The Best Self Podcast – Details, episodes & analysis

For years, I felt as though I was living inside a tiny box, one built from other people’s opinions, expectations and comfort.

In this episode, I’m talking about what shrinking really looks like, from hiding your achievements to keeping your dreams quiet because you are afraid of being judged.

I explore the difference between humility and betraying who you are, why silence from others can feel so painful, and what it costs to keep dimming your light.

This is your reminder that taking up space is not selfish. You are allowed to be proud, visible and fully yourself.

Highlights:

(01:06) - The therapy exercise that revealed my invisible box

(04:59) - When silence makes you question your own achievements

(08:21) - The crucial difference between humility and shrinking

(12:52) - Why making yourself smaller never creates real belonging

(18:27) - What other people’s silence may actually be reflecting

(23:43) - How to begin breaking out without changing everything at once

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I nearly skipped a 20-minute workout because my brain had built a very convincing case for why everything else mattered more. Sound familiar?

In this episode, I’m looking at the way we show up reliably for everyone else, while quietly treating our own needs as optional.

I share how I moved through the overwhelm, why motivation is not always the real issue, and what changed when I stopped trying to become the woman I used to be.

This is about creating a supportive structure, accepting where you are now, and keeping the small promises that move you towards the woman you are becoming.

Highlights:

(02:18) - How my brain nearly convinced me to skip the workout

(05:41) - Why everyone else’s needs feel urgent and ours feel optional

(09:21) - The difference between low motivation and depletion

(16:17) - The tiny action that helped me stop overthinking

(19:25) - When overwhelm is really fear in disguise

(24:10) - The question that brought my future self into the room

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In this episode, we dive into the paradox of feeling unhappy despite seeming to "have it all."

We discuss the transformative power of asking ourselves better questions and how they can lead us out of our feelings of despair.

I'll also share my top 10 questions that have guided me towards a happier self.

Plus, we'll explore the therapeutic benefits of journaling, and how it can help us gain clarity.

Tune in and let's navigate the journey to a more fulfilled and joyful life together.

Here are the highlights:

(3:00) Top 10 questions to ask your way to a happier you.

(5:40) One of the most powerful questions.

(7:24) Who do you want to be?

(13:25) How to leave the world a little better than you found it.

(16:07) Ask yourself what is my body telling me

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Summer is here! As exciting as this is, it can sometimes mean that you end up slacking on your goals.

Don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with taking a break. You definitely deserve it! However, I want you to enjoy this time without taking several steps back from all the achievements you've made so far.

I'm here to provide you with practical tips so that we can design our summers and still strive to keep up with our goals.

Highlights:

(05:00) Stay on track

(11:25) Get back into this motivation zone

(14:23) Reframing my ideas

(15:32) It’s natural!

(21:24) A level of acceptance 

(26:25) Eat that frog!

(27:41) Managing my input

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Nicola Episode 24 Show Notes

Fancy a fresh spin on summer? In this episode we talk all about ditching the 'perfect summer' pressure and just soaking up the now. 

We chat about juggling work and family, and dreaming of a summer that's nourishing, restoring, and all about connection. It's a game changer you don’t want to miss!

Here are the highlights:

(1:46) The importance of being realistic about summer. 

(9:50) The value of nourishment and restoration. 

(14:18) How to create a summer that fits your needs. 

(20:51) Getting prepared and organised for September.

(24:22) What makes you feel great every day?. 

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I recently met up with a Mum friend of mine, and she did something that really irritated me... 

She spent the whole time we were talking on her phone. But as mad as I was about it, I know that I do it too sometimes! 

Our lives have become over-reliant on technology, on social media, and on smart phones. Life has become so urgent, and if we’re not constantly checking our devices we fear of missing out on something super important. 

So in this episode I help you get over your digital FOMO and learn how to switch off and escape urgency culture. You can do it, and I am going to tell you how. 

Here are the highlights: 

(02:07) Addicted to my phone 

(08:08) The social media generation 

(14:42) The pandemic has not helped 

(16:47) The backlash from flexible working 

(20:34) How to set boundaries and communicate them 

(22:46) What’s important and urgent? 

(28:02) Take back control of your screen time 

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When I was younger I used to enjoy a cheeky drink on a Friday evening. Or when I met up with friends. Or when we celebrated, well, anything. Or just because it was the weekend. You get the idea...

Well today my relationship with alcohol is completely different. I no longer associate it with having a good time. I get to enjoy my life without the hangovers, and it feels great! Now when I go on holiday, I might have the occasional Aperol Spritz and that suits me just fine!

So how did I go from wanting any excuse for a drink to 10 years of sobriety?

In this episode I share my top tips, and show you how a slight shift of mindset can have extraordinary results. It all beings with one day at a time...

Here are the highlights:

(04:20) The irony of alcohol

(10:02) Transitioning to a healthier lifestyle

(12:50) Hold yourself accountable

(18:22) How to eliminate the triggers

(27:30) Don’t get fixated on perfect; focus on progress

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Many clients that I work with in life coaching also come to me because they're not feeling comfortable about their body or health. This is often due to a lack of confidence and progress, so they feel very stagnant and stuck.

One thing that many people don't know about me is that I'm a qualified fitness instructor and a qualified level three personal trainer.

In this episode, I wanted to share how you can stop yo yo dieting without consuming a lot of your time.

Here are the highlights:

(2:19) Why willpower will only take you so far.

(4:19) The answer is 10 minutes a day.

(8:47) The 10-minute exercise.

(11:08) It’s not about results but building new habits.

(12:39) How to get started with exercise.

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We all know that feeling where we say we’re going to work on this thing and then at the end of the week, we’ve not actually done it.

Recently I was at a networking event and the topic of conversation kept coming up: the lack of focus.

So, in this episode, I explore what not focusing looks like and share my top tips on things you can try to regain focus and increase your productivity.

Here are the highlights:

(3:09) Phone notifications.

(6:21) Neurological conditions.

(13:06) Your brain can be retrained.

(15:15) The pandemic.

(22:22) Start with the big things first.

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Fresh from doing a wardrobe consultation, which I've been doing since 2007, I wanted to share my tips for those of you stuck in a style rut.

For those people who find it a chore to get dressed and are almost happy day to day just sticking on leggings and a baggy jumper, this episode will hopefully get you out of your rut and breathe some life into your wardrobe.

Here are the highlights:

(2:36) The signs that you’re in a style rut.

(6:52) Why women struggle with their style.

(8:55) The disconnect between you and your wardrobe environment.

(10:35) Your wardrobe isn’t always the problem.

(12:27) How to get out of a style rut.

(14:58) How to detox your wardrobe.

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