lyda explains the 4 Rs of centering prayer:
Matthew Lyda is a Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional and a poet. He is the author of Recover The Wild: Unfiltered Poems And Prayers (paid link). Matthew is also trained as a mental health & life purpose coach. Take Matthew's free 5-day course on centering prayer here.
Thanks for listening! | |||
| The Gospel And Trauma (with Matt Wenger) | 25 Apr 2022 | 01:06:20 | |
How does the gospel interact with trauma? In this episode, Matt Wenger explains a Christ-centered and clinically innovative approach to healing trauma and outgrowing pornography.
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| How To Heal Your Inner Child: Older Brother Coaching | 18 Apr 2022 | 01:04:32 | |
What if you could become a loving older brother to your inner child? In this episode, you'll discover how to do this through Older Brother Coaching.
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| The Blessing Of Being Reported (with Rich Moore) | 11 Apr 2022 | 00:31:29 | |
What if being reported for criminal sexual activity can be a blessing? In this episode, Rich Moore explains how being reported saved his life and propelled him into healing. Rich also reveals how to know if you should report yourself or someone else to local authorities.
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| Healing Racial Trauma (with Sheila Wise Rowe) | 04 Apr 2022 | 00:40:24 | |
What is racial trauma? How does it affect us all, and what does healing look like? In this episode, Sheila Wise Rowe shares insights and stories about how racial trauma can be healed.
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| Why Didn’t I Like Vaginas? | 28 Mar 2022 | 00:19:27 | |
If you’re not attracted to typical porn, have you ever wondered why? In this episode, I explore the roots of my negative association with female sexual parts due to purity culture, parents, peers, princesses, and porn.
To understand how purity culture keeps men trapped in porn, take my free mini-course at outgrowporn.com
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| How Does God View My Body? (with Matt Cline) | 21 Mar 2022 | 00:39:13 | |
What does God think about my face, my gut, and my penis? In this episode, Matt Cline unpacks what the Bible says about our bodies—why they have value, and how we can reclaim the parts we don't like.
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| Toxic Shame vs. Healthy Shame (with Dr. Jake Porter) | 14 Mar 2022 | 00:41:24 | |
Is there such a thing as healthy shame? How can we heal from toxic shame? In this episode, Dr. Jake Porter shares eye-opening answers to these questions from science and scripture.
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| Freedom From Gay Porn (LIVE) | 03 Jun 2024 | 01:00:44 | |
Why do I struggle with gay porn? What does freedom look like? How can I stop using gay porn? In this episode, I answer these questions based on years of research and helping hundreds of men achieve lasting freedom from gay porn.
Related episodes of Husband Material:
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| Vulnerability 101 (LIVE) | 07 Mar 2022 | 00:47:15 | |
What is true vulnerability? Why is it so important? When is it safe? And how can I get better at it? In this episode, I answer all these questions and more...
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| The Power Of Identity (with Sathiya Sam) | 28 Feb 2022 | 00:44:42 | |
Who are you? What defines you? Performance? Porn addiction? Sexual attraction? In this episode, Sathiya Sam reveals the power of having a secure identity, how to strengthen your sense of self, and why he recommends self-care using the 5 love languages.
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| Rags To Riches To Ruin To Redemption (with Dr. Joe Martin) | 21 Feb 2022 | 01:05:48 | |
"You can't possibly hate yourself more than I love you. You can try, but it ain't gonna happen. You can try, but I have until eternity. You don't. How long do you wanna keep playing this game of the pity party and this shame when I got so much more planned for you?" —Dr. Joe Martin
Thanks for listening! | |||
| How To Reframe A Porn Relapse | 14 Feb 2022 | 00:15:26 | |
What's the best way to respond to a relapse into porn, either for yourself or for a friend? In this episode, you'll learn the power of viewing relapse as feedback (not failure), the benefits of a growth mindset (not a fixed mindset), and the 3 types of feedback you must receive.
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| Healing From Sexual Abuse, Part 2 (with Mike Chapman) | 07 Feb 2022 | 00:39:09 | |
What is "normal" for survivors of sexual abuse? And what does healing look like? Mike Chapman offers validation and wisdom based on years of research and his personal healing journey.
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| Healing From Sexual Abuse, Part 1 (with Mike Chapman) | 31 Jan 2022 | 00:28:09 | |
You have to hear Mike's story. Mike Chapman is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse (CSA), trafficking, and sexual assault as an adult by clergy. He is also an incredible man of God, a powerful encourager, and a Certified Husband Material Coach with over 3 years of freedom from porn.
Thanks for listening! | |||
| Was I Sexually Abused? (with Dr. Doug Carpenter) | 24 Jan 2022 | 00:47:44 | |
How can I know if I was sexually abused, and why does it matter? In this episode, Dr. Doug Carpenter answers these important questions while opening up about his own early sexual experiences... and how resolving sexual confusion helped him find freedom from gay porn.
Thanks for listening! | |||
| Introduction To Healing Prayer (with Leslie Weinzettel) | 17 Jan 2022 | 00:51:35 | |
What is healing prayer? What is it (not) about? What can we expect from it? This episode is a must-listen for anyone who is interested in healing prayer, because Leslie Weinzettel offers incredibly helpful guidance on how to pray for one another in a way that is truly healing.
Thanks for listening! | |||
| Building A Porn-Free Body: Momentum (with Alex VanHouten) | 10 Jan 2022 | 00:49:52 | |
In this episode, Alex VanHouten shares wisdom about exercise, nutrition, and physical fitness while keeping God at the center of it all.
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| Building A Porn-Free Body: Motivation (with Alex VanHouten) | 03 Jan 2022 | 01:02:02 | |
How can physical fitness help you outgrow porn? In this episode, professional trainer Alex VanHouten explains why and how strengthening your body can strengthen your sexual integrity. Along the way, Alex shares a wealth of insights from science, Scripture, and his own story of freedom.
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| How Childhood Experiences Shape Sexual Development (with Drew, Doug, Eddie, and Matt) | 27 May 2024 | 00:30:07 | |
What's the point of processing childhood experiences? In this special episode recorded live at the Sexual Integrity Leadership Summit, Drew, Doug, Eddie, and Matt share insights and stories about how processing childhood experiences can help you outgrow porn.
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| The Beauty Of Elephant Seals | 27 Dec 2021 | 00:19:53 | |
Find out why northern elephant seals are my favorite animal, and how they have helped me unlearn self-contempt.
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| How To Make Sex Great (with Sheila Wray Gregoire) | 20 Dec 2021 | 00:40:07 | |
What if everything you’ve been taught about sex has set you up for disappointment? In this episode, Sheila Wray Gregoire explains how sex can become truly great—for both partners. She also unpacks the harmful teachings of "Every Man's Battle" and challenges husbands to make love, not just intercourse!
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| Appropriate Nudity Between Men (LIVE) | 13 Dec 2021 | 00:48:42 | |
When is nudity appropriate for men outgrowing porn? How can nudity become healing rather than harmful? In this episode, I will be vulnerable about my own experiences with nudity, and share what I have learned.
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