The Self Development Podcast – Details, episodes & analysis

In this episode, Jonny Lawrence interviews Taner Hassan, an integrative counsellor and psychotherapist specialising in sex and porn addiction, compulsive behaviour, and psychosexual issues. They discuss the importance of authenticity in therapy and the need for accurate information in the field. 

Taner shares his personal journey of self-love and acceptance, highlighting the transformative power of receiving love from others. He emphasises the importance of resonating with oneself and others in relationships. In this part of the conversation, Taner and Johnny discuss the challenges of trying to be someone else to fit in and be accepted. They share assuming stories of trying to change their accents and personas to please others. 

Taner reflects on embracing authenticity and not taking oneself too seriously. They also explore the emotions of anger and resentment and the need to acknowledge one's own part in conflicts. Taner emphasises the importance of feeling and processing emotions rather than avoiding them. In this final part of the conversation, Taner and Johnny discuss addictive behaviour, the dangers of sex and pornography addiction, and the impact of cheating on relationships.

Taner emphasises the importance of understanding the underlying reasons for addictive behaviour and the need to challenge the behaviour itself. He also highlights the distinction between having a sex addiction and being a sex offender. Taner encourages people to take risks, learn from failures, and visualise their goals. He also mentions his involvement in the movie 'Bermondsey Tales' and invites listeners to watch it.

• Working for oneself requires self-motivation and organisational skills.
• Authenticity is crucial in therapy and allows for a deeper connection with clients.
• Accurate information is essential in the field of therapy to provide effective help.
• Self-love and acceptance are transformative and require personal growth and reflection.
• Resonating with oneself and others is important in building meaningful relationships. Trying to be someone else to fit in and be accepted is exhausting and can lead to a loss of self-identity.
• Embracing authenticity and not taking oneself too seriously can lead to greater happiness and fulfilment.
• Anger is often a secondary emotion that masks underlying fear or other emotions.
• Resentment is toxic and can be resolved by acknowledging one's own part in conflicts.
• It is important to feel and process emotions rather than avoiding them. Understanding the underlying reasons for addictive behaviour is crucial in addressing and challenging the behaviour itself.
• There is a distinction between having a sex addiction and being a sex offender.
• Taking risks, learning from failures, and visualising goals are important for self-development.
• Relationships can recover from the betrayal of cheating, but it requires understanding the story and addressing the underlying issues.
• Taner invites listeners to watch the movie 'Bermondsey Tales' in which he has a role.

Instagram: @tanertherapy 

Website: https://www.taner-hassan.com/ 

Website: https://www.theselfdevelopmentcoach.co.uk/

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In this episode, self-development coach Johnny Lawrence interviews narcissism expert Caroline Strawson. They discuss the overuse and misinterpretation of the term 'narcissist' in society, the impact of narcissistic abuse as a form of domestic abuse, and the importance of understanding narcissism from a trauma-informed perspective. Caroline shares her personal journey of healing from narcissistic abuse and how she transitioned from being a podiatrist to a trauma-informed therapist and coach. They also explore the concept of post-traumatic growth and the complexities of narcissism, including the covert narcissist and the role of trauma in narcissistic behaviour. In this conversation, Caroline and Johnny discuss the dynamics of narcissistic relationships and the impact of narcissistic abuse. They explore the concept of mirror neurons and how people in relationships with narcissists often exhibit narcissistic traits themselves as a means of self-protection. They also discuss the concept of trauma bonding and the physiological addiction that can develop in toxic relationships. Caroline emphasises the importance of strategy and support in healing from narcissistic abuse. She highlights the need to honour and express emotions, such as anger and sadness, in a healthy way. They also touch on the differences between neurodivergence and narcissism.

• The term 'narcissist' is often overused and misinterpreted in society, leading to the minimisation of the experiences of those who have suffered narcissistic abuse.
• Narcissistic abuse is a form of domestic abuse and should be taken seriously.
• Healing from narcissistic abuse requires understanding and addressing the trauma that underlies it.
• Post-traumatic growth is possible after experiencing narcissistic abuse, leading to a thriving and flourishing life.
• Narcissism is a complex issue, and there are different types of narcissists, including the covert narcissist.
• It is important to focus on healing oneself rather than trying to change a narcissist, as they are unlikely to take ownership or responsibility for their behaviour. People in relationships with narcissists often exhibit narcissistic traits themselves as a means of self-protection.
• Trauma bonding can develop in toxic relationships, leading to a physiological addiction to the cycle of love bombing and silent treatment.
• Expressing and honouring emotions, such as anger and sadness, is crucial for healing from narcissistic abuse.
• Understanding the differences between neurodivergence and narcissism is important to avoid misdiagnosis and provide appropriate support.
• Hope is essential in the healing process, and finding the right community and support can make a significant difference.

00:00 Introduction and Buzzword

06:18 Caroline's Journey: From Podiatrist to Trauma-Informed Therapist

12:24 Post-Traumatic Growth and Living a Thriving Life

30:16 Defining Narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder

36:23 The Complexity of Narcissism and Reactive Abuse

37:12 The Dynamics of Narcissistic Relationships and the Impact of Narcissistic Abuse

39:38 Mirror Neurons and the Development of Narcissistic Traits in Relationships

41:49 Trauma Bonding and the Physiological Addiction in Toxic Relationships

44:38 Healing and the Importance of Expressing and Honoring Emotions

47:31 Understanding the Differences Between Neurodivergence and Narcissism

50:02 Finding Hope and Support in the Healing Process

Website: https://carolinestrawson.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/?hl=en

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In this episode, I'll be chatting with Paul Weeden, a skilled counsellor, cognitive behavioural therapist and coach.

He believes in integrating a variety of theoretical frameworks and theories to provide clients with a holistic understanding of good mental health and well-being from different perspectives. 

Paul helps individuals change physical behaviours, addictions, and habits, with his specialisation being in treating anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem.

He employs a psychological and emotional framework inspired by ancient teachings like Buddhism and Stoicism, providing clients with useful tools to use in their everyday lives. Paul is committed to improving mental health awareness and self-development, and he has developed a framework called 'The 8 Pillars'.

hese pillars include acceptance, surrender, commitment, responsibility, trust, forgiveness, respect, and giving.

Highlights:

👉 Definition of good mental health

👉 Managing unhelpful behaviour

👉 The eight pillars of well-being

Links:

www.theselfdevelopmentcoach.co.uk

www.mindbodycounselling.co.uk 

https://www.authenticonpurposecoaching.com/free-eguide 

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In this episode, I have the privilege of speaking with renowned dating and relationship coach and three-time author Persia Lawson.

Growing up, Persia’s parents struggled with drug addiction.

To escape the challenging emotions, she focused on becoming an overachiever, and as part of her subconscious coping mechanism, she found herself leaning into an addiction to sex and love.

She became well-practised at sabotaging any chance of a happy relationship – either by cheating on the nice boyfriends or going out with dysfunctional ‘bad boys’.

Persia’s rock bottom moment came in her mid-twenties when she became the victim of sexual assault.

Following this incident, she put on two stone in weight which prompted her concerned dad to take her away to a health retreat in Thailand.

Whilst there, he gave Persia some advice that changed the entire trajectory of her life.

These words were the launch pad she needed to leverage all her overachiever energy towards healing the real root of all her romantic dilemmas.

Today Persia will be gracious enough to share her incredible story and offer the wisdom of what she has learned.

Highlights:

👉 How relationships are modelled for us

👉 Relationship Advice

👉 Self-sabotage 

👉 Drivers behind cheating on a partner

👉 Respect in a relationship

Links:

www.theselfdevelopmentcoach.co.uk

https://www.persialawson.com/homepage 

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In this episode, I'll be speaking with Amira Mansour, a Communication Expert who guides individuals and companies on effective communication with themselves and others.

Effective communication is essential for building strong relationships that make us feel understood and content.

Although we communicate all the time, few of us can do it well.

With more than 12 years of experience in the corporate world, Amira has worked with a diverse range of people and gained valuable insights through her own experiences.

She can help you understand the power of your internal dialogue and how it affects your personal and professional life.

This knowledge will empower you to get the promotion you want, the career you've been dreaming of, become the business leader you desire, the partner you've always envisioned, and live life on your terms.

Amira provides a combination of monthly masterclasses, podcasts, and personalised 1:1 coaching to help you understand your values, motivations, and shadow self.

This will enable you to communicate authentically and confidently, resolve conflicts, and set boundaries.

You could learn how to master the hard conversations so that you can break out of negative self-talk and live a more fulfilling life while communicating with confidence and ease in every area of your life!

Highlights:

👉 Defining communication

👉 Where communication breaks down

👉 Anxiety and communication

👉 Being assertive

👉 Understanding your shadow self

Links:

www.theselfdevelopmentcoach.co.uk

msha.ke/thecommunicationexpert

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In this episode, I had the pleasure of chatting with Matt Young, a life and mindset coach based in London.

Matt has spent the past 15 years studying top performers in physical and mental fields and has had the privilege of receiving coaching from some of the world's best coaches.

Matt has a diverse background, having been a professional footballer for eight years and playing alongside full England internationals, Premier League stars, and international managers.

Additionally, he has completed 15 ultra marathons and 16 marathons. 

In his quest for knowledge, Matt has earned numerous qualifications and certifications in human psychology and behaviour.

His ultimate goal is to inspire and coach others to live their best lives, and he hopes to empower millions to unleash their true potential.

Highlights:

👉 Mental and emotional health

👉 How to change

👉 Changing your mindset to change

👉 Creating change

Links:

www.theselfdevelopmentcoach.co.uk

www.madeinthemind.com 

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In this episode, I’ll chat with Holly Matthews, a former TV actress, Ted X speaker, Life Coach, and founder of The Happy Me Project.

Holly has established a solid social media following of over 40,000 followers across her platforms and over 3 million views on her award-winning YouTube Channel.

She is the author of the No.1 best-selling book The Happy Me Project. In 2017, Holly’s husband Ross died of brain cancer, and she vlogged about her experience.

The lead-up to his death and its aftermath were extensively featured in the UK media, including print, radio, and television, opening a brand new audience to Holly.

Holly launched her flagship brand, The Happy Me Project, in 2017, just months after her husband's death. She has watched hundreds go through its virtual doors, and many more attend the in-person workshops of the same name.

Holly is a Mum to two daughters, Brooke (nine) and Texas (seven), who worked with her on The Happy Me Project KIDS online visualisations course and in-person workshop.

On this podcast, I aim to speak to people who have specialised in personal development or have experienced something life-changing and have managed to extract some form of learning or understanding.

Today, we get both.

Highlights:

👉 Resilence

👉 Self-confidence

👉 Grief

👉 Authenticity 

Links:

www.theselfdevelopmentcoach.co.uk

www.iamhollymatthews.com 

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In this episode, I am joined by Adeyemi Adeyosoye, a spiritual and executive coach who is also known as the energy guy.

According to Adeyemi, attracting your dream life doesn't necessarily require new plans or strategies.

Instead, he believes that it is essential to discover and commit to your soul's purpose and become skilled at channelling energy. 

Adeyemi's journey has been remarkable: he started by cleaning toilets but eventually landed jobs at some of the best tech companies in Europe. He attributes this success to his ability to harness the power of energetics. 

His passion for energetics is so intense that he now works as a coach and helps others unlock their full potential. 

Highlights:

👉 What is energetics?

👉 Purpose and well-being

👉 Energetics and wealth

👉 Using the past to create shifts in the future

Links:

www.theselfdevelopmentcoach.co.uk

Adeyemi’s Links:

www.adeyemiadeyosoye.com 

http://classes.adeyemiadeyosoye.com/ 

http://classes.adeyemiadeyosoye.com/uncaged 

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In this episode, I have the pleasure of speaking with the chartered psychologist, social scientist, author and broadcaster, Dr Meg Arroll.

Meg started her career in academia, focusing on medically unexplained conditions that leave people feeling lost, neglected and at sea in a world of symptoms, stigma and pain.

This passion for finding answers to questions that no doctors seem able to treat came from her own experience – which gave her that rare combination of subjective personal experience and objective professional skills. 

Dr Arroll aims to guide people through their journeys so that they have the confidence to move forward independently.

Meg is also the author of the book The Shinkology Solution and her latest book, Tiny Traumas which I hope to hear more about today.

Highlights:

👉 What are tiny traumas?

👉 The impact of tiny traumas

👉 How to accept

👉 The meaning behind our emotions

Links:

www.theselfdevelopmentcoach.co.uk

www.drmegarroll.com 

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In this episode, I’m chatting with the author, psychotherapist and military mental resilience coach, James Elliott.

James has over 6 years of coaching experience from National League Rugby teams to Paralympic rowers, from Special Forces Operators to vulnerable veterans.

He has a wealth of knowledge in designing, developing and delivering mental resilience training programs, both group training and one-to-one therapy.

James is the author of the book ‘Think Yourself Resilient.

His book will teach you how to harness your emotions so that you can build confidence and transform your life, and, I’m excited to be discussing his book and his methods with him today.

Highlights:

👉 What is mental resilience?

👉 Emotional intelligence

👉 Finding purpose

👉 Self-trust

Links:

www.theselfdevelopmentcoach.co.uk

https://james-elliott.mykajabi.com/ 

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@jameselliottofficial

Charlie Currie produces The Self Development Podcast from Chatter Podcasts.

The Self Development Podcast theme music is called ‘Life I Chose’ by Kick Lee.

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