The Teen Years Toolkit For Moms: Parenting Communication Skills to Calm the Chaos – Details, episodes & analysis

I have been seeing a lot of posts on the socials lately from parents struggling as their teens leave to go away to college for the first time.  

What is the advice for how to deal with this? Do I get a dog?  Do I find a new hobby?  

Before you do any of that listen to this episode.  You can do these things but you need to let your absolutely normal feelings about this be there and feel what you are feeling.  In this episode I offer some of my own personal ways that I dealt with this. 

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Do you find yourself frustrated with your teenager because you have all the best advice but they just don't listen?  

There is a principle rooted in health education called the "righting reflex" and we do it all the time as parents.

Guess what? It doesn't work very well.

Listen to find out what can work better and how it has you doing less as a parent.  I love a principle that can help me do less :)

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Welcome to Part 3 of this series! I'm exploring some parenting thoughts I have had in my own life that I now recognize as leading to no good outcome.  

This week the thought is "This shouldn't be so hard!"

I will explore why it makes sense that we think this, why it is NOT helpful and ideas about what to think instead.

Changing one thought can be so powerful.  Listen in to make some shifts today.

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I'm back with Part 2 of the Unhelpful Parenting Thoughts series!

This week we are looking at the thought "They should know better". Sounds like an OK reasonable thought but again we will be looking below the surface of this to see how it's working against you and your relationship with just about anybody you think this about.

I will go through why it makes sense we think this, when we think this most often and some ways to come up with a slightly more helpful thought.

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There are so many thoughts we have as parents that were handed to us and sound like the truth.  What if these thoughts are not helping us out as parents at all?  

Over the next few episodes I'm going to explore some of these unhelpful thoughts, how they could be hurting you and your teenager.  I will also offer you some other thought options to help you with all relationships.

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We've all heard about creating action plans, but what about creating a plan for how to think?  I get it, I always want to know what to do in any situation.  What I have found though is that it is more important for me to know what I am thinking about any situation that comes up.  This can then lead to better outcomes because I'm taking action from a more managed emotional state.

Here's the plan I talk about in this episode

1. What is the situation that triggers you?

2. How do you want to feel about this situation?

3. What could you think about this that could lead you to feel this way?

4. What actions would you be able to take if you were thinking and feel this way?  How might these actions be better than those you have taken in the past.  

5.  How might this thought and feeling help you show up the way you want to as a parent?

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Why are my old ways of parenting not working anymore?  What's happening now that I have a teenager that I feel like I've lost all of my parenting skills? You are not alone in this thinking.  

As our teenagers grow and change, so must we. It's not easy though and we can be so resistant to this.  It makes sense that we resist it but it also doesn't help make our parenting journey any easier.

In this episode I will share a helpful metaphor for this changing role and the reasons we may be revisiting this change.  I will also share some things you can do right now to bring some awareness to this.  Change is hard and it's hard for our teenagers and us alike.  Take heart, you are both going through massive changes in your relationship with each other. 

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Love yourself and others unconditionally they say..... This is simple in concept but harder in practical terms.  There is so much that comes up in our brains when we are told to love ourselves.  My hope for this episode is that you can begin to see a glimmer that this is possible for ourselves.  We are usually the hardest people to love.  

Who else can be tough to love at times? Well, teenagers, I mean we love them but sometimes we don't love them, love them.  If you want to practise unconditional love, your teenagers will give you plenty of opportunity to practise.

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Why don't people come with an instruction manual?  Especially our teenagers. Well they do, but the kicker is that we have made it up for them ourselves.  We have ideas about everyone we interact with according to our own world view.  

In this episode I explain this concept and how it has helped me view and improve the relationships with all of the people in my life.  

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Anger feels good sometimes.  We usually don't continue doing things that aren't working for us in some way.  This episode is looking at the ways in which we like to keep our anger and the ways anger helps us feel empowered sometimes.

What about when it doesn't work though and it is harming our most important relationships?  What do we do then. In this episode I teach you how to identify and work with righteous anger. We all have it and we all like to be right. I know I do but do we want to be right at the risk of the connection with our loved ones?

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