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Ever bought the course, booked the networking event, tweaked your branding and dreamed up a brilliant new service, all while wondering why your business still isn’t moving forwards?

You might have a touch of what I call magpie syndrome. And believe me, I know it well.

In this episode, I’m talking about the difference between being busy and doing the work that actually builds your business. We’ll look at why shiny new ideas feel so irresistible, what constantly starting over is costing you, and why the answer probably isn’t another course.

Sometimes growth comes from making a decision, staying focused and doing the slightly boring stuff consistently.

Highlights:

(03:53) - You’ve been busy all week, but what actually got you closer to a paying client?

(08:04) - Courses, rebrands, podcasts and new ideas: welcome to magpie syndrome

(12:32) - Is it genuine growth, or is distraction wearing a very convincing outfit?

(16:48) - Why starting something new feels SO good, until the actual work begins

(25:39) - Keep changing direction and you lose the compounding effect of sticking with one thing

(29:59) - Maybe you don’t need more knowledge. Maybe what’s missing is focus and discipline

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We’re being told constantly that we need to be more visible. Post more. Show up more. Be everywhere. But after a competitor got an opportunity I thought should have been ours, I panicked... and then absolutely nothing happened.

Our relationships stayed intact, our business carried on, and it made me question whether visibility is really the thing we should all be chasing.

In this episode, I’m exploring the difference between being seen and actually being known, trusted and remembered.

I’m talking reputation, real connection, social media fatigue and why your marketing strategy needs to work with who you are. Because you’re a human being, not a content machine, and sometimes the people we remember most are the ones who made us feel seen.

Highlights:

(04:20) - A competitor got the stage, I panicked... and then absolutely NOTHING happened

(08:35) - Everyone is visible all the blooming time, so why does it all feel like noise?

(12:38) - Are you actually connecting, or are you just broadcasting into the void?

(17:02) - I stopped posting and we had our busiest year in 14 years... excuse me, WHAT?

(25:07) - The person who was 20 times more visible didn’t get my money, and here’s why

(33:33) - Maybe the question isn’t “How can I be more visible?” but “How do I want to be known?”

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If you’re a sole trader or running a small business, here’s something worth considering: you are your business. Your confidence, energy, boundaries, fears and even the amount of sleep you got last night can affect how you show up, and ultimately, how your business performs.

So what if the thing holding your business back isn’t another strategy you haven’t discovered yet?

In this episode, I’m looking at the patterns behind overgiving, undercharging, procrastination, playing small and struggling to be visible.

I’m also talking about finding your natural genius, because building a successful business shouldn’t require becoming someone you’re simply not.

Highlights:

(05:06) - The launch excitement has disappeared... now what?

(09:37) - Feast or famine in your business? It might not be as random as you think

(14:37) - Are you supporting everyone else while quietly avoiding your own spotlight?

(19:07) - When saying no feels harder than being completely drained

(24:08) - Your natural genius might be the business strategy you’ve been overlooking

(29:29) - Ambition and inner peace absolutely can exist in the same business

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What if your burnout isn’t something a holiday, a weekend off or an early night can fix?

Sometimes we’re exhausted because we genuinely need rest, but sometimes that flat, heavy feeling is telling us something completely different. And if we’re solving the wrong problem, it’s no wonder nothing seems to change.

In this episode, I’m breaking burnout down into five different places it can come from: capacity, physical depletion, performance, lost joy and timing.

I want to help you work out what’s actually draining you, because you might not need to burn your whole life down. You may simply need clarity about what needs to change.

Highlights:

(05:09) - Why burnout isn’t always an energy problem

(09:59) - Are you expecting today’s version of you to have yesterday’s capacity?

(14:36) - When the answer really is to stop, rest and do less

(19:05) - The burnout that comes from living a life that no longer fits

(23:32) - How the things that once brought you joy get buried beneath the admin

(32:17) - Why accepting the wrong timing isn’t the same as giving up

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In this episode, I’m talking about why goals alone aren’t always enough to keep us moving, and why having a bigger vision for your life can be so powerful.

Sometimes we get so focused on what we need to achieve next that we forget to ask the bigger question: what do I actually want my life to look and feel like?

I’m sharing how I’ve been using AI to create a detailed “day in the life” of my future self, then work backwards from that vision into realistic goals and actions.

It’s about dreaming bigger, getting emotionally connected to the life you want, and taking sustainable steps towards the woman you’re becoming.

Highlights:

(04:20) - Why it matters to notice the life you’ve already created

(08:43) - How to use ChatGPT to build a detailed vision of your dream life

(13:01) - Why feeling the future matters as much as planning it

(17:53) - How a big vision can motivate you when goals stop feeling exciting

(22:23) - The difference between goals that push you and a vision that pulls you

(26:59) - Why your best self is a journey, not a perfect finished version

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In this episode, I’m talking about why goal setting can feel so different in midlife, especially when you’re motivated, ambitious and still somehow finding yourself stuck in that stop-start cycle.

So often, the problem isn’t a lack of discipline. It’s trying to work at a pace that no longer fits your actual life or capacity.

I’m sharing a more sustainable way to approach progress, including my red, amber and green system for adjusting your effort without abandoning your goals.

We’ll also look at self-sabotage, identity, consistency and why progress becomes much easier when you stop expecting yourself to operate at 100% all the time.

Highlights:

(04:21) - Why pushing through constantly can actually destroy consistency

(08:34) - The shift from all-or-nothing thinking to sustainable action

(13:21) - How to keep the goal while adjusting the intensity

(18:07) - Why your real capacity matters more than the capacity you wish you had

(22:02) - My red, amber and green system for staying consistent through real life

(35:36) - How to spot your self-sabotage language before it knocks you off track

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In this episode, I’m talking about why goal setting can start to feel very different in midlife, even when you are motivated, capable and know exactly what you want.

For me, the problem was not discipline or willpower. I was setting goals for the life I used to have, not the capacity I actually have now.

We’ll look at starting with how you want to feel, getting honest about your current responsibilities, and using the Wheel of Life to see which areas need your attention most.

This is about setting goals from reality, not frustration, so you can make progress without constantly feeling like you are falling behind.

Highlights:

(04:15) - Why this may be a capacity problem, not a motivation problem

(08:41) - Forget the goal for a moment. How do you actually want to feel day to day?

(13:01) - Stop setting goals like you still have the time and energy you had at 25

(17:26) - When plan A, B and C all fall apart, ask yourself what you can do next

(21:44) - The Wheel of Life exercise that can quickly show you where your biggest shifts may be

(29:49) - Before you set a single goal, get clear on your feelings, your focus and your real capacity

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September always feels far more like a fresh start to me than January. The routines are returning, the summer chaos is settling, and there’s suddenly a little more space to think about what I actually want for myself.

In this episode, I’m sharing the simple reset process I use every September, inspired by my years as a stylist. We’ll reflect on where life feels good and where it needs attention, clear out some of the physical, mental and emotional clutter, and get organised so you can move into the final quarter of the year feeling purposeful, energised and ready for what’s next.

Highlights:

(04:46) - The four stages of my September reset

(08:49) - Stop setting goals before asking how you actually want to feel

(12:42) - Why the things that matter rarely happen by accident

(16:49) - The detox that goes far beyond clearing out your wardrobe

(18:30) - Getting organised for yourself, not just everyone else

(20:47) - Who do you want to become more of over the next 12 months?

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In this episode, I’m sharing what it has looked like to start again with my health, fitness and routines after a really difficult few years.

I talk about returning to boot camp, choosing courage over comfort and why waiting until you feel completely ready can keep you stuck for far longer than you realise.

I’ll also share what I’ve learned about acceptance, letting go, capacity and rebuilding trust with yourself. This is not about changing everything overnight.

It is about choosing one thing, showing up consistently and proving to yourself that you can move forward, even when life feels messy and the timing is far from perfect.

Highlights:

(04:15) - The message that stopped me in my tracks: you chose courage over comfort

(08:20) - Why I decided not to wait until September to start again

(12:03) - The real turning point was committing before I felt ready

(16:19) - When pushing harder was actually making things worse

(25:24) - Why this was never a willpower problem, it was a capacity problem

(29:59) - One thing at a time: how small commitments create real momentum

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In this episode, I’m sharing why September has always felt more powerful to me than January when it comes to making changes.

Inspired by fashion’s iconic September issue, I’m looking at how we can use this season as a reset, choose a clear direction and stop drifting through the final months of the year on autopilot.

I’ll talk about identity, goals, habits and why real change is not just about what you want to achieve, but who you need to become along the way.

We’ll also explore the power of editing your life, deciding what deserves your time and energy, and choosing one clear focus that can help you finish the year with real momentum.

Highlights:

(01:30) - Why September gives me more fresh-start energy than January ever has

(04:35) - The idea behind creating your own personal September issue

(09:15) - Stop being the reader of your life and start acting like the editor

(14:01) - Why goals alone are not enough, and the identity shift that makes change stick

(24:29) - Your time and energy are prime magazine real estate, stop giving pages away to everything

(29:58) - One cover story, one clear focus, and why that can change the whole final quarter

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Have you ever wanted to step forward, wear the dress, start the business, go to the gym or simply feel more like yourself, but found yourself holding back?

I know that feeling because I’ve lived it too. In this episode, I’m talking about the shame that can quietly make us shrink, hide and wait until we feel more ready, more confident or somehow more acceptable.

I explore how life changes can leave us caught between who we were and who we’re becoming, why that in-between stage feels so uncomfortable, and how small promises to yourself can start rebuilding confidence.

You do not need to become someone else first. You need to start showing up for the person you are now.

Highlights:

(04:53) - The hidden shame behind why we avoid doing the very things that could help us

(10:44) - Why life changes can leave you feeling like you no longer recognise yourself

(15:31) - The exhaustion of adapting while still trying to hold everything else together

(20:53) - Why clinging to your old self can keep you stuck in an uncomfortable limbo

(30:19) - What happens when you finally name the shame that has been running the show

(34:49) - One simple question that can become your compass when you do not know what comes next

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I’m recording this right in the middle of the school holidays, when the days are full, the routine has vanished, and the question “What can we do today?” seems to be playing on repeat.

I want to say out loud what many mums quietly feel: you can adore your children and still find the holidays exhausting, lonely, chaotic and mentally relentless.

I talk honestly about social media pressure, running a business with children at home, summer grief, and why keeping one small promise to yourself can help you feel grounded.

I also explore two kinds of compassion: the soft kind that lets you rest, and the firmer kind that gives you the structure you genuinely need.

Highlights:

(02:06) - Why the school holidays can feel so mentally relentless

(04:51) - Feeling lonely even when you are never actually alone

(07:34) - Loving your children and still finding the holidays hard

(09:21) - The reality social media rarely shows us

(14:08) - When summer brings grief, isolation and old emotions back up

(18:55) - Why real self-care sometimes needs boundaries and structure

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I’m talking about those moments when someone hands you their panic, pressure or emotional urgency and suddenly expects you to carry it. I call it an emotional hot potato, and just because it lands in your hands does not mean it belongs to you.

In this episode, I explore how people-pleasing, weak boundaries and fast reactions can leave us absorbing problems that were never ours to solve.

We’ll look at how to pause, recognise what is genuinely your responsibility and respond with care without sacrificing your own energy, priorities or peace.

Highlights:

(01:30) - The unexpected phone call that sparked this episode

(04:36) - How emotional hot potatoes get passed from person to person

(09:08) - Why people-pleasers become the designated catchers

(13:35) - How to respond without becoming cold or dismissive

(17:57) - Knowing the difference between a real crisis and borrowed urgency

(24:16) - Why someone else’s panic does not become your priority

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In this episode, I’m asking you to think about who you were before life became so grown-up, complicated and full of responsibility.

I share how I slowly edited parts of myself to become more likeable, more acceptable and easier for other people to understand, and how that pattern followed me into adulthood and motherhood.

We also explore identity loss, the impact of tying your worth to your work, and the parts of yourself you may have quietly left behind.

This is not about becoming someone new. It is about remembering what made you feel alive, trying it on again, and taking one honest step back towards yourself.

Highlights:

(01:54) - The moment I started making myself more palatable

(05:36) - How small moments can slowly teach us to shrink

(10:13) - Losing my career identity after becoming a mum

(15:19) - The parts of yourself you may have quietly put down

(19:59) - Using ikigai as a map back to who you are

(24:05) - Why remembering can be the first step home

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In this episode, I’m exploring what happens after you decide to ‘let them’. This theory can be a powerful way to stop trying to control other people, but sometimes letting them is only the beginning.

If you are still angry, hurt or walking on eggshells, that feeling may be telling you something important. I’m talking about the difference between irritation, crossed boundaries and genuinely unsafe behaviour.

We’ll also look at why personal growth cannot always save a relationship, how to use anger as information, and why boundaries are promises you make to yourself, not dramatic ultimatums.

Highlights:

(01:44) - Why ‘let them’ can be such a powerful permission slip

(05:05) - When letting them starts to feel like suppression

(09:59) - How to express anger without projecting it onto others

(12:18) - The difference between letting go and setting a boundary

(16:08) - Why abuse is never a ‘let them’ situation

(25:22) - How to decide your boundaries before they are tested

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I love a bubble bath, a face mask and a bit of chocolate as much as anyone, but they are not always the kind of care that genuinely restores us. Sometimes they are simply a nice moment at the end of another exhausting week.

In this episode, I’m looking at the difference between numbing, escaping and truly replenishing yourself.

I’m sharing why self-care needs to become a daily essential rather than an occasional reward, and how protecting one small, consistent practice can help you rebuild your energy, clarity and spark.

Highlights:

(01:32) - Why the Friday-night bubble bath is not always real self-care

(04:51) - How treating self-care as a reward can keep women depleted

(07:03) - The difference between a nice moment and genuine replenishment

(09:40) - Why your mental and physical health must become the main project

(14:26) - Escape is not the same as care

(16:03) - Choosing one daily non-negotiable that is entirely yours

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We are surrounded by promises of quick fixes, instant breakthroughs and effortless transformation. But real growth rarely looks like a polished before-and-after.

In this episode, I’m talking about why the inner work can feel slow, messy, painful and exhausting, and why that does not mean you are doing it wrong.

I share what I have learned about stuck periods, emotional integration and staying with discomfort instead of searching for the fastest escape.

Sometimes the flat days are not wasted days. They are the quiet part of the process where something deeper is beginning to shift.

Highlights:

(01:31) - Why real growth is often uncomfortable

(04:53) - The damaging comparison created by polished transformations

(06:45) - Why stuck days are not wasted days

(09:49) - Emotional exhaustion can be part of integration

(12:18) - The hard period that often comes before a breakthrough

(16:04) - The difficult thing you may need to stop avoiding

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Do you find yourself scanning other people’s moods, replaying conversations and wondering whether someone is upset with you?

In this episode, I’m talking about over-giving, over-functioning and fawning, and how these patterns can quietly leave you burnt out, resentful and disconnected from your own needs.

I explore why being the capable one can become tied to your self-worth, how empathy turns into hyper-awareness, and why asking for help can feel so uncomfortable.

This is not about caring less. It is about bringing some of that care, attention and energy back to yourself.

Highlights:

(02:02) - The question that reveals hyper-awareness

(04:42) - When caring becomes constant emotional monitoring

(08:15) - How over-giving becomes tied to your self-worth

(13:16) - The resentment hiding beneath over-functioning

(15:46) - What fawning looks like in everyday life

(23:57) - Four questions to help you recognise the pattern

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If getting dressed has started to feel frustrating, flat or strangely emotional, this episode is for you.

I’m talking about why so many capable women end up with wardrobes full of clothes and still feel as though they have nothing to wear.

This is not about fashion trends or buying more. It is about identity, self-worth and creating a wardrobe that reflects the woman you are now.

I share why practical choices, body changes and years of putting everyone else first can disconnect you from your style, and how to begin finding your way back.

Highlights:

(01:32) - Why getting dressed can start to feel like a daily chore

(04:06) - How wardrobe frustration becomes self-blame

(08:05) - What women really mean when they want to look put together

(12:32) - Why random shopping creates a wardrobe with nothing to wear

(20:28) - How to reconnect your clothes with who you are now

(24:27) - Why a wardrobe problem is often an identity problem

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For years, I felt as though I was living inside a tiny box, one built from other people’s opinions, expectations and comfort.

In this episode, I’m talking about what shrinking really looks like, from hiding your achievements to keeping your dreams quiet because you are afraid of being judged.

I explore the difference between humility and betraying who you are, why silence from others can feel so painful, and what it costs to keep dimming your light.

This is your reminder that taking up space is not selfish. You are allowed to be proud, visible and fully yourself.

Highlights:

(01:06) - The therapy exercise that revealed my invisible box

(04:59) - When silence makes you question your own achievements

(08:21) - The crucial difference between humility and shrinking

(12:52) - Why making yourself smaller never creates real belonging

(18:27) - What other people’s silence may actually be reflecting

(23:43) - How to begin breaking out without changing everything at once

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I nearly skipped a 20-minute workout because my brain had built a very convincing case for why everything else mattered more. Sound familiar?

In this episode, I’m looking at the way we show up reliably for everyone else, while quietly treating our own needs as optional.

I share how I moved through the overwhelm, why motivation is not always the real issue, and what changed when I stopped trying to become the woman I used to be.

This is about creating a supportive structure, accepting where you are now, and keeping the small promises that move you towards the woman you are becoming.

Highlights:

(02:18) - How my brain nearly convinced me to skip the workout

(05:41) - Why everyone else’s needs feel urgent and ours feel optional

(09:21) - The difference between low motivation and depletion

(16:17) - The tiny action that helped me stop overthinking

(19:25) - When overwhelm is really fear in disguise

(24:10) - The question that brought my future self into the room

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After three years away, I’m back behind the microphone, not because I have everything figured out, but because I’m finally learning to trust myself again.

I’m sharing what happened when life became overwhelming, I kept putting everyone else first, and slowly disappeared from my own life.

I talk honestly about burnout, frightening vertigo attacks and the moment I realised my body was forcing me to stop.

This is the beginning of a messier, more honest chapter, where I’m keeping small promises to myself, asking for help and finding my way forward at my own pace.

Highlights:

(02:14) - Why the podcast idea refused to leave me alone

(06:37) - The truth about why I disappeared for three years

(09:16) - How capable women slowly lose themselves

(16:52) - The vertigo attack that finally made me stop

(20:47) - The one thing that changed everything

(25:32) - Why I’m no longer rushing to become someone else

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Have you ever created the perfect plan, felt completely fired up, then watched it fall apart before the day had properly begun?

In this episode, I’m talking about the all-or-nothing trap, and why unrealistic plans can leave us feeling incapable when the real problem is the strategy, not us.

I share how I’m learning to build flexibility into my goals, reduce promises until they feel impossible to fail, and focus on consistent action rather than dramatic change.

You do not need another perfect routine. You need one small thing that works within the life you actually have.

Highlights:

(03:54) - Recognising the all-or-nothing trap

(08:12) - Why your perfect plan may be setting you up to fail

(12:58) - Ask a better question and change the direction of your thoughts

(17:30) - How to make your goals almost impossible to fail

(23:03) - Reduce the promise without making it meaningless

(31:45) - Stop treating every disrupted plan as personal failure

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I’m back, and honestly, it feels so good to say that. After life got big, messy, heartbreaking and properly challenging, I had to step away for a while. But the inner work didn’t stop, even when the podcast did. In fact, it carried on quietly under the surface.

This new chapter is for the capable woman who looks like she’s holding it all together, but is quietly exhausted by the performance of it.

We’re coming back to self care that actually works, honest growth, and the version of you who hasn’t disappeared, she’s just been waiting.

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Back at school, September was always a time for fresh starts. It meant a new school year, new pencil cases, new uniforms.. 

In this episode I question why did we ever stop seeing September as a fresh start? 

September is a great time of year to renew yourself and your business! 

Here are the highlights: 

(03:06) Fresh start affect 

(07:29) Take a step back 

(14:13) Questions to ask yourself 

(18:51) Detox 

Had a bit of a rollercoaster week? Then you'll relate to this one.

Today, I'm sharing lessons from Calvin D. Banyan's book "The Secret Language of Feelings" and trust me, it's a game-changer.

We'll chat about 10 emotions, from fear to guilt, frustration to disappointment, and I'll share some tips on how to handle these feelings without letting them boss you around.

So, get comfy, grab a drink and join me on this journey to make our feelings work for us, not against us.

Here are the highlights:

(2:20) Using feelings as a language to get back on track.

(4:28) Allow your emotions to speak to you.

(8:20) How to deal with fear

(18:56) Loneliness and disconnection.

(20:36) Using your feelings to strengthen intuition.

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Ever found yourself fighting boredom or feeling guilty for not keeping every minute of your child's day filled with activities? Well, this episode is for you.

Let's rethink boredom and see it from a different perspective. We'll explore how a slower pace and even boredom can be beneficial for our mental and physical wellbeing, especially in our digital age where we are constantly "switched on."

I'll share my own experiences as a parent, having a child with autism and how I learned to embrace a different rhythm of life, and delve into the importance of boredom in sparking creativity and allowing space for reflection, and why it's so crucial for our children's development and our own sanity.

So, come along, let's rise above the noise and distractions and normalise being present, being bored, and just being. This episode is your guilt-free pass to not being busy all the time. Time to celebrate slowing down!

Here are the highlights:

(2:07) It’s time to normalise a slower pace.

(7:13) Boredom is vital for mental health and creativity.

(9:27) How to be okay with being bored

(16:00) Boring tasks can help with ADHD

(21:36) How to switch off your brain.

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In today's episode, I'm gonna take you on a bit of a journey. It's all about ditching the safe zone and daring to dream big, really big!

It’s easy to get caught up in mum life and forget about our dreams.

I'll be sharing some raw, real moments, especially those around parenting a child with additional needs.

So, if you've ever found yourself playing it small, lost in the everyday grind, or simply want to feel that rush of dreaming big again, tune in!

Here are the highlights:

(2:31) How I lost my confidence and ability to think big.

(6:38) The magic of thinking big.

(10:36) The importance of having hopes and dreams.

(12:18) Use your dreams to inspire you.

(16:19) Questions that will get you to think bigger.

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In this week’s episode, I am taking a deep dive into mum guilt, sharing my own struggle with balancing parenthood and self-care.

The instinct to protect our children, the lack of time, and the sacrifice of personal freedom all feed into the guilt we bear as mothers.

My goal is to change the narrative around mum guilt, not just for you, but for myself too.

It's time for some real talk. Let’s dive in!

Here are the highlights:

(2:40) What people don’t tell you about having children.

(7:12) What is guilt and how is mom guilt different?

(13:34) Sometimes mom guilt outstays its welcome.

(17:45) Letting go of the pressure to be perfect.

(23:21) The importance of being a happy mum.

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In this episode, we dive into the paradox of feeling unhappy despite seeming to "have it all."

We discuss the transformative power of asking ourselves better questions and how they can lead us out of our feelings of despair.

I'll also share my top 10 questions that have guided me towards a happier self.

Plus, we'll explore the therapeutic benefits of journaling, and how it can help us gain clarity.

Tune in and let's navigate the journey to a more fulfilled and joyful life together.

Here are the highlights:

(3:00) Top 10 questions to ask your way to a happier you.

(5:40) One of the most powerful questions.

(7:24) Who do you want to be?

(13:25) How to leave the world a little better than you found it.

(16:07) Ask yourself what is my body telling me

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Summer is here! As exciting as this is, it can sometimes mean that you end up slacking on your goals.

Don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with taking a break. You definitely deserve it! However, I want you to enjoy this time without taking several steps back from all the achievements you've made so far.

I'm here to provide you with practical tips so that we can design our summers and still strive to keep up with our goals.

Highlights:

(05:00) Stay on track

(11:25) Get back into this motivation zone

(14:23) Reframing my ideas

(15:32) It’s natural!

(21:24) A level of acceptance 

(26:25) Eat that frog!

(27:41) Managing my input

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Nicola Episode 24 Show Notes

Fancy a fresh spin on summer? In this episode we talk all about ditching the 'perfect summer' pressure and just soaking up the now. 

We chat about juggling work and family, and dreaming of a summer that's nourishing, restoring, and all about connection. It's a game changer you don’t want to miss!

Here are the highlights:

(1:46) The importance of being realistic about summer. 

(9:50) The value of nourishment and restoration. 

(14:18) How to create a summer that fits your needs. 

(20:51) Getting prepared and organised for September.

(24:22) What makes you feel great every day?. 

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I recently met up with a Mum friend of mine, and she did something that really irritated me... 

She spent the whole time we were talking on her phone. But as mad as I was about it, I know that I do it too sometimes! 

Our lives have become over-reliant on technology, on social media, and on smart phones. Life has become so urgent, and if we’re not constantly checking our devices we fear of missing out on something super important. 

So in this episode I help you get over your digital FOMO and learn how to switch off and escape urgency culture. You can do it, and I am going to tell you how. 

Here are the highlights: 

(02:07) Addicted to my phone 

(08:08) The social media generation 

(14:42) The pandemic has not helped 

(16:47) The backlash from flexible working 

(20:34) How to set boundaries and communicate them 

(22:46) What’s important and urgent? 

(28:02) Take back control of your screen time 

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When I was younger I used to enjoy a cheeky drink on a Friday evening. Or when I met up with friends. Or when we celebrated, well, anything. Or just because it was the weekend. You get the idea...

Well today my relationship with alcohol is completely different. I no longer associate it with having a good time. I get to enjoy my life without the hangovers, and it feels great! Now when I go on holiday, I might have the occasional Aperol Spritz and that suits me just fine!

So how did I go from wanting any excuse for a drink to 10 years of sobriety?

In this episode I share my top tips, and show you how a slight shift of mindset can have extraordinary results. It all beings with one day at a time...

Here are the highlights:

(04:20) The irony of alcohol

(10:02) Transitioning to a healthier lifestyle

(12:50) Hold yourself accountable

(18:22) How to eliminate the triggers

(27:30) Don’t get fixated on perfect; focus on progress

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Many clients that I work with in life coaching also come to me because they're not feeling comfortable about their body or health. This is often due to a lack of confidence and progress, so they feel very stagnant and stuck.

One thing that many people don't know about me is that I'm a qualified fitness instructor and a qualified level three personal trainer.

In this episode, I wanted to share how you can stop yo yo dieting without consuming a lot of your time.

Here are the highlights:

(2:19) Why willpower will only take you so far.

(4:19) The answer is 10 minutes a day.

(8:47) The 10-minute exercise.

(11:08) It’s not about results but building new habits.

(12:39) How to get started with exercise.

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We all know that feeling where we say we’re going to work on this thing and then at the end of the week, we’ve not actually done it.

Recently I was at a networking event and the topic of conversation kept coming up: the lack of focus.

So, in this episode, I explore what not focusing looks like and share my top tips on things you can try to regain focus and increase your productivity.

Here are the highlights:

(3:09) Phone notifications.

(6:21) Neurological conditions.

(13:06) Your brain can be retrained.

(15:15) The pandemic.

(22:22) Start with the big things first.

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Fresh from doing a wardrobe consultation, which I've been doing since 2007, I wanted to share my tips for those of you stuck in a style rut.

For those people who find it a chore to get dressed and are almost happy day to day just sticking on leggings and a baggy jumper, this episode will hopefully get you out of your rut and breathe some life into your wardrobe.

Here are the highlights:

(2:36) The signs that you’re in a style rut.

(6:52) Why women struggle with their style.

(8:55) The disconnect between you and your wardrobe environment.

(10:35) Your wardrobe isn’t always the problem.

(12:27) How to get out of a style rut.

(14:58) How to detox your wardrobe.

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I am here today to reach out to all of you who are ripping your hair out because you just can't get anything done. You don't appear to be able to make progress, you're not tracking towards your results, you're not having productive days and you seem to just be flitting from one thing to the other and not achieving any actual results.

So, in this episode, I want to share my top tips on how you can start to get things done again.

Here are the highlights:

(4:25) Schedule in time to work on important things.

(7:19) Get clear on what you want.

(9:28) Let’s talk discipline.

(12:48) Don’t catastrophise a possible outcome.

(16:15) Coaching yourself towards better answers.

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I am notoriously indecisive and it's often because I can see the good in things along with the bad. So I end up not knowing how to proceed.

So, in this episode, we explore how to make a better decision or, how to make any decision if you're in a place where you're just overthinking everything.

Here are the highlights:

(1:52) The power of journaling.

(6:07) Clarity is important when making a decision.

(11:44) Evaluate each option.

(14:20) Tuning in to yourself and your gut.

(19:38) Your brain is designed to keep you safe.

(22:00) Nothing is permanent, nothing stays the same.

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I believe that to do the best business, you have to operate and work on your best self.

I've recently been working with many female entrepreneurs and career women who want to increase results in their small businesses. A lot of them have asked me what are my top tips so in this episode, I thought I would share them with you.

Here are the highlights:

(6:44) My top 10 tips for growing your business.

(12:36) The four categories of tasks to focus on.

(15:26) Networking is important.

(17:30) Get organised with the little things.

(22:13) Evaluate and analyse everything.

(24:54) Decide your standards upfront and know your boundaries.

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In this episode, I am talking to all of you out there who are feeling stuck, stagnant and cannot get out of a situation. Specifically those of you who can't seem to get any momentum or move forward. You feel like you are just spinning around in circles.

You are absolutely capable of taking a small step in any other direction than the one you're used to. So in this episode, I share my top tips on how to make change today.

Here are the highlights:

• (1:39) Why do we get stuck in a situation?
• (4:08) Mindset.
• (5:13) You can't see into the future.
• (10:27) The limiting question of what to do with life.
• (14:32) Nothing is permanent.
• (16:26) Getting out of stagnation.

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In this episode, I talk about fear. I’m not talking about fear of jumping out of an aeroplane, but low level fear. I’m talking about stress, anxiety and overwhelm.

Many of us experience fear in terms of feeling unsure, worried, concerned, anxious and stressed out. But how do we overcome it?

Here are the highlights:

• (4:21) Fight and flight reactions.
• (10:23) Get control over your focus.
• (13:55) Feeding the fear.
• (15:31) Understanding fear and its effect.
• (18:18) Fear is not part of you.
• (22:00) How to respond to stress.

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We often find ourselves struggling to juggle all the balls life throws at us. We sometimes can feel like we’ve just not got enough time to get everything done in a day, yet we all have the same 24 hours.

In this episode, I share with you a strategy which I still use. I actually use it every 90 days, 30 days and every week. It really helps to refocus the mind and hopefully, it will help you too.

Here are the highlights:

• (3:58) What are meaningful goals?
• (6:25) What are filler activities?
• (8:32) Everyone has the same 24 hours in a day
• (13:05) The importance of proactively putting in one rock first
• (16:25) Time commitments
• (19:17) Finding value in every activity

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Today’s episode is all about play based learning and how we can teach children through play.

I am going to delve into the relationship between physical and mental health for a child through play, and the well established link between physical and mental health, and how they have a significant impact on one and other.

Here are the highlights:

(01:11) The link between physical and mental health and how it can impact each other

(02:53) How can we be more inclusive with our games?

(07:28) Problem solving

(11:57) Importance of play

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Today we are asking ourselves the question: what are you tolerating?

I've always thought of the word tolerant as a positive thing.

It's associated with being adaptable and agreeable.

But is being tolerant different to putting up with something?

Is it different to making do with things?

Let’s stop putting up with things. Let’s stop making do. Let’s stop tolerating.

Join me today as we discuss how to be happy with the standards we’re creating.

Here are the highlights:

(1:19) Making do

(5:33) What are your limits?

(11:29) You are worthy

(15:24) Stop putting up with things

(17:15) Your list

(18:40) Expecting and accepting

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Today I’m talking about a topic I know intimately.

Confidence.

I have struggled with this my entire life.

But you see, my story today is ordinary.

It's nothing special.

Woman has baby and loses confidence.

I'm sure I'm not first. I'm probably never going to be the last.

So, join me as I bring you my story: why I lost my confidence and how I rebuilt it.

Here are the highlights:

(3:57) My inspiration

(8:58) All about the routine

(16:02) Business decisions

(21:10) Fear and dark places

(25:46) Feeling ashamed

(37:14) Putting things right

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I'm putting my hands up here because I am an absolute over thinker!

If you are struggling with a particular decision or if you feel stuck, I’m hoping by the end of this episode you will understand why you're overthinking, why you've got to this position and the things which are impacting you to make progress.

Here are the highlights:

• (7:43) The paradox of choice
• (18:23) The source of indecision is fear
• (23:49) The fear of the outcome is what keeps us stuck
• (28:57) Metaprogramming is how we operate within our worlds
• (33:00) What can you do if you are in a state of stuckness?
• (36:52) Get out of the paradox
• (42:15) You don’t learn by just staying where you are

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I’m a people pleaser in recovery. For years, I have done everything I possibly can to please everybody around me. The result, I end up with more on my plate than I can deal with.

In this episode, I look at why we like to please people, why we are quick to say yes and how we can overcome our disease to please.

Here are the highlights:

• (11:55) You can’t please everyone
• (16:16) Full cup and reciprocation
• (19:01) A negative spiral of behaviour
• (22:23) Overcoming our disease to please
• (24:33) What do you want to give vs what is important to you?

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In a world where the word ‘burnout’ is thrown around quite a lot, in this episode we explore what burn out is, the initial signs of it and how we can reverse it and shift our energy into a new place.

Here are the highlights:

• (01:03) Signs of burnout
• (10:57) Core reason for burnout
• (13:57) Last drops of fuel
• (23:50) Embrace

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You know that feeling of opening your wardrobe, seeing so much looking back at you and just not knowing where to start.

In this episode, we look at how we can end up with a wardrobe full of clothes but still feel like we have nothing to put on in the morning.

Here are the highlights:

• (05:48) We like what we know
• (14:44) Fast fashion
• (22:02) It’s all about WHY
• (32:06) Make a plan

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