The Happy Middle with Suzy Darke – Details, episodes & analysis

Today I chat to Karen Arthur, a multifaceted artist, broadcaster, and menopause diversity advocate.

Karen discusses her journey from teaching to becoming an 'accidental activist' and a voice for diverse British menopausal experiences through her podcast 'Menopause Whilst Black'.

She shares how her personal struggles with mental health led to her speaking out about her own experience of menopause, and becoming her most honest and liberated self.

We delve into the importance of normalising menopause conversations beyond the stereotypical images and we talk about the positive shifts that are happening within the current generation of midlife and older women.

It's a really joyful and empowering episode. You'll love Karen and you'll love this conversation.

Episode highlights:

04:25 The Birth of the Menopause Whilst Black Podcast

15:21 Embracing Authenticity and Setting Boundaries

22:08 Affirmations and Self-Belief

23:02 Intentional Dressing and Mood

26:22 Empowerment Through Clothing

30:54 Menopause and Personal Liberation

Referenced in the episode:

• 'How Depression & Menopause Freed Karen Arthur' YouTube Video
• Karen's Book: Grandma's Locks

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In today's episode (which is the last one of the season before the podcast goes on its summer break) I chat with the wonderful Siobhan Strode.

Siobhan is a word witch and mentor and she helps her clients raise their voices and create change in the world. She's an ex-teacher, nearly 40, lives in Devon with three sons, her dog Strike, and her childhood sweetheart husband.

She's also an intersectional feminist and you'll either find her at social justice rallies or down the beach paddling with her kids.

Siobhan and I have known each other online for years and years and it was such a treat to have a proper deep and meaningful with her.

In this episode we talk about finding our voices in midlife, connecting with our values, and caring less. And we ponder over exactly when you can call yourself 'midlife'.

Episode highlights:

01:41 Defining Midlife

03:59 Life Changes and Reinvention

07:25 Finding and Using Your Voice

11:07 Embracing Authenticity Online

16:27 Balancing Personal and Professional Life

26:47 Rediscovering Playfulness and Creativity

Referenced in the episode:

• Sas Petherick
• Lucy Lucraft
• Keri Jarvis
• The Happy Middle Episode One

About Siobhan:

Instagram: @thissisterscribes

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/siobhan-strode84/

Find out more: https://www.thissisterscribes.com/

Thanks for listening, please come and say hello over on Instagram and do check out my work online.

Today's guest is Julia Goodall, a clinical psychologist turned psychotherapist and relationship coach. She helps clients find joy in everyday life and love in extraordinary ways and I loved our chat so much, which meandered from exploring the the nuances between therapy and coaching through to the importance of open communication in relationships.

We also explored some of the challenges and opportunities of midlife, including reassessing relationships, friendship dynamics, and the inherent vulnerability and potential for growth during this life stage. I love Julia's encouragement to explore the small, intentional steps towards understanding, expressing feelings, and cultivating joy in everyday life.

So, please, get cosy and dive into our chat.

Episode highlights:

01:46 The Evolution of Julia's Career: A Journey of Adaptation

02:50 Therapy vs. Coaching: Understanding the Differences

06:43 Navigating Midlife: Challenges, Changes, and Rediscovery

14:54 The Dynamics of Relationships and Friendships in Midlife

33:04 Embracing Midlife with Joy and Curiosity

About Julia:

A clinical psychologist turned psychotherapist & relationship coach, helping you to find joy in your everyday life & love in (extra)ordinary ways.

Find Julia on Instagram & explore individual and relationship coaching here

Thanks for listening, please come and say hello over on Instagram and do check out my work online.

This podcast episode features a rich conversation with Lucy Lucraft, a midlife, ADHD-diagnosed mother, journalist turned podcast producer, and advocate for a free Palestine.

Lucy & I delve into midlife experiences, discussing the challenges and weirdness of navigating the 'middle bit' of life, from peri-menopause and its symptoms, which can intersect with ADHD symptoms, to the adjustments in relationships and self-perception.

Lucy shares her late-in-life diagnosis of ADHD and autism, how it has reshaped her understanding of her needs and interactions and we ponder the societal pressures to achieve and conform, discussing the desire to want less and live a softer, more content life amidst messy midlife changes.

Episode Highlights:

02:27 Navigating Midlife: Challenges and Revelations

06:52 The Perimenopause Journey: Symptoms and Self-Discovery

12:03 ADHD in Midlife: A Personal Exploration

22:30 Finding Balance and Embracing Change in Midlife

28:12 Looking Ahead: Hopes for a Softer, More Content Future

Referenced in the episode:

Balance app

Psychiatry UK

About Guest name: Lucy Lucraft

Journalist turned podcast producer helping rule hating creatives are podcasts their own way. My Substack The Side Eye is full of musings (and a very good read!)

Instagram: @lucylucraft

Find out more: Lucy's website

Welcome to my new podcast The Happy Middle. I'm Suzy Darke and this podcast is for women navigating midlife with its ups, downs, and 'messy middles'.

This first episode is mostly about me, my life, and my midlife journey, from motherhood to menopause, to finding my creative voice and becoming a coach.

So curl up, grab a cuppa and dive in, I'm so glad you're here.

Episode highlights:

02:01 Meet the Host

04:48 Navigating the Challenges of Midlife

06:05 Overcoming PMDD and Embracing Menopause

07:04 Finding Creativity and Purpose in Midlife

08:26 The Happy Middle: A Hopeful Resolution

09:12 Looking Forward: What's Next for The Happy Middle Podcast

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Today’s guest is the wonderful Sas Petherick, a coach, coaching supervisor, and founder of the Self Belief Coaching Academy.

We talk about her understanding of self doubt, how it acts as a self-protective mechanism, and about why self doubt can feel especially prominent during midlife.

Sas provides valuable insights on managing self doubt, listening to our healthy adult self, and embracing change.

A big takeaway from this episode is the vital importance of truthful self-expression, and how it can lead to both more meaningful connections and societal change.

Episode highlights:

06:11 Navigating Midlife Changes

10:45 Embracing Self-Compassion

17:56 Connecting with Your Healthy Adult Self

23:19 Embracing Rejection and Detachment

25:38 The Power of Collective Healing

32:16 Disruptive Women and Societal Change

39:58 The Importance of Truth and Imagination

Referenced in the episode:

• Self Belief School

About Sas Petherick:

Instagram:

Find out more: https://selfbelief.school/

Listen to Courage & Spice: https://selfbelief.school/podcast/

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Today, I want to share with you a concept I haven't been able to stop thinking about since Julia Goodall talked about it in episode three. So let's dive in and explore what it means for us as midlife individuals looking to navigate the sometimes tricky in-betweenness of this phase.

So, what do you think? Does the concept of a second adolescence resonate with you? I'd love to hear your thoughts and experiences.

Episode highlights:

02:25 Emotional Turmoil and Self-Discovery

09:11 Transitioning to Midlife: The Second Adolescence

11:07 Revisiting Emotions and Rebellion

13:27 Physical Changes in Midlife

15:39 Sexuality and Pleasure in Midlife

17:44 Boundless Possibilities in Midlife

Referenced in the episode:

• Episode Three with Julia Goodall

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This week I thought I'd share some of my favourite bits from The Happy Middle so far. I've been lucky to have interviewed some really inspiring people who've shared their stories so generously.

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In this episode, I welcome Penny Wincer, a Melbourne-born author, writing coach, and podcast host based in London. Penny shares her midlife journey from a freelance photographer to a writer and non-fiction coach all while navigating life as a single parent and caregiver.

We chatted about the challenges of caregiving, and the importance of self-compassion and Penny is exceptionally honest about the lack of societal support for carers.

I'm so grateful Penny was able to be my guest and for her thoughtful exploration of balancing personal aspirations with caregiving responsibilities. It's a wonderful chat and I hope you enjoy it too.

Episode highlights:

05:54 The Struggle and Strength of Caring for a Disabled Child

10:55 The Critical Role of Carers in Society

12:57 Self-Care and Society's Role in Supporting Carers

27:01 Finding Creativity and Purpose in the Midst of Caring

Referenced in the episode:

About Penny:

Website: Penny's Website

Instagram: Penny Wincer

Twitter: @pennywincer on Twitter

Today's guest is Katy Murray, a women's leadership coach, inclusion facilitator, speaker, and author of Changemakers, a women's guide to stepping up without burning out. Katy works with female leaders who want to make a real difference in the world by helping them to find the right balance between work and looking after themselves.

It was a real pleasure to chat with Katy and I hope you enjoy the episode.

Episode highlights:

04:10 Navigating Midlife Transitions

09:55 The Importance of Community

23:06 Balancing Joy and Burnout

26:11 The Power of Small Habits

27:16 Collective Support and Systemic Change

29:30 The Challenge of Rest

32:21 Finding and Using Our Voice

Referenced in the episode:

• Buy Katy's book

About Katy:

Instagram: @Katycatalyst on Instagram

Find out more: Katy's Website

Thanks for listening, please come and say hello over on Instagram and do check out my work online.