Explore every episode of the podcast Tell Me About Your Kids
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| Puzzle Pieces # 17 - Thank You for Telling Us About Your Kids | 22 Jun 2023 | 00:38:10 | |
Can you believe that Bonnie and Adam have created 150 episodes of “Tell Me About Your Kids” over the last 3 years?! In this episode, they reflect on the experience, as well as what they’ve both come to understand about Connective Parenting and the universal struggles of parenthood. An Important Note: This summer, Bonnie and Adam are taking a well-deserved hiatus. But don’t worry, you can catch up on popular episodes, ones you missed, or any you feel like it’s time to revisit. Stay tuned for details about the next chapter of Tell Me About Your Kids coming later this year!
https://linktr.ee/bonnieharrisparenting Website: bonnieharris.com Email: bh@bonnieharris.com Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch Use this link to purchase Bonnie's audiobook on Audible When Your Kids Push Your Buttons and What You Can Do About It 🚨 New offer for Tell Me About Your Kids listeners!! 🚨 Join Thrive Market and Get My Special Discount https://www.tkqlhce.com/click-100687948-15329496 This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| How to Hold Your Children Accountable - Without Blame | 15 Jun 2023 | 00:50:31 | |
When little kids fight and hurt each other, it’s all a parent can do not to grab, yell, blame and ultimately shame the hitter. Lee and Andre are learning how to hold their 3-year-old hitter accountable without all that. Instead, Celine learns the natural consequences of her behavior (a lost opportunity with blame) and how to develop her brain to think ahead—as long as Lee and Andre can alter their mindset and therefore their automatic reactions. The key to raising responsible, respectful people is modeling that ourselves. Lee and Andre need to reprogram old tapes that quickly assume malice and tell them yelling at Celine is the way to teach her not to do it again. Tune in to learn the No-Blame Solution to sibling fights—no matter what age your kids. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. https://linktr.ee/bonnieharrisparenting Website: bonnieharris.com Email: bh@bonnieharris.com Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch Use this link to purchase Bonnie's audiobook on Audible When Your Kids Push Your Buttons and What You Can Do About It 🚨 New offer for Tell Me About Your Kids listeners!! 🚨 Join Thrive Market and Get My Special Discount https://www.tkqlhce.com/click-100687948-15329496 This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| From the archives: Episode 66 Community Pieces #5: “Denial is the heartbeat of racism” – a conversation on how to talk to ALL kids about race | 13 Apr 2023 | 00:38:45 | |
No matter what your race, do you know how to talk to your kids in a coherent, age-appropriate way about race and racism? Were you brought up ignorant about racism, thinking it was only about someone else? I talk with Emma Redden and Grace Aldrich about their work in helping people discover their own histories in order to help their children understand theirs. Grace and Emma are community educators and work with groups of teachers, parents and caregivers. If you are interested in working with them contact them through their website {thefullstoryschool.org} or by email at thefullstoryschool@gmail.com. https://linktr.ee/bonnieharrisparenting Website: bonnieharris.com Email: bh@bonnieharris.com Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch Use this link to purchase Bonnie's audiobook on Audible When Your Kids Push Your Buttons and What You Can Do About It 🚨 New offer for Tell Me About Your Kids listeners!! 🚨 Join Thrive Market and Get My Special Discount https://www.tkqlhce.com/click-100687948-15329496 This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| Community Pieces #4: Special Education Advocacy | 15 Jul 2021 | 00:37:58 | |
Special Education consultant Lisa Stewart helps parents navigate the difficult waters of their children’s school careers when they don’t “fit the mold”. Ever had to communicate with your child’s school about lagging work, behavioral problems or decipher an I.E.P. or a 504 plan? Advocating for your child can feel like trying to tread water at best. It can be an intimidating, overwhelming job for which very few parents are qualified. Special ed. consultants can advocate for you advocating for your child. Lisa M. Stewart Website: bonnieharris.com Email: bh@bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With Audio Books The Buttons Audio Course Counseling/Coaching All books and audiobooks can be purchased here: https://bonnieharris.com/shop/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| Losing a Son/Gaining a They | 08 Jul 2021 | 00:39:41 | |
Jean’s son has recently declared new pronouns, a new name, and a pan-sexual identity. They are there; the thinking and deciding has been done. But Jean and her husband are finding the change a bit daunting and are slower to climb on board with the correct terminology. Thirteen years of having a son with your chosen name is difficult to let go of and does not come without grieving a loss. We discuss how to accommodate each other with respect and mutual understanding so Jean no longer feels “cancelled in her own home”. Website: bonnieharris.com Email: bh@bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With Audio Books The Buttons Audio Course Counseling/Coaching All books and audiobooks can be purchased here: https://bonnieharris.com/shop/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| “Parenting him is like a full-time job” | 01 Jul 2021 | 00:43:46 | |
Among Willa’s “lots of kids”, her thirteen-year-old son, Dennis, is her biggest challenge. With an ADD personality and a brain going in all directions, this dysregulated teen looking for independence appears only to attract trouble. Being the “odd-one out” in his family, Dennis feels alone. The result is that Willa, a normally calm, caring mom, has ended this covid academic year exhausted and exacerbated. Structure proved to be what Dennis needed to succeed in school but now the summer is here and already chaos has reigned. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com Email: bh@bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With Audio Books The Buttons Audio Course Counseling/Coaching All books and audiobooks can be purchased here: https://bonnieharris.com/shop/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| “My brain is telling me this isn’t what I want” | 24 Jun 2021 | 00:41:44 | |
Patricia is worried about her 7 1/2 yo son who she sees almost as a split personality. On one hand he has many strengths—he is extremely bright, perceptive and mature. On the other he is strong-headed and refuses to do what he doesn’t want. In most areas, she sees his strength, but in the food department, she sees his strong will as a weakness. Her fears are telling him not to trust himself when it comes to food choices—a message that could cause damage on down the line. Whatever the area of control, the lesson is to stand back from engaging in a fight and listen to your child. Website: bonnieharris.com Email: bh@bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With Audio Books The Buttons Audio Course Counseling/Coaching All books and audiobooks can be purchased here: https://bonnieharris.com/shop/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| Puzzle Pieces #7: Finding The Delicate Balance Of Your Parent Authority | 17 Jun 2021 | 00:44:59 | |
Your kids need you to be in charge. They also don’t like to be told what to do. How do you find the right balance between the two? When do you push and when do you pull back? There-in lies the challenge of parenting. But when you understand what you can appropriately expect, finding that balance gets easier. Website: bonnieharris.com Email: bh@bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With Audio Books The Buttons Audio Course Counseling/Coaching All books and audiobooks can be purchased here: https://bonnieharris.com/shop/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| When “Calm and Collected” Gets In The Way | 10 Jun 2021 | 00:49:38 | |
Seven year old Maeve has big emotional upheavals that clash with her father’s Aspergers presentation of calm and collected. Edward longs to be the involved parent his wife is but his non-emotional way of presenting comes across harsh and uncaring. And Lee’s desire for all to be heard and get along makes it hard for her to say no. Maeve is caught in the middle. Sometimes conscientious parents can work too hard.
Referred to episodes: (will you put links in here please) 5/27/21 #44 Be the Coach not the Referee 5/13/21 #42 Puzzle Pieces – Your Kids are Not Disrespecting You Other sibling related episodes: 4/29/21 #40 Controlling the Fight 2/11/21 #29 Standing Outside Your Children’s Problems 12/1/20 #20 When Sibling Fights Trigger Parent Anger 8/4/20 #3 Drowning in Humans Website: bonnieharris.com Email: bh@bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With Audio Books The Buttons Audio Course Counseling/Coaching All books and audiobooks can be purchased here: https://bonnieharris.com/shop/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| Launching Out Of The Covid Cocoon | 03 Jun 2021 | 00:46:35 | |
14-year-old Andrew, an only child has been cocooning with his single mother over the past pandemic year and is showing signs of stress in anticipation of moving out into the world. We have no guidelines for how we do this—to mask or not to mask…. An already anxious kid who learned early on that his introversion was not okay with his father struggles with how it’s all going to happen. Fortunately, he has a strong connection and relationship with his mom. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com Email: bh@bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With Audio Books The Buttons Audio Course Counseling/Coaching All books and audiobooks can be purchased here: https://bonnieharris.com/shop/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| Sibling Rivalry: Be the Coach Not the Referee | 27 May 2021 | 00:41:15 | |
Deanna and Ed want their young sons to grow up to be strong, independent and best friends. We all want our kids to be friends—but how do you make that happen? The answer is you can’t. But you can work with them to learn how to solve their own problems so they don’t fight over you and spend a lot of time defending themselves and chalking up points against the other. Website: bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With Audio Books: The Buttons Audio Course Counseling/Coaching All books and audiobooks can be purchased here: https://bonnieharris.com/shop/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| The Shy Kids Are Alright | 20 May 2021 | 00:45:54 | |
Shyness is a character trait; it’s not a choice. Ashley’s 10 and 14 year olds are both extremely shy, as is Ashley. Ashley sees traits in them that she abhorred about herself and worked to change and their dad, outgoing and social, just thinks they’re rude.
“Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking,” by Susan Cain - https://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking/dp/0307352153/ref=sr_1_1?crid=VGGFF9LX88NW&dchild=1&keywords=quiet+susan+cain&qid=1621200592&s=books&sprefix=Quiet%2Cstripbooks%2C202&sr=1-1 Website: bonnieharris.com Email: bh@bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With Audio Books: The Buttons Audio Course Counseling/Coaching All books and audiobooks can be purchased here: https://bonnieharris.com/shop/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| Puzzle Pieces #6 Your Kids Are Not Disrespecting You | 13 May 2021 | 00:36:20 | |
These once in a while episodes are concepts Bonnie has developed over the years that she discusses and ponders with her producer, Adam. They are critical pieces needed to fit together to form the big picture of a connected family. It’s when some of these pieces are missing that parents feel the most frustrated and drained in their attempts at controlling their children. Finding their places in the puzzle can be life changing. Website: https://bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With Audio Books: The Buttons Audio Course Counseling/Coaching All books and audiobooks can be purchased here: https://bonnieharris.com/shop/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| Our Best Parenting Tool is Our Own Healing | 06 Apr 2023 | 00:49:57 | |
Camille’s early childhood trauma still asserts itself through her body language when she bites her lip. Because of the work Camille has done, her 9 year old daughter, Aria, can call her on it. But that lip still betrays Camille whenever she feels those old triggering emotions. Listen in to learn how to become aware of what your body, if not your words and emotions, may be telling your children and how to neutralize the effect, so you don’t pass on the anxiety of your own traumatic experience. Triggers take us into the past. Awareness of the past can keep us in the moment. Our best parenting tool is our own healing. https://linktr.ee/bonnieharrisparenting Website: bonnieharris.com Email: bh@bonnieharris.com Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch Use this link to purchase Bonnie's audiobook on Audible When Your Kids Push Your Buttons and What You Can Do About It 🚨 New offer for Tell Me About Your Kids listeners!! 🚨 Join Thrive Market and Get My Special Discount https://www.tkqlhce.com/click-100687948-15329496 This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| I Should Have Been An Only Child | 06 May 2021 | 00:53:06 | |
Shannon’s twelve year old son has never been okay with his younger sister. It’s as if her birth took something from him that he hasn’t been able to get back. Something broke in him. Trying to get him to be happier and see things differently may only be making things worse. Website: https://bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With Audio Books: The Buttons Audio Course Counseling/Coaching All books and audiobooks can be purchased here: https://bonnieharris.com/shop/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| Controlling The Fight | 29 Apr 2021 | 00:49:34 | |
Renee and Gary have different perspectives on their sons’ sibling fights. But both agree the oldest, their Harmony Child, is getting the worst of it from the younger Integrity Child. Their task is in how to allow their boys to fight the good fight while supporting and guiding them to work out those fights. Website: bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With Audio Books: The Buttons Audio Course Counseling/Coaching All books and audiobooks can be purchased here: https://bonnieharris.com/shop/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| Community Pieces #3: Child Behavior and Nutrition with Chris Kresser | 22 Apr 2021 | 00:51:32 | |
Worried your picky eater isn’t getting the right nutrition? Do you have a sugar junkie? Do you see the effects of food in your child’s behavior? Learn how food and nutrition shows up in your child’s behavior from an expert in functional medicine. Website: https://chriskresser.com – sign up for Chris’ newsletter Podcast: Revolution Health Radio Star Institute: https://sensoryhealth.org/basic/occupational-therapy-for-children Tell Me About Your Kids 12/22/20 episode: Eat Your Peas or No Dessert – to learn how to end mealtime battles Website: bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With Audio Books: The Buttons Audio Course Counseling/Coaching All books and audiobooks can be purchased here: https://bonnieharris.com/shop/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| Cutting The Invisible Phone Cord | 15 Apr 2021 | 00:39:12 | |
From the consequences of consequences, to relationship and consideration, to inappropriate text messaging, to role playing, Victoria, mother of 7 and 10 year old girls, and I cover a broad range of issues she is managing with her tween. Website: bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With Audio Books: The Buttons Audio Course Counseling/Coaching All books and audiobooks can be purchased here: https://bonnieharris.com/shop/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| The Toothbrush Battles (and other struggles for power) | 08 Apr 2021 | 00:44:37 | |
Michael is a dad of seven and ten year old kids who push him to his limit. When pushed, he pushes back engaging in endless power struggles. The fight required becomes an ongoing loop of frustration and anger continually fueling the opponent. To step out of the power struggle, Michael knows, is to take responsibility for himself and his problems. Easier said than done. Website: bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With Audio Books: The Buttons Audio Course Counseling/Coaching All books and audiobooks can be purchased here: https://bonnieharris.com/shop/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| When Connection Feels Overwhelming | 01 Apr 2021 | 00:43:26 | |
When 12 yr. old Avery complains to her mother about friends who are mean and criticize the way she looks, Heather gets overwhelmed by the magnitude. When Avery is feeling down her reactions get misinterpreted by her mother. When Heather’s button gets pushed, she sees her daughter turning into a brat. But she has learned that she can step back, reframe and find the truth—her daughter is not being a brat, she’s having a hard time. With this understanding, connection can happen. Now Heather needs to learn that she cannot take away her daughter’s struggles, she can only support her in her journey—but that’s all Avery needs. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/) Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| Puzzle Pieces #5 When Your Buttons Get Pushed | 25 Mar 2021 | 00:34:13 | |
These once in a while episodes are concepts Bonnie has developed over the years that she discusses and ponders with her producer, Adam. They are critical pieces needed to fit together to form the big picture of a connected family. It’s when some of these pieces are missing that parents feel the most frustrated and drained in their attempts at controlling their children. Finding their places in the puzzle can be life changing. 1. Recognize that your buttons are yours. Own them. 2. Write down your reactions. Did you yell, threaten? What did you do? 3. Write your emotions. Did you feel hopeless, enraged, resentful, etc? 4. What are the assumptions you made? Ask yourself, If I felt that way, what must I have been thinking? 5. Identify your assumptions and know they are not the truth; they are your perceptions. 6. Reframe your assumptions by stating facts of the situation or a different perception that leads to more compassion. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| The Squeaky Wheel Gets The Most But Wrong Kind of Attention | 18 Mar 2021 | 00:51:33 | |
Ashley has 4 girls – the second to youngest is her Integrity Child who pushes her mother to the brink when she is trying so hard to understand why her daughter behaves so differently from the other three. Four girls plus Covid, and Ashley just wants things to change so her defiant one can be more manageable. Related podcast, episode #14 — Puzzle Pieces #1: “Why Would You Do That?” Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/) Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| How To Be A Selfish Parent (But Not Too) | 11 Mar 2021 | 00:34:48 | |
Lauren is working out the fine-tuning of her parenting with her questions of what she has the right to want for herself vs her fear of not doing enough for her children. This episode grapples with the difficult daily decisions of, when do I sacrifice my needs for my child? and when do I put myself first with self-care? Where does my parental authority come in to play and where do I hand it over to my child? Strength comes for Lauren in knowing what she wants, what she has a right to—something important to model for her kids. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/) Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| Stretched Thin | 04 Mar 2021 | 00:38:14 | |
Covid-related fears and worries are depleting Anne and Kevin so that by bedtime they are fried. Their three girls scramble for their parents’ attention while the parents are left feeling impatient, frustrated and angry. When worries are covered up, integrity kids like Grace see right through it and grab for attention. Unfortunately, her attempts only provoke more impatience and yelling. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/) Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| Does Your Child See You as the Enemy? | 30 Mar 2023 | 00:48:58 | |
Katherine wants her 9 year old to be able to stand up for herself and eventually save the world with her strength of spirit. But in the meantime, she unintentionally undermines that strength by not accepting it right now. Zelda perceives her parents as the enemy because she believes she must fight them to be heard. Her difficult “integrity” temperament worries her parents who get angry when they think she ignores them or says they’re mean. They try to explain, but the fight comes, not when Zelda can’t do what she wants, but when she feels wrong for the wanting. https://linktr.ee/bonnieharrisparenting Website: bonnieharris.com Email: bh@bonnieharris.com Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch Use this link to purchase Bonnie's audiobook on Audible When Your Kids Push Your Buttons and What You Can Do About It 🚨 New offer for Tell Me About Your Kids listeners!! 🚨 Join Thrive Market and Get My Special Discount https://www.tkqlhce.com/click-100687948-15329496 This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| Community Pieces #2 The Kids Are Going To Be Fine | 25 Feb 2021 | 00:34:42 | |
A third grade teacher describes her experiences teaching both remotely and in person during these times of Covid. She shares her frustrations and delights, how she sees her children doing both online and in the classroom, and offers some advice for parents during these hectic times. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/) Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| I Was Supposed To Have Taught Him That | 18 Feb 2021 | 00:41:38 | |
Gretchen wants her adolescent son to launch into his teen years with all the good work/study habits she thinks will get him far. Don’t we all. The problem is that’s her agenda. She has to trust her son to work out his own with more guidance and less advice. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/) Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| Standing Outside Your Children’s Problems | 11 Feb 2021 | 00:54:28 | |
Alan and Angela are exhausted by fear that their children are not getting their needs met during Covid isolation. Their boys fight more in close quarters. They must have friends and opportunities that are not possible to provide during these times. Alan and Angela feel like failures. What they need to know is that what their 3 children need most is parents who can see them through these tough times rather than parents exhausted from the mental anguish of trying to fix it all. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/) Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| Fighting For The Spotlight | 04 Feb 2021 | 00:39:38 | |
Karina is worn down by the willfulness of her 5 yr. old who not only resists her warnings but seems goaded by them. What she doesn’t want him to do is exactly what he does—and models for his 1 ½ yr. old sister. She reflexively throws out threats and punishments in her attempt to get him to listen. But ends up feeling horrible afterwards. “I’m going to do it anyway” has become his behavior of choice. We find a way to go with that to encourage behavior. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/) Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| Puzzle Pieces #4 "Keeping Your Kids Connected" | 28 Jan 2021 | 00:41:02 | |
These once in a while episodes are concepts Bonnie has developed over the years that she discusses and ponders with her producer, Adam. They are critical pieces needed to fit together to form the big picture of a connected family. It’s when some of these pieces are missing that parents feel the most frustrated and drained in their attempts at controlling their children. Finding their places in the puzzle can be life changing. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/) Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| Screening Into The Void | 21 Jan 2021 | 00:49:08 | |
Rob and Claire’s eleven year old son is feeling the effects of both Covid and more screentime than usual. His emotions are easily triggered and distorted, angering his father and scaring his mother. Both Claire and Zach’s thinking lead to catastrophizing, while Rob wants to be listened to. This world, while quite “normal” these days, can send a tween or a teen into the bliss zone of cyberspace. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/) Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| Nobody Likes The Word Chore | 14 Jan 2021 | 00:46:45 | |
Christina is, rightly so, trying to get her 10 and 15 year olds to help out more at home. Her very busy life doesn’t have time to do it all. But she and her kids have been in a feedback loop of resentment, anger and guilt that triggers everyone into disconnect. Why should I? Why can’t you just…? You should know better…. are the questions spinning in Christina’s head that instantly and automatically create that disconnect. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/) Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| Community Pieces #1: When Conflict between Parents Needs the Big Conversation | 07 Jan 2021 | 00:47:32 | |
Most parenting partners face conflict about how to handle the kids. Conflict quickly triggers anger, resentment and blame. Rarely does the necessary conversation happen after emotions are cooled. Anger and resentment get squashed—but not forgotten. In this first Community Pieces episode, Bonnie talks with mediator and conflict resolution coach, Adar Cohen, who leads big conversations in conflict zones and in family rooms. Bonnie and Adar discuss both the approach and the how-to of the big conversation so understanding results. Listening well is the quickest way to being heard.
Twitter: @DrAdarCohen How to Have a Difficult Conversation (a step by step guide) https://psyche.co/guides/use-mediation-techniques-to-overcome-the-muck-of-blame-and-anger TED talk https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LZu16ZaLgJM Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/) Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| Happy New Year From Tell Me About Your Kids! | 01 Jan 2021 | 00:02:49 | |
Thank you for listening to Tell Me About Your Kids in 2020! You've made this podcast a success in so many ways. Stay tuned for all the great episodes we have coming up in 2021. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/) Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| From Power Struggle To Relationship | 29 Dec 2020 | 00:44:29 | |
2020 ends with a lesson on relationship. Tracy’s children are not too young to begin this important process. Most parents naturally get hung up on what is important to teach and get stuck in the minutia of daily life and chaos with young kids. We forget that the main thing we want our children to learn is to be respectful and considerate. Tracy gets a reminder of this important aspect of parenting and how her issue with getting toys picked up blocks her needed focus on developing a mutually respectful relationship. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/) Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| When Your Best Friend Parents Differently | 23 Mar 2023 | 00:48:47 | |
What would it mean for Erica to allow her friend to find her own way thru parenting that works for her? What does she need to give up to be the loving, compassionate friend she wants to be? These are the questions that get answered as Bonnie looks into the critical role of boundaries to determine what is Erica’s business and what is her friend’s. With the intention of helping her 13 year old daughter and friend get unleashed from a 5 year old’s tantrums, Erica wants to impose her better way but in doing so ends up exploding from two years of holding in judgement. https://linktr.ee/bonnieharrisparenting Website: bonnieharris.com Email: bh@bonnieharris.com Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch Use this link to purchase Bonnie's audiobook on Audible When Your Kids Push Your Buttons and What You Can Do About It 🚨 New offer for Tell Me About Your Kids listeners!! 🚨 Join Thrive Market and Get My Special Discount https://www.tkqlhce.com/click-100687948-15329496 This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| Eat Your Peas or No Dessert | 22 Dec 2020 | 00:44:55 | |
Emily has gotten into a habit of using candy and sweets to get her three kids to eat a bite of everything on their plate. Her intention is good, but she learns that the lesson she is teaching may not be the lesson she wants them to learn. The goal gets lost when the immediate desire is front and center. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/) Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| “I’m stupid, you hate me” | 15 Dec 2020 | 00:42:42 | |
Six-year-old Luke is having trouble staying focused with remote learning. He “despises” reading and multiple times a day bemoans that he’s stupid and his mom hates him, much to Ariel’s bewilderment. She of course worries about his self-confidence and tries to convince him that he’s wrong. But her worry about Luke keeps Ariel from seeing what she unintentionally projects onto Luke that contributes to his lack of self-confidence. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/) Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| Puzzle Pieces #3 Boundaries: Whose job is it, anyway? | 08 Dec 2020 | 00:41:48 | |
These once in a while episodes are concepts Bonnie has developed over the years that she discusses and ponders with her producer, Adam. They are critical pieces needed to fit together to form the big picture of a connected family. It’s when some of these pieces are missing that parents feel the most frustrated and drained in their attempts at controlling their children. Finding their places in the puzzle can be life changing. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/) Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| When Sibling Fights Trigger Parent Anger | 01 Dec 2020 | 00:40:33 | |
Julie returns to the podcast (see Sibling Rivalry eps. 8 and 9) with a deeper layer exposed. We now look at why she gets so mad when her boys fight. She knows the fights are over nothing, she knows they can probably work it out, but she can’t stand the fighting, which triggers her rage and feeling out of control. Hang in till the end. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/) Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| Creating Chaos Out Of Nothing | 24 Nov 2020 | 00:44:25 | |
Lauren’s two boys, 7 and 11 are good examples of Integrity and Harmony kids. Jack’s easy-going, cooperative nature makes Lauren and her husband all the more determined to try to control the younger Bobby, whose attention-grabbing, highly frustrating behaviors are getting him in trouble at school. His parents are beginning to see him as the problem. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/) Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| Building Bridges Out Of Trauma | 17 Nov 2020 | 00:43:41 | |
Anne and her 10 year old son live alone while she and her husband have a trial separation. In her desire to protect her son from what she experienced at 10, Anne controls the environment of their home to unconsciously insure the peace and calm she thinks necessary to prevent the hurt and danger she fears from any amount of disruption. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/) Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| Puzzle Pieces #2 The Test Of Covid—For Better Or For Worse? | 10 Nov 2020 | 00:26:56 | |
We may all be sharing the same pandemic but how we each deal with it is infinitely different. It comes down to relationship—relationship with yourself, with your partner, with each child. Being thrown together in this pandemic pushes relationships to the ultimate test. Can I live with myself, can I live with you, without exhausting struggles? Do you feel trapped and forced or do you see this as an opportunity? Do you drain out day after day or actively refuel? Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/) Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| It's Hard To Deal With Someone Else's Grief | 03 Nov 2020 | 00:47:41 | |
Two kids, two temperaments, two developmental stages experience the death of their father. Leah is managing as best she can to accommodate her children’s experience of that death. But the younger child was only 2.5 – hard to know what the emotional effect of that death had on him. Sometimes an adult perspective can skew what is not understood about a very undeveloped brain and therefore behavioral cues can be misinterpreted. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/) Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| Is It OK To Love Your Teenager With Conditions? | 27 Oct 2020 | 00:52:24 | |
Jane’s teenage son is pulling away, getting secretive, dropping grades, and numbing out in his room on his computer. This common scenario typically provokes fear in parents leading to clutching, micromanaging, blame, and coming down harder with restrictions, and sending messages that love and acceptance is given when behavior and grades improve—exactly the opposite of what is needed. This is unintentional of course—but Ned’s behavior signals the intention he feels. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/) Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| Puzzle Pieces #1 "Why Would You Do That?" | 20 Oct 2020 | 00:48:25 | |
Puzzle Pieces These once in a while episodes are concepts Bonnie has developed over the years that she discusses and ponders with her producer, Adam. They are critical pieces needed to fit together to form the big picture of a connected family. It’s when some of these pieces are missing that parents feel the most frustrated and drained in their attempts at controlling their children. Finding their places in the puzzle can be life changing. #1 “Why Would You Do That?” Understanding Behavior Our culture doesn’t understand what behavior is, what it shows us, and what we need to do to have an effect on it. Listen in to learn how to have the most influence on your child’s unwanted behavior. Hint: It’s not punishment or consequences. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/) Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| When Your Child Believes He’s Not Enough | 16 Mar 2023 | 00:49:14 | |
How do you reconnect with a child who has pushed you away because he believes he has failed you? How do answer an angry child who yells, “If yelling at you is the way I express my anger, why shouldn’t I be allowed to do that?” Ginger has long suffered from depression and when it hit rock bottom, her life turned upside down. Her ex got custody of the kids and now she’s fighting to get them back. The divorce, depression, and hospitalization understandably provoked fear and anger in her 9 and 11 year olds. Not knowing who can be trusted has led the 11 year old to see one perspective only and that means shutting his mom out to protect himself. https://linktr.ee/bonnieharrisparenting Website: bonnieharris.com Email: bh@bonnieharris.com Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch Use this link to purchase Bonnie's audiobook on Audible When Your Kids Push Your Buttons and What You Can Do About It 🚨 New offer for Tell Me About Your Kids listeners!! 🚨 Join Thrive Market and Get My Special Discount https://www.tkqlhce.com/click-100687948-15329496 This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| Stubborn Kid, Frustrated Parents | 13 Oct 2020 | 00:49:22 | |
Amy and John have a 4.5 year old integrity child who has gotten into a rather rough physical fight with her best friend. Fiona also seems to be “refusing” to use the toilet. Where does keeping secrets fit in the picture of Fiona’s desires? Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/) Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| The Orchid Child and the Dandelion Child Pt. 2 | 06 Oct 2020 | 00:23:02 | |
This is part 2 of Bonnie's conversation with Mackenzie. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/) Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||
| Who is this child and where did he come from? Pt. 1 | 29 Sep 2020 | 00:39:36 | |
Mackenzie’s parenting turned a major corner when she understood that her very demanding, exhausting son is what Bonnie calls an “Integrity Child”. This revolutionary understanding about the child who “won’t take no for an answer” can flip your mindset so compassion and understanding replaces anger, criticism, and frustrated attempts to get this child to change. And when battles stop, the integrity child can remove his armor. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/) Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com | |||