It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People – Détails, épisodes et analyse

In this insightful episode of "It's All Your Fault", Megan is joined by special guest Kevin Chafin, a licensed professional counselor from Kansas City, Missouri. With Bill away for the month, Megan and Kevin dive deep into the complexities of co-parenting, particularly when it comes to dealing with teenagers in high conflict situations. Together, they explore effective strategies for managing these challenging dynamics and provide valuable insights for parents navigating these difficult waters.

Understanding the Impact of Divorce on Teens
Megan and Kevin discuss how divorce can have a profound impact on teenagers, especially when it comes to their sense of security and emotional well-being. They emphasize the importance of parents providing a stable and supportive environment during this transformative period, even as the family system shifts from one household to two. Kevin shares his expertise on the developmental challenges that teens face during puberty and how these can be exacerbated by the stress of a family breakup.

Avoiding the Pitfalls of Parentification
One of the key themes explored in this episode is the concept of parentification – when children, particularly teens, are put into the role of a parent. Megan and Kevin delve into how this can happen when parents become emotionally needy and look to their children for support and validation. They discuss the importance of maintaining healthy boundaries and not burdening teens with adult responsibilities or expecting them to choose sides in parental conflicts.

Strategies for Effective Co-Parenting Communication
Megan and Kevin also share practical tips for improving communication between co-parents, drawing on their extensive experience working with families in high conflict situations. They highlight the value of using BIFF responses (Brief, Informative, Friendly, Firm) to keep interactions focused and productive, even in the face of hostility or misinformation. Kevin also shares insights from his work as a mediator and counselor, emphasizing the importance of staying child-centered and avoiding loyalty demands.

Questions we answer in this episode:

• How does divorce impact teenagers differently than younger children?
• What are the signs that a child is being parentified?
• How can co-parents improve communication and reduce conflict?
• What strategies can parents use to support their teens during a family breakup?
• How can parents avoid putting their teens in the middle of adult conflicts?

Key Takeaways:

• Divorce can be especially challenging for teens due to the developmental changes of puberty.
• Parentification occurs when children are put into adult roles and expected to emotionally support their parents.
• Using BIFF responses can help keep co-parenting communication focused and productive.
• Parents should prioritize their child's emotional well-being and avoid loyalty demands.
• Seeking support from counselors or mediators can be valuable for high conflict situations.

This episode offers a wealth of knowledge and practical strategies for parents navigating the challenges of co-parenting and raising teens in high conflict situations. With their combined expertise, Megan and Kevin provide a compassionate and informative perspective on these complex issues, offering hope and guidance for families struggling to find their way forward.

Links & Other Notes

• AUTHOR WEBSITE
  • Kevin Chafin, LPC
  • Missouri Chapter, Association of Family & Conciliation Courts
• BOOKS
  • BIFF for Co-parent Communication
• VIDEO
  • BIFF video
• OUR WEBSITE: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/
• Submit a Question for Bill and Megan
• All of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.
• You can also find these show notes at our site as well.

Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.

• (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault
• (00:39) - Kevin Chafin and Co-Parenting
• (01:22) - Meet Kevin
• (09:26) - The Learning Mind of a Child
• (24:04) - Parentification
• (35:23) - Clarity
• (49:59) - Listen
• (50:50) - Wrap Up
• (51:09) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: Co-Parenting By Design

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Navigating the Challenges of Co-Parenting: Insights from Annette Burns and Nicole Siqueiros-Stoutner

In this episode of "It's All Your Fault," Megan is joined by two special guests, Annette Burns and Nicole Siqueiros-Stoutner, co-authors of the upcoming book Co-Parenting by Design: The Definitive Guide for Divorced or Separated Parents. Annette and Nicole, both experienced family law attorneys and parenting coordinators, share their insights on navigating the complexities of co-parenting and offer practical advice for parents facing high conflict situations.

Understanding the Role of Parenting Coordinators

Megan, Annette, and Nicole delve into the crucial role of parenting coordinators in helping divorced or separated parents resolve disputes and maintain focus on their children's best interests. They discuss how parenting coordinators act as referees, mediators, and educators, assisting parents in making decisions on issues such as parenting schedules, school choice, and healthcare.

Adapting to Change and Prioritizing Children's Needs

The guests emphasize the importance of adaptability in co-parenting, as children's needs and circumstances evolve over time. They highlight the challenges parents face when adjusting to new situations, such as remarriage, relocation, and changes in parenting time. Annette and Nicole stress the significance of prioritizing children's well-being and maintaining consistency in parenting approaches whenever possible.

Questions we answer in this episode:

• What is a parenting coordinator, and how can they help divorced or separated parents?
• How can parents navigate changes in their children's lives and adapt their co-parenting strategies?
• What is parallel parenting, and when is it an appropriate approach?
• How can parents handle disagreements over parenting styles and household rules?
• What resources are available for parents struggling with high conflict co-parenting situations?

Key Takeaways:

1. Parenting coordinators play a vital role in assisting divorced or separated parents in resolving disputes and focusing on their children's best interests.
2. Adaptability is crucial in co-parenting as children's needs and circumstances change over time.
3. Parallel parenting can be an effective approach for high conflict situations, but its implementation varies depending on the family's unique dynamics.
4. Parents should strive for consistency in parenting approaches whenever possible while respecting each other's parenting time and decision-making authority.
5. Seeking education, resources, and support from professionals can help parents navigate the challenges of high conflict co-parenting.

This episode offers invaluable insights and practical advice for divorced or separated parents facing the challenges of co-parenting. By learning from the expertise of Annette Burns and Nicole Siqueiros-Stoutner, listeners can gain a deeper understanding of how to prioritize their children's well-being, adapt to change, and navigate high conflict situations. Co-Parenting by Design promises to be an essential resource for parents, lawyers, and judges alike, providing guidance and strategies for creating a healthier co-parenting dynamic.

Links & Other Notes

• BOOKS
  • Co-parenting by Design: The Definitive Guide for Divorced or Separated Parents 
• GUEST BIOS
  • Annette T. Burns, JD
  • Nicole Siqueiros-Stoutner
• OUR WEBSITE: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/
• Submit a Question for Bill and Megan
• All of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.
• You can also find these show notes at our site as well.

Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.

• (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault
• (00:39) - Co-Parenting by Design
• (01:14) - Meet Annette and Nicole
• (04:14) - How It Came About
• (08:56) - Parenting Coordinators
• (12:58) - Agreements
• (16:53) - Different Rules
• (22:00) - Parallel Parenting
• (26:16) - Multiple Court Trips
• (30:28) - Alienation
• (39:40) - Advice on Family Law
• (44:14) - The Book
• (46:59) - Wrap Up
• (47:17) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: Co-Parenting By Design

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Confronting Bullies in the Workplace and Mediation with Bill Eddy and Michael Lomax

In the second episode of the World of Bullies series, Bill and Megan welcome Michael Lomax to explore bullying in the workplace and mediation. As co-founders of the High Conflict Institute and an esteemed speaker, respectively, they share their expertise on handling high conflict personalities in professional settings.

Bill and Michael emphasize the importance of managers thoroughly investigating bullying allegations and understanding the key characteristics of bullies, such as a lack of self-restraint, empathy, and remorse. They also discuss how bullies use emotional tactics to manipulate their targets and recruit negative advocates. Michael shares his experience meeting with alleged bullies who often present themselves as victims.

Questions we answer in this episode:

• What are the key characteristics of a workplace bully?
• How can managers effectively respond to bullying allegations?
• How can mediators handle high conflict personalities in mediation?

Key Takeaways:

• Managers should approach bullying allegations with a healthy skepticism and thoroughly investigate complaints.
• Bullies often lack self-restraint, empathy, and remorse, and may recruit negative advocates to help target their victims.
• Mediators can effectively handle high conflict personalities by remaining calm, setting boundaries, and focusing on realistic objectives.

This episode provides valuable insights and strategies for navigating bullying in the workplace and mediation, equipping listeners with the tools needed to create a healthier work environment.

Links & Other Notes

• BOOKS
  • Our New World of Adult Bullies—How to Spot Them/How to Stop Them (June 2024) By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.
  • Mediating High Conflict Disputes (By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq., and Michael Lomax, JD)
• BULLY DYNAMICS WEBINARS
  • Bully Dynamics in Families (September - will be 4 sessions over 4 weeks)
  • Bully Dynamics at Work (October - will be 4 sessions over 4 weeks)
  • Bully Dynamics in Communities (November - will be 4 sessions over 4 weeks)
• ARTICLES
  • Setting Limits and Imposing Consequences in 2 1/2 Steps
• COACHING CURRICULUM
  • New Ways for Work®: Coaching Manual (for workplace coaches)
  • New Ways for Work®: Workbook (for coachees)
• OUR WEBSITE: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/
• Submit a Question for Bill and Megan
• All of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.
• You can also find these show notes at our site as well.

Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.

• (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault
• (00:41) - World of Bullies #2: Bullying in the Workplace and in Mediation
• (01:22) - Michael Lomax's Background
• (03:58) - Bullies in the Workplace
• (23:16) - Bullies in Mediation
• (39:52) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: Bullies in Families

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Throughout the pandemic, which we’ve now been in for a little over two years, the fight has been “on” in the education world. Education – especially public education – has always been at the crossroads of many social and cultural changes, from bussing students across town, to benchmark academic standards for school funding, to which books are approved for teaching classes.

Then with Covid, the conflict flame grew even brighter as parents, schools, unions, and more fought over – and continue to fight – over masks, vaccinations, virtual classes, school shutdowns, gender issues, parent rights, Zoom classes, and more. Conflict abounds.

Bill and Megan speak with Sandra Just, MEd, founder of Just Look Within Coaching and Consulting. Sandra is an educator with 30+ years’ experience in public education as a teacher, administrator, and HR director. She discusses the current state of education, given the many issues that everyone involved in the system are faced with, including:

• How teachers cope and what keeps them going
• Conflicts with parents over setting reasonable limits in class
• School bullying and how, or whether, it can be dealt with effectively
• Managing school board meetings
• Conflict resolution training for teachers and administrators

Listen in as Bill and Megan talk with Sandra about school. As Sandra says, “We’re great at helping kids, but maybe we’re not so great at helping the adults in education.”

About Sandra Just

Sandra Just is the Founder and Principal of Just Look Within Coaching and Consulting. Sandra spent 31 years as an educator in the Denver Public Schools. During her time in DPS, she served as a teacher, counselor, performance management advisor, school leader, and interim regional assistant superintendent. She is known for developing her staff into leaders, supporting students to meet their goals, and creating a strong school culture. Sandra currently serves as a mentor for students in the para to teacher pipeline at the University of Northern Colorado Center for Urban Education. She also consults with School Works, as needed. Sandra earned her certificate as an Executive Coach in 2021 and is currently working toward Board Certification.

Sandra enjoys spending time with family and friends. She volunteers with the Rocky Mountain Down Syndrome Association.

Links & Other Notes

GUEST LINKS

• Sandra’s Website Just Look Within
• Follow Sandra on LinkedIn

BOOKS & AUDIO

• Managing High Conflict People in Higher Education
• BIFF: Quick Responses to High-Conflict People
• Calming Upset People with EAR

CONFLICT INFLUENCER CERTIFICATION COURSE

ARTICLES

• EAR Statement Can Calm Anyone

Our website: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/

Submit a Question for Bill and Megan

All of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.

You can also find these show notes at our site as well.

Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.

• (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault
• (01:27) - Sandra Just
• (04:19) - How Are Teachers Coping?
• (07:41) - How Are Teachers Responding?
• (08:37) - Physical Threats
• (10:28) - Percent of Parents With Issues
• (14:46) - Connecting to Calm
• (18:45) - Emotions Are Contagious
• (19:41) - Bullying
• (23:59) - Parents' Role as It Relates to Bullying
• (27:47) - Dealing With School Board Meetings
• (32:27) - Conflict Resolution Training
• (35:09) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: Revealing Someone's High Conflict

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Parents divorcing in protracted battles. Crowded family court dockets. Kids who spend their childhood with nervous stomachs, anxiety, and a yearning for their parents to just get along. A typical high-conflict divorce and co-parenting situation.

Most parents are able to work things out amicably but around 15-20% comprise the cases on the family court dockets. They are seemingly unable to resolve disputes and bring disputes to the court that others can work out themselves.

What makes them different? And what works for them? Bill Eddy interviews Susie Rayner, GradDip FDRP, who is the New Ways Program Manager for the High Conflict Institute. Susie is visiting the U.S. for the Association of Family & Conciliation Courts conference from her homeland, Australia.

Bill and Susie dive into the program that Bill created back in 2009 to help high conflict divorcing or separated parents—New Ways for Families®. It’s different from other co-parenting and divorce education courses because it focuses on teaching skills to handle conflict instead of lecturing about the do’s and don’ts of co-parenting. Listen in as Bill and Susie discuss New Ways for Families and how it helps parents get along and save lots of time, frustration and money; and how it helps the courts reduce their caseloads as the parents learn to make decisions without court.

Links & Other Notes

THE NEW WAYS FOR FAMILIES PROGRAM

• Training for therapists and divorce coaches
• Online course for parents

BOOKS

• New Ways for Families Professional Guidebook
• New Ways for Families Parent Workbook

ARTICLES

• How is New Ways for Families® Different Than A Parenting Class?
• New Ways Parent-Child Talk: What to say to your children during this time of transition
• Why New Ways for Families® is Going Online

GUEST BIO
SUSIE RAYNER, GradDip FDRP
Susie Rayner is the New Ways Program Manager for the High Conflict Institute. She manages each sub-brand of New Ways, including New Ways for Families, New Ways for Work, New Ways for Life, and New Ways for Mediation. Susie is a mediator, co-parenting coach, and was the founder of Mediate Negotiate, a family dispute resolution practice in Australia. Prior to becoming a dedicated family dispute resolution practitioner and family coach in 2018, she held positions in the corporate arena for 20 years. She also works in other areas of dispute resolution and volunteers with organizations that support people in crisis. She is the co-author of New Ways for Life™ Teacher Guide and Student Journal with Bill Eddy.

Our website: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/

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You can also find these show notes at our site as well.

Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.

• (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault
• (02:22) - Meet Susie Rayner
• (03:40) - New Ways for Families
• (10:31) - Putting It Into Practice
• (13:39) - Other Areas for Use
• (16:29) - Helping Parents Make Big Decisions
• (18:28) - Not Law-Based
• (20:35) - Success Story
• (26:21) - The New Ways for Life Method
• (31:57) - The Four Big Skills
• (35:33) - Reminders & Coming Next Week:
• (35:34) - Last Thoughts

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High conflict divorce is one the hardest trials one can go through. It’s so hard on parents and on their children. If you’ve ever wanted to know what it looks like from the inside, from someone who has been through it and come out the other side with good outcomes, listen to this episode featuring Bill and Megan’s guest, Shannon Jenkins from the podcast Starting Over with Shannon.

After hearing a bit of Shannon’s story, Bill and Megan will talk with her about:

• these many downs and a limited number of ups in high conflict cases
• strategies Shannon used in her own case that had positive results
• what made the case seem high conflict to her
• where she decided to go to get the best decisions in terms of parenting plans, finance, relocation efforts, and other major decisions (mediation, direct negotiations, court, out-of-court)
• domestic violence and child abuse allegations, and other “distractions” and “manipulations” used in the case
• some hopeful tips and encouragement for listeners who may be walking the path of high conflict separation, divorce and parenting/co-parenting

Links & Other Notes

• Shannon’s website
• Starting Over with Shannon: The Podcast

BOOKS

• Dating Radar
• 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life
• Splitting

ARTICLES

• Differences in Dealing with Borderline, Narcissistic and Antisocial Clients in Family Law
• Family Law: 3 Theories of the High-Conflict Case
• 6 Ways You Should Be Assertive in Family Court

Our website: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/

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All of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.

You can also find these show notes at our site as well.

Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.

• (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault
• (02:49) - Meet Shannon Jenkins
• (04:17) - Why Start Over?
• (06:49) - What Made the Divorce High Conflict?
• (10:44) - Finding How to Approach the Case
• (13:21) - Business Law
• (14:39) - The Hague Convention
• (16:21) - Some of the High Conflict Issues
• (19:47) - What Made It Work?
• (23:44) - Her Support Structure
• (29:04) - How Things Turned Out
• (33:16) - Confusion
• (35:31) - How Her Son's Doing
• (37:01) - Wrapping Up
• (39:23) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: Susie Rayner

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The legal case between Amber Heard and Johnny Depp has been heard around the world. It’s a case rife with allegations of domestic violence on both sides, which will be challenging for the jury to make a decision.

In this episode Bill and Megan discuss the case and why it is important to focus on the big picture rather than being persuaded by a single picture or an isolated story. They will discuss:

• What kind of case is it – family law or defamation?
• Who will decide – a judge or a jury?
• The four different types of domestic violence
• Whether the jurors can keep an open mind or not
• Can jurors avoid confirmation bias, assuming it’s always true, always false or always both?
• Why do juries and judges need 3 theories of any case of allegations of abuse?

Links & Other Notes

WEBSITES

• High Conflict Institute
• Conflict Playbook

COURSE

• Conversations About Domestic Violence in Family Law with 16 Experts: A 6-Part video series on Domestic Violence (DV) / Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) best practices in the family law environment in the United States and Canada

BOOKS

• Dating Radar: Why Your Brain Says Yes to “The One” Who Will Make Your Life Hell

ARTICLES

• Dating Denial
• Are Your Personality Awareness Skills Up to Date?
• Does Your Relationship Include Coercive Control?

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Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.

• (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault
• (02:22) - Johnny Depp and Amber Heard
• (03:46) - Types of Domestic Violence
• (08:10) - Trying to See the Big Picture
• (15:01) - Confirmation Bias
• (17:44) - Three Theories
• (21:01) - True or False
• (27:07) - Dating Radar
• (31:09) - Reminders
• (32:13) - Coming Next Week: DV Guest

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Workplace conflict is on the increase. According to a 2021 survey, 89% of employees from a diverse range of industries reported experiencing conflict at work, consuming 3.5 hours/week on average. Finding employees is challenging, making a calm workplace imperative if competitive advantage is to be gained. When incivility and bullies or other high conflict people are in the workplace, the impact goes deep.

In this episode Bill and Megan talk with guest Catherine Mattice, founder of Civility Partners, and author of Back Off! Your Kick-Ass Guide to End Bullying at Work. They will discuss:

• whether bullying is increasing
• the definition of bullying
• causes of bullying
• can it be eliminated?
• impact on others of bullying
• does coaching work?
• should a bully be terminated?
• should we have workplace bullying laws?
• creating a psychologically safe work environment

Catherine has a wealth of experience specifically in bullying, including the latest research.

Links & Other Notes

WEBSITES

• Civility Partners
• High Conflict Institute

BOOKS

• BACK OFF! Your Kick-Ass Guide to Ending Bullying at Work
• It’s All Your Fault at Work! Managing Narcissists and Other High Conflict People

ARTICLES

• Civility and the Surge Protector
• Why Don’t They Get It?
• Times are Edgy

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Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.

• (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault
• (02:22) - Catherine Mattice
• (03:49) - Catherine's Backstory
• (08:27) - Defining Workplace Bullying
• (11:16) - Causes of Workplace Bullying
• (13:46) - Eliminating It
• (16:03) - Those Who Are Impacted
• (16:58) - Is a Bully by Default an HCP?
• (19:43) - Reading the Population
• (22:11) - Evaluations
• (22:51) - Group Responses
• (24:30) - If You Need to Get Rid of Them
• (28:29) - How They Get There
• (30:00) - BIFF Certification
• (31:00) - What's Gratifying
• (32:50) - Workplace Bullying Laws
• (35:48) - Psychologically Safe Work Environment
• (41:58) - Finding Catherine
• (43:41) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: Johnny Depp & Amber Heard

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It’s time for the Q&A Lab again! In this episode, Bill and Megan answer listener questions on several topics, including:

• dealing with high conflict family members who accuse you of not living up to their expectations. Should hurtful comments be ignored? Should EAR Statements be used?
• similarities and differences of ADHD and personality disorders
• can ADHD co-exist with a high conflict personality in the same individual
• from a previous podcast on Russia’s Putin in which we suggested that he may suffer from malignant narcissism, and whether the term “psychopath” would be more accurate
• deciding when to use EAR Statements and BIFF Responses to create connection with a person with a high conflict personality, and when to just take distance or avoid them
• re-kindling an old friendship with someone with Borderline Personality HCP attributes

Listen as we break it down and answer these questions that truly have a significant impact on lives.

Links & Other Notes

BOOKS

It’s All Your Fault! 12 Tips for Managing People Who Blame Others for Everything

ARTICLES

The CARS Method® for Resolving High Conflict Situations

Don’t Let HCPs Ruin Your Life

You Can Strengthen Any Relationship With Empathy, Attention, and Respect

WEBSITE

Our website: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/

Submit a Question for Bill and Megan

All of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.

You can also find these show notes at our site as well.

Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.

• (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault
• (02:56) - Q&A Lab
• (03:08) - Question 1
• (10:28) - Question 2
• (17:07) - Question 3
• (22:46) - Question 4
• (26:08) - Question 5
• (32:54) - Links, Etc.
• (33:52) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: Catherine Mattice

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Family members (and friends) of someone who suffers from Borderline Personality Disorder (or BPD) are typically mystified about how to interact with them, walk on eggshells around them, and generally feel overwhelmed and defeated because they don’t know what to do.

In this episode, Bill and Megan continue their discussion with BPD expert Amanda Smith, LCSW, founder of HopeforBPD.com. Amanda is a highly skilled BPD and Dialectical Behavior Therapy expert, having helped countless clients through their recovery. She’s helped family members learn the necessary skills for helping their loved one best while also taking care of themselves. Amanda also provides treatment consultation. She is the author of two books:

• The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Wellness Planner
• The Borderline Personality Disorder Wellness Planner for Families

In this episode – part 2 of 2 – Amanda gives hope and help to family members and friends of those with BPD. She discusses what to do and what to avoid. She will explain whether BPD is a hopeless situation with no resolution or whether something can be done to intervene – including whether an “intervention” can work.

Links & Other Notes

• HopeforBPD
• The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Wellness Planner
• The Borderline Personality Disorder Wellness Planner

Our website: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/

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All of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.

You can also find these show notes at our site as well.

Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.

• (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault
• (02:39) - The Family of Someone With BPD
• (03:43) - Avoiding Blame
• (06:34) - Helping When They Don't See the Problem
• (08:28) - When in a Marriage
• (10:22) - Couples Counseling
• (12:25) - Intervention?
• (14:49) - Calling It Out
• (16:17) - How to Approach It
• (18:02) - In High Conflict Divorces
• (21:41) - E A R Statements
• (23:18) - Medication
• (24:59) - Amanda's Book
• (27:49) - Wrapping Up
• (30:03) - Reminders

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