Tune into "No One is Coming" and "No Days Off": Chapter 10. Sometimes the hardest truth can be the start of real momentum: no one is coming, and there are no days off. We open with mantras that sharpen courage and then walk straight into the messy middle—an on-again, off-again relationship, a high-stakes photography assignment with Bill Belichick on Nantucket, and a gutting discovery left open in an email. What follows isn’t a collapse; it’s a choice. With a deadline looming and another shoot with Julian Edelman on deck, we turn heartbreak into horsepower, swap rumination for execution, and let anger refine our focus instead of wrecking it.

You’ll hear how patterns take root, why sunk-cost thinking keeps the wrong door open, and how to close it with conviction. We unpack “no days off” as more than a sports slogan—it’s a personal operating system for resilience, discipline, and self-respect. Edelman’s legendary catch becomes a playbook for staying locked in when you’re inches from the ground: eyes on the ball, hands steady, outcome earned. The story moves from betrayal to boundary-setting, from tolerating less to choosing more, and from being benched by pain to calling your own plays.

There’s a twist of joy at the end—a right swipe and a match with former Patriots lineman Max Lane—arriving not as a rescue, but as the natural result of raising your standards. Along the way, we share the practical habits that keep you in motion: clear self-talk, tight routines, creative flow under pressure, and the courage to shut a door that keeps hurting you. If you’re navigating dating, rebuilding after a breakup, or pushing for excellence in your craft, this chapter offers tools and a real story to anchor them.

If this resonates, tap follow, share it with a friend who needs the reminder, and leave a review with your favorite takeaway. Your support helps more people find the mindset and momentum to win the inches between head and heart. For more details, go to www.shotatlovebook.com

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Tune into Chapter 9 Love's Lunacy: A Journey of Crazy and Stupid Devotion from my book Shot At Love, A Celebrity Photographer's Unfiltered Lens on Dating and Finding Love. What if the moment that saves you starts with a mantra and a punchline? We open on a small-town shoot with Steve Carell and land in the center of a bruising love story—one built on mixed signals, breadcrumbing, and the slow erosion of self. Along the way, a pinwheel, a dance number, and a stubborn fight to keep a scene in a film become unlikely teachers about boundaries, authorship, and choosing what matters when the pressure is on.

From there, the curtain lifts on commitment-phobia and the anxious–avoidant dance: the push–pull of intimacy that keeps one partner chasing and the other fleeing. We dig into Mr. Unavailable’s patterns, attachment science, and why intermittent reinforcement is so addictive. The stakes spike when family drama explodes into gaslighting and an uninvited wedding, forcing a reckoning with reality, proof, and the heavy cost of keeping the peace. In the wreckage, a manifesto takes shape—part evidence, part prayer—marking the pivot from explaining to exiting.

What follows is a clear, compassionate path out: consequences over speeches, boundaries that hold, and the No Contact Rule as a lifeline back to self-trust. We talk practical recovery—retraining your nervous system, rebuilding routines, and finding meaning in art, music, and community. If you’ve ever felt “crazy” for wanting love to feel safe, this story offers language, tools, and a way through. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs it, and leave a review to tell us the one boundary you won’t bend again.

We trace a wild arc from a Steve Carell photoshoot and an Aquarius mantra to the hard end of a toxic relationship, unpacking commitment-phobia, gaslighting, and the cost of staying. Boundaries, no-contact, and self-respect turn chaos into clarity. Join the mailing list and find out more about Shot At Love Live events at www.shotatlovebook.com. Follow, rate, and subscribe. Please follow me on social media – Instagram, @Kerry_Brett, and on Facebook under Kerry Brett.

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Have you ever wondered what happens when your greatest pain becomes your deepest purpose? As a professional photographer who's spent decades making others look their best, I've lived a life that many find fascinating—capturing celebrities for magazine covers, attending red carpet events, and building a dream studio in a picturesque town. But behind my lens and successes lay a story of heartbreak so profound that I never imagined sharing it publicly.

My journey from heartbreak to healing wasn't straightforward. There were nights spent crying at my computer, trying to find the courage to document experiences I'd hidden for nearly twenty years. Writing this memoir pushed me to my limits, forcing me to confront memories that felt impossible to face. Yet something powerful emerged from this process—a mission larger than myself. What began as personal catharsis evolved into Shot At Love, a podcast and now book dedicated to helping others navigate their own paths to love.

The transformation from being a "damsel in distress" to becoming "someone who doesn't need saving" changed everything. I learned that "desperation paves a path to the devil," while self-compassion and small daily steps forward can completely transform your life. Through my darkest moments, I discovered that asking for help is often the hardest part of healing, not the overcoming itself. Now I'm passionate about sharing this message: you're not prey, you need to get "preyed up" so you don't get played. The world remains full of opportunities and love, waiting for you to shift your perspective and embrace them. My book "Shot At Love" is available now on Amazon—don't miss your chance to see love and yourself differently. Join our community at shotatlovebook.com for exclusive updates and information about upcoming live events.

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Tough times don't last, but tough people do. When the bottom falls out, you have a choice; you can either cry about it or laugh your way through it! Picking up the pieces is never easy, but it has to happen. There's a lot of power in laughter, and no one's mastered laughing more than Boston's Comedian and Movie Star - Lenny Clarke. Lenny went from having everything to having nothing, not once but many times. He's survived heart attacks, a massive stroke, overcame addiction, and even lost 200 pounds! Lenny lived through heartbreaks, divorce, and then found love with his wife Jennifer, who stood by his side as he climbed back to the top. Lenny understands that you can be famous and funny, but it doesn't mean one thing if you can't be a good friend and help others during challenging times. Lenny shares his survival tips and how to laugh your way through these valuable life lessons.

Nationally renowned comedian Lenny Clarke is one of the biggest names in comedy. He's known for inventing Boston comedy as he came up in the 1980s, the heyday of Boston Comedy, with fellow funnymen Steven Wright, Martin Olson, and Denis Leary. He was roommates with Olsen, and their apartment, was known by comedians as "The Barracks," a notorious "Crash Pad" for visiting comics and the subject of the documentary "When Standup Stood Out." Lenny's comedic abilities captured the attention of Rodney Dangerfield, who gave him his first big break on the HBO special "Nothing Goes Right." Lenny has been on stages making people laugh for over 45 years. He's appeared in television shows such as his own network sitcom Lenny, The Job, The John Larroquette Show; It's All Relative, The Winner, Touched by an Angel, Love Boat: The Next Wave. He played the role of Uncle Teddy on Rescue Me and appeared in feature films such as Me, Myself and Irene, Rounders; There's Something About Mary, Two if by Sea, and Southie, to name a few.

We laugh until we cry in this special episode while forgetting our troubles. Lenny share’s his uplifting story that inspire and entertain because his journey is one wild ride! 

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Today’s topic is about the power of mindset and how to manage and control our response to others when dating. This week’s guest is Special Victim’s Investigator Will Kesselman, an expert in dynamic and repetitive patterns. He shares what he’s learned on the job. His acquired skills in psychology, coaching, consulting, and advanced knowledge around trauma so we can sharpen our skills around judgment. Decide which people to avoid and who is worthy of our time. He’ll share strategies he’s used in leading thousands of women to safety. HIS theories around emotional reactions–so you can stay in control and remain in power. We’ll discover that you don’t have to be phenomenally skilled to succeed; you need to be phenomenally willed, and if you want to find love, you absolutely can as long as you stay determined because where there is a will, there’s a way!

Will Kesselman, Special Victims Investigator, Social Impact Strategist, speaker, and, Founder and President of Control and Power Strategy, a Domestic Violence- Divorce Consulting Trauma Coaching agency. After experiencing trauma, he chose to dedicate his life to protecting others. With over 14 years of experience, through his consulting and coaching company, Will continues to help empower mostly women, and sometimes men, to protect themselves, even potentially saving lives. Through his company, Will specializes in revealing to his clients the hidden information known mostly to government investigators, police, and judges; and how they think and react to situations. Will has helped thousands navigate government and community systems to safety. Will has also recently been on a "live" private FB group (for Domestic Violence) with over 10 thousand members, podcasts, and a radio show on KLAA for Southern California.
 
Today, Will teaches us that we can respond differently to how others treat us and that we can be in control of our feelings and our emotions. Kerry Brett and Will Kesselman cover a lot of ground. Topics include; 

How to use pain to catapult you forward, especially in online dating.
Will’s golden rule of being responsive, not reactive, and how it serves him in his life.
How behavior can lead to thoughts, then thoughts lead to emotions.
How we feel about ourselves matters in who they will attract.
How women have a gatekeeper which is usually a best friend or sister, when vetting people to date.
How to get an emotional response with the words you use when texting.
A big red flag to Will is someone who's not flexible; the relationship is being set up as one-sided, or the person is being too dominant. This is trouble and not going to work.
Women should never settle or make excuses for poor behavior because they don’t want to start over.
Why it’s so difficult to leave a toxic relationship because of the emotional bonding.
Why women are likely to get addicted to a relationship quicker than a man.
Narcissists have to feed and are brilliant manipulatives and need to have a woman to dominate.
Will’s advice around the mistakes women make when dating?
Women need to understand they have more control and are worth more than they think.
The importance of a buddy system when dating.
Men will respond favorably when the woman stands in her power, and if they don’t respond favorably, they aren’t for you.

To find out more about Will Kesselman, go to www.controlandpower.com, follow him on Instagram @will_wise_words, on LinkedIn under Will K., and Clubhouse or Owwll under Will Kesselman.

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This week is all about deliberate attraction! Today's guest is Michael Losier, author of the Law of Attraction. A book so powerful he's sold almost 4 million copies in 37 languages! We'll learn how to attract the perfect partner so you can get more of what you want and less of what you don't want. Have you ever noticed how people repeatedly find themselves in a bad relationship or complain about pulling in the same type of person? Well, the Law of Attraction is at work for them too. Michael's motto is you attract whatever you give attention, energy, and focus to, whether positive or negative. He'll share his 3-step process for deliberate attraction, how to let go of doubt and allow love into our lives. Michael will show us how to stop using the words don't, not, and no and how to reset your vibration because we all have the power to manifest incredible relationships and experiences. 

Michael Losier is the author of best-selling books such as Law of Attraction: The Science of Attracting More of What you Want and Less of What you Don't, Law of Connection: The Science of Using NLP to Create Ideal Personal and Professional Relationships and Your Life's Purpose. The movie The Secret brought international exposure to the subject of Law of Attraction. Michael's business flourished as a result, and Michael was branded as the "How-to-Guy" for teaching others how to use the Law of Attraction, and even caught the attention of Oprah Winfrey. Oprah interviewed him four times on her Soul Series Radio show on Sirius/XM satellite radio, and then Michael enjoyed a year-long run hosting his own radio show on Oprah & Friends Radio. He's been around the world twice teaching the Law of Attraction and has certified 470 Law of Attraction Facilitators in 17 countries. Michael shares evidence of the law of attraction around finding love and how we can get what we want if we deliberately use the Law of Attraction. 

Kerry Brett and Michael Losier cover a lot of ground. Topics include:

How to become a deliberate attractor to attract your perfect partner.
Why allowing is the opposite of doubt.
How you can reset your vibration.
Why we should stop using the words, don't, not and no.
Why a belief is a word or a phrase you say repeatedly.
The importance of changing your vibration to attract love.
Why you should say daily, "I'm in the process of attracting my ideal partner."
Why you shouldn't tell your friends about a bad date.

To find out more about Michael Losier go to www.michaellosier.com, follow on Clubhouse under Michael Losier or on Instagram @michael_losier_loa. Purchase his book Law of Attraction or book an appointment at www.ReleasingNegativeEmotions.com

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What makes or breaks a relationship? The truth is another person can't make you happy; being fulfilled is an inside job. Today's guest is Barry Selby. He's helped thousands learn to love themselves. He's affectionately known as the "Love Doctor." Barry is an inspirational speaker, relationship expert, best-selling author, and spiritual guide. Most successful women rely on masculine energy to survive in the business world but often don't know how to shut it off. Barry is a champion for the divine feminine and he's dedicated to helping strong women attract relationships that equal who they are. Barry offers principles that will change how you experience romance and how to love and treat yourself.

Barry Selby is passionate about helping successful women create greater balance in love, life, and business. He's on a mission to awaken women to own and express their feminine magnificence in love and in the world. He's a relationship coach and a guide for singles seeking relationships and self-love. He has over 35 years of training and experience, including a master's degree in Spiritual Psychology and more than two decades as a professional spiritual counselor. His #1 best-selling book, "50 Ways to Love Your Lover," helps singles and couples embody powerful principles for passionate and richly rewarding relationships. He brings deep compassion, a calm masculine presence, and wise guidance to assist his clients in their journey to true love. Barry epitomizes the perfect blend of practical, spiritual, tangible, and intangible in relationship coaching. In this week's episode, we'll learn about his approach to dating and love.

Kerry Brett and Barry Selby discuss masculine and feminine energy and why that needs to be in balance to find love. Topics include:

The polarity between the masculine and feminine. 
You don't need the other person to complete you if you truly love someone. Come from a place of loving yourself first, which is the best place to attract a new relationship.
How to love from overfill and not love from a place of lack.
The difference between masculine and macho energy.
Masculine energy comes from having a strong spine and being single-focused.
Why women need to turn off the masculine energy that they use at work.
Feminine energy comes from the energy of the heart.
Why women don't trust their feminine energy.
Why women have a difficult time letting the man lead in dating.
Rule #45 in "50 Ways to Love Your Lover" Ladies, let your man be masculine and remember you are feminine. Don't compete for it, or you will lose in romance. Barry, can you expand on this?
Rule #42 is men and women attract each other differently. Men see attraction, and women feel attraction. 
Why is it crucial to be grounded in your feminine as a woman in dating?
Barry Selby's advice for dating and healing a broken heart.
Why you want to be fulfilled as a single person? So, when you find a relationship, it just adds to who you are.
If you aren't happy single, you won't be happy taken. Happiness comes from within, not from men.
Why being single doesn't mean you are undesirable or unwanted. It means you know your value and are holding out for someone who is worthy and sees your worth.

To find out more about Barry Selby go to www.barryselby.com. All of his social he can be found under Barry Selby except on Instagram which is @therealbarryselby and you can talk to him directly on Clubhouse or watch his 1,400 videos on YouTube.

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Today's guest is Lori Mendelsohn. She's a dating app profile writer, dating coach, and matchmaker. This week's topic is why you need a dating coach. Lori will break down the difference between a dating coach and a therapist and why there is such a huge difference. Dating coaches help you move into the future, identify your blocks and create a structure to achieve your goal faster. A dating coach gets you relationship ready while helping you break past patterns. Asking our family and friends for dating advice is not the best way to go because often we're asking advice from those who have never been on a dating app, which is why we should ask a professional. Lori shares why it's important to keep an open and curious mind– And like the great coach Ted Lasso said, "Be curious, not judgmental."

Lori Mendelsohn is a dating app profile writer, matchmaker, dating coach, and award-winning entrepreneur. She writes unique profiles that help you not only tell your story by adding some swagger, levity, and humor because, after all, laughter is the best Mendelsohn. Lori is excellent at helping you write a dating profile that stops suitors in their tracks. When Lori writes, you find love. In this episode, Kerry Brett and Lori Mendelsohn break down why hiring a dating coach is in your best interest. Topics include;

You should be curious, not judgmental, because who's to say what type of person will make you happy. Stay curious; on a date, have a conversation of curiosity-ask the other person where they see themselves in five years? This question will give you a lot of information.
Why a dating coach can save you emotional energy and time when navigating these dating sites.
Dating coaches have a playbook and identify what skills you need to improve.
Setbacks are not failures; it's an opportunity to learn and course-correct once you realize your mistakes.
Why hiring a dating coach will help you discover what's not working and help you put a new plan in place.
Dating coaches will identify the patterns we need to break, remove blocks, and figure out why you are pulling in the same type of people.
How to build off of your strengths and put new strategies in place so you can play to win.
An investment in yourself is so worth it because what counts is the inside work you've done on yourself.
Why you shouldn't trust the opinions of friends or family and work with a professional.
Why blind spots are almost impossible to see when your heart is involved.
Look closely at the qualities you want in a partner. Are you focusing on the wrong things, or are you being overly selective?
This is not Build a Bear. You aren't assembling a stuffed animal. It's impossible to be all things to all people.
Why it's so important to live in the present and enjoy the moment without any expectations.

To learn more about Lori Mendelsohn and all of her services, go to www.avconnexions.com or email Lori at hello@avconnexions.com. Follow on Instagram @avconnexions or follow her on Clubhouse under Lori Mendelsohn and check out her Clubhouse Club Single Over 50 every Tuesday at 6 PM (EST).

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Today's guest is Rosie Dalton, and she’s a grief counselor, and lifestyle coach. Rosie knows first-hand how to handle hard times. She tragically lost her only son, got divorced, lost her home, even her car—although it was a heartbreaking time all was not lost. Rosie had her survival skills and the willingness for a better future! She understands that life is short and can be gone at any moment. Rosie became a quick learner called in her future self while learning the power of the word and. She found ways to live with ever-present grief and experience all the joys of life. At age 54, Rosie created her heaven on earth, found love at a Match Mingle, and remarried. Rosie shares how eventually, everything comes up roses, her tips around midlife dating, and why there's a lot to be rosy about when it comes to online dating.  

Rosie Dalton is a midlife revisionist, lifestyle coach, spiritual guide, and workshop facilitator. Rosie was an inspirational speaker at Canyon Ranch, Kripalu Center for Yoga & Health, 1440 Multiversity, and several similar venues across the country. Rosie shows women how to immerse themselves into a new and powerful paradigm of the ageless woman. Rosie shows others a world of untapped possibilities of deep and unapologetic authenticity and burgeoning vitality. Midlife is not a dirty word but an incredible opportunity to transform past challenges and loss into feminine rocket fuel. 

Kerry Brett and Rosie Dalton discuss how Rosie reimagined a new life and recreated a fabulous new one. Topics include;

How to let go of things that aren't meant for you anymore.
How Rosie was willing to lose everything to create a better life for herself, leaned into her survival skills, and just kept going.
How Rosie didn't let her current financial situation affect her self-worth, it doesn't matter what's in your bank account; it's what's in your heart that's important.
Why you should keep trying new things and do more of the things that you love, that way, it creates an energetic field of love, happiness, and abundance around you. 
Why you should start looking at men with a new lens, look for good and handsome–handsome becomes unattractive really quick if he's not a good person.
If you look for a good heart first, then you'll have a great and fun life.
The importance of writing a list of what you want in a partner–and why a good person should be at the top of your list.
Midlife isn't a dirty word, and it's an excellent opportunity for a second chance.
Advice for someone who feels hopeless about finding love.
Advice for someone who feels too old to find love, and why it's never too late.
Why Rosie, having the desire to feel cherished was enough to propel her forward, and find love.
Take action, and don't be afraid to try something unconventional even if you have to grab an ex-boyfriend to accompany you to a Match Mixer because you never know where you can meet your person.
You can choose a better life and carefully select the type of people you date. You are the ultimate authority, so fill your mind with positive beliefs, and that will be your feminine rocket fuel.

To find out more about Rosie Dalton, you can follow her on Instagram @silverandsovereign and stay tuned for Rosie's Dalton's upcoming podcast. Keep an eye out for the launch of Rosie's sister Comedian Medium Maureen Hancock’s upcoming podcast The Medium Next Door, which will be found on all platforms.

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Today's topic is all about the emotions of dating. This week's guest is Dr. Renee Mudrey, and she's an educational psychologist, author, and founder of Transcendent Heart Life Coaching. Dr. Renee is a chief emotions doctor who understands the gamut of emotions people experience when dating. We cover the hopes, joys, expectations, projections, and the best mindset. She'll offer tips around staying grounded, being present, and living in the moment when on the lookout for love—strategies to avoid burnout and trusting yourself after rejection. Dr. Renee shares her wisdom to gain a new perspective and advice for regulating our emotional well-being. If you can't get excited about dating, stop putting in the effort, or completely lost interest, this episode is for you. Dr. Renee shares how to overcome feeling let down and conquer relational troubles to live an abundant life and find a meaningful relationship. 

Dr. Renee Mudrey is an Educational Psychologist and Spiritual Mentor; whose stood by her clients over the last 17 years, helping them find their way in overcoming personal tragedy. She spent most of her 20s worrying about everything that could go wrong in life only to find she wasn't living at all. In her 30s, Dr. Renee faced a major health issue that became a turning point that forced her to decide who she was and what she was capable of. Despite having a Ph.D. in the field of educational psychology and two decades of teaching experience, she knew there was still so much more to learn. Dr. Renee embarked on a journey to conquer internal doubt, negative thinking, and feelings of hopelessness. Today she'll share what she's learned while empowering us to be the best version of ourselves.

Kerry Brett and Dr. Renee Mudrey cover a lot of ground topics, include:
How to navigate the ups and downs of dating.
How to trust yourself after a failed relationship.
How to ground yourself and stay present when dating.
The value of finding support when dating.
Why it's essential to have a positive mindset when dating.
How to manage your expectations and not get too ahead of yourself when dating.
Dr. Renee's theory of the "Unbecoming" and how to trust the process that everything will work out.
Advice for someone who's entirely burned out with online dating.
Divine timing and why it's never too late to find love.
How to find your way again after rejection.
How to let go of toxic patterns and belief that love is heavy. Trust your smile, not your past. Love is supposed to be full of joy, not drama.
How to find love in the wholeness that you are, not in the brokenness that you are not.

To find out more about Dr. Renee Mudrey, you can find out more on her website https://www.transcendentheart.com/ or follow her on Instagram @transcend.with.drrenee or order her book on Amazon The Unbecoming: A Journey Within and follow The Emotion Club and Dr. Renee on Clubhouse.

To find out information about Kerry Brett Master Class Your Best Shot@Love go to www.shotatlove.co

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I can’t believe it! Today is my 100th episode and in honor of this milestone I have a very special guest, my boyfriend Scott Stunzenas. We discuss how we became a Tinder Success Story. I understand what works and what doesn't because I’ve tested it all, then used what I learned to find love. Scott was my MVP on Tinder, and I want to encourage all my listeners to give more people a chance and be open to all possibilities because you never know what package your person will come in. You’ve heard me talk about him on the past 99 episodes and now it’s time to put him in the Hot Seat! Hear his side of the story while he shares all the right moves he made after swiping right.

Honestly, Shot@Love wouldn't exist if it weren't for Scott – he saw that I had valuable information and he encouraged me to get out of my own way and help others by developing this podcast. Behind the scenes, there were lots of nights full of tears and fear around telling my own story. He reminded me that Shot@Love was not about me; it was about the person struggling to get it right and find love. Thankfully, on our first date he saw my heart, not a girl who felt like a disaster at the time, crying into her paper napkin. I was successful on Tinder because I pushed through the pain, dragged my sorry sad soul into the shower, kept swiping and kept going. Until one day I swiped right on an photograph of Scott, who lived 13 miles away, graduated from American University and was looking for love in all the wrong places and the rest is history!

Kerry Brett and Scott Stunzenas break down their online dating journey and how they became a Tinder Success Story.

Why dating is a numbers game and how to increase your odds.
Why you should avoid sending a thank you text after the date. Thank the other person on the date that night.
Do not send double texts if you don’t get a response.
Why the breakthrough is always the last key on the key chain – it’s always  that last key that unlocks the door.
Why you should avoid showing up as the representative.
The importance of managing expectations.
Dating is a numbers game and why it’s all about timing.
It’s also all about curb appeal and first impressions.
Why you should pay attention to the buzz words you put in your bio.
Why you should take risks sending edgy or funny responses.
Make no apology for your personality. You’ll be too much for some, those aren’t your people.
Your success is found in your daily routine. Everyday aim to be 1 percent better than the day before.
Stop trying to be perfect because perfect doesn’t exist! Beauty is an inside job and begins the moment you decide to be yourself.
Never water yourself down because someone can’t handle you at 100 proof. A real man isn’t threatened by your talents or abilities.

To find out more about Scott Stunzenas follow on Instagram @scottstunzenas or on FaceBook under his name.  After you’ve found love and decide to take the next step contact Scott at Compass because he will help you find your forever home.  To find out more about my Master Class go to shotatlove.co.

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This week, we discuss what men want. Today's guest is Daniel Herrold and he's the co-creator of Divorced Over 40, a rapidly growing community with tribes in fifty cities and seven countries worldwide. Daniel provides a man's perspective on dating, relationships and just about everything women are straight-up confused about these days! He helps translate the difficult conversations you may have with guys. He gives insight into what men may be thinking and, better yet, what they really meant. He also helps us spot the signs to differentiate between good and bad behavior. Daniel encourages dating with a purpose i.e. knowing what you want in a partner and getting clear about your next chapter. Daniel finally offers tips for protecting your time around those who don’t align with you and how to be proactive by playing offense instead of defense.  

Daniel Herrold is the co-creator of Divorced Over 40, an online and in-person community of divorced women and men. This incredibly curated group provides support through content on its social media channels and hosts live events so that those navigating divorce can cultivate new friendships. Divorced Over 40 has over 10,000 members and has formed virtual tribes worldwide in just over a year. Daniel is also the founder of the Intentional Dating Club. He's a writer of all things divorce and known for his blog and his viral Divorced Dad Tik Tok videos, which offer dating tips. Daniel is a proud divorced dad of three daughters, who lives in Tulsa, Oklahoma, and is dedicated to changing the stigma of divorce.

Once Daniel found himself divorced in his 40s, he began looking for friendships and doing what most people do... diving straight into dating to avoid the pain of loneliness. In this episode, he shares how connecting with others, who are in the same situation, allowed him to heal and ignited his passion for helping others.

Kerry Brett and Daniel Herrold cover a lot of ground. Topics include;
Why women should stop accepting poor behavior from men.
When bad behaviors are shown early it’s better to cut your losses and move on.
Don’t make excuses why bad behaviors exist. Chances are, they are only going to get worse.
Slow and steady wins the race when dating someone new.
How to ask the right questions to see if someone is aligned with you.
If one person tries to push the agenda of the status of the relationship, it’s likely to blow up.
If someone ghosts you, they are showing a lack of respect and it is what it is, no explanation needed, the memo has been received – move along and consider yourself lucky.
Don’t be too accessible and watch the frequency of your communication. Don’t fall into the trap of burning the roast because you got too ambitious in the kitchen. If things progress too quickly either person is most likely to lose steam.
The importance of avoiding negativity in your profile.
It’s better to fill your profile of what you do want rather than what you don’t. And remember men love positive winners.
You can’t change men, make sure your expectations are aligned. A serious dater and casual dater are like oil and vinegar.
Stop putting so much pressure on the first date. Doesn’t friendship come before marriage? Use a date as an opportunity to find a new friendship.
The breakdown of intentional dating.
How to manage your expectations to avoid pain and heartbreak.
How to navigate dating in a healthy way when it’s too soon to date.

To find out more about Daniel Herrold, the Divorced Dad go to danielherrold.com or divorcedover40.com. You can find him on social media @daniel.herrold or @divorcedover40, and also on Tik Tok under daniel.herrold. He has a members-only dating club. There is a hyper link on his Instagram. Daniel also hosts clubhouse

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Are you consciously dating with intention, or are you struggling to date while pulling in the same time waster, leaving you wondering why you can't find the one? Today's guest is Chantal Landreville, and she's a Love Coach who will help you reframe your thoughts if you're questioning yourself. Are you telling yourself comments like "how can I be so amazing if I'm still single," "Am I being too demanding," or "will I be alone for the rest of my life"? If you're feeling discouraged, this episode is for you! Chantal will help turn around self-doubt and introduce self-development. We'll get to the root of your patterns to stop attracting men who aren't emotionally available—Chantal share's love connection skills and how to raise your love signal to attract the right relationship.

Chantal Landreville is a certified love coach, and a lot of what she teaches comes from 20 years of her own experience. Chantal is a French Canadian who lives in Toronto, Canada, and after years of being single and searching for love, she became a self-proclaimed self-development junkie. She's finally in a happy, healthy, relationship and she wants you to have the same experience. Chantal's the founder of the Raise Your Love Signal; A program to master the art of love that helps women achieve the ultimate love connection and teach them the proper skills to be in a healthy, loving, long-term committed relationship. She's also currently writing her book by the same name, Raise Your Love Signal.

In this episode, you'll learn how to step into our power and own who we are, define what we want in your journey of finding love. Kerry Brett and Chantal Landreville cover a lot of ground. Topics include;

How to navigate dating and focus on intentional dating in order to have more positive experiences.
How to raise your love signal.
The way you love yourself determines the quality of the partner you pull in.
In your search for love look for a conscious relationship because it will be transformational and set you up for success.
Why you should be 100% committed and zero percent attached.
The Importance of watching your thoughts. The influence of our thoughts impact how we live and what we experience especially in love.
When dating, it’s imperative to manage your expectations, never assume, communicate your needs and watch your attitude.
How to attract your high vibrational match.

To find out more about Chantal Landreville follow her on Instagram @chantal.landreville, or her website https://raiseyourlovesignal.com. You can also find her on Clubhouse uner Chantal Landreville her club Raise Your Love Signal happens every Monday at 5:00 PM (EST).

To find out more about Your Best Shot@Love Master Class go to https://www.shotatlove.co
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Have you ever wondered if everything you thought about finding love might be wrong? Kerry Brett's new book "Shot At Love" challenges conventional dating wisdom and offers a fresh perspective based on years of hard-won experience. From growing up in a working-class Boston family where the Brady Bunch and Mr. Rogers shaped her worldview to becoming a dating expert who's made every mistake so you don't have to, Kerry's journey is both entertaining and enlightening.

What started as a desperate search for connection through books, movies, and music evolved into something much more powerful. In 2018, amid social upheaval and personal darkness, Kerry found her calling - helping others avoid the heartbreak she'd experienced. This led to her creating the "Swiping Soiree," a unique blend of education and entertainment she jokingly called her "Tinder Tour." Complete with interpretive dance to Christina Perri's "Jar of Hearts" and entering rooms to the sounds of Aretha Franklin while banging a cowbell, these seminars transformed how middle-aged women approached online dating.

When the pandemic hit in 2020, what many had dismissed as "career suicide" - a podcast about online dating - became Kerry's greatest achievement. Through trial, error, and relentless effort, she emerged as a respected dating coach committed to dismantling the stigma around digital connections. The book reveals how fear becomes our biggest enemy in finding love, causing self-sabotage and missed opportunities. But Kerry's message remains hopeful: love can be found anywhere, from Whole Foods to Tinder, and every misstep offers profound lessons that are part of the journey toward meaningful connection.

This isn't just Kerry's story - it's an invitation to rewrite your own. Whether you're struggling with online dating, recovering from heartbreak, or simply ready for a new approach to finding love, "Shot At Love" offers both practical guidance and emotional support. Grab your copy today on Amazon and join the mailing list at shotatlovebook.com for exclusive updates and information about live singles events. Your next chapter will be amazing - just remember to bring a helmet and enjoy the ride.

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The truth is we are so much stronger and smarter than we think, especially when it comes to dating. Today's guest is Delores Jones, and she's The Comeback Coach, who helps women transform their lives and bounce back better, not bitter despite diversity and bad decisions. Sometimes we don't give ourselves enough credit while forgetting our value and worthiness. Is it possible to hold ourselves back from fear of rejection, failure, or success? In this week's episode, Delores discusses the main fears we encounter in love and how to overcome these obstacles. She also shares strategies around doing the unfamiliar while encouraging us to face our fears and do it anyway because you'll be amazed at what's truly possible! Why it's time to take responsibility for our decisions and why we should stop playing small because we have the power to design the life we want. 

Delores Jones is an Award-Winning Broadcast Journalist, T.V. Personality, and motivational speaker. She's the author of the book Stop the D.U.M.B. Stuff: A woman's guide for being responsible for the relationships were in and the decisions we make. Delores was an honored guest on The Oprah Winfrey Show and featured in the book: "Come on People: On the Path from Victims to Victors for her rise from poverty to prosperity. She's a regular guest and contributor for CBS, NBC, Fly Nubian Queen Network, The Examiner, NPR, and other local media outlets. She received a master's degree in Social Work and a bachelor's degree in Broadcast Journalism from The University of Missouri. Her story of going from 'Destitute to Drive-Time Diva' led to a full feature story in The Kansas City Star Newspaper.

Kerry Brett and Delores Jones cover a lot of ground. Topics include;
Why you should create a folder of your accomplishments to reference on the days you don't believe in yourself or feel down.
How not to suffer from possibility blindness.
How to step into a place of being unstoppable.
In the chessboard of life, the queen is the most powerful piece on the chessboard, and the queen can move what stands in her way, why you can make yourself a queen and crown yourself. 
How to harness inner queen energy for ourselves, especially when dating.
How to stop playing small. 
If we don't see things bigger than they need to be, you'll miss opportunities. 
Why you need to pay attention to men who are inconsistent and drop them like a bad habit.
Don't give more of yourself that you expect to lose.
Why you have to lose the safety net, and how to engage in the lose to win mentality.
When a man makes you a priority, you know - how to avoid being an option.
Why no one gets to tell you who you are or how powerful you are other than you.
It is essential to know and own your value, especially when it comes to life and love.
Why you need to put what's important first which is YOU.
Each day work on something, even if it's small, when working towards your goals.
Be loyal to the royal in you, and remember you were born to be a queen and be treated like one.
To feel like a queen is as simple as believing you are one.
You'll never be crowned if you always back down. Don't be afraid to push back when dating and always stay in your power.

To find out more about Delores Jones, follow her on Instagram@mycomebackcoach, on FaceBook www.facebook.com/thecomebackcoach, or clubhouse under Delores Jones or her club Stop The D.U.M.B. Stuff.

To find out more about Your Best Shot@Love Master Class go to https://www.shotatlove.co
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Today's topic is how to turn your dating misfortune into mojo while finding your inner magnetism. This week's guest is Kimmy Seltzer; she's an image expert, dating strategist, and confidence therapist. Kimmy knows firsthand that you look good when you feel good, and her outside in approach does wonders for your confidence! Kimmy had a turn of events personally that led her to become one of the top LA Dating Coaches, running dating boot camps for men and women, consulting for severalbusinesses, and running the VIP division at one of the largest nationwide matchmaking companies, Elite Matchmaking in Beverly Hills. Kimmy shares her dating strategies, tips around flirting, and how to attractlove through body language, first impressions, and her signature formula, the Charisma Quotient. 

Los Angles based expert Kimmy Seltzer travels the country helping others discover confidence, charisma, and connection as a speaker at national Matchmaking Conferences, eHarmony, Neutrogena, The Guild at Universal, UCLA, and iDate. Kimmy is also the host of the Charisma Quotient podcast and is a regular contributor at the Huffington Post. She’s appeared in Cosmopolitan, Oprah Magazine, Redbook, Reader's Digest, Ask Men, FOX News Magazine Yahoo, and the Washington Examiner, to name a few. Kimmy's also the leading love expert on the live traveling dating show the Great Love Debate and cable TV’s reality dating show The Romance. She's the love coach for the dating app Datefit and hosts the Flirt Academy workshops nationwide.

Kerry Brett and Kimmy Seltzer cover a lot of ground and topics include;
How to find yourself again after a marriage ends or a long-term relationship.
How to look and feel your best so you can find what you want in a partner.
Why the outer game is just as important as the inner game in how we feel about ourselves.
The value of being “seen”, and the impact that people have when they feel attractive.
Why you have to learn how to date, because you can’t be good at something you don’t do.
Kimmy found that people could shift in one shopping spree than they could after years of therapy.
Kimmy’s red dress moment and why we all need a dating costume.
How important confidence is when flirting or making first impressions.
How to attract something this time around.
The power of makeovers, and how it helps you shift the way you feel about yourself.
When you love you, others will love you as well.
How important the leading photograph is, as well as secondary images are in your online dating profile.
Why your online dating photograph is the first thing that catches a man’s eye. It’s literally the equivalent of a first impression and we all know how important first impressions are, so make yours count.
Don’t rush the process, date smarter not harder. Why you should take your time, and reframe your mindset of how to date especially if you’re jumping back into the world of dating after a long-term relationship.
Make flirting fun, avoid boring answers, use humor and keep it short and sweet when texting. Too much too soon is never a good thing.
You have the power to attract the love you want but you must become what you want to attract.

To find out more about Kimmy Seltzer go to her website https://kimmyseltzer.com/. Here is the link to her flirt workshop on February 11th, 2022 https://bl394.isrefer.com/go/flirt2022/KBrett/.

Listen to her podcast the Charisma Quotient podcast on all platforms where podcasts are found. Follow on Instagram @kimmyseltzer, or on FaceBook under Kimmy Seltzer.

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Anyone who's navigated the hookup culture on these dating apps or unexpectedly got their heartbroken will relate and resonate with today's guest Beverly Hills psychologist Dr. Nancy Lee. Aside from being a renowned clinical therapist, she’s also the author of thebook Don’t Sleep with Him Yet, a Badass Guide to Dating in 10 Empowering Steps. Having helped countless women with dating and relationship issues, she shares how to let go of self-doubt and find confidence in ourselves, leading us to say goodbye to the wrong guys so you can reel in the right one! Dr. Nancy Lee provides proactive strategies, eye-opening true stories, and powerful psychological research which will inspire and awaken your inner badassery, so you can stand your ground while dating.

Dr. Nancy Lee is a psychologist who owns a private practice in Beverly Hills, California, and is a leading practitioner of cognitive behavioral therapy, and Vitals Patients Choice Award Recipient. She's been featured in the Los Angeles Times, Cosmopolitan, Toronto Sun, Parade, Oprah Magazine, Digital Journal, Bustle, Metro News, and Yahoo News, to name a few. Dr. Lee has also been on the Jenny McCarthy Show, KTLA, FOX 24, iHeartRadio, LA Talk Radio, and many more. Dr. Lee received her doctorate at the University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center’s Graduate School of Biomedical Sciences, followed by a postdoctoral fellowship in behavioral medicine at UCLA Medical Center.

Kerry Brett and Dr. Nancy Lee cover a lot of ground, topics include;
The neuroscience behind attraction.
How to light his fire and keep him on his toes.
The signs if you’re dating a player or a narcissist, and why it’s really important to have this information so you can avoid heartbreak.
Why it’s so important to listen to your gut and intuition when dating.
Dr. Nancy Lee’s 7 types of men to avoid.
Why women should look at men’s actions more than words.
Dr. Nancy Lee shares psychological references of what makes a player.
Why when you value yourself, you’ll stay clear about what you want, which will lead you to choose a partner that will enhance your life, making life better.
Why you should always choose a kind partner over a cool one.
Why women tend to look out for everyone except themselves, stop being the queen of people-pleasing, and listen to your instincts because if something feels off, it usually is.

To find out more about Dr. Nancy Lee follow on Instagram @drnancylee, FaceBook Don’t Sleep with Him Yet/The Book and Clubhouse under Dr. Nancy Lee. Her website is www.drnancylee.comand you can purchase her book Don’t Sleep with Him Yet, A Badass Guide to Dating in 10 Empowering Steps on Amazon.

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When people fall in love, they often forget to factor in finances, which potentially leads to heartbreak and fiscal failure. Today's guest is Tucker Cohen, and he's the CEO of the App Smoov, which is changing the way couples manage their expenses. Smoov tracks couples spending while you can select the transactions you'd like to share jointly. When dating, discussions around money can be challenging, but communicating about cash establishes boundaries, trust, and commitment. Tucker shares what's happening in the relationship world, how younger people today are becoming wealthier and prefer to maintain their independence. He also discusses how to take the financial pressure off of dating and why his app is imperative when building a future with someone you love because it's all about the Benjamin's baby!

Tucker Cohen grew up in a coastal town called Marblehead just outside Boston, MA. He's a graduate of Chapman University in Southern California, and he's an athlete, entrepreneur, and investor. Tucker is a 3X founder and 5X start-up operator from seed to series C. Tucker is also the current brand ambassador for Cake's electric motorcycle company. Today, he discusses Smoov, the first expense management platform designed specifically for couples. Financial strains are one of the leading causes of relationships failing. By simplifying the management expenses for young couples while helping navigate emotionally charged conversations, Smoov, removes issues and arguments around money so it doesn't come in between their love for one another. 

Kerry Brett and Tucker Cohen cover a lot of ground. Topics include;

Why banks don't care about harmony in your relationship and why modern banking isn't built for modern day relationships.
Why millennials are driving the divorce rate down because they're getting married later in life.
If you get screwed up around finances or romances, it can derail your life.
Financial infidelity or dishonesty about your spending or debt can be the biggest relationship killer. Couples can't come up with a solution if the other person doesn't know the truth.
Don't be an over-sharer in the early stages of dating; save those stories for your hairdresser. Loose lips sink ships. Don't be complaining about your crushing student debt on your first date, and the same goes for sharing information about the large trust fund you may have acquired.
Don't let money ruin your relationship. Stay open to talking about finances regularly and making things easier for yourself by using an app like Smoov.
Wealth comes in many categories, like freedom, peace, health, and happiness. I like to think that being rich isn't about what you have in your bank; it's what you have in your heart.
Why fighting over finances is the second leading cause for breakups.

To find out more about Tucker Cohen, the CEO of Smoov, follow on Instagram or Twitter @smoovapp or get on the waitlist before the launch to be one of the first 500 free customers! 

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Today’s guest is business coach Michelle Oliver, who’s back by popular demand to help you re-vision your dating life in 2022. Are you clear on the type of love interest you’d like to manifest this year? Or is it time for a clean slate or rewrite? In this week’s episode, Michelle will help you re-imagine your future by using tools like clarity, focus, and the language of love. Why it’s time to ditch limiting thoughts that are holding you back while showing us how dating can be easy, lucrative, and fun, and it only takes simple shifts in energy and attitude. Michelle will also discuss why dating doesn’t need to take a great deal of concentrated effort and why we don’t need to pull out all stops to pull in the perfect partner.

Through business strategy and mindset shifts, Michele Oliver helps women in their 40’s and 50’s build the business of their dreams and a life they love. Using tools like re-visioning and revising to help women; increase awareness and alter their self-concept so they can be the women they want to be. She also helps women discover what has held them back and how to overcome limitations while building a new relationship with themselves.

Kerry Brett and Michelle Oliver cover a lot of ground. Topics include;
How to get clear and clarify the values we are looking for in a partner.
How to define what we want for our life in this new year.
Why you should go all-in when dating and fine-tune your commitment to finding love.
Why consistency, focus, and follow-through are the name of the game in searching for love.
Why it’s imperative to take inventory of your mindset and attitude.
The power of words and how it affects your outcome in business and love.
Why dating doesn’t need to be a repetitive task that you dread and tips on how to find the fun and joy in the process.

To find out more about Michelle Oliver you can follow her on Instagram @iammichelleoliver or go to her website https://www.iammichelleoliver.com

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Today, we'll discuss the astrological forecast for the new year with well-known astrologer and psychic healer Jill Jardine. Jill explains why love is in the cards for you in 2022, as well as her predictions around romance. She breaks down the new moon chart, which sets the tone for the upcoming year and help shift our mindset so we can align with energies and opportunities that lie ahead in this new chapter. It is out with the old and in with the new, and this year's focus is relationships. Many are ready to reevaluate their personal life, and finding love is a top priority. Jill will help us prepare to pull in a new love interest, get intentional around what we'd like to manifest while sharing what's in store in this big year to come.

Jill Jardine is a professional astrologer, therapist, psychic healer, and spiritual advisor. She's also a former radio personality on WATD and the host of the podcast Cosmic Scene with Jill Jardine. She's also a reverend in Sanskrit Mantra and chanting mantras shift outcomes and is an invaluable tool. For over 30 years, she's helped thousands of people find power and confidence within themselves and help with important  decisions. Jill is my psychic healer and dear friend who's predicted so many things in my life, and in this week's episode, she'll offer us some hope, encouragement while getting us fired up for the New Year! 

Kerry Brett and Jill Jardine cover a lot of ground topics include;
A snapshot of what’s to come around love and relationships in the coming year.
Why 2022 will be a powerful year for pulling in love because Jupiter is in the romantic sign of Pisces.
Jill covers some of the key dates and transits of 2022. It’s filled with four retrograde cycles, eclipse’s, full and new moons while highlighting the best months to date.
Why you should set your intentions on the lunar new year.
What is a Capricornian cluster, and why this energy will pass?
Why March will be a hot month, a love fest, and off the charts romantically.
In 2022 there will be several planets in Aquarius, an air sign, and why February is a good time to get your communications together and dive into dating.
Why this is the year to shift our mindset and get clear about what we want to pull in as far as a love interest.
Why we should get prepared Piscean party of planets, which will be filled with harmony and ease.
If you feel the need to stay stuck and stay put out of fear, use all your strength to push past doubts around finding love.
Why jovial Jupiter will bring in lots of abundance and love this year, Jupiter will make many connections as it moves through Pisces, which is the sign of the heart.
2022 is the year of the tiger, and ladies, let the men pursue you and like tigers’ men love the competition.
The best dates to set your intentions, initiate issues of the heart and go all in to find love.

To find out more about Jill Jardine go to jilljardineastrology.com, follow on Facebook under Jill Jardine, or Instagram @thejilljardine. Or check out her podcast Cosmic Scene with Jill Jardine on all platform’s podcasts are found.

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Today's guests are Hello Prenup's Co-Founders Julia Rodgers and Sarabeth Jaffe, and they discuss one of the most important topics around love PRENUP'S! Julia and Sarabeth are fearless female entrepreneurs and disrupters in divorce. They recently landed a deal on Shark Tank. A lot has happened during the pandemic. Although 80 percent of new couples found love online, divorce is still rising. People are three times more likely to get engaged during the holidays, but if you don't talk about money before you get married, bring on the problems and complications. In this episode, Julia and Sarabeth share ideas around moving to the next level or moving on. At the same time, offering tips that will put you in a place of power by protecting your pocketbook. We cover all the things – life, legal, and love. 

Hello Prenup's Co-founders are CEO Julia Rodgers, a Boston-based family law attorney, and CTO Sarabeth Jaffe, a software engineer. Julia could identify a need when she witnessed the enormous cost and hesitancy of couples looking for prenuptial agreements. With her legal training in law and experience drafting prenups, Hello Prenup was born. Hello Prenup is a company created by women with women in mind because it's no secret women's finances are negatively impacted by divorce more than their husbands. People's desire for prenups has increased by 500% in the last twenty years. Millennials want prenups because most get married later in life and are more established. Julia Rodgers and Sarabeth Jaffe tell us all about their passion Hello Prenup, the first digital platform where you can create a prenup quickly from your own home for a fraction of the price. Hello Prenup has been featured in the Boston Globe, Geek Wire, Forbes, Reuters, Biz Women, and WCVB Channel 5, to name a few. For those who missed Hello Prenup's debut on ABC's Shark Tank, it was viewed by 5 million people.

Kerry Brett, Julia Rodgers, and Sarabeth Jaffe cover a lot of ground. Topics include;
Why do people want prenups, especially millennials?
The three reasons why people are hesitant to create a prenup, and how to overcome those challenges.
262,000 people search google monthly looking for information around prenups. Hello Prenup has the most knowledge and content on prenups and is the #1 resource.
Why a prenup decreases the stress in your relationship, enhances communication, and builds trust around the important things in marriage.
Communication is key, especially around finances. Finances affect everything, your health, well-being, where you live, and the trajectory of your life.
Make sure you're operating under the same basic principles and values; while making sure you have the big questions answered before the big day. Remember, you can always change your answers down the line as long as you communicate effectively.
Why a relationship is a collaboration and essentially a business deal.
Why women are more susceptible to financial ruin after divorce.
How to overcome anxiety around talking about your finances and put yourself in the best position to protect the assets you have.

If you'd like tips on discussing a prenup, go to helloprenup/discuss. To find out more information you can go to their website www.helloprenup.com. Follow on all social platforms, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest, and Twitter under Hello Prenup.

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Today's guest is Dr. Christie Kedrian, and she's a therapist, dating coach, and previous matchmaker for eHarmony. Finding love is an art, yet there is a science around chemistry. Knowledge is power, and when you implement specific strategies, you raise productivity and increase the opportunity for success when online dating. In this week's episode, we discuss holiDATING 101 how to navigate dating during the holidays to find the one. When we come back, Christie will share tips that can help you find love during the holiday season and beyond. 

Dr. Christie Kederian is a nationally-renowned relationship expert specializing in helping clients create the lives they want and find the love they deserve. With an extensive career as a professional matchmaker and relationship expert for eHarmony and Match.com, Christie has helped hundreds of people find love and improve relationships. She is a "Triple Trojan" receiving her Bachelor's, Master's & doctoral degree at the University of Southern California in Psychology and Marriage and Family Therapy. Christie has been a featured expert in ABC, NBC, KTLA, The Wall Street Journal, Los Angeles Times, Cosmopolitan, and many more. She is also a professional speaker and provides training with the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists.

Kerry Brett and Dr. Christie Kederian cover a lot of ground. Topics include:
How to navigate dating during the holidays.
How relationships impact who we are as people.
Dr. Christie's online and offline dating strategies for dating during the holidays.
What Dr. Christie's learned about compatibility from working at eHarmony.
How to avoid falling into the scarcity mindset.
How to reset when you get discouraged with the online dating process.
Dr. Christie's Criteria Sandwich and why you should get clear about your core values.
Dr. Christie's Silver Bullet Swipe and why you should focus on the main thing you're looking for in another person.
Dr. Christie's five messages to meet method.
Why face-time pre-screener calls help vet people before the date.
Why the holiday season is a great time to be out there.
Dr. Christie shares tips and strategies from her HoliDATING 101 program.
Why you should utilize the down time during the holiday's to get back out there and date.
January 2nd is the highest dating day, so you want to be on an app.
Dr. Christie's three dating roadblocks and how to remove them.
Dr. Christie's ten dates to finding love roadmap.
How important photographs are when online dating and why you should invest in professional headshots.

To find out more about Dr. Christie Kederian, you can go to her website www.therapyfordating.com or on Instagram @thedatedoctorchristie.

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Today's guest is Michelle Oliver, and she's an entrepreneur who's been building small businesses for over three decades. She's also a business consultant and coach. If you’re going through a major life transition and need some direction, this episode is for you! You don't have to let past failures define you. Regardless of how you feel about yourself or the mistakes you've made, you can take things to the next level and pull in a healthy relationship. She discusses how you can use the same principles that it takes to build a business to create personal development and find success within a relationship. When we come back, Michelle will explain what she's learned in the trenches of dating while sharing her guidance and real-life inspiration so you can be at your best through your journey of finding love.

Michelle Oliver's business strategies help women believe in themselves and help them build the business of their dreams. She specializes in guiding women in their 40’s and 50’s who are at a point in their life where they are ready to commit to go in directions that they didn’t believe were possible. Through her coaching and consulting Michelle provides resources, support, collaboration, and community which allows you to move quickly and efficiently in achieving your goals. 

Kerry Brett and Michelle Oliver cover a lot of ground. We discuss why it makes sense when looking for love to apply the same principles as you would in any successful business endeavor. If your goal is to find a relationship it can be a lot easier and less stressful than you think. Why it’s not too late to start your own business or find love and YES you can have it all! In this episode you will learn about these topics:

Tips and strategies from a successful business coach and why these same principles work went applied to finding love.
Why you’ve got to get clear around who you are, what value you bring to the table and what you are looking for in relationship.
The importance of holding your value.
Why finding love is 95 percent mindset.
Why attracting the right people comes down to marketing and advertising yourself the right way?
Why you can’t approach dating half-heartedly.
Why people are successful because they are married to their vision.
Michelle’s start anyway philosophy. 
Showcasing your best version online and 90 percent of your success comes down to great photographs of yourself.
How to date strategically and move quickly when things don’t work out.
How to remain positive and look at every encounter or chance meeting as an opportunity.

To find out more about Michelle Oliver you can follow her on Instagram @iammichelleoliver or go to her website https://www.iammichelleoliver.com

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Today's guest is Angela Gentile, and she's the founder of Sweat Remix and a leader in fitness and wellness. Angela believes that if you can change your mindset and change your body, you can change your life. Her goal is to help you break down the inhibitions that stand between you and your best life. In this week's episode, we look at why we might be stuck and how we can shift from trying to survive, learning to reevaluate and make adjustments so we can thrive. Angela was inspired by loss, and her vision is to bring the Sweat Remix to people across the country who are stuck in jobs, relationships, and situations that are not working from them and are ready to make a change. Angela shares tips around changing a negative mindset, owning our part in our suffering, and why we should start where we are.

Angela's path to fitness evolved; as a high school English teacher when she had a vision for a healthier school community.  With fierce determination, Angela launched TEACH Fitness, a fitness, and wellness program aimed at helping teachers take better care of themselves. At the time, she felt stifled in her job as a teacher, stuck in a cycle of bad relationships, and paralyzed by the sudden loss of her father. As she worked through her anger, frustration, and grief, she developed the #ZenRageHeal process, and Teach fitness became Sweat Remix. Angela has many certifications in exercise, and she's taught at Boston's Equinox and built a fitness community across the country. She's been highlighted in Boston Magazine, Bustle, Boston Voyager, BeWellBoston, and Boston 25 News, to name a few. Her mission is to help bring your issues to the surface so you can be the epic person you're meant to be.

Kerry Brett and Angela Gentile cover a lot of ground and topics include:
How to get motivated when you're stuck in a rut.
How to use movement to heal from trauma and loss.
Why your story can be someone else's survival guide.
Why the best way to honor a loved one you've lost is to move forward and create a beautiful life.
How to move through negative energy with movement and exercise.
Why you should use exercise to create a higher vibration of energy.
Why do we battle with how we think things should be and how we can end our suffering.
How to unpack "how did I get here?"
How to move negative and stale energy .
Why energy attracts more energy.
How to get out of the shame cycle.
How to move our spirit in a positive way.
How to make the conscious effort to shift and move.
How to overcome weight gain while dating because it's not about the weight. It's about the underlying fear around self-worth.
How to overcome limiting beliefs and move through that.
Angela's advice for people pleasers and someone who lives outside themselves.
Why if you come from a scarcity mindset, more of the same will show up.
When you decide that you matter and feel good about yourself, the world will respond to that.

To find out more about Angela Gentile, follow her on Instagram @theangelagentile and @sweatremix and on FaceBook under Sweat Remix. Her website is www.sweatremix.com.

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When Tina Zhu Xi Caruso and Pari Kim met on Love on the Spectrum Season 3, viewers worldwide fell in love with their authentic connection. Their story isn't just about finding romance on reality TV—it's about embracing who you truly are, regardless of what others might think.

The magic of Tina and Pari's relationship stems from their fearless self-expression. As Pari puts it, "I literally go on the train in a ball gown. I don't care. People could stare and say whatever they want, but it makes me happy." This unapologetic authenticity—Pari with her passion for trains and Tina with her photography and disability advocacy—creates a foundation for genuine connection that many neurotypical daters struggle to achieve.

What makes their bond particularly special is their shared understanding of profound loss. Both having experienced the death of a parent, they connect through empathy that might not have existed with other cast members. This shared grief, combined with their neurodivergent perspectives, allows them to relate on a deeper level. As Tina explains, "I feel like, for me at least, and Pari were a perfect match because we understood parent loss."

Their remarkable optimism stands out as a defining characteristic. Rather than letting disabilities or challenges define them, they embrace life with enthusiasm and determination. "If we are constantly negative, we'll never get anything done," Pari explains. "I gotta get out there and live my life and do what makes me happy." This resilience—whether it's Pari singing at Harvard Square or Tina advocating for the disability community—teaches us all about finding joy despite obstacles.

Want to find your shot at love? Take inspiration from Tina and Pari: be fearless about putting yourself out there, prioritize kindness in all interactions, and focus on the little, meaningful moments that build connection. As Pari wisely notes, "If you spend your whole life worrying about others, you're never going to be happy."

This episode was recorded at Kimpton Marlowe Hotel in Cambridge, MA. To find out more about Shot At Love or purchase Kerry Brett's new book Shot@Love, A Celebrity Photographer's Unfiltered Lens on Dating and Finding Love, go to www.shotatlovebook.com

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Today's guest is legendary event planner AJ Williams, the owner of AJ Events and one of Boston's most influential event planners. When the event industry shut down during the pandemic, AJ knew how to pivot; she continued to raise millions for charities virtually. The challenges she faced did not stop her when it came to her professional career or in love. In this week's episode, AJ discusses how important it is to have confidence in your abilities, why a can-do attitude is a must, and why being resilient is crucial in any success. AJ shares the most valuable lessons she learned while dating; why you should date all types of people because sometimes it's the most unlikely pair that works out. 

AJ Williams is the creative visionary behind AJ Events'. Her work is ambitious and often unconventional. AJ masterminds' cutting-edge experiences for corporate and private events while being recognized as the "Top Event Producers of the Year" by Biz Bash and Biz Bash Top 500. Top Event Planning Companies by the Boston Business Journal and Boston Herald's Top 10 event planners. AJ executes press-worthy fundraisers with celebrities like Jennifer Hudson, Earth, Wind & Fire, Queen Latifah, President Clinton, Michael McDonald, Vanessa Williams, The Eagles, Run DMC, and Jimmy Fallon's the Roots, to name a few. 

She has worked in publishing, catering, fashion, and marketing. Some fun facts about AJ – she was a contestant on the second season of Master Chef. Was runner up for Miss Massachusetts (Teen) under Erin Bartlett, who is married to Oliver Hudson, and Miss Massachusetts (USA) runner up to the famed Maria Menounos.

 Kerry Brett and AJ Williams cover a lot of ground in this episode topics include:

 How to stand out and get noticed.
The importance of being memorable.
AJ's dating experiences while she was building her event planning empire.
How to use your voice and own being a bad ass.
AJ's advice for someone who's struggling to find love.
Why it's important to date all types of people.
The importance of keeping an open mind while dating.
Why you should know your non-negotiables when looking for a partner.
AJ's advice for navigating an interracial relationship.
Why being resilient is the key to finding love.
Why AJ's work hard play hard philosophy is the key to finding balance in work, life, and love.
Why sometimes it's the most unlikely pair that works best.
How to be open to the unexpected while letting go of what you think you want in another person.
Why you should look for someone who can't get enough of you has a tremendous amount of admiration for you personally and professionally.

To find out more about AJ Williams or AJ Events, the award-winning event planning company in Boston and Nantucket, you can go to www.ajwevents.com or follow on FaceBook at AJ Events or on Instagram @ajwevents.

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Finding love on Clubhouse is a thing! Just ask today's guest Kelly Shepherd Watts, a life and relationship coach who found love with relationship coach Louis Morris on Clubhouse. Kelly and I are obsessed with Clubhouse and can't believe howmuch our lives have changed from using this app. We love the connections, learned so much, and met the most amazing people since we've been hanging out on Clubhouse. Clubhouse is filled with successful singles who are not only lookingfor love but looking to level up professionally. These new friendships and connections have deepened our mission to help others find love. In this week'sepisode, Kelly will encourage you to join the conversation, find that community or love interest. Kellydiscusses how to make a powerful impact while sharing tips and strategies to finding love on Clubhouse. 

 Kelly Shepherd Watts has spent 35 years in the non-profit, social work and education industries. She completed her MBA and serves her community in Charlotte, NC while serving on 11 nonprofit boards in leadership roles. She started "The Coaching Concierge” where she has helped people “Make their Dreams a Reality.' Kelly has been a motivational speaker and facilitated leadership and professional development seminars. She’s also the Executive Director of a nonprofit helping single parents create economic success through group and individual coaching. 

Kerry Brett and Kelly Shepherd Watts discuss how and why people are finding love on Clubhouse.
It's easy to find like-minded people who are interested in similar conversations.
Clubhouse fills the feeling of loneliness.
Why Clubhouse is different than dating apps and a great connector.
How the heart can hear what's true and real.
If you are grounded within yourself, you'll do well on Clubhouse.
What makes you stand out on Clubhouse?
You create opportunity because you should up.
You don't know where your people are, so try many rooms to see which rooms resonate.
Why Clubhouse gives you inspiration and motivation.
Why people go to Clubhouse to change their lives.
Why Clubhouse allows people to connect without the pressure of dating.
Why we believe Clubhouse holds the future of dating.
Using Clubhouse to connect is using a different vehicle, just like if you used a variety of dating apps. 
Clubhouse gives you a unique opportunity to use your voice instead of relying on your leading photograph to open the door to a new connection. 
Nowadays, most people work remotely and are open to moving to a new location if they find the right person. 
More people are open to finding love in other states or countries by changing the radius or willing to try different apps to meet others.

To find out more about Kelly Shepherd Watts, you can find her on FaceBook under Iamkellydenise, Instagram @iamkellydenise. She moderates "Let the Gratitude Flow" and "The Heart Matters" rooms on Clubhouse.

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This week's guest is Louis Morris, he's the host of The Heart Matters podcast; he's also a relationship coach who is lovingly known as "Les Brown of Relationships." Attention all singles, did you know that finding love on Clubhouse is a thing? Well, it is! It's a real thing, and in this episode, Louis will share how he found love on Clubhouse and how you can too! In fact, Louis and I feel so strongly about helping others find love on Clubhouse that we've even created a Club together called the 90 Second Pitch To Get Hitched, which we host on Monday and Wednesday at 4 PM (EST) on Clubhouse. Louis shares his expertise about relationships, love and how to find the right person to compliment your life. He'll also teach us how to get our relationship groove back through spirituality, love, intimacy, and trust. 

After pursuing his certification as a life coach in 2018, Louis turned his passion for helping people with intimate heart matters into a career. Louis's mission is to help others who want to work through their relationship issues. He also assists singles who have been through a divorce, break-up, lost their companion, or struggled with past relationship issues. He supports his clients by helping them address their relationship issues from the inside out.

Kerry Brett and Louis Morris make the announcement of the new club, 90 Second Pitch To Get Hitched on Clubhouse,  and how excited they are to bring others together giving them an opportunity to find love. They also share what they've learned from all of the 90 Second Pitch's  while offering advice about how to stand out and make a memorable impact.

Along with coaching, Louis is a published author, writes a weekly blog, has a branded Amazon shop, and hosts his podcast The Heart Matters, which offers relationship tips and advice and exciting interviews with smart and driven guests.  To find out more about Louis go to louismorriscoaching.com, listen to his podcast The Heart Matters or follow on Instagram @louis_morris_coaching.

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Today's guest is Denise Rodgers, and she's a spiritual teacher, healer, and former "Dream Lady" who's appeared on hundreds of television and radio shows internationally. Denise found herself in her early 20’s pregnant and in love. Her life took on new meaning and direction after spiraling out of control and overcoming a traumatic, near-death experience, where she was shot twice, badly beaten, and left to die as her 5-year-old hid in the next room. Denise is the epitome of a survivor and in expert in breaking the cycle with a bad boy. In this episode, Denise will share how to quit bad boys for once and for all. Life with a bad boy is toxic, harmful, exhausting, and can be so destructive that could lead to dangerous situations that could cost you your life. Bad boys use drama, conflict, and confidence while telling us what we want to hear to keep us in the game. When we come back, Denise will share reason why bad boy relationships are highly toxic. How not to get hooked and break the spell to pull in a healthy relationship because love doesn’t equal drama and pain.

Following her near-death experience, Denise Rodgers embarked upon a healing journey by studying the mind and dreams. For the past 30 years, she has been developing and teaching her Mind, Body, & Spirit Self-Empowerment Programs. The results from her program have been published in numerous journals. Denise contributed a chapter on mind & body interventions in the leading medical textbook globally, and she's one of the few non-physician or non-Ph. D. to be featured in this prestigious book. Her program was also a special topics SPECIAL course at the University of Texas school of Medicine. After her deceased husband came to her in a dream, Denise began to study dreams and consciousness. She also appeared on the radio and television for 10 years as an expert on the altered state of Consciousness. Denise has been a Hospice Chaplain and Death Doula for eleven years and finds great satisfaction in helping people cross over to the other side. She strives to change the dialogue about death and dying, and she's interested in facilitating communication from loved ones through the form of Dream Visitations. 

Kerry Brett and Denise Rodgers cover a lot of ground topics include:
Characteristics that draw you into a relationship with a bad boy.
Why women often make the mistake that they can change a man.
Bad boys don’t pretend to be someone they’re not and have a high opinion of themselves.
Why bad boys use confidence and charm to hook you, meanwhile your confidence starts to diminish.
Bad boys are highly unpredictable, they love creating drama and a series of highs and lows.
How to change the cycle of falling for bad boys and kicking patterns of toxicity.
Even if you feel your situation is impossible to change it is possible.
Always chose hope, once you chose hope anything is possible.

To find out more about Denise Rodgers follow on Instagram @mindbodyspirit0921or her website mindbodypotential.org.

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Today's guest is Kait Warman, and she's the author of the book "Thank You for Rejecting Me.” Rejection is one of the hardest things we deal with when dating. In fact, 99.9 percent of us feel defined by our rejections. Kait's journey with setbacks and heartbreak wasn't wasted; it’s made her who she is today. Kait's experiences inspired her to write a book to help women navigate the painful throes of rejection. Kait believes rejection can hurt us - but doesn't need to derail us, destroy our self-esteem, or impact our feelings about ourselves. Kait is willing to go there and talk about how she's been rejected in many painful ways but encourages us and proves that rejection can build our strength. It can also clarify our life purpose so we can call in a more secure love for ourselves. Kait discusses how you can easily be freed from rejection and realize it is part of life, but it doesn’t have to run or affect our future. 

Kait Warman is an author, inspirational speaker, relationship coach, online educator, and host of The Heart of Dating podcast. Kait's mission is to empower others to have the courage to own their story, walk-in victory, discover clarity and vision in their life and relationships. Kait is passionate about relationships and has hope that the dating scene can be transformed because let's face it, the struggle is real. She has an extensive dating background, has actively worked to seek hope, growth and a deeper sense of self love. She loves walking along side those on the same journey while showing others that dating can be amazing!

Kerry Brett and Kait Warman cover a lot of ground. Topics include:

How Kait realized there wasn’t a lot of information around dating in the Christian culture, so four years ago, she started her podcast The Heart of Dating.
How derailing it can be to hand your power over to someone else.
How to take back your power at your lowest moment.
You have a choice in your pain and suffering and can take control of your healing.
Rejection is protection and redirection plus an opportunity to focus on your self-worth.
Rejection is an opportunity to pivot.
Why you should grab a notebook and write down the truths about you so you don’t believe the lies that someone else tells you about yourself.
Why the right relationship will humble you and make you want to do better, the wrong relationship will have you constantly questioning yourself, feeling anxious, and walking on eggshells.
Why one of the most attractive things is when someone is sure they want to be with you!
Why you should be with someone who is interested in being with you without you trying to convince them to be.
Rejections can keep us small and scared, or they can become things we grow through, learn from, and one day claim as a victory.

To find out more about Kait Warman go to www.heartofdating.com or follow on Instagram @kaitness or @heartofdating.

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Today, we have the MOST special guest—this woman is my HERO, and her books changed my life. Her name is Natalie Lue; she's a podcaster, speaker, artist, and writer of well-known books such as Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl, a book that means so much to me I can basically recite it. Like so many women, Natalie had a litany of problems that included bad boundaries, toxic relationships, and a penchant for emotionally unavailable men. Until everything changed in 2005, when a crippling disease and the breakup from a barely-there guy triggered an awakening, igniting the desire to fight back. She wrote down her experiences and documented her journey, which led to self-publishing five best-selling books and creating Baggage Reclaim, including online courses, over 16,000 blog entries, and a podcast that has helped millions of women become "reclaimers" in over 140 countries. Through it all, her mission remains the same: if she can help even one person avoid what she went through and support others who have struggled with abandonment, rejection, trauma, people-pleasing, emotional unavailability, and feeling "not good enough," she's making the world a better place.
 
Natalie Lue is a thought leader in relationships. Her no-nonsense, compassionate, and humorous take has garnered a following in over 140 countries, and she's been featured in The New York Times, NPR, and the BBC, to name a few. She's the author of Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl, The No Contact Rule, The Dreamer and Fantasy Relationship and Love, Care, Trust & Respect, which has sold 140K+ copies, and her podcast, The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, has over 2 million downloads. Harper Horizon is publishing her next book, The Joy of Saying No, in October 2022. Aside from her self-help blog, Baggage Reclaim, she is also the founder of the kids' lifestyle blog Bambino Goodies. She's based in London with her husband, two daughters, and crazy cockerpoo. She left advertising to become a full-time blogger for the past 13.5 years. She's the former relationship columnist for In The Moment Magazine and has spoken worldwide at numerous conferences. Her current work centers around people-pleasing, boundaries, mindfulness, and creativity. 

Kerry Brett and Natalie Lue cover a lot of ground. In my opinion, Natalie is a brilliant writer who channeled this epic book and had the unique and perfect skill set to put it all together. If you struggle to date or think something is wrong with you, unworthy or not good enough, this episode will be a game-changer. Topics include:

Why Natalie has a knack for calling a spade a spade, tune into why she's always 100 percent right when it comes to problems within relationships.
You're not crazy or losing your mind, why it's crazy-making dealing with a "Mr. Unavailable".
Why Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl is the the gift that keeps on giving.
Why Natalie's books speak to the collective pain women, go through.
Why women are socialized and conditioned to get the short end of the stick when it comes to toxic relationships.
Why this is not the "Last Chance Saloon" and why we should never settle!
What a relationship looks like with a "Mr. Unavailable", spoiler alert it's not pretty and never ends well. EVER!
Why "Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl" was survival for me because society doesn't talk about these things or these types of men who cause all this distribution, havoc, and pain.
The definition of "Future Faking" – when someone fakes a future to get what they want in the present.
What "Fast Forwarding" is and why things start intense and moments later end up in smokes.
Why "Mr. Unavailable's" use "blowing hot or cold" to manage down expectations and control the narrative.

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Today’s guest is Lori Mendelsohn; she’s a matchmaker, dating coach, and owner of Smart, Funny Singe, a service that helps divorced, widowed, and singles in their pursuit of finding love. What’s unique about this Milwaukee matchmaker is that Lori uses her intuition to vet possible prospects and is an expert at writing the perfect Bio that helps you get noticed and stand out above the rest. She carefully curates and crafts together words that read so perfectly that the other person can imagine themselves in a relationship with you and believes he’s the person you’re writing about. In this week’s episode, Lori discusses the importance of first impressions and why you should pay attention to body language. She also explains how she creates an exclusive story where the man of your dreams can imagine sharing their life with you.

In 2016, Lori Mendelsohn’s life changed when her husband broke the kitchen sink with his bare hands. Never in her life did she imagine that she would find herself navigating out of an unhealthy relationship or her marriage ending at the age of 61. This day became a turning point in her life, and from that moment on, she decided to walk the path of healing not only her broken heart while helping others who were going through a similar situation.  Lori also realized she could use her intuitive and empathic to help others. Going through a divorce, then entering the dating arena, she understood that being “out of the market” for 13 years, things had changed and changed in a big way. Now Lori coaches others in their mid-life to find themselves first, and in turn, find a partner of substance based on today’s needs and wants. She can help you write a dating profile that stops suitors in their tracks and on the road to finding love. 

Kerry Brett and Lori Mendelsohn cover a lot of ground. Topics include:

How she learned to date in her 60’’s, and how she learned to avoid scammers, and players. Why pain and experience are the most excellent teacher.
You should write your Bio as if you are writing a story while explaining this is who I am, this is what I love doing, and I’d love to see you being a part of that because men want to be included.
Why you should add humor into the Bio.
The do’s and don’ts of what to put in a Bio.
Why the leading photograph is so important and why it needs to be a killer shot.
Why you should lead with something that is unique or special about you when writing your Bio.
Why Lori encourages you to open your radius to a nationwide search. If you are interested in relocating for a job, then finding love shouldn’t be any different.
Why you should have a phone conversation or virtual chat before going on a date because it could save you a lot of time and the emotional investment.
Why you shouldn’t be focused on the outcome when dating and go into it without any expectations.
People often hide who they are and put on this fake persona. The secret to dating is being authentic and showing up as your authentic self, not your representative.
Why you need to drop the end game and don’t be attached to outcomes. Not every relationship is supposed to work. If it doesn’t work out, it’s not supposed to. Brush it off and say to yourself. NEXT!

To find out more about Lori Mendelsohn, go to her website www.SmartFunnySingle.com, on Instagram @smartfunnysingle or follow and ring Lori’s bell on Clubhouse, she’s located under her name Lori Mendelsohn. Follow her clubs, The Single Connection and Single Over 50.

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Today's guest is Carla Romo, and she's the author of the book Contagious Love, Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good, A book for women going through heartbreak. Carla is a firm believer in, failing to succeed, and in this episode, Carla shares how she held herself back from living her best life and was afraid of healthy relationships. How over and over she picked the wrong guys, then things would become toxic, yet she missed the lesson. Until one day, it all changed, and she realized she was exactly where she was supposed to be. We'll discuss why self-love is the foundation of successful relationships and how to ditch codependency, feeling bad about yourself while believing and investing in yourself. 

Carla Romo is an author and certified dating & relationship coach. She's the co-host of the podcast The Love Fix with Sherry Gaba. Carla is a nationwide speaker and leads workshops that inspire self-love regardless of your relationship status. Carla has been featured on BRAVO, also in Cosmopolitan, Lifetime, and the Knot. Melissa Hobley, the Global CMO at Ok Cupid, sings her praise and said her book Contagious Love, is relatable, inspiring, and the perfect guide to self-love and self-worth. 

Kerry Brett and Carlo Romo cover a lot of ground. Topics include:

What's the definition of a codependent relationship?
How do you know if you are codependent? What are the signs?
How to build successful intimate relationships?
How to communicate like a boss?
How to spot the red flags in relationships?
How to create relationship boundaries?
How to cultivate contagious self-love?
Carla’s advice for women who are afraid to leave a relationship that’s not working for them.
How to recognize your self-worth.
How to stop using the past to predict your future.
How to quit second-guessing your gut, your gut is your inner knowing in guide.
Carla’s golden rule for cultivating self-love.
Why boundaries will keep you afloat when you're not getting what you want in a relationship?
How to find the courage to be a confident warrior.
Carla’s advice for avoiding making mistakes online.

To find out more about Carla Romo, you can follow on Instagram @iamcarlaromo, or go to her website at www.iamcarlaromo.com. You can purchase her book Contagious Love on her website or on Amazon.

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Today's guest is Erin Washington, she's Lifestyle blogger, podcaster, and the author of the book Squats and Margaritas, a journey to finding balance - where she shares her story of how she overcame an eating disorder, and after struggling for two decades, two kids later, play dates, and happy hours she finally has the best body of her life. Erin's mission is to offer tips and support for women who feel alone in their struggle, working out, and not seeing results. 90 percent of women aren't happy with the way they look, and having negative feelings about your weight is one of the main reasons people hold themselves back from dating. Erin, shares her advice around getting in shape and feeling good about yourself so you can take the dating world by storm with confidence. 

Erin Washington is a wellness blogger from Northern Virginia. She's a former college athlete who struggled with weight and body image for 20 years. Erin promotes a balanced lifestyle of "Squats and Margaritas" and offers tips and motivation to women who are doing the work and are frustrated by the results.

She was a high school stand-out and went on to play at the collegiate level. After graduating from college, she moved to Washington, DC to work for the Washington Redskins where she met her husband, a former linebacker. In addition to raising a family and staying fit, Erin has contributed to Scary Mommy, Chowhound, and Northern Virginia Style and Living. 

Kerry Brett and Erin Washington cover a lot of ground. Topics they discuss include:

Body image, and worthiness.
How the loss of identity lead to an eating disorder.
How working out compulsively seven days a week didn't work.
Lifting weights, not cardio, is the secret to maintaining the weight you desire.
Why you should get off the cardio machines and lift. 
Weight and dating. 
Why not feeling good about your weight is one of the biggest blocks in online dating.
Advice for the person who thinks they need to lose weight to find love.
Why you don't need to be in the best shape of your life to date.
Advice for someone who's lost confidence in themselves.
Why getting in shape can make you feel better about yourself and motivated to join online dating. 
Erin's tips around fitness.
Erin's advice around finding balance.
If you feel good about yourself, it will shine through. If you don't feel that great about yourself, fake it and know what's inside matters the most. 
When you are dating, pick an outfit that you feel good in flattering and feels most like you. 
Weight affects how we feel about ourselves and if someone thinks we are attractive and wants to date us. 
Don't talk about your weight on a date. It may be a big deal to you but not at all to your date. It's not about fitting into your skinny jeans. It's about finding a person who's a good fit. 

To find out more about Erin Washington, you can go to www.squatsandmargaritas.com, follow on Instagram @squatsandmargaritas, order her book Squats and Margaritas on Amazon or listen to her podcast Squats and Margaritas on all platforms podcasts are found.

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Today's guest is astrologer and psychic healer Jill Jardine, and she'll discuss why love is in the air because Cuffing Season is about to take full effect. Say goodbye to casual summer flings because people are looking to get locked down. From September to March, singles hunt for a romantic partner, looking for someone to weather the colder months. The fall season is an incredible time to take things to the next level. Cuffing Season is a time when singles are more inclined to settle down intoa serious relationship. Just because the temperature turns doesn’t mean things can't heat up. Jill lets us know what in our love forecast for the Fall of 2021. 

Jill Jardine is an astrologer, therapist, psychic healer, and spiritual advisor. She's also a former radio personality on95.9 WATD and the host of the podcast Cosmic Scene with Jill Jardine. She's a Reverend in Sanskrit Mantra, and chanting mantras shifts outcomes and proves to be an invaluable tool. For over 30 years, Jill’s helped thousands of people find power and confidence within themselves wile guiding them with important decisions. It’s no secret that people turn to Astrology in the age of uncertainty and often people look to the stars, as cosmic compass when dating. In today's episode, Jill will bring us up to speed so we can get a clear picture of what will be happening astrologically this fall.

Labor Day is behind us, and it’s that time of year Cuffing Season: for those of you who don’t know what Cuffing Season means? Cuffing Season is a term used to describe the desire to be tied or cuffed during the colder months. 

Cuffing Season is psychological, biological, and scientific. It goes back to the cavemen days and Darwin's theory of survival of the fittest. Data shows that more babies are born in the summer months, meaning those babies were conceived during the colder months. When the darker days settle in, people are more inclined to binge-watch Netflix and stay home, which means the time to get out there is fall for sure. 

Match’s CEO recently stated on CNBC that this fall would be the biggest "cuffing season" in history due toCOVIDlockdowns and vaccines. Match expects online dating to explode, so now is the time to refresh, rebrand yourselfonline and get back out there.

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A kiss caught on camera, a relationship shattered in seconds. When the infamous "Kiss Cam Cheater" went viral, millions witnessed the raw, unfiltered moment betrayal trauma unfolds—leaving many of us wondering what happens when our deepest fears play out in public.

Who better to guide us through this emotional wreckage than someone who's survived her own high-profile betrayal? Dr. Nadine Macaluso, psychotherapist and former wife of the real-life Wolf of Wall Street, joins us to unpack why this moment resonated so deeply with so many people. "Betrayal trauma cracks your soul," she explains. "It's one of the most painful relational experiences we can have on this planet."

Through our conversation, Dr. Macaluso reveals the psychology behind betrayal—the emotional dysregulation, cognitive dissonance, and profound loss of trust that follows. We explore how people compartmentalize during affairs, why certain personalities feel entitled to risk everything for a thrill, and the power dynamics that often fuel infidelity. Most importantly, she shares a roadmap for healing whether your heartbreak happens privately or with the world watching.

"Trust your gut and get curious," Dr. Macaluso advises. While approximately 70% of relationships don't survive infidelity, about 30% do—especially when the betraying partner can truly acknowledge the pain they've caused without defensiveness. Drawing from both professional expertise and personal experience, she offers hope to anyone feeling shattered: "Healing is a process and it's not linear. It's one step forward, two steps back, and you're worth it."

Ready to understand betrayal trauma and begin your healing journey? This episode provides both compassionate insight and practical tools for rebuilding trust—in others and in yourself. Subscribe now and join our community committed to finding authentic connection in a complicated world.

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Today’s guest is Sherry Gaba, and she’s the author of the book “Love Smacked How to Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency to Find Everlasting Love.” Sherry is also a Psychotherapist, Counselor and Life Coach. She was the go-to expert on a series of VH1 show’s such as VH1 Celebrity Rehab, Sober House as well as Celebrity Rehab and Sex Addiction. Sherry shares her experience around relationship addicts and why people who are hopelessly romantic and love being in a relationship continually move from one relationship to another always on the rebound never giving themselves time to heal or learn how to be independent. You’ll learnhow to steer clear of bad relationship choices,how to break unhealthy relationships patterns while living fabulously on your own or with a partner. 

Sherry Gaba helps people cope with codependency, love addiction, toxic relationships, and mental health issues. As a leading expert on addiction and recovery, Sherry’s TV appearances include:  CNN, Inside Edition, the Robert Irvine Show, Access Live, E! News, among others. She has been featured in Cosmopolitan, Women’s World, the LA Times, the New York Post, and Psychology Today to name a few. She has also been a guest on many SiriusXM radio shows and now hosts her own podcast, The Love Fix. Sherry is also the contributing writer to the book Chicken Soup for the Soul: Tough Times Tough People.

Kerry Brett and Sherry Gaba cover a lot of ground, topics include:
Why it’s important to dismantle and unpack the shame around failed relationships.
What empty void in your life causes you to jump from one relationship to another and how to fix those unhealthy patterns.
Why do co-dependent love addicts match up with narcissists?
Why it’s so important to be discerning.
Why the universe always brings you what you need to know.
Why having self-esteem is so important and helps you navigate out of unhealthy relationships faster. When you have self-esteem, you don’t put up with unhealthy situations.
Why do love addicts feel so alone and nothingness. If you’re alone and lonely how to address those feelings. You have you; get connected to you first.
The power in being present, people spend most of their time complaining or worrying which doesn't serve you.

To find out more about Sherry Gaba you can follow her on Instagram @codependantlycurious, or listen to her podcast The Love Fix where all podcasts are found. Free Ebook Narcissistic Partners and Love Addiction  https://relationship-quizzes.com/narcissistic-partners-quiz/

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Sherry Gaba, LCSW and Transformation Coach

Author of Love Smacked:How to Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency to find Everlasting Love

And Wake Up Recovery for Toxic Relationships, Codependency and Love Addiction

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Today's guest is Kevin McLemore, and he's a podcast host, fitness trainer, and the author of the new book Dating with a Full Deck. In this week's episode, Kevin shares his relationship experience, lessons he's learned through marriage, divorce, and dating, and why you need to be honest with yourself before bringing others into your life. Kevin will discuss why we need to take responsibility for our actions because we have choices and chances in life. It's what you make of those opportunities that matter. We talk about how dreams become realities when you align perfectly behind them, how to become the hero of your journey to love and why you need to come into dating with a full deck. 

Kevin McLemore is a strength and endurance is coach, track and field coach, marketing specialist, trainer to Ironman athletes, and three Squash World Champions. He's also a television spokesperson. Through the power of story, Kevin is an inspirational speaker encouraging others to reach personal growth. He wants to help continue to improve other people's lives, like his mentor, the famed motivational speaker Les Brown. He's a social activist, Founder of RMK Productions 10 United Podcast Network, co-hosting podcasts such as Talking "Wit" Kevin and Son, Story Time and Wine, and One Queen Two Kings. He's previously published three books, Letters to Elvis, Sprinkles the True Spirit of Christmas and The Indispensable Game of X's and O's, How I learned Everything I'd Ever Need To Know About by Playing High School Football.

Today Shot@Love dive's into Dating with a Full Deck, a book that provides a tangible set of tools, that if applied to your interactions, will lead to the kind of conversations that will allow you to figure out if someone is compatible or not. This book also comes with a deck of cards that act as a conversation started that will leave you laughing and learning an awful lot about the other person setting you up for success when dating. 

Kerry Brett and Kevin McLemore cover a lot of ground topics include:

We have choices and chances in life, and it's what we do with those opportunities matters.
When dating, approach conversations authentically and genuinely.
Why do most people screw up on the first date?
Don't complicate your life by trying to be someone that you're not.
Why it's so important just to be yourself when dating.
Don't go looking for a person that will become your loan officer, bodyguard, babysitter, trophy, chef, or maid. If that's your aim, you'll only be left feeling empty in the end.
Develop what's inside, develop your character, and everything will fall into place.
Life gives you two choices, stay down or get up.
Be honest with yourself before you bring someone else into your life. The truth will set you free.
Do not wish for what you're not willing to work for.

To find out more about Kevin McLemore, go to www.rmkproductions.net. Follow Kevin McLemore on Clubhouse, Instagram @pkmclemore. Listen to his podcasts Talking Wit Kevin and Son, Story and Wine, and One Queen Two Kings.

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Today's guest is Bri Ellison, and she's the author of the book The Love Addict. Love addiction and heartbreak profoundly changed Bri's life when the future she envisioned for herself got destroyed when the love of her life blindsided her and abruptly left. Bri's idea of love continued to get derailed after many failed relationships. The thought of finding love consumed every moment, which eventually caused a pattern of addiction. Bri felt compelled to share her truth by writing about love addiction and how to overcome it. In this episode, Bri shares her story about finding love, kicking behaviors of heartbreak, ending the cycle of failed relationships, and how to find the love that's intended for you. 

Bri Ellison's book The Love Addict is an introspective handbook designed to help women identify and find the love they desire and deserve. If you're someone who creates or ends complicated relationships that have left you feeling like a different person, This book is for you! Bri's story reveals how she became tired of her life, knowing that had to change. She could continue attracting everything that wasn't good for her, or she could scratch everything she knew about herself and love. Bri pressed the reset button on her ideologies around love. Bri shares how she kicked her love addiction and lost her destructive behaviors around love and relationships while gaining transformational tools that dramatically changed her life, leading her to find love and helping women all over the world.

Kerry Brett and Bri Ellison cover a lot of ground topics include:
What can be learned about love from hitting rock bottom?
What exactly is a love addict? 
How does someone become a love addict, and how to unlearn these patterns?
Losing your sense of identity within a relationship.
What does counterfeit love look like?
Why do love addicts go on a journey to find true love, believing it's the only thing to cure her despair. 
Advice for people who are pulling in the wrong person.
Solutions for heal your patterns around relationships.
Common mistakes women make pulling in unavailable men.
Why should you get comfortable with the uncomfortable or the unfamiliar when dating?
Why, once you stopped chasing love that you can find it.

The Love Addict can be purchased on Amazon, and to find out more information about Bri Ellison, you can follow on Instagram @the_love_labb or follow on Clubhouse at Bri Ellison.

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Today's guest is Dolores Gatnik. Dolores is truly an inspiration who has the right idea about dating and living life to the fullest! Dolores had a career for 23 years, but her legacy is her family. She's the mother of 4 children and the grandmother of 4. Dolores met Ron Gatnik when she was 19 years old, and they wed two years later. They remained happily married for 55 years until he passed away. While grieving the loss of her husband, she's adjusted to living alone during a pandemic and is currently battling cancer. Dolores's motto is life is short, and you must live every moment. She's dating on Match.Com but isn't looking to replace the love of her life, simply looking to find a fun companion, and is open to the next chapter of happiness. Her attitude is everything and proof that life comes full circle. I went to my high school prom with her son 30 years ago and recently photographed her headshot for her online dating profile. When we come back, we'll laugh our way through her hilarious and hopeful journey of finding love. 

Kerry Brett and Dolores Gatnik cover a lot of ground. Topics include: 
Why does being a perennial optimist works in your favor?
Dating with the right attitude is the key to success.
The importance of reframing rejection.
Don't be afraid to let your personality shine.
If you have a big personality, people can handle it or not, and if they can't, they aren't your person.
One and done dates.
Why you should suggest fun and out of the box dates.
Why you should always be fun and fabulous!
Why is age just a number?
Dolores Gatnik’s advice is for someone who feels they missed the boat or are too old to find love?
Why you need to have a strong bio.
The importance of hiring a professional for your leading photograph.
The two things you are in total control of in. your life, your attitude, and your effort.
Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter.
Why no one ever made a difference by being like everyone else.
You'll never be too much for someone who can't get enough of you.

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This week's guest is C.J. Grace, she's the author of Adulterer's Wife, How to Thrive Whether You Stay or Not. C.J. dealt with the double whammy of discovering her husband's Infidelity shortly after being diagnosed with breast cancer. She refused to be a victim and kept her wicked sense of humor. In this episode, we discuss why Infidelity happens, overcoming emotional roller coasters, regaining self-worth, and how to take our power back so we can be happy, with or without a partner. C.J. shares her laugh-out-loud yet profoundly inspiring story while reminding us that life is short and why we should go for what we want now! 

C.J. Grace was a BBC Journalist in the U.K. and China Radio International in Beijing. She's a speaker, voice-over artist, and Infidelity author and authority currently completing Hotel Chemo: My Wild Ride through Breast Cancer and Infidelity. When Arianna Huffington received a copy, she invited her to be a HuffPost contributor. C.J.'s been featured on BBC Radio, HuffPost, Divorce Source Radio, and the Daily Telegraph. She's also the Founder of the Clubhouse Club, Overcoming Infidelity, as well as being a cancer warrior. Now divorced and currently living in Hawaii, C.J. insists that the obstacles she's faced have enabled her to make her midlife better than her younger days. Her mantra is the best revenge is to get past the need for it. 

C.J. Grace and Kerry Brett cover a lot of ground. This episode is an excellent resource for starting over and navigating challenging times such as losing a relationship, health issues, or simply reinventing. Topics include:

How to move past cheating and letting go of anger or vengefulness.
How C.J. survived by creating and using her 6-part system.
Why you shouldn't make important decisions based on emotions.
How to use anger and pain to create the best life possible.
Why Infidelity is considerably more common for men than women.
The old boys club around the subject of adultery.
How to thrive whether you decide to stay or not.
How common Infidelity is, in fact, Infidelity is more common than alcoholism. 
Why people kept secrets and don't talk about this important, heartbreaking subject.
How women get destroyed by being cheated on and how we can help ourselves. 
C.J. offers great advice around getting out of the box of negative emotions.
How cheating creates low self-worth while kicking up shame and fear, and how to overcome these emotions.
How to pull yourself out of a victim mindset when you are deceived by a cheating partner.
Why someone who's left you or cheated on you isn't the end all be all, and why you should quickly take your power back and move forward.
How obstacles and adversity triggers personal transformation.
What you can learn about yourself in your darkest hour.
Trust it if you get a gut feeling that something isn't right about someone or a situation.
Cheating is a choice, not a mistake.
If another woman steals your man, there's no better revenge than letting her keep him. Real men can't be stolen.
C.J.'s mantra, "the best revenge is to get past the need for it".

To find out more about C.J. Grace, follow her website for more information www.adultererswife.com, or follow her on Instagram @cjgraceauthor. Purchase her book Adulterer's Wife, How to Thrive Whether You Stay or Not on Amazon.

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Today's guest is Bobby Shanks, and he's the author of the new upcoming book "Undatable." Do you think dating is the worst? If that's how you feel, Bobby believes you could be perpetuating your undatable tendencies, these same tendencies that afflict millions of adult singles all over the world. To help navigate this problem, Bobby wrote a humorous how-to book to address your blocks, fix them, and find what you want, need, and deserve. In this episode, we discuss the many dating dilemmas facing singles today, such as ghosting, one-night stands, lonely nights, frustrations around dating, and the steps we can take to succeed.

Bobby Shanks is an expert in residential and new construction properties and the owner of Shanks Realty Group with over 15 years of experience working in the Jefferson County & St. Louis area. He's also a podcaster and author of the new book "updateable." In his words, he's a regular, everyday guy who's single and ready to mingle but just hasn't had that "aha" moment where he felt like he wanted to spend more time with the vast majority of people he's gone out with. If you don't want to settle or go on countless dead-end dates to weed through all of the applicants to find gold, this book is for you! Bobby also shares hilarious and embarrassing personal experiences in this new must-read, including specific things to consider that will take you from updateable to an amazing dateable person! 

Bobby grew up in a tiny midwestern town with a high school graduating class of 20 people. He came from a great family, was always a hard worker and provider. He got married in his mid 20's and found himself married twice with three kids by the age of 45. He was hopeful and excited when he began dating but found he was naive about the challenges online dating brings. 

Kerry Brett and Bobby Shanks cover a lot of ground, topics include:
How to use sales and business skills and applied them to dating.
We both knew a lot about the opposite sex and were quick studies around online dating.
How Bobby went on 50 dates during Covid-19, and what he learned about dating during the pandemic.
The essence of contract law and how that compares to online dating?
Bobby's three pillars and his second list of bonus things.
The difference between willingness and worthiness. 
Why most singles have a negative experience around online dating rather than a positive.
To be dateable, you need to address your past relationship trauma and resentments of things not working out and find peace with your past.
Why dating isn't a waste of time, it's an investment in yourself and others.
Bobby's advice for people who feel like they are a failure, terrible at dating, or either unworthy or updateable.
The importance of being truly available, and if you think you are too busy to date, you're just not managing your time correctly.
What you focus on expands. If your focus is to date and find love online, you'll have it. It's that simple.How to go from updateable to an amazing dateable person!

To find out more about Bobby Shanks, follow him on Facebook under updateable The Book. He's also on Facebook under Bobby Shanks. On Instagram @askforbobbystl. You can also find him on YouTube or listen to his podcast updateable (The Book) everywhere you find podcasts. "Undatable, Why Singles Struggle with Dating and What to Do About It" will be released in August 2021 on Amazon.

Shot@Love has recently been nominated for the 16th Annual People's Choice Podcast Award and voting closes on July 31st. I would love your vote for Best Female Host. Thank you in advance if you vote or have voted!

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This week's guest is Jeff Lubin; he's a nationally known Master Photographer, keynote speaker, a leader in the business and photography world, and an expert in sales. He's also owned one of the most successful studios in the country for over 38 years. Jeff is my mentor and the reason I had my online dating breakthrough. He's also given me some of the best advice in my life. In this episode, we discuss the ways relationships are just like running a business. There are many similarities, like the importance of your brand, your value, networking, connections, down to supply and demand. We also discuss unwritten rules, navigating the highs and lows, and why we should remain confident in our abilities. 

 Jeff Lubin began with humble beginnings in a small studio with a window and a neon sign to becoming the leading portrait photographer in the Washington, D.C. area for nearly four decades. Some of his clients include Lynda Carter, Cal Ripken, Robert & Sheila Johnson, and Larry King. In 2017, The Lubin Studio was commissioned to create seven paintings to adorn the United States Court of Appeals for The Armed Forces work, which will display throughout history. 
 
Jeff's style has won him many national and state awards. He earned the coveted Master of Photography Degree from Professional Photographers of American in 1992, after only three years of competition. The following year, he received his Craftsman Degree. Jeff's work has been featured in several issues of Rangefinder Magazine and The Professional Photographer. He has also published over 100 articles in photography. He's been a renowned keynote speaker at national and state conventions all over the globe. Jeff's style is one of the most emulated in the photography industry over the last quarter-century.

Kerry Brett and Jeff Lubin cover a lot of ground, from photography, building a brand and successful business, to starting over with online dating. Topics include:
How to create a household name brand.
How to be relentless in your pursuit to the top.
How to stand out in a crowd and be memorable.
Why if you be your true authentic self, you will be more likable and relatable.
Often people don't give themselves a chance or realize what makes them different or special is the very thing that will make them stand out in business or on these dating apps. 
Why true growth comes from the experiences you have and things not working out.
Why having a never quit mentality is the reason behind an entrepreneur's success.
Why limiting beliefs keep us stuck in our current situation, either staying in a job that makes you unhappy or in the area of our love lives. 
You are what you think and how thoughts expand.
If you can change your thinking you can change your reality.
What you resist persists, and if you are doing the same patterns repeatedly and things are working, that is the definition of insanity.

To find out more about Jeff Lubin go to www.jefflubin.com. or join 10,000 photographers ib his Facebook group Jeff Lubin's Portrait and Business  Tip of the Day and on Instagram @j_lubin. Follow Jeff Lubin  and ring his bell on clubhouse.

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Today's guest is Clémentine Lalande, and she's the founder and CEO of the dating app Once. Back in 2015, along with a friend, Clémentine created the "slow dating" app, which delivers one match a day to each user. The app is the leading dating App in Europe, which has over 10 million users. Once launched, a matching algorithm based on a user's "emotional profile" created by a team of psychologists and dating experts. Once's vision is to create a post-swipe world. Clémentine discusses how she's changing the online dating culture, why we should give The Love Experiment a shot, and why this quality-over-quantity approach is the solution to the oversaturated dating scene.

Clémentine Lalande has this vision of a new way of dating firmly in her mind. Once leverages AI algorithms to provide just one match per day to each user. Each pair has 24 hours of each other's attention and can continue chatting if they "like" each other. And this method seems to be more than popular. In early 2021, the Dating Group acquired the company, overall valuing the company at 18 million.

Clémentine has over a decade of experience in technology and business development. She's also founded the dating app Pickable, a feminist dating app, which reverses gender power imbalances by requiring only men to create a profile. A few months after its launch, it had two million users. Pickable was awarded by Apple then sold to Once, while she continues to serve as CEO while heading the united company.

Kerry Brett and Clémentine Lalande cover a lot of ground and topics include:
The recent launch of the Love Connection and why this is beneficial to daters. 
The Love Connection is the first dating app algorithm created by an all-female team whose goal is to swap endless, image-centric swiping for meaningful connections by offering users just a single, carefully selected match each day. 
The Love Experiment enlisted the help of French psychoanalyst Fabienne Kramer and British psychologist Dannielle Haig. Together, they created a set of 28 questions inspired by transactional analysis, analytical psychology, and behavioral analysis to identify a person's emotional profile.
Clémentine plans to change the swiping culture, and she feels swiping on a variety of apps is like searching for a number in the phone book. That it simply makes singles unhappy.
Once matches people based on personality. Once, is the only dating site that matches couples based on the Myers-Briggs personality test. 
Clémentine shares advice for women around staying hopeful and optimistic  when dating online.
Why you should be specific in your bio and be specific for what you're looking for.
Remember to keep in mind the profile is not the person.
Don't spend more than three days speaking with someone online. Cross that bridge from digital to real-life ASAP – the sooner you do this, the better off you'll be.

To find out more about Once visit getonce.com. For more information about Clémentine LaLande you can find her on Twitter @clemeentine or on LinkedIn.

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This week's guest is Jeff McMahon. He has the most incredible career in the music industry. He was the keyboardist and vocalist for Tim McGraw's band The Dancehall Doctors for 18 years. Jeff wasn't with Tim from the beginning but early enough before Indian Outlaw came out, so let's say once he hired Jeff, Tim's career took off. Jeff even played "Live Like You're Dying" at the Country Music Awards. A song so special it took on a life of its own, shooting up the charts in record time, breaking a thirty-year record for consecutive weeks at number one on the Billboard Charts. Jeff also wrote the last chapter for Baseball legend Tug McGraw's autobiography "Ya Gotta Believe." He also ran marathons  for the Tug McGraw Foundation while supporting research for brain tumor patients. 

Jeff McMahon went to Nashville all by himself; his Dad used to drive two hours to buy records and wouldn't allow him to buy his first keyboard unless they could afford a case. He's a self-taught piano man who became the 2001 Nominee for "Musician of the Year/Keyboardist" by the Academy of Country Music. He's played with Tim McGraw and the Dancehall Doctors for nearly two decades  and played on countless number one singles. He's edited books, and aside from running 6 marathons himself, coached other runners to raise money for charities while working and producing new artists like Ashlyn Grayce, Jim Brown, Nicole Lewis, and Maddye Trew, and Zach Stone.

In this episode, Jeff discusses moving forward, hit records, and holding onto your heart. He also shares lessons from the road and tips around making stronger connections with others. It where cameras, keyboards, and Clubhouse meet. With a powerful performance at the end! 

Kerry Brett and Jeff McMahon cover a lot of ground. Topics include:
Why being authentic allows you to connect with others in a meaningful way.
Slow down and pay attention to others. Paying attention and listening will go a long way when building new relationships online.
You will connect with people for different reasons, so just be yourself, and don't be afraid to say what's on your mind.
Set boundaries with your schedule, don't try to be too available. Men like women who aren't easily assessable.
If you're honest with who you are, you will stand out. Most people are pretending to have a perfect life that doesn't exist.
Listen to what others  say on Clubhouse, which is a great place to hear responses in real-time. If you spend time in rooms on Clubhouse, this will help you improve your communication skills. 
Why being honest and authentic builds trust. Men fall in love with the real you anyway. Don't be afraid to put yourself out there in a big way.
People are so rushed and distracted, so pay attention. Slow it down; it's ok to wait to respond until you find the right words.
Being quiet and being intentional are powerful tools when communicating with others.
If you're always kind, it will go a long way. The struggle is real, so kill them with kindness.
Date a lot. Practice makes perfect. The more you date, the better you'll become.
Lead with your heart, and don't forget to be authentic. Say what you want to say, not what you think you should say. That's how you'll make a significant impact when online dating.

To find out more about Jeff McMahon, you can find him on Instagram @mcmahonsays. You can also find him on Twitter, Facebook and Clubhouse under the same.

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This week’s guest is Kelly Gunther, she’s a motivational speaker, an Olympian, and American Speed Skater. But what’s truly amazing about her is that she’s the ultimate Comeback Kid. Her story is one of inspiration. At the 2010 Olympic trials, she endured a double compound fracture that nearly severed her foot from her leg. A fracture so bad for most a dream of the Olympics would have been over. But, instead, Kelly with tears in her eyes got back on the ice. 

At the 2014 Olympic trials, Kelly skated a personal best on the same track as her accident. This girl is in her own lane of greatness, and she always has been. She realized early on that she had herself, and it was up to her to make it happen. Kelly is also single, and in this episodes, she shares what it takes to have a winning mindset and how having that winning attitude will help you succeed online.

Kelly Gunther is an American Speed Skater who participated in the 2014 Winter Olympics. She began roller skating at age six and briefly tried figure skating, but she was too fast for the music, so she took up speed skating. As an inline speed skater, she won multiple World Championship gold medals on the United States relay team. At the 2010 Olympic trials, Kelly made the United States speed skating team but was bumped from the team after another skater was granted a re-skate. In March 2010, she fell during a race and suffered a tragic injury. After intensive rehab, Kelly returned to skating and set two personal best times in November 2011. She made the 2011–2012 World Cup team and placed third in the 1000 meters national championships. At the 2014 U.S. Olympic trials, she skated a personal best time to place fourth and make the Olympic team.

In her words, she wasn’t first. She wasn’t last; she was always the girl right there. She is the ultimate comeback kid, and sometimes it’s as easy as – just continuing to show up. Kerry Brett and Kelly Gunther cover a lot of ground around dating and being single. Topics include

Why you need to believe that you can find love in online dating.
Why you have to have the determination to find love online.
Why the power of intention is so important?
Keep showing up and be consistent.
It’s all about connecting and dating apps are a tool to connect.
Don’t over think it and like Nike says just do it!
If you can’t find the strength to push yourself have a friend push, you.
How having persistence and patience will help you.
If you get knock down, use that anger and energy to continue to work hard.
The comeback is always stronger than the set back.
What you ask for you will get.
Have confidence and when you walk into the date walk in life.
If you fallen down 7 times you can get back 8.
How to overcome limiting beliefs.
Be in a lane of your own, and don't skate away from who you truly are.

You can find out more about Kelly on Instagram @kellygunther. Follower Kelly Gunther on Clubhouse as well at the Shot@Love club. See this Saturday at 11 AM.

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Tune into the first interview Kerry Brett gives on Cosmic Scene with Jill Jardine to discuss the launch of her new book Shot At Love, A Celebrity Photographer's Lens on Dating and Finding Love. The latest best-selling release is a raw, hilarious, and deeply insightful story of the host of Shot At Love; Kerry Brett's journey from heartbreak to happiness will have you laughing, nodding in recognition, and rethinking your approach to finding love.

When Kerry Brett found herself at what she calls "the basement of rock bottom" after a painful breakup, she turned to an unexpected source of hope: Tinder. But unlike many who approach dating apps with dread, this award-winning Boston photographer embraced the platform as a creative opportunity. With the same keen eye she used to capture celebrities like David Ortiz and Amy Poehler, Kerry developed a method for identifying potential matches, creating authentic connections, and ultimately finding love.

Kerry's story is compelling because of her unique blend of self-deprecating humor, spirituality, and practical wisdom. Each chapter of her newly released book "Shot At Love" begins with a Sanskrit mantra, connecting ancient wisdom to modern dating challenges. From the "German Leo" to the "Irish Leprechaun" and finally to her successful Tinder match, Kerry's dating adventures read like a Boston version of Sex and the City – minus the sex, as she quips, because "she's Irish Catholic, 51, and her parents listen to her show."

The most powerful takeaway from our conversation is Kerry's insight that the stories we tell ourselves often become our biggest obstacles. Whether it's believing you're "damaged goods" because of past relationships or thinking no one wants to date a single parent, these internal narratives limit possibilities. As Kerry emphasizes, "Beauty is an inside job" – how you feel about yourself ultimately determines how others perceive and treat you.

Kerry's journey offers hope and a roadmap for anyone navigating the complex world of modern dating. Her transformation from celebrated photographer to award-winning podcast host and author demonstrates how following your authentic path can lead to unexpected opportunities and, yes, even love.

Take your best shot at love by checking out Kerry's new book "Shot At Love" on Amazon or at shotatloveook.com, and tune into her podcast for daily doses of dating wisdom and inspiration. Or join the single movement at www.shotatlovebook.com

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Charly Lester first entered the dating industry when her blog “30 Dates” went viral. She was hired by The Guardian and Time Out Magazine, where she was the  Global Head of Dating. Then Charly launched The Dating Awards, and the European Dating Awards, which she ran in the US and UK until 2018 when she co-founded Lumen, a dating app for people in their 50s. Lumen received a 3.5m investment from Andrey Andreev – the dating titan behind dating apps like Badoo, and Bumble. Then Lumen, Bumble, and Chappy were bought for $3 billion by the Blackstone Group at the end of 2019. Charly is a nationally recognized dating industry expert, and her journey and dating stories are epic!

Charly has worked with several companies within the dating space.  She was Agony Aunt for eHarmony, and her dating advice appears on national television, radio, and magazines. She also was a guest judge on The Apprentice. 

Charly is a sought-after advisor for start-ups. She teaches business classes at the Guardian and is the author of two books – The Female Entrepreneur and Modern Marketing for Start-Ups.  Charly advocates for female entrepreneurship and is the Co-Founder of ‘A League of Her Own’ – an online training platform for entrepreneurs. Charly was named one of the 5 ‘Women of The Future” in entrepreneurship. She was profiled by Forbes the same year. In 2020 Charly was listed in the Women in Tech 100. After just four months with Lumen, she led the business to number 24 in the Start-Ups 100 List, and she was recently awarded a Stevie Award for entrepreneurship.

Kerry Brett and Charly Lester cover a lot of ground around online dating. Topics include:
How a Facebook post lead to Charly creating a blog “30 Dates” and how that catapulted her to start a dating app.
What Charly’s experience as the dating editor for The Guardian and Global Head of Dating for the Magazine Time Out taught her about dating.
What Charly learned about online dating when she created the Dating Awards in the UK and US as well as the European Dating Awards.
The struggles people have in the age 50 group with online dating.
Why people in their 50's are the fastest group onboarding on dating apps.
The biggest changes and shifts in the dating world during the pandemic.
Charly is also a dating expert for RealMe, so she shares the state and security of online dating.
Why people would feel more safe and secure if they used a company like RealMe and did background check before the date.
Charly shares her best dating tips.
Charly also discusses the top mistakes women make when online dating.

 To find out more about Charly Lester go to https://charlylester.com, follow on Twitter or on Instagram @charly.lester

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Today's guest is Dr. Duana Welch, and she's the best-selling author of the book Love Factually. Her mission is to help other's find the love they want by using science as a guide. Duana has written a series of books filled with relationship advice, but she only writes books that she needed. She became a single mother when her husband's addiction began to spiral.  Their son was born with a life-threatening disease, and she realized she couldn't trust her husband to administer the medication. So, she left and never came back. She had her child but nothing else. She left behind her job, home, friends, and the man she loved. Years later, Duana's life transformed, and she created a new life, but she never forgot how hard it was. If you've lost a relationship, feel lost, or want to find love, this episode is for you. 

 Dr. Duana Welch is an author and coach who applies social science to solve real-life relationship issues. Her books include, Love Factually: 10 Proven Steps from I Wish to I do, Love Factually for Single Parents, and the Love Factually Singles series. She's also an expert at the relationship app Paired. She's been a professor at universities in Florida, California, and Texas and has contributed to NPR, PBS, Psychology Today, Redbook, Huffington Post, and Time to name a few. She's the only guest invited to appear three times on Jordan Harbinger's former podcast, The Art of Charm. Her format blends heart, soul, and science. Duana's story is so inspiring. She has walked through the fire and made it through.

Kerry Brett and Duana Welch share lots of strategies and cover a lot of ground. Topics include:
Why learning certain information like relationship science around dating helps you be successful or not.
Why attachment style determines the success of your relationships.
Men who have avoidant attachment styles cannot change that.
Both anxious attachment style and avoidant attachment style both have securities; it just manifests in different ways.
Learn what a secure partner looks like, find that, and don't dismiss a secure man as boring.
Finding is love is not luck, and it is possible.
Why you can find love right now, and you don't need to get your ducks in a row first.
Why it's easier to date and more effectively during the pandemic.
How the pandemic can help you date smarter, not harder.
Why secure people don't wait for everything to be perfect in their life to date.
How to write a dating profile that does the work for you.
Qualities people everywhere in the world demand in a partner and why you should too. 
If you look for someone kind and respectful, your love life will go well.
When writing your profile, use words that describe the person you want to meet rather than adding descriptions about yourself.
Be choosey and selective, and don't forget to ask the hard questions.
You can find love online; quickly look at Dr. Duana Welch; she used the strategies in her book and found love in less than a week. 

 To find out more about Dr. Duana Welch or purchase her books, Love Factually, Love Factually for Single Parents (& Those Dating Them), and the Love Factually Single Series, go to www.lovefactually.co or follow on Facebook or Twitter.

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Today's guest is well-known Astrologer and Psychic Healer Jill Jardine, and she'll be sharing why this season is the Summer of Love! Things are going to heat up in the next couple of months! Singles are ready to mingle! In this episode, Jill discusses how this Summer will be a social phenomenon like Woodstock, and it's going to be peace, love, and heart emojis with lots of swiping right! Jill will tell us what's in store for our Lovecast! 

Jill Jardine is an astrologer, therapist, psychic healer, and spiritual advisor. She's also a radio personality on 95.9 WATD and the host of the podcast Cosmic Scene with Jill Jardine. She's also a Reverend in Sanskrit Mantra, and chanting mantras can shift outcomes and is an invaluable tool. For over 30 years, she's helped thousands of people find power and confidence within themselves and help with important decisions. At the end of the episode, Jill will give her Eclipse Zodiac Forecast for the Summer of 2021. 

Astrology and Dating have always gone hand in hand, but astrology has been booming due to the pandemic-like dating apps. Jill will bring us up to speed to get a clear picture of what will be happening astrology-wise this Summer. Kerry Brett and Jill Jardine cover a lot of ground. Topics include:

Why will this new summer season present an opportunity to reassess and rebuild? 
Why it's going to be a busy hot Summer of Love?
People are all about Connection and communication and getting your groove back.
The importance of casting a wide net.
We are in the middle of Eclipse season and how it affects your love life.
Why eclipse's end old patterns and the energy is pushing people to move forward and date.
Why people are making big decisions and creating major moves because they are looking at the big picture.
Heading into Mercury Retrograde is a time for revisiting, reconnecting, reassessing relationships. It's a perfect time to re-do things. Go back and rejoin a dating app with a new attitude. 
Mercury Retrograde forces you to come into alignment with what you want.
Why it's important to have a non-attachment attitude, detaching to whether it works or not works to your advantage.
Why confidence and empowerment are huge.
Why people need to do away with liking a type and why we should be open to trying something new and different.
Why we need to be willing to take a risk and try something different or new.
It's a wide-open field because there are more people out there looking for love.
Most people are serious about getting serious and find real deep connections.
Why we should expect the unexpected.

 To find out more about Jill Jardine, go to her website www.jilljardineastrology.com, or follow Jill Jardine on Facebook and Instagram @thejilljardine or listen to her podcast Cosmic Scene by Jill Jardine.

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