Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50 – Details, episodes & analysis

Breaking Barriers
In this episode of the 'Taboo to Truth' podcast, host Karen Bigman, a certified life and menopause coach and sex educator, delves into the world of sex tech and sex work advocacy with Ola Miedzynska. Ola, a trailblazer in the sex technology industry, discusses her extensive experience with over 60 global sex tech and adult tech brands, including the founding of Sex Tech EU and co-founding EroBella, a safer platform for sex workers. Karen and Ola discuss the evolution of sex tech, the impact of AI on the industry, the importance of sex work platforms like EroBella in promoting safety and transparency, and the broader implications of technology on human intimacy. Join Karen and Ola as they navigate these complex topics, aiming to destigmatize and educate while creating a supportive community for midlife sexuality. 

Timestamps:
(00:00) - Introduction to Virtual Reality and Sex Tech
(00:26) - Meet Ola Miedzynska: A Trailblazer in Sex Technology
(01:47) - Understanding Sex Tech
(02:59) - Ola's Journey into the Sex Tech Industry
(05:02) - Global Regulations and Challenges in Sex Tech
(08:24) - AI Innovations in Sex Tech
(18:54) - Virtual Reality and Fantasy in Sex Tech
(20:00) - Empowering Sex Workers: The Aerobella Platform
(31:27) - Future of Sex Tech: Space and Beyond
(34:02) - Enhancing Relationships with Sex Education
(36:11) - Defining Sex: A Personal Perspective
(37:40) - Conclusion and Final Thoughts


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• Erobella Safer App
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• Erobella Podcast - Sex Workers Tells

*This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

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Revolutionizing Sexual Health: Dr. Sum Rakshit of Mystery Vibe Explains Innovative Solutions
In this episode, Dr. Sum Rakshit, founder of Mystery Vibe, delves into the world of sexual health and wellness. Dr. Rakshit discusses how Mystery Vibe's devices, originally based on biomedical engineering principles, are designed to address various sexual dysfunction issues such as vaginal dryness, lack of libido, pelvic pain, erectile dysfunction, and more. He shares insights on the development journey, highlighting the importance of addressing sexual health issues that arise from life events like childbirth, menopause, and other major medical conditions. 

Timestamps: 
(00:00) - Introduction: Women's Health Issues
(00:31) - Meet Dr. Sum Rakshit: Founder of Mystery Vibe 
(01:24) - From Ophthalmology to Sexual Health Devices
(03:31) - The Birth of Mystery Vibe
(05:53) - Crescendo: Addressing Pelvic Pain
(08:37) - Vibrators for Pleasure and Medical Use
(09:59) - Men's Health: Devices for Erectile Dysfunction and Prostate Health
(12:47) - The Importance of Regular Orgasms
(20:27) - Addressing Painful Sex for Women 36:14 Future Innovations: Period and Breast Pain Devices
(41:01) - The Role of Content in Sexual Health Awareness
(43:28) - Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Dr. Soum Rakshit, FIET, FRSA is the Co-Founder & CEO of MysteryVibe. He did his PhD in Biomedical Engineering and created a startup in eye recognition which was acquired by a US defence company. He then spent 7 years in management consulting on large technology projects. In 2014 Soum started MysteryVibe to bring defense electronics and medical expertise together and create devices that solve big topics in sexual health in an accessible way.

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*this podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

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Dirty talk in the bedroom might not be everyone's cup of tea, yet it's a powerful tool for staying present during sex. Women tend to get lost in their thoughts, worrying about whether their partner is getting bored or if they're taking too long to reach orgasm, which can detract from the pleasure of the experience. The same goes for men, particularly those dealing with erectile dysfunction, who might find their performance anxiety worsened by overthinking. In a previous episode, I discussed the importance of pleasure and touch, in this episode, I'm suggesting we engage our minds differently through dirty talk. It doesn't have to be offensive or crass; it can be sweet and subtle, starting with something as simple as sexting to build anticipation for your next intimate moment together.

*this podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

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I had the great pleasure of welcoming Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus, certified sex therapist, and the author of "Satisfaction Guaranteed: How to Have the Sex You've Always Wanted," to the show. Bat Sheva has dedicated her career to empowering women to find pleasure in their bodies and spirit by combining medical and psychological approaches to women's sexual health. Having met Bat Sheva years ago when she was my doctor, I credit her with starting me on my journey to openly discuss sexuality, a topic often shrouded in silence.

Our conversation delved into the complexities of maintaining a healthy sex life, especially as we age and navigate the inevitable changes that come with long-term relationships. Batsheva emphasized the importance of debunking myths around sex, advocating for a proactive approach to addressing sexual issues, rather than succumbing to the hopelessness that can arise when sex and intimacy issues remain unaddressed.

We discussed how societal expectations and personal experiences shape our understanding of sex, highlighting the need for communication and effort in rekindling intimacy. Addressing sexual challenges requires acknowledging that sex and relationship dynamics can evolve, emphasizing that solutions are often within reach with the right guidance and willingness to explore. Through our discussion, it became clear that addressing sexual health is not just about enhancing personal relationships but also about fostering a deeper sense of self-awareness and satisfaction.

00:00 Introduction: Embracing the Awkwardness in Sex
00:29 Welcome to the Taboo to Truth Podcast
01:30 Meet Batsheva Marcus: Expert in Women's Sexual Health
03:33 The Dynamic Nature of Sex Life
06:30 Addressing Sexual Issues in Long-Term Relationships
17:03 The Importance of Scheduling Sex
26:22 Prepping for Great Sex
27:10 The Role of Fantasy in Sexual Arousal
28:26 Understanding Neuroplasticity and Sexual Desire
29:05 The Importance of Hormones in Libido
32:00 Navigating Non-Monogamy in Relationships
35:28 Exploring Kink in Long-Term Relationships
41:11 Addressing Sexual Shame and Openness
46:21 Defining Sex and Its Boundaries


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*this podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

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In this episode, Kate Pozenik, Founder of Quirk Personal Branding and Career Consulting, interviewed me -  Spilling the Tea for Career Success. I'm thrilled to dive into an enlightening conversation with you all about midlife transitions, sexuality, and breaking down the taboos surrounding menopause.

My journey has been anything but linear, starting my career as a computer programmer and navigating through various roles before landing where I am today. It's this winding path, filled with its share of transitions and transformations, that has ignited my passion for empowering women and fostering open conversations about the real changes we face as we age.

We explore not just the challenges but also the opportunities that come with life's transitions. Whether it's career shifts, changes in our personal lives, or the physical and emotional evolution during menopause, I believe there's power in sharing our stories and learning from each other. I've personally experienced the roller coaster of reinventing myself professionally while also embracing the changes my body and mind have undergone through menopause. It's my hope that by spilling the tea on these often whispered-about topics, we can all feel a little less alone and a bit more empowered to tackle whatever comes our way.

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*this podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

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I had the pleasure of speaking with Alycia Williams, a sex and relationship therapist with a wealth of experience and a unique perspective rooted in her own background and professional journey. Alycia's insights into the complexity of human sexuality, the importance of self-acceptance, and the transformative power of therapy were both enlightening and inspiring. Her approach, emphasizing personal growth, open communication, and the celebration of individuality within relationships, resonated deeply with me.

This interview is a reminder of the beauty in embracing our own stories and the potential for growth and connection when we approach our relationships and ourselves with curiosity and compassion.

Alycia's work, particularly in the realms of sex therapy and navigating non-traditional relationship dynamics, challenges societal norms and encourages a more inclusive and understanding perspective on love and desire. Her ability to foster a safe space for exploration and her commitment to educating and empowering others is truly admirable. I am reminded of the importance of continuing to learn and grow, both personally and professionally, and the value of conversations like these.

You can find Alycia here.

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In today's conversation, I delve into the importance of addressing our sexual health, a critical aspect often relegated to the background due to various reasons such as hormonal changes, lack of a partner, or societal embarrassment. It's crucial to understand that sexual wellness is integral to our overall health, yet it's frequently overlooked or left until the last minute to discuss with healthcare providers. I've observed a common thread in conversations, regardless of gender, revealing a widespread hesitancy to talk about sexual health, often due to misinformation or discomfort.
It's essential to break this silence, as untreated sexual health issues can significantly impact our quality of life. I urge you to reach out to me with your questions, no matter how embarrassing they may seem. By sharing our experiences and seeking advice, we can destigmatize these discussions, ensuring a fulfilling sexual life that contributes to our overall well-being.

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In this episode, I had the pleasure of chatting with my friend CJ. CJ opened up about her journey from being in long-term monogamous relationships, including a ten-year marriage that ended due to intimacy mismatches, to exploring an open relationship with her husband. She shared the challenges and discoveries she faced while venturing into online dating, embracing her bis$xual identity, and ultimately finding fulfillment in an open, kink-friendly relationship.

CJ's story is a testament to the importance of self-worth, setting boundaries, and the transformative power of exploring one's desires and needs without shame. We delved into the complexities of navigating non-monogamous relationships, the significance of communication and boundaries, and how these experiences have enriched her life and marriage.

Now a certified life and sex coach, CJ, emphasizes the importance of destigmatizing sexual exploration and encourages others, especially women over 40, to embrace their desires boldly and without shame. Her journey is not just about the pursuit of sexual fulfillment but a deeper understanding of self-love, partnership, and the myriad ways in which we can connect with others. Her insights and experiences are a valuable resource for anyone curious about or actively exploring non-monogamy, kink, and personal growth.

You can find CJ here.
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In today's episode, I'm diving into polyamory, a lifestyle choice centered around engaging in consensual relationships with multiple partners. Polyamory, a blend of 'poly' meaning many and 'amor' for love, manifests in various forms, including hierarchical polyamory, where a primary relationship takes precedence over others, and non-hierarchical relationships, where all partners are considered equal.

The essence of polyamory lies in the mutual consent and agreement on the terms of the relationship, which distinguishes it from infidelity. It’s a path that requires open communication and a clear understanding of the guidelines everyone involved agrees to follow. Navigating polyamorous relationships can be complex, involving not just sexual connections but emotional ones that demand a high level of understanding and constant communication to manage potential jealousy and ensure the relationship's health.

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In this episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with Todd "Max" Carey, a director and filmmaker who has delved into the intriguing world of kink and BDSM through his latest documentary. Todd shared his insights on the complexity and fluidity of human sexuality, emphasizing kink as an umbrella term that encompasses a diverse range of practices and preferences, many of which are becoming increasingly mainstream. 

In our conversation, Todd challenged conventional labels, advocating for a more nuanced understanding of our desires and the roles we play in our intimate encounters. Todd's journey into the kink community revealed a profound sense of community and communication, underscoring the importance of consent and mutual respect in all forms of sexual expression. We also touched upon the transformative power of kink for individuals, including those working through trauma, and the potential for creativity and innovation in personal relationships.

Todd "Max" Carey is an award-winning film producer and director making documentary films that explore the hidden and fascinating aspects of human nature. Learn more about "touch Kink" the documentary here.

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