Stop Drinking and Start Living – Details, episodes & analysis

Let’s start with this: you don’t need me. You don’t need another book, another podcast, another guru telling you what to do. You already have everything you need inside of you. The problem? We’ve been conditioned to search outside of ourselves instead of trusting what’s already there.

In today’s episode, we’re continuing our conversation about The Feminine Way by diving into Principle #2: Luxurious Space. We’re talking about releasing the urgency, softening into trust, and giving yourself permission to slow the hell down.

I’ll share how this shift has shown up in my life—from honoring my body’s rhythms to restructuring my mornings and even how Matthew and I changed our financial dynamic to create more flow. It all comes down to this: There’s no rush.Everything will get done, and when we stop forcing and start listening, life meets us where we are.

Key Takeaways:

🌿 There's no rush—stop gripping so tightly and let life unfold.
🌿 Your schedule should support you, not control you.
🌿 If you’re pushing through resistance, ask: What happens if I just pause?
🌿 You don’t have to figure it all out—just find out by taking the next step.
🌿 The feminine way is about trusting that the answers will come when you stop forcing them.

This week, I invite you to pause. To stop trying to figure things out and instead just be in the experience. What shifts when you stop rushing?

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Last week, we talked about silent sobriety—not as a way to hide, but as a practice of deepening your relationship with yourself. This week, we’re taking that a step further and exploring how to create safety from within—because the first principle of the feminine way is knowing that true safety isn’t something we find outside of ourselves.

We’ve been so conditioned to push, prove, and hustle that we’ve lost touch with the pleasure of receiving—whether it’s in our businesses, our relationships, or even in motherhood. But the feminine doesn’t operate on force; she flows, she softens, she trusts.

In this episode, I share how shifting the financial dynamic in my marriage completely changed the energy in our home, allowing both Matthew and me to step more fully into our natural strengths. I also talk about how I’ve been reworking my relationship with coffee (yes, again!) and why loosening the grip—whether on money, alcohol, or expectations—is where real expansion begins.

Key Takeaways:

🌿 You don’t have to “figure it out.” You can just find out.
🌿 Resistance is a sign of growth—on the other side of it is expansion.
🌿 True giving is free of expectation. If it’s not, it’s not really giving.
🌿 Creating safety in your life starts with assessing your actual resources and challenging scarcity thinking.
🌿 When you soften and trust, you allow more pleasure, ease, and abundance to come in.

I’d love to hear what’s resonating for you—where in your life do you need to create more safety and ease? Send me a DM on Instagram and let’s chat!

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Every choice you make shapes your reality, yet most of us are stuck in cycles of indecision or overwhelm, which drains our energy and leaves us disconnected from our power. Decision fatigue impacts every area of your life—especially your relationship with alcohol.

Here’s why this matters: when you’re exhausted from constant decision-making or stuck overthinking, you’re more likely to default to old habits like drinking. But what if you could trust that every decision is working for you? Imagine what could shift if you didn’t waste energy worrying about making the “right” choice and instead embraced aligned action.

In this episode, I share:

• Why decision fatigue is the hidden reason you feel stuck and overwhelmed.
• How to reframe decision-making as an act of empowerment rather than fear.
• The connection between simplifying your decisions and breaking free from alcohol.
• A step-by-step process to reduce decision fatigue and trust yourself again.

This episode will help you reclaim your mental energy, simplify your life, and start making choices that align with the empowered, sovereign woman you’re becoming.

Thank you for being here! Don’t forget to subscribe, share, and leave a review if this episode resonates.💕

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

How much time do you spend while you are trying to not drink focusing on failing?
What if you had a bunch of wins, days that you didn't drink and you knew exactly WHY and you focused on what was working instead?
How would that be a game changer? Find out on today's show!
Don't forget to email me what you want to know more about for the next podcast! 
mary@marywagstaffcoach.com
Thank you for being an amazing part of my circle. 

I love you.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

How can our trauma be our biggest blessing?
Because it shapes  us. It makes us who we are. It sets us down a path to learn all of our greatest life lessons. 
And the deeper we go, the higher we rise, but only if we are ready to take personal responsibility for our present and future. 
Are you a ready for some reality TV gossip? I wanted to share with you a little about my "hero's journey". Get the popcorn and enjoy.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

How often do you say some version of "I can't handle it"? But do?
What would someone who loves themselves do?
Where does the habit of alcohol having you lying about what you are cable of?
Alcohol will validate every negative statement you have about your self and reinforce it. 
I can't handle it. 
It's too hard. 
I'm so overwhelmed. 
It's too stressful. 
I'm too tired. 
I'm boring. 
It's not enough. 
Are these even true? Where do you have evidence to the contrary of these belifes?
Do you handle it?
How does it feel different to say, I do have this. 
I've just did that.
Join me today to explore this topic more and how it's a sublet sabotage to your success.  

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

"It's got to grow or it's got to go", is just one of the power themes available on today's show. Do not miss this jam packed episode of astrological wisdom downloaded from the Astro Queen herself, Nura Rachelle and how it applies to your current transformation around alcohol.  
Nura talks also about the impact of how changing her relationship with alcohol through the lens of the 5 shifts, moving from conformity to self authority, has impacted her life on all levels and allowed astrology to support her even more deeply.
Nura shares deep wised of how astrology informs our live and requires us to step out of the box. 
This current timeline from October 22, 2022 to November 7th, 2022, and beyond, has some BIG energies available to support your deep dive into the confrontation of what's no longer working. 
Nura Speaks To:

• The superior Venus conjunction with the sun as she rests in her "underworld" phase. This can be viewed as a time for returning, reconnecting to source energies of ultimate truth. 
• The "eclipse portal" that bookends the Samhain holy day portal of the new and full moons starting October 25th-November 7th, 2022.
• What is ready during to be grives and cultivated during this time will be ecelorated.
• Releasing the collective energies of grief and tapping into collective support. 
• Everyday rituals to engage in during this time to support the necessary move through resistance of purging so you make space for who you are becoming. 
• And so many more emotional intelligence inquiries and understanding of who we are that we simply may not yet know because of what is yet to be revealed. 

Please visit Nura Rachelle for a deeper exploration into your soul purpose and personal astrological transits and alignments.  Sign up for her amazing weekly astro forecast.
https://nurarachelle.com
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DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Do NOT miss today's episode! You have achieved a lot and logically you get that alcohol isn't working. 
That's the problem. You have to go beyond the logic. Beyond reason to create what is not mirrored to you in everyday life. 
To tap into your wisdom and intuition. 
If you think you should be able to figure alcohol out on your own, this thought it's self is why. 
Today and the show I tell you why and what you can do to go beyond your logical reasoning. 

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Find out what the powers that be have in store for the Stop Drinking & Start Living Community, today, in a live oracle reading and how to use the elements as tools for manifestation. 

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

There is a lot of talk about "work life balance". But what dose that really mean?
What if we could life the effort and surrender in everything we do. Work wouldn't have to become a chore, and surrender could be available to us in every moment.
Tune in to explore this concept.
Ease and flow. Effort and surrender. Focus and soften. Inhale and exhale.
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DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.