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Tune into "No One is Coming" and "No Days Off": Chapter 10. Sometimes the hardest truth can be the start of real momentum: no one is coming, and there are no days off. We open with mantras that sharpen courage and then walk straight into the messy middle—an on-again, off-again relationship, a high-stakes photography assignment with Bill Belichick on Nantucket, and a gutting discovery left open in an email. What follows isn’t a collapse; it’s a choice. With a deadline looming and another shoot with Julian Edelman on deck, we turn heartbreak into horsepower, swap rumination for execution, and let anger refine our focus instead of wrecking it.

You’ll hear how patterns take root, why sunk-cost thinking keeps the wrong door open, and how to close it with conviction. We unpack “no days off” as more than a sports slogan—it’s a personal operating system for resilience, discipline, and self-respect. Edelman’s legendary catch becomes a playbook for staying locked in when you’re inches from the ground: eyes on the ball, hands steady, outcome earned. The story moves from betrayal to boundary-setting, from tolerating less to choosing more, and from being benched by pain to calling your own plays.

There’s a twist of joy at the end—a right swipe and a match with former Patriots lineman Max Lane—arriving not as a rescue, but as the natural result of raising your standards. Along the way, we share the practical habits that keep you in motion: clear self-talk, tight routines, creative flow under pressure, and the courage to shut a door that keeps hurting you. If you’re navigating dating, rebuilding after a breakup, or pushing for excellence in your craft, this chapter offers tools and a real story to anchor them.

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Tune into Chapter 9 Love's Lunacy: A Journey of Crazy and Stupid Devotion from my book Shot At Love, A Celebrity Photographer's Unfiltered Lens on Dating and Finding Love. What if the moment that saves you starts with a mantra and a punchline? We open on a small-town shoot with Steve Carell and land in the center of a bruising love story—one built on mixed signals, breadcrumbing, and the slow erosion of self. Along the way, a pinwheel, a dance number, and a stubborn fight to keep a scene in a film become unlikely teachers about boundaries, authorship, and choosing what matters when the pressure is on.

From there, the curtain lifts on commitment-phobia and the anxious–avoidant dance: the push–pull of intimacy that keeps one partner chasing and the other fleeing. We dig into Mr. Unavailable’s patterns, attachment science, and why intermittent reinforcement is so addictive. The stakes spike when family drama explodes into gaslighting and an uninvited wedding, forcing a reckoning with reality, proof, and the heavy cost of keeping the peace. In the wreckage, a manifesto takes shape—part evidence, part prayer—marking the pivot from explaining to exiting.

What follows is a clear, compassionate path out: consequences over speeches, boundaries that hold, and the No Contact Rule as a lifeline back to self-trust. We talk practical recovery—retraining your nervous system, rebuilding routines, and finding meaning in art, music, and community. If you’ve ever felt “crazy” for wanting love to feel safe, this story offers language, tools, and a way through. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs it, and leave a review to tell us the one boundary you won’t bend again.

We trace a wild arc from a Steve Carell photoshoot and an Aquarius mantra to the hard end of a toxic relationship, unpacking commitment-phobia, gaslighting, and the cost of staying. Boundaries, no-contact, and self-respect turn chaos into clarity. Join the mailing list and find out more about Shot At Love Live events at www.shotatlovebook.com. Follow, rate, and subscribe. Please follow me on social media – Instagram, @Kerry_Brett, and on Facebook under Kerry Brett.

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Have you ever wondered what happens when your greatest pain becomes your deepest purpose? As a professional photographer who's spent decades making others look their best, I've lived a life that many find fascinating—capturing celebrities for magazine covers, attending red carpet events, and building a dream studio in a picturesque town. But behind my lens and successes lay a story of heartbreak so profound that I never imagined sharing it publicly.

My journey from heartbreak to healing wasn't straightforward. There were nights spent crying at my computer, trying to find the courage to document experiences I'd hidden for nearly twenty years. Writing this memoir pushed me to my limits, forcing me to confront memories that felt impossible to face. Yet something powerful emerged from this process—a mission larger than myself. What began as personal catharsis evolved into Shot At Love, a podcast and now book dedicated to helping others navigate their own paths to love.

The transformation from being a "damsel in distress" to becoming "someone who doesn't need saving" changed everything. I learned that "desperation paves a path to the devil," while self-compassion and small daily steps forward can completely transform your life. Through my darkest moments, I discovered that asking for help is often the hardest part of healing, not the overcoming itself. Now I'm passionate about sharing this message: you're not prey, you need to get "preyed up" so you don't get played. The world remains full of opportunities and love, waiting for you to shift your perspective and embrace them. My book "Shot At Love" is available now on Amazon—don't miss your chance to see love and yourself differently. Join our community at shotatlovebook.com for exclusive updates and information about upcoming live events.

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Tough times don't last, but tough people do. When the bottom falls out, you have a choice; you can either cry about it or laugh your way through it! Picking up the pieces is never easy, but it has to happen. There's a lot of power in laughter, and no one's mastered laughing more than Boston's Comedian and Movie Star - Lenny Clarke. Lenny went from having everything to having nothing, not once but many times. He's survived heart attacks, a massive stroke, overcame addiction, and even lost 200 pounds! Lenny lived through heartbreaks, divorce, and then found love with his wife Jennifer, who stood by his side as he climbed back to the top. Lenny understands that you can be famous and funny, but it doesn't mean one thing if you can't be a good friend and help others during challenging times. Lenny shares his survival tips and how to laugh your way through these valuable life lessons.

Nationally renowned comedian Lenny Clarke is one of the biggest names in comedy. He's known for inventing Boston comedy as he came up in the 1980s, the heyday of Boston Comedy, with fellow funnymen Steven Wright, Martin Olson, and Denis Leary. He was roommates with Olsen, and their apartment, was known by comedians as "The Barracks," a notorious "Crash Pad" for visiting comics and the subject of the documentary "When Standup Stood Out." Lenny's comedic abilities captured the attention of Rodney Dangerfield, who gave him his first big break on the HBO special "Nothing Goes Right." Lenny has been on stages making people laugh for over 45 years. He's appeared in television shows such as his own network sitcom Lenny, The Job, The John Larroquette Show; It's All Relative, The Winner, Touched by an Angel, Love Boat: The Next Wave. He played the role of Uncle Teddy on Rescue Me and appeared in feature films such as Me, Myself and Irene, Rounders; There's Something About Mary, Two if by Sea, and Southie, to name a few.

We laugh until we cry in this special episode while forgetting our troubles. Lenny share’s his uplifting story that inspire and entertain because his journey is one wild ride! 

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Today’s topic is about the power of mindset and how to manage and control our response to others when dating. This week’s guest is Special Victim’s Investigator Will Kesselman, an expert in dynamic and repetitive patterns. He shares what he’s learned on the job. His acquired skills in psychology, coaching, consulting, and advanced knowledge around trauma so we can sharpen our skills around judgment. Decide which people to avoid and who is worthy of our time. He’ll share strategies he’s used in leading thousands of women to safety. HIS theories around emotional reactions–so you can stay in control and remain in power. We’ll discover that you don’t have to be phenomenally skilled to succeed; you need to be phenomenally willed, and if you want to find love, you absolutely can as long as you stay determined because where there is a will, there’s a way!

Will Kesselman, Special Victims Investigator, Social Impact Strategist, speaker, and, Founder and President of Control and Power Strategy, a Domestic Violence- Divorce Consulting Trauma Coaching agency. After experiencing trauma, he chose to dedicate his life to protecting others. With over 14 years of experience, through his consulting and coaching company, Will continues to help empower mostly women, and sometimes men, to protect themselves, even potentially saving lives. Through his company, Will specializes in revealing to his clients the hidden information known mostly to government investigators, police, and judges; and how they think and react to situations. Will has helped thousands navigate government and community systems to safety. Will has also recently been on a "live" private FB group (for Domestic Violence) with over 10 thousand members, podcasts, and a radio show on KLAA for Southern California.
 
Today, Will teaches us that we can respond differently to how others treat us and that we can be in control of our feelings and our emotions. Kerry Brett and Will Kesselman cover a lot of ground. Topics include; 

How to use pain to catapult you forward, especially in online dating.
Will’s golden rule of being responsive, not reactive, and how it serves him in his life.
How behavior can lead to thoughts, then thoughts lead to emotions.
How we feel about ourselves matters in who they will attract.
How women have a gatekeeper which is usually a best friend or sister, when vetting people to date.
How to get an emotional response with the words you use when texting.
A big red flag to Will is someone who's not flexible; the relationship is being set up as one-sided, or the person is being too dominant. This is trouble and not going to work.
Women should never settle or make excuses for poor behavior because they don’t want to start over.
Why it’s so difficult to leave a toxic relationship because of the emotional bonding.
Why women are likely to get addicted to a relationship quicker than a man.
Narcissists have to feed and are brilliant manipulatives and need to have a woman to dominate.
Will’s advice around the mistakes women make when dating?
Women need to understand they have more control and are worth more than they think.
The importance of a buddy system when dating.
Men will respond favorably when the woman stands in her power, and if they don’t respond favorably, they aren’t for you.

To find out more about Will Kesselman, go to www.controlandpower.com, follow him on Instagram @will_wise_words, on LinkedIn under Will K., and Clubhouse or Owwll under Will Kesselman.

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This week is all about deliberate attraction! Today's guest is Michael Losier, author of the Law of Attraction. A book so powerful he's sold almost 4 million copies in 37 languages! We'll learn how to attract the perfect partner so you can get more of what you want and less of what you don't want. Have you ever noticed how people repeatedly find themselves in a bad relationship or complain about pulling in the same type of person? Well, the Law of Attraction is at work for them too. Michael's motto is you attract whatever you give attention, energy, and focus to, whether positive or negative. He'll share his 3-step process for deliberate attraction, how to let go of doubt and allow love into our lives. Michael will show us how to stop using the words don't, not, and no and how to reset your vibration because we all have the power to manifest incredible relationships and experiences. 

Michael Losier is the author of best-selling books such as Law of Attraction: The Science of Attracting More of What you Want and Less of What you Don't, Law of Connection: The Science of Using NLP to Create Ideal Personal and Professional Relationships and Your Life's Purpose. The movie The Secret brought international exposure to the subject of Law of Attraction. Michael's business flourished as a result, and Michael was branded as the "How-to-Guy" for teaching others how to use the Law of Attraction, and even caught the attention of Oprah Winfrey. Oprah interviewed him four times on her Soul Series Radio show on Sirius/XM satellite radio, and then Michael enjoyed a year-long run hosting his own radio show on Oprah & Friends Radio. He's been around the world twice teaching the Law of Attraction and has certified 470 Law of Attraction Facilitators in 17 countries. Michael shares evidence of the law of attraction around finding love and how we can get what we want if we deliberately use the Law of Attraction. 

Kerry Brett and Michael Losier cover a lot of ground. Topics include:

How to become a deliberate attractor to attract your perfect partner.
Why allowing is the opposite of doubt.
How you can reset your vibration.
Why we should stop using the words, don't, not and no.
Why a belief is a word or a phrase you say repeatedly.
The importance of changing your vibration to attract love.
Why you should say daily, "I'm in the process of attracting my ideal partner."
Why you shouldn't tell your friends about a bad date.

To find out more about Michael Losier go to www.michaellosier.com, follow on Clubhouse under Michael Losier or on Instagram @michael_losier_loa. Purchase his book Law of Attraction or book an appointment at www.ReleasingNegativeEmotions.com

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What makes or breaks a relationship? The truth is another person can't make you happy; being fulfilled is an inside job. Today's guest is Barry Selby. He's helped thousands learn to love themselves. He's affectionately known as the "Love Doctor." Barry is an inspirational speaker, relationship expert, best-selling author, and spiritual guide. Most successful women rely on masculine energy to survive in the business world but often don't know how to shut it off. Barry is a champion for the divine feminine and he's dedicated to helping strong women attract relationships that equal who they are. Barry offers principles that will change how you experience romance and how to love and treat yourself.

Barry Selby is passionate about helping successful women create greater balance in love, life, and business. He's on a mission to awaken women to own and express their feminine magnificence in love and in the world. He's a relationship coach and a guide for singles seeking relationships and self-love. He has over 35 years of training and experience, including a master's degree in Spiritual Psychology and more than two decades as a professional spiritual counselor. His #1 best-selling book, "50 Ways to Love Your Lover," helps singles and couples embody powerful principles for passionate and richly rewarding relationships. He brings deep compassion, a calm masculine presence, and wise guidance to assist his clients in their journey to true love. Barry epitomizes the perfect blend of practical, spiritual, tangible, and intangible in relationship coaching. In this week's episode, we'll learn about his approach to dating and love.

Kerry Brett and Barry Selby discuss masculine and feminine energy and why that needs to be in balance to find love. Topics include:

The polarity between the masculine and feminine. 
You don't need the other person to complete you if you truly love someone. Come from a place of loving yourself first, which is the best place to attract a new relationship.
How to love from overfill and not love from a place of lack.
The difference between masculine and macho energy.
Masculine energy comes from having a strong spine and being single-focused.
Why women need to turn off the masculine energy that they use at work.
Feminine energy comes from the energy of the heart.
Why women don't trust their feminine energy.
Why women have a difficult time letting the man lead in dating.
Rule #45 in "50 Ways to Love Your Lover" Ladies, let your man be masculine and remember you are feminine. Don't compete for it, or you will lose in romance. Barry, can you expand on this?
Rule #42 is men and women attract each other differently. Men see attraction, and women feel attraction. 
Why is it crucial to be grounded in your feminine as a woman in dating?
Barry Selby's advice for dating and healing a broken heart.
Why you want to be fulfilled as a single person? So, when you find a relationship, it just adds to who you are.
If you aren't happy single, you won't be happy taken. Happiness comes from within, not from men.
Why being single doesn't mean you are undesirable or unwanted. It means you know your value and are holding out for someone who is worthy and sees your worth.

To find out more about Barry Selby go to www.barryselby.com. All of his social he can be found under Barry Selby except on Instagram which is @therealbarryselby and you can talk to him directly on Clubhouse or watch his 1,400 videos on YouTube.

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Today's guest is Lori Mendelsohn. She's a dating app profile writer, dating coach, and matchmaker. This week's topic is why you need a dating coach. Lori will break down the difference between a dating coach and a therapist and why there is such a huge difference. Dating coaches help you move into the future, identify your blocks and create a structure to achieve your goal faster. A dating coach gets you relationship ready while helping you break past patterns. Asking our family and friends for dating advice is not the best way to go because often we're asking advice from those who have never been on a dating app, which is why we should ask a professional. Lori shares why it's important to keep an open and curious mind– And like the great coach Ted Lasso said, "Be curious, not judgmental."

Lori Mendelsohn is a dating app profile writer, matchmaker, dating coach, and award-winning entrepreneur. She writes unique profiles that help you not only tell your story by adding some swagger, levity, and humor because, after all, laughter is the best Mendelsohn. Lori is excellent at helping you write a dating profile that stops suitors in their tracks. When Lori writes, you find love. In this episode, Kerry Brett and Lori Mendelsohn break down why hiring a dating coach is in your best interest. Topics include;

You should be curious, not judgmental, because who's to say what type of person will make you happy. Stay curious; on a date, have a conversation of curiosity-ask the other person where they see themselves in five years? This question will give you a lot of information.
Why a dating coach can save you emotional energy and time when navigating these dating sites.
Dating coaches have a playbook and identify what skills you need to improve.
Setbacks are not failures; it's an opportunity to learn and course-correct once you realize your mistakes.
Why hiring a dating coach will help you discover what's not working and help you put a new plan in place.
Dating coaches will identify the patterns we need to break, remove blocks, and figure out why you are pulling in the same type of people.
How to build off of your strengths and put new strategies in place so you can play to win.
An investment in yourself is so worth it because what counts is the inside work you've done on yourself.
Why you shouldn't trust the opinions of friends or family and work with a professional.
Why blind spots are almost impossible to see when your heart is involved.
Look closely at the qualities you want in a partner. Are you focusing on the wrong things, or are you being overly selective?
This is not Build a Bear. You aren't assembling a stuffed animal. It's impossible to be all things to all people.
Why it's so important to live in the present and enjoy the moment without any expectations.

To learn more about Lori Mendelsohn and all of her services, go to www.avconnexions.com or email Lori at hello@avconnexions.com. Follow on Instagram @avconnexions or follow her on Clubhouse under Lori Mendelsohn and check out her Clubhouse Club Single Over 50 every Tuesday at 6 PM (EST).

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Today's guest is Rosie Dalton, and she’s a grief counselor, and lifestyle coach. Rosie knows first-hand how to handle hard times. She tragically lost her only son, got divorced, lost her home, even her car—although it was a heartbreaking time all was not lost. Rosie had her survival skills and the willingness for a better future! She understands that life is short and can be gone at any moment. Rosie became a quick learner called in her future self while learning the power of the word and. She found ways to live with ever-present grief and experience all the joys of life. At age 54, Rosie created her heaven on earth, found love at a Match Mingle, and remarried. Rosie shares how eventually, everything comes up roses, her tips around midlife dating, and why there's a lot to be rosy about when it comes to online dating.  

Rosie Dalton is a midlife revisionist, lifestyle coach, spiritual guide, and workshop facilitator. Rosie was an inspirational speaker at Canyon Ranch, Kripalu Center for Yoga & Health, 1440 Multiversity, and several similar venues across the country. Rosie shows women how to immerse themselves into a new and powerful paradigm of the ageless woman. Rosie shows others a world of untapped possibilities of deep and unapologetic authenticity and burgeoning vitality. Midlife is not a dirty word but an incredible opportunity to transform past challenges and loss into feminine rocket fuel. 

Kerry Brett and Rosie Dalton discuss how Rosie reimagined a new life and recreated a fabulous new one. Topics include;

How to let go of things that aren't meant for you anymore.
How Rosie was willing to lose everything to create a better life for herself, leaned into her survival skills, and just kept going.
How Rosie didn't let her current financial situation affect her self-worth, it doesn't matter what's in your bank account; it's what's in your heart that's important.
Why you should keep trying new things and do more of the things that you love, that way, it creates an energetic field of love, happiness, and abundance around you. 
Why you should start looking at men with a new lens, look for good and handsome–handsome becomes unattractive really quick if he's not a good person.
If you look for a good heart first, then you'll have a great and fun life.
The importance of writing a list of what you want in a partner–and why a good person should be at the top of your list.
Midlife isn't a dirty word, and it's an excellent opportunity for a second chance.
Advice for someone who feels hopeless about finding love.
Advice for someone who feels too old to find love, and why it's never too late.
Why Rosie, having the desire to feel cherished was enough to propel her forward, and find love.
Take action, and don't be afraid to try something unconventional even if you have to grab an ex-boyfriend to accompany you to a Match Mixer because you never know where you can meet your person.
You can choose a better life and carefully select the type of people you date. You are the ultimate authority, so fill your mind with positive beliefs, and that will be your feminine rocket fuel.

To find out more about Rosie Dalton, you can follow her on Instagram @silverandsovereign and stay tuned for Rosie's Dalton's upcoming podcast. Keep an eye out for the launch of Rosie's sister Comedian Medium Maureen Hancock’s upcoming podcast The Medium Next Door, which will be found on all platforms.

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Today's topic is all about the emotions of dating. This week's guest is Dr. Renee Mudrey, and she's an educational psychologist, author, and founder of Transcendent Heart Life Coaching. Dr. Renee is a chief emotions doctor who understands the gamut of emotions people experience when dating. We cover the hopes, joys, expectations, projections, and the best mindset. She'll offer tips around staying grounded, being present, and living in the moment when on the lookout for love—strategies to avoid burnout and trusting yourself after rejection. Dr. Renee shares her wisdom to gain a new perspective and advice for regulating our emotional well-being. If you can't get excited about dating, stop putting in the effort, or completely lost interest, this episode is for you. Dr. Renee shares how to overcome feeling let down and conquer relational troubles to live an abundant life and find a meaningful relationship. 

Dr. Renee Mudrey is an Educational Psychologist and Spiritual Mentor; whose stood by her clients over the last 17 years, helping them find their way in overcoming personal tragedy. She spent most of her 20s worrying about everything that could go wrong in life only to find she wasn't living at all. In her 30s, Dr. Renee faced a major health issue that became a turning point that forced her to decide who she was and what she was capable of. Despite having a Ph.D. in the field of educational psychology and two decades of teaching experience, she knew there was still so much more to learn. Dr. Renee embarked on a journey to conquer internal doubt, negative thinking, and feelings of hopelessness. Today she'll share what she's learned while empowering us to be the best version of ourselves.

Kerry Brett and Dr. Renee Mudrey cover a lot of ground topics, include:
How to navigate the ups and downs of dating.
How to trust yourself after a failed relationship.
How to ground yourself and stay present when dating.
The value of finding support when dating.
Why it's essential to have a positive mindset when dating.
How to manage your expectations and not get too ahead of yourself when dating.
Dr. Renee's theory of the "Unbecoming" and how to trust the process that everything will work out.
Advice for someone who's entirely burned out with online dating.
Divine timing and why it's never too late to find love.
How to find your way again after rejection.
How to let go of toxic patterns and belief that love is heavy. Trust your smile, not your past. Love is supposed to be full of joy, not drama.
How to find love in the wholeness that you are, not in the brokenness that you are not.

To find out more about Dr. Renee Mudrey, you can find out more on her website https://www.transcendentheart.com/ or follow her on Instagram @transcend.with.drrenee or order her book on Amazon The Unbecoming: A Journey Within and follow The Emotion Club and Dr. Renee on Clubhouse.

To find out information about Kerry Brett Master Class Your Best Shot@Love go to www.shotatlove.co

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