The Couples Podcast – Details, episodes & analysis

Jayson and Ellen explore what it really means when couples say they never fight. They break down why fighting is anything that needs repair, not just overt conflict, and why couples who never fight miss important opportunities to learn. They look at the types of couples who avoid conflict, how much fighting is too much, which couples can work through frequent conflict, and the deeper issues that can be masked by a lack of fighting.

Timestamps:

• 1:39 - When couples say they never fight
• 4:11 - Fighting is anything that needs to be repaired
• 9:50 - If you never fight you never learn
• 12:50 - Types of couples that don’t fight
• 17:04 - How much fighting is too much?
• 20:27 - What kinds of couples can overcome fighting?
• 22:52 - Issues masked by a lack of fighting

Links:

• ​⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ellen's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• ​⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jayson's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Jayson and Ellen break down the popular ideas around masculine and feminine energy and why these constructs create more harm than help. They explore how this paradigm becomes oppressive, why traditional gender roles limit co creation, and how over functioning and under functioning show up in relationships. They also examine why these ideas keep circulating despite causing so much confusion and disconnection.

Timestamps:

• 1:44 - Popular masculine and feminine constructs
• 7:15 - The oppressive nature of this paradigm
• 18:39 - Traditional gender roles are bad for co-creation
• 23:47 - Over-functioning and under-functioning
• 32:10 - Why do these ideas perpetuate?

Links:

• ​⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ellen's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• ​⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jayson's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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In this episode, Ellen and Jayson discuss two types of couples: dual entrepreneurial couples and copreneurs. Both types of couples face unique challenges, and Ellen and Jayson offer practical tips for each. How can you build resilience into your relationship so you can handle life’s storms when they come? Are you being curious enough about your partner? It’s time to choose the type of partnership you want today.

Timestamps:

• 2:00 - What is the duel entrepreneurial couple
• 7:11 - Resilience problems
• 11:26 - Tip: choose the type of partnership you want
• 12:27 - Getting prepared for life’s storms
• 15:03 - Get curious about your partner
• 18:00 - Copreneurs and boundaries
• 24:55 - Partitioning work and your relationship?
• 28:08 - The problem with the male/female lens
• 33:06 - Steps to take for copreneurs

Links:

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ellen's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jayson's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Ellen and Jayson discuss type 1 (of 3) of the entrepreneurial couples and the unique challenges of being a partnered solo entrepreneur. What are the consequences of leaving traditional roles unexamined and how does gender play a role? How can you be intentional about collaborating with your partner? Why are primary relationships so difficult? What’s the downside of too much compartmentalization? Stick around until the end of the episode for practical tips on running a business without sacrificing your relationship—or missing out on your kids growing up.

Timestamps:

• 1:57 - Jayson’s journey with caffeine and alcohol
• 4:03 - Challenges for the partnered solo entrepreneur
• 10:39 - Gender roles and issues
• 14:25 - Gender roles and child-rearing
• 16:26 - The consequences of leaving gender roles unexamined
• 22:30 - Be intentional about collaborating
• 25:55 - Don’t take spending time with your kids for granted
• 36:53 - Be attentive to your relationship
• 40:33 - Why are primary relationships so difficult?
• 44:49 - The problem with too much compartmentalization

Links:

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ellen's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jayson's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Do you want a more securely attached relationship?

Ellen and Jayson dive into the topics of attachment and repair. How can you rebuild security after a fight? Why is it so important to plan for relationship repair? Tune in to this episode to learn how to foster a more securely attached relationship while facing the challenges of parenting and running a business.

Timestamps:

• 3:05 - Attachment terminology
• 21:13 - Why blaming your partner is unhelpful
• 27:41 - Building security after a fight
• 30:37 - Planning to repair
• 32:48 - Prioritizing repair
• 40:36 - What if you don't have time?

Links:

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠Ellen's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jayson's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Could your communication woes stem from attachment issues? Ellen and Jayson explore how attachment styles might be impacting your relationship, especially as an entrepreneurial couple. What’s your attachment orientation? What does secure attachment actually look like? And can you build security through repair? Stick around till the end of the episode for Ellen’s practical tip on taking concrete steps toward creating a more securely attached relationship.

Timestamps:

• 4:45 - Communication problem or attachment issue?
• 13:36 - What’s your attachment orientation?
• 18:56 - What does secure attachment look like?
• 26:34 - Building security through repair?
• 41:47 - Ellen’s practical tip

Links:

• ⁠⁠⁠Ellen's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jayson's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Jayson and Ellen draw on their personal and professional experiences to discuss three types of entrepreneurial couples and the unique challenges each faces when it comes to business and maintaining relationships at home. Whether you're the sole entrepreneur in your household, a spouse supporting your partner’s business journey, a couple running a business together, or a couple simultaneously running separate businesses, you won’t want to miss this insightful episode.

Timestamps:

• 4:00 - Solo entrepreneurs with a supportive spouse
• 14:55 - The duel entrepreneurial couple
• 22:00 - Co-entrepreneurs

Links:

• ⁠⁠Ellen's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jayson's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Ellen and Jayson discuss two different approaches to partnership in the home. What are the pros and cons of taking a divide-and-conquer approach? Can collaboration be a better option? What are the benefits and drawbacks of collaboration? And why is it important to embrace diversity in the household? Stay tuned until the end to hear Ellen’s rule of thumb.

Timestamps:

• 4:53 - The benefits of divide and conquer
• 7:36 - Drawbacks to divide and conquer
• 18:17 - Drawbacks to collaboration
• 25:00 - Benefits of collaboration
• 30:34 - Embracing diversity in the home
• 40:00 - Ellen's rule of thumb and conclusion

Links:

• ⁠Ellen's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jayson's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Entrepreneurs face unique challenges when it comes to navigating the tension between work and home. In this episode, Ellen and Jayson discuss conflicts around gender roles, balancing work and family, and the importance of being intentional about maintaining relationships—even with a busy schedule. It’s time to start having productive conversations and finding the right balance between work and home.

Timestamps:

• 2:44 The tension between work and home
• 6:00 Conflict around gender roles
• 9:36 Balancing work and family
• 18:20 Start getting curious
• 26:00 Starting a productive conversation
• 34:00 Being intentional about maintaining your relationships
  

Links:

• The Integrated Couples Group⁠⁠⁠⁠
• Ellen's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠
• ⁠⁠⁠⁠Jayson's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Jayson and Ellen talk about five reasons why being a team is so hard. How do culture and personal history impact teamwork? Is your sense of entitlement holding you back from effective collaboration? How can differences between people make for a stronger team? Find the answers to these questions and more in this episode!

Timestamps:

• 1:00 - 5 reasons why being a team is so hard
• 1:47 - Cultural backdrop
• 7:00 - Personal history
• 11:49 - Your entitlement
• 16:56 - Differences
• 20:41 - Sharing leadership takes time
  

Follow Jayson and Ellen here:

• ⁠⁠⁠Ellen's Instagram⁠⁠⁠
• ⁠⁠⁠Jayson's Instagram⁠⁠⁠

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