Soul Salon with Ayandastood – Details, episodes & analysis

babes, the IRONY of this soul session is my inner critic is telling me it is not good enough to share. that i should record it again (and the illusion is that I wouldn't find fault with that version, as well).

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so in SHARING this transmission i am also embodying it, which, I think, is rather delicious and beautiful. from the deepest part of my soul, i want to remind you that your worth does not come from your ability to meet a perfectionistic standard.

do not define yourself by all you COULD HAVE said, it minimizes the generosity and power of all you did say.

do not define yourself by all the edits you COULD have made to your creation, it erases the wholeness of all you did create.

i am on this journey with you, towards overcoming perfectionism, towards GENUINELY embodying and believing that we are endlessly worthy of all kinds of creation, towards unlearning perfectionistic standards learned in childhood.

i love you so much, SOUL SIBLING!!!!!!!

KEY QUOTES:

• “I love myself so much that I refuse to betray what I know is true for me” 
• “Be confusing. Nothing accepted in its fullest magnificence is required to make sense” 
• “If it feels like everyone is against you, remember — you have not yet met your everyone” 

CREATIVE RESOURCES:

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in today's soul session, i share three powerful shifts to overcome the fear of being seen & the fear of judgement. we get into radically accepting the truth, integrating our own judgement, seeing beyond the Critic, and creating the world we wish to see. I introduce my method, Soulful Visibility, and share a personal story of a challenge I had making this episode...

I hope you enjoy today's soul session, made with love! 💛🌻🥰

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Time stamps
(00:54): Shift #1: Radical acceptance
(04:05): Support vs. Evaluation

(08:16): Shift #2: Integrate judgement

(14:08): Shift #3: Blocked expression 

(19:52): Personal story

Sources mentioned

Essay: ⁠⁠The Transformation of Silence into Language and Action⁠⁠ by Audre Lorde

CREATIVE RESOURCES:

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today i bring you a bite size dose of ENERGY I recorded in December but felt wasn't "good enough" at the time. in honor of breaking up with perfectionism, i bring you this offering. let's call it a SOUL SNACK if you will.

topics include: envying someone's success, listening to yourself, embodying what you seek, and the energetic messages of the universe. i love you, sunshines & soul siblings!

i hope you enjoy this experience. stay tuned for more, and share it with a friend if you resonate 💛

TIME STAMPS:

(00:51): Are you listening?

(01:38): Reframing envy

(05:50): Who I'm drawn to

(06:33): Energy is a spectrum

(07:09): Collective healing

(09:55): Unity consciousness

(10:23): What are you calling in?

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if you are a worst case scenario thinker/feeler/(anti-)dreamer, this soul session✨ is for you. let's unpack why it's time to let go of assuming the worst — not only in terms of what's possible, but also in our relationships and friendships.

in this soul session, i share examples of times when i assumed the worst and the exact opposite happened. i invite us to ask ourselves this question the NEXT time we find ourselves stuck in a worst case scenario mindset. you will (re)learn how holding onto the worst case scenario to protect ourselves becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy: we align our actions to what could go WRONG instead of RIGHT, thereby making the former more likely.

you will hear me walk through common examples where we assume the worst and are often "wrong", such as:

• assuming strangers don't want to talk to us...
• assuming old friends don't want to hear from us...
• assuming everyone online will certainly HATE or cancel us...
• assuming conflict will RUIN our relationships/friendships... and more!!

let me say that i applied the lesson of this episode in the PROCESS of making, editing, and sharing it. here's how:

my inner critic said (repeatedly): "what i'm saying is nothing ✨revolutionary✨ therefore it's not worth sharing this episode". or "i'm not adding anything new here!"

the underlying assumption is A) we get our value from our uniqueness (individualism) and B) no one wants to hear and re-integrate the same lesson again from ME specifically.

WHAT IF THE OPPOSITE IS TRUE? A) What if collective wisdom becomes more potent the more people share it? and B) What if people actually LOVE hearing and re-integrating wisdom they already know and feel to be true, and they love hearing it from ME (not exclusively but in a particular way)

i love the feeling of applying a lesson i am sharing with you, because it makes me feel very aligned and like i'm sharing my life's wisdom with you. with that being said, I hope you enjoy today’s soul session. stay tuned for more, and share it with a friend 💛

Time stamps:

(01:00): Reframe the worst case scenario

(05:11): The energetics of possibility

(06:33): Creativity & Rick Rubin

(07:37): Approaching strangers

(08:08): TikTok, cancellation, & judgment

(14:00): Texting responses

(15:19): Cancelling plans

(17:22): Conflict

(19:07): Reaching out to old friends

(20:12): It's always going to be this hard

(20:48): Valuing your opinion

(22:33): Self-doubt

(23:38): Summary

Work with me one-on-one in coaching to unlock your authentic expression and face your fear of being seen online: www.ayandastood.com/coaching

SOURCES:

Book: The Creative ACT: A Way of Being by Rick Rubin

Episode: 35: Awakening to Possibility by me

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if you find it cringe or challenging to promote your own work, this soul session will SPEAK to you. today we completely REFRAME AND RECLAIM promotion, breaking it down to its roots and paradigm shifting our understanding. connected to nature and service. In this episode you will learn:

• Why self-promotion feels so uncomfy
• How we can reframe “pro-motion” by breaking it down
• Why pro-motion is key to nature
• How refusing to promote our work can block other people's expansion
• My current experience with fearing promoting my coaching services

Time stamps: 

(01:04): the evolutionary roots of our shame

(03:42): reframing pro-motion 

(08:06): nature & motion

(10:45): my own example of coaching

(16:00): blocking motion 

(17:43): what you seek is seeking you

I hope you enjoy today’s soul session. stay tuned for more, and share it with a friend <3 

Work with me one-on-one in coaching to unlock your authentic expression and face your fear of being seen online: www.ayandastood.com/coaching

Sources mentioned:

Morning pages essay by me

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today's soul session is a spiritual perspective on why you fear your own success.

if you're like me, you are both drawn to and repelled by your dreams. they are at once enticing and terrifying. in today’s soul session we explore a paradoxical fear that many of us face whenever we confront our dreams and desires. but in the typical style of this podcast, we are going to unfold a deep and spiralling web of ideas such as:

• What do God/source/the universe have to do with the fear of success?
• Why do we associate power to evil?
• How can we separate toxic/destructive examples of power from loving/constructive versions of it?
• Why is nature the answer to reclaiming our power? AND...
• My own experience with cultural grief and shame

I hope you enjoy today’s soul session. stay tuned for more, and if you feel called to, please share it with a friend or your community. i love you ✨💛

Work with me one-on-one as your coach to unlock your authentic expression and face your fear of being seen online: www.ayandastood.com/coaching

Time stamps:

(00:06): The magic of your existence

(01:53): My fears & dreams

(05:11): The paradox of fear

(06:22): God/source/universe & AWE

(12:57): Why we fear our Dreams

(14:17): Healing our relationship with Power

(17:37): Nature & benevolent Power

(21:15): Step into Y(OUR) Power

(22:29): Co-Creation

(27:52): Channeled journaling

(30:00): Why we can't silence ourselves

(31:35): It's bigger than You

(33:10): You have these gifts for a REASON

(35:54): Trust is the opposite of Fear

(36:15): Your own POWER & WISDOM

(40:31): Creativity is how we change the world

(42:21): Affirmation

Sources mentioned:

The Transformation of Silence into Language and Action by Audre Lorde

Ant geopolitics by John Whitfield

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in today’s episode we talk about the deep state of consciousness that being LOST entails, rather than the inferior state it represents in the western imagination. I frame this in terms of colonial consciousness which privileges "clarity, direction, Knowing, confidence" vs. the deeper truth of the universe, nature, and indigenous consciousness, which embrace chaos, magic, cyclical time, and humility in the face of the unknown and unknowability of all truths of the universe. At the same time, I am sending love as I know being lost feels deeply uncomfortable and isolating. An update episode on the name change is coming soon angels!

WORK WITH ME: 

Pov: you are a spiritual soul with a powerful voice and message that you dream of sharing with the world. You are here to serve the collective and the divine through the gift of your voice and ability to channel wisdom and insights. When it comes to sharing that voice on social media to find your dream audience, community, and clients, you often feel blocked by perfectionism, fear of judgment & being cancelled, self-doubt, and lack of trust in your voice. You want to quantum leap into the version of you that is taking up SPACE, speaking your truth, and opening up your throat chakra. Work with me one-on-one and let’s get your voice shared with the world. Visit www.ayandastood.com/coaching

TIMESTAMPS

(01:15): Western imagination

(06:26): What we gain from being lost

(12:30): Birth and Death in life

(17:50): Lost in isolation

(19:30): The God of the Self

(22:18): Finding teachers & surrendering

(24:30): Spiritual awakening

(32:08): The universe is always inviting us

SOURCES MENTIONED: 

Essay: Heavy, difficult emotions are important to face & only overwhelming when carried alone by Dr. Ayesha Khan

Book: The Wisdom of Insecurity by Alan Watts

Substack: The Unpublishable by Jessica DeFino

Podcast: The Highest Self Podcast by Sahara Rose

Episode: 16: Industrialized vs. spiritual Beauty by me

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we are becoming FEAR ALCHEMISTS in 2024. hi darlings! in this episode I am giving a MasterClass on moving through and BEYOND the fear of being cringe/embarrassing/shameful online. this is a deep wound that many of us carry: fear of being cancelled, ridiculed, dragged, rejected, or criticized. it stops us from sharing ourselves, promoting our work, art, and services, and opening ourselves up to the LOVING POSSIBILITIES that exist for us through the global portal that is the internet.

i have faced this pain (both the fear and the experience) and sat with it and soothed and nurtured, it still lives in me but it is now in a place where i can alchemize it into wisdom, grounded in a collective understanding of creativity and healing. so i wanted to speak to this pain and give us some mindset and perspective shifts on how we can TRANSFORM the fear of being cringe into posting through the fear and embarrassment, with love for ourselves and for the people seeking our voices, art, services, and perspectives.

Affirmation: THE WORLD NEEDS Y(OUR) VOICE/ART/GIFTS/CREATIONS JUST! AS! THEY! ARE!

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Time stamps

(01:16): Validate

(07:04): Neutralize

(16:18): Connect

(27:51): Serve

(42:33): Zoom out

(49:35): Desire

(51:20): Summary

Work with Me:

Work with me one-on-one: https://ayandastood.com/work

Information on my Creative Fear MasterClass dropping mid Feb will be updated here: https://ayandastood.com

Sources mentioned:

⁠The Creative ACT: A Way of Being⁠ by Rick Rubin

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in this episode we are calling in ease, flow, pleasure, and love in the experience of creating, rather than as a reward. i talk about releasing the tension i've been carrying, the love i am feeling from all of YOU, the magical masterclass experience I had this Sunday with some of you, and end off with reflective questions that can assist us as we create with more pleasure and ease in 2024. <3

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Key quotes from episode: 

“The people you make art for don’t want you to suffer” 

“We embody the codes that we’ve learned from the systems that made us” 

“The invitation for you is knowing that you are worthy of ease, of pleasure, of flow. NOW. Not when the project is done.” 

“Pleasure is a measure of our freedom” — adrienne maree brown 

Time stamps

(01:31): MasterClass reflections

(05:15): The Love Dimension

(05:56): From perfectionism to ease 

(15:00): Your invitation to ease 

(20:39) Experimentation 

(22:53): Tension & release 

(30:44): Pleasure activism by Adrienne Maree Brown 

(41:47): Abundant love

(48:44): Pleasure & imagination 

(54:27): Reflection questions 

(01:00:00): Gratitude & affirmation

Sources mentioned: 

Book: ⁠Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good⁠ by adrienne maree brown

Essay: What Plants Are Saying About Us

YouTube Channel: Sadhguru

Show: The Brothers Sun on Netflix

Poem: I Put The Coffin Out To Sea by by Lisa Marie Basile

Offering: My MasterClass experience

Other resources:

YouTube: The Perfect Bedtime Sound bath by Sleeping Vibrations

YouTube: Yoga Nidra

Questions to reflect on:

• What would make me feel more loved right now?
• What pleasure are you denying yourself of in this moment? 
• How could it be easier? How can I find the release without taking on the tension?
• How can you EMBODY the wisdom of ease, pleasure, rest? 
• How can we be Pleasure Activists for others in our lives? 
• If you become your fullest expansion creatively — what could that unlock for the collective? 

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Other quotes from me in this episode: 

• “Love can flow through us much more easily if we choose to channel that love through the notion that we are worthy of ease; we are worthy of pleasure. We don’t only get to celebrate ourselves once the job is done. We don’t have to squeeze our creativity into the constrictive structures, rigidity, and hierarchies we’ve been given”
• “If you become your fullest expansion creatively — what could that unlock for the collective? If we all expand, expansion is contagious. Expansion is something we are designed to give and receive from one another. I cannot listen to an expanded person and not expand. That is the nature of art: Art that is expansive will expand. And the Artist that is expansive and expanding will create expansive art. What are we willing to expand into for the sake of collective healing, collective imagination, collective pleasure, and collective ease?” 
• “If we want to experience work that feels more free, we also need to become the kind of person who can experience more freedom while working” 
• “If we let life surprise us, sometimes the part we fear most is exactly where we experience the most magic” 
• “In this moment, what I am really calling in, what I am inviting myself into ease. Pleasure. Flow. The words that came to my heart are: The people you make art for don’t want you to suffer” 
• “The thing about toxic perfectionism is it’s a self-worth invitation. We don’t feel WORTHY of imperfect action. We know what the steps that imperfect action would ask us to take, but we don’t feel worthy of taking them.” 
• “Love is unfolding for you in this moment”

in this episode we honor the garden of your soul AS IT IS rather than focusing on the seeds you will plant this year. we remember you’re whole as you are. you’re complete as you are. you're divine as you are.

i expand on this metaphor, inviting you to reflect on the different seeds, plants, flowers, trees, and beings within your soul’s garden and the role you play in that of other people. I also discuss my struggles with cultivating soil of self-compassion within my soul's garden — including in the creation of this episode. i hope you enjoy this episode, made with love <3 

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Time stamps

(02:25): My word for 2024

(05:00): Your soul garden

(09:11): Eternal seeking

(11:40): What role do you play?

(15:17): Non-linear time 

(18:36): My soul garden

(25:11): Celebrating you 

(30:29): Nature is always complete

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