Tell Me About Your Kids – Details, episodes & analysis

Can you believe that Bonnie and Adam have created 150 episodes of “Tell Me About Your Kids” over the last 3 years?! In this episode, they reflect on the experience, as well as what they’ve both come to understand about Connective Parenting and the universal struggles of parenthood. 

From punishment to being friends with your kids, to loving but sometimes not liking them, to wondering how life would be if we’d never had them, to the effects of generational trauma, Bonnie and Adam touch on many of life’s quandaries. And of course, the conversation wouldn’t be complete without a BIG thank you to the MANY generous parents who have been guests on the show. 

 An Important Note: This summer, Bonnie and Adam are taking a well-deserved hiatus. But don’t worry, you can catch up on popular episodes, ones you missed, or any you feel like it’s time to revisit. Stay tuned for details about the next chapter of Tell Me About Your Kids coming later this year! 

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

https://linktr.ee/bonnieharrisparenting

Website: bonnieharris.com 

Email: bh@bonnieharris.com

Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch

 www.echofinch.com

Use this link to purchase Bonnie's audiobook on Audible

When Your Kids Push Your Buttons and What You Can Do About It

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When little kids fight and hurt each other, it’s all a parent can do not to grab, yell, blame and ultimately shame the hitter. Lee and Andre are learning how to hold their 3-year-old hitter accountable without all that. Instead, Celine learns the natural consequences of her behavior (a lost opportunity with blame) and how to develop her brain to think ahead—as long as Lee and Andre can alter their mindset and therefore their automatic reactions. The key to raising responsible, respectful people is modeling that ourselves. Lee and Andre need to reprogram old tapes that quickly assume malice and tell them yelling at Celine is the way to teach her not to do it again. Tune in to learn the No-Blame Solution to sibling fights—no matter what age your kids.

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

https://linktr.ee/bonnieharrisparenting

Website: bonnieharris.com 

Email: bh@bonnieharris.com

Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch

 www.echofinch.com

Use this link to purchase Bonnie's audiobook on Audible

When Your Kids Push Your Buttons and What You Can Do About It

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Join Thrive Market and Get My Special Discount 

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No matter what your race, do you know how to talk to your kids in a coherent, age-appropriate way about race and racism? Were you brought up ignorant about racism, thinking it was only about someone else? I talk with Emma Redden and Grace Aldrich about their work in helping people discover their own histories in order to help their children understand theirs.

Grace and Emma are community educators and work with groups of teachers, parents and caregivers. If you are interested in working with them contact them through their website {thefullstoryschool.org} or by email at thefullstoryschool@gmail.com.

Grace and Emma have 2 podcasts Freedom Means and Kistory. 

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

https://linktr.ee/bonnieharrisparenting

Website: bonnieharris.com 

Email: bh@bonnieharris.com

Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch

 www.echofinch.com

Use this link to purchase Bonnie's audiobook on Audible

When Your Kids Push Your Buttons and What You Can Do About It

🚨 New offer for Tell Me About Your Kids listeners!! 🚨 

Join Thrive Market and Get My Special Discount 

 https://www.tkqlhce.com/click-100687948-15329496

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Special Education consultant Lisa Stewart helps parents navigate the difficult waters of their children’s school careers when they don’t “fit the mold”. Ever had to communicate with your child’s school about lagging work, behavioral problems or decipher an I.E.P. or a 504 plan? Advocating for your child can feel like trying to tread water at best. It can be an intimidating, overwhelming job for which very few parents are qualified. Special ed. consultants can advocate for you advocating for your child.

 Lisa M. Stewart
Stewart Special Ed. Consulting, LLC
www.stewartspecialedconsulting.com
603-209-4821

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

Website: bonnieharris.com 

Email: bh@bonnieharris.com

Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available)

            Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 

            8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With 

Audio Books

The Buttons Audio Course 

Counseling/Coaching

All books and audiobooks can be purchased here: 

https://bonnieharris.com/shop/

Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch
 www.echofinch.com

Jean’s son has recently declared new pronouns, a new name, and a pan-sexual identity. They are there; the thinking and deciding has been done. But Jean and her husband are finding the change a bit daunting and are slower to climb on board with the correct terminology. Thirteen years of having a son with your chosen name is difficult to let go of and does not come without grieving a loss. We discuss how to accommodate each other with respect and mutual understanding so Jean no longer feels “cancelled in her own home”.

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

Website: bonnieharris.com 

Email: bh@bonnieharris.com

Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available)

            Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 

            8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With 

Audio Books

The Buttons Audio Course 

Counseling/Coaching

All books and audiobooks can be purchased here: 

https://bonnieharris.com/shop/

Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch
 www.echofinch.com

Among Willa’s “lots of kids”, her thirteen-year-old son, Dennis, is her biggest challenge. With an ADD personality and a brain going in all directions, this dysregulated teen looking for independence appears only to attract trouble. Being the “odd-one out” in his family, Dennis feels alone. The result is that Willa, a normally calm, caring mom, has ended this covid academic year exhausted and exacerbated. Structure proved to be what Dennis needed to succeed in school but now the summer is here and already chaos has reigned.

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

Website: bonnieharris.com 

Email: bh@bonnieharris.com

Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available)

            Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 

            8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With 

Audio Books

The Buttons Audio Course 

Counseling/Coaching

All books and audiobooks can be purchased here: 

https://bonnieharris.com/shop/

Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch
 www.echofinch.com

Patricia is worried about her 7 1/2 yo son who she sees almost as a split personality. On one hand he has many strengths—he is extremely bright, perceptive and mature. On the other he is strong-headed and refuses to do what he doesn’t want. In most areas, she sees his strength, but in the food department, she sees his strong will as a weakness. Her fears are telling him not to trust himself when it comes to food choices—a message that could cause damage on down the line. Whatever the area of control, the lesson is to stand back from engaging in a fight and listen to your child. 

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

Website: bonnieharris.com 

Email: bh@bonnieharris.com

Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available)

            Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 

            8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With 

Audio Books

The Buttons Audio Course 

Counseling/Coaching

All books and audiobooks can be purchased here: 

https://bonnieharris.com/shop/

Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch
 www.echofinch.com

Your kids need you to be in charge. They also don’t like to be told what to do. How do you find the right balance between the two? When do you push and when do you pull back? There-in lies the challenge of parenting. But when you understand what you can appropriately expect, finding that balance gets easier.

These once in a while episodes are concepts Bonnie has developed over the years that she discusses and ponders with her producer, Adam. They are critical pieces needed to fit together to form the big picture of a connected family. It’s when some of these pieces are missing that parents feel the most frustrated and drained in their attempts at controlling their children. Finding their places in the puzzle can be life changing.

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

Website: bonnieharris.com 

Email: bh@bonnieharris.com

Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available)

            Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 

            8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With 

Audio Books

The Buttons Audio Course 

Counseling/Coaching

All books and audiobooks can be purchased here: 

https://bonnieharris.com/shop/

Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch
 www.echofinch.com

Seven year old Maeve has big emotional upheavals that clash with her father’s Aspergers presentation of calm and collected. Edward longs to be the involved parent his wife is but his non-emotional way of presenting comes across harsh and uncaring. And Lee’s desire for all to be heard and get along makes it hard for her to say no. Maeve is caught in the middle. Sometimes conscientious parents can work too hard.

Referred to episodes:  (will you put links in here please)

5/27/21  #44 Be the Coach not the Referee

5/13/21  #42 Puzzle Pieces – Your Kids are Not Disrespecting You

Other sibling related episodes:

4/29/21  #40 Controlling the Fight

2/11/21  #29 Standing Outside Your Children’s Problems

12/1/20  #20 When Sibling Fights Trigger Parent Anger

8/4/20  #3 Drowning in Humans

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

Website: bonnieharris.com 

Email: bh@bonnieharris.com

Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available)

            Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 

            8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With 

Audio Books

The Buttons Audio Course 

Counseling/Coaching

All books and audiobooks can be purchased here: 

https://bonnieharris.com/shop/

Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch
 www.echofinch.com

14-year-old Andrew, an only child has been cocooning with his single mother over the past pandemic year and is showing signs of stress in anticipation of moving out into the world. We have no guidelines for how we do this—to mask or not to mask…. An already anxious kid who learned early on that his introversion was not okay with his father struggles with how it’s all going to happen. Fortunately, he has a strong connection and relationship with his mom.

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

Website: bonnieharris.com 

Email: bh@bonnieharris.com

Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available)

            Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 

            8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With 

Audio Books

The Buttons Audio Course 

Counseling/Coaching

All books and audiobooks can be purchased here: 

https://bonnieharris.com/shop/

Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch
 www.echofinch.com