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So many men get it wrong in the bedroom... Trying to be nice... Unsure of how to take the lead... And even ashamed of their own desire... If you've ever felt these ways, you’re not alone (and I have to regularly work on this too). In this episode, Layla Martin and I dive deep into how you can sexually unleash your primal masculine energy - in a way that’s bold, conscious, attuned, and deeply sexy.

🔴 🎥 You can also watch this episode on Youtube.

In this episode you'll discover why women crave a man’s powerful presence - one that combines focus, strength, desire, the ability to ravish with care... And you'll discover how to embody it in a way that transforms your sexual relationships and ignites desire.

You'll also learn a transformative practice Layla calls “fuck and kill to consciousness,” which will probably be really confronting for you - in a good way... It's an exercise to help you integrate your raw, primal instincts and channel them into connection, confidence, sexual pleasure and leadership in the bedroom.

This episode is your invitation to stop holding back, to own your power unapologetically, and show up as the man you’re truly capable of being — magnetic, present, powerful and unforgettable. Join us!

❤️‍🔥 CONNECT WITH LAYLA:
🔸 The Tantric Mastermind for Couples (Upcoming in 2025)
🔸 Layla’s Youtube Channel
🔸 Layla’s Podcast "This Tantric Life"
🔸 Layla’s Instagram

🔱 CONNECT WITH TAYLOR:
🔸 The Orgasmic Mastery Course (February 2025)
🔸 Taylor’s Youtube Channel
🔸 Taylor’s Podcast "Sex Upgraded"
🔸 Taylor’s Website

#sexualleadership #menshealth #personalgrowth

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Ever felt stuck in your sexual self-mastery journey? Have you tried all kinds of techniques but feel like you’re still missing something? If so, this episode is for you. You'll learn the #1 reason most men struggle to see real progress in their sexual growth - and how you can overcome it.

HINT: techniques alone won’t get you there. You've got to dive into the deeper emotional and psychological layers under the techniques - to create a strong foundation for the techniques to rest on top of - and by doing so, you’ll unlock the true sexual growth, confidence, pleasure, and connection you desire.

🔴 🎥 You can also watch this episode on Youtube.

❤️‍🔥 CONNECT WITH LAYLA:
🔸 The Tantric Mastermind for Couples (Upcoming in 2025)
🔸 Layla’s Youtube Channel
🔸 Layla’s Podcast "This Tantric Life"
🔸 Layla’s Instagram

🔱 CONNECT WITH TAYLOR:
🔸 The Orgasmic Mastery Course (February 2025)
🔸 Taylor’s Youtube Channel
🔸 Taylor’s Podcast "Sex Upgraded"
🔸 Taylor’s Website

#personalgrowth #menshealth #sexualhealthformen

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Sex transmutation is one of the most important skills men can learn. Napoleon Hill, author of Think and Grow Rich - dedicated a full chapter of his book to "The Mystery of Sexual Transmutation" as a step to greater riches in life - but he failed to explain the real techniques for how he and other successful men have used sexual transmutation in their lives... In this episode, I'll show you how.

🔴 🎥 You can also watch this episode on Youtube.

MICROCOSMIC ORBIT VIDEOS:
💫 Microcosmic Orbit Diagram
💫 Microcosmic Orbit Partner Practice
*(I forgot to add these graphics in the Youtube version of this interview, so I'm adding them here).

EPISODE TIMES & TOPICS:

0:00 Sex Transmutation Intro

2:44 What is Sex Transmutation?

3:40 Practical Examples

5:24 Transmutation of Ejaculation During Sex

7:08 Porn: Transmuting the Desire

9:15 Sex Transmutation at Work

12:13 Sexual Desire is Healthy (Don't Ignore It)

12:54 Somatics & Transmutation Example

16:52 When Someone Is NOT Attracted to You

17:45 The REACTIVE Model of Sex Transmutation

29:01 Taylor's Personal Sex Example

33:44 The PROACTIVE Model of Sex Transmutation

37:39 Intro to Sexual Energy Integration Exercise

38:36 Exercise: Sexual Energy Integration

43:41 How to End Sex Without Ejaculation

45:25 Sexual Energy Conservation VS Cultivation

49:28 The Most Important Technique of All...

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ORGASMIC MASTERY COURSE:
🔱 Master this practice in the bedroom, learn to last as long as you want, have strong erections, and experience full body orgasmic pleasure with my upcoming Orgasmic Mastery Course that begins on February 8th.

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Want to boost your testosterone naturally? This episode of the Sex Upgraded Podcast will tell you how. Join Taylor & male hormone expert Dr. Tracy Gapin for a practical & motivating conversation about how YOU can be the best version of yourself by optimizing all of your male hormone levels.

Hormone optimization is key to overall vitality, with insights into libido, peak performance, mental clarity, and conquering life's challenges. Check out my personal testosterone journey in this video.

And...

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And use this code: TAYLORNEWYEAR for a big discount


In this episode, you'll:
• Learn about the science behind lab tests, stress's impact on hormones, and strategies to combat age-related changes. 
• Gain wisdom on decoding your body's signals through advanced diagnostics and lifestyle adjustments. 
• Discover tools for a revolutionized existence, including mastering metabolism with continuous glucose monitoring and employing heart rate variability in stress management. 
• Better understand how you can have longevity, energy, strength, and enduring zest for life.

EPISODE TIMES & TOPICS:
00:00 - Intro
01:27 - Opening
02:15 - Dr. Tracy Gapin's Background
05:44 - Common Underlying Causes of Hormonal Problems 
07:09 - What Is Low Testosterone 
11:04 - Stress and The Link Between Testosterone and Cortisol 
16:13 - The Effects of Low Testosterone on the Mind & Body
18:52 - Ways to Improve Testosterone Levels
20:08 - Impact of Low Testosterone on Society 
21:52 - Minimizing Exposure to the Toxins in Our Environment 
25:19 - Lifestyle & Time Frame To Improve Hormonal Levels
34:22 - Living With Suboptimal Levels of Testosterone Without Realizing
35:56 - The Natural Process of Aging and Finding Balance with Performance
39:30 - The Feeling and Experience of Optimal Hormonal Levels
41:47 - Healthy, Normal Sex Drive After 40 Years
44:38 - Advances in Men's Medicine Space 
51:14 - Living With Intention, Sleep & Diet
56:35 - Final Advice 
58:19 - How To Find and Connect With Dr. Tracy Gapin

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🔱  CONNECT WITH DR. GAPIN:
🔸  Gapin Institute
🔸 Dr. Gapin's Website
🔸 High Performance Handbook

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🔱  TAYLOR'S SEXUAL MASTERY COURSES:
🔸 Orgasmic Mastery Course
🔸 Semen Retention Mastery

🔱 TAYLOR'S FREE GUIDES:
🔸 Free 7-Day Semen Retention Challenge
🔸 Free Ejaculation Control Guide

🔱 CONNECT WITH TAYLOR:
🔸 Sex Upgraded Podcast
🔸 Instagram
🔸 Website

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#testosterone #menshealth #lifeoptimization #hormones

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This episode is a look into my personal life - because I want to be transparent with you around my professional & life development as a teacher. You'll hear about the 3 big trainings I'm personally enrolled in for 2024 (and why)... and you'll also hear my 3 main personal growth areas I want to work on too.

🔴🎥 You can watch this episode on Youtube here.

The best way to ask me anything about this episode would be to comment on the youtube version I linked to above. And if you have BDSM recommendations, please feel free to DM me on Instagram. I'm all ears.

MY 2024 PERSONAL/PROFESSIONAL EDUCATION PLAN

1. Somatic Experiencing Practitioner Training
2. Embodied Men's Leadership Training (with John Wineland)
3. Somatic Coach Training Program (with Strozzi Institute)

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

1. My Testosterone Video (On Youtube)
2. Sex Upgraded Podcast (On Youtube)

🔱 UPCOMING TRAINING FOR MEN:
🔸 The Orgasmic Mastery Course begins on February 8th, 2024. This is a 10-week training for any man who wants to become the best lover they can be - the kind of lover who blows his partner's mind - AND feels 100% confident and sexually alive in the process. Check out the course page for more info.


EPISODE TIMES & TOPICS:
0:00 Why I Made This Episode
2:30 The 3 Big Trainings I'm Taking in 2024
3:01 1 - Somatic Experiencing Practitioner Training
5:52 2 - Embodied Men's Leadership Training
8:28 3 - Strozzi Somatic Coaching Training
10:23 BDSM Training? (I Need Your Advice...)
11:21 Male Hormone Optimization
13:17 ADHD & Sex
16:16 Living a Balanced Life...
18:11 Request: I Need Your Help...

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Have you ever thought about becoming a sex coach for men? What does it take? Are there any requirements or certifications? Perhaps more importantly, what's it actually like to be a sex coach for men?

In this episode you'll hear some behind the scenes stories and experiences from both Cam Fraser and I (we're both certified sexologists and full time sex coaches for men), and you'll hear how we both got to be where we are today.

You'll also learn about his new sex coach certification training (with tons of great guest instructors) for people who want to become professional sex coaches that specifically work with men.

I've looked through the syllabus, and it looks pretty awesome. I'm going to actually take one part of the training too: the SAR (described in the episode).

If you're interested, check out the links below:

🔱 MEN'S SEX COACH TRAINING:
🔸 Check out the sex coaching certification program here.
🔸 And join here: https://bit.ly/Mens-Sex-Coaching-Program
*If you join through this link, I'll receive a small commission as a thank you for connecting you to this program. That commission will help me continue to create this podcast. Thank you! :)


EPISODE TIMES & TOPICS:
00:00 Intro & Welcome
08:53 Cam's Journey to Becoming a Sex Coach for Men
20:26 Benefits of Working With a Sex Coach
33:02 Understanding Masculinity and Sexological Approaches
47:12 Importance of Anti-Racism Education in Coaching
53:39 Exploring Tantra Communities and Sexuality
59:49 Sexual Attitudes Reassessment (SAR) and Training Program

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🔱  TAYLOR'S SEXUAL SELF-MASTERY COURSES:
🔸 Orgasmic Mastery Course (Begins July 2023)
🔸 Semen Retention Mastery

🔱 TAYLOR'S FREE GUIDES:
🔸 Free 7-Day Semen Retention Challenge
🔸 Free Ejaculation Control Guide

🔱 CONNECT WITH TAYLOR:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taylorclarkjohnson
Website: https://www.taylorjohnson.life/

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If you're a Christian, or if you've ever been impacted by Christianity in any way, this episode should be next on your list. Dr. Kevin Jenson believes that it's possible for Christians to have amazing, sacred sex - and that these experiences are also supported by the bible. Kind of mind blowing stuff...

🔴 🎥 - You can also watch this episode on Youtube.

Some topics we cover:

• Is sex sinful?
• Is masturbation sinful?
• What about sex before marriage? Is that a sin?
• Can sex be sacred as a Christian?
• What does sacred sex mean from a Christian perspective?
• What does the bible say about masturbation?
• What does the bible say about sex before marriage?
• What does the bible say about sex in general?

Join Dr. Kevin Jenson and I to explore the cultural divide between sex and spirituality, while examining Christianity, epistemology, and ancient texts, to create an entirely new perspective of healthy sexuality that's possible for Christians - without losing their faith.

Kevin Jenson is a distinguished author and scholar, who shares insights from his life path, bridging the gap between his Christian faith and sexual desires. 

And for the record, I don't see myself as a Christian... though as I write this on Christmas Eve, I'm about to head into a church service with my family. I grew up in a Christian household, and was heavily influenced by this faith. That's why I thought it'd be interesting to do this episode.

I've also worked with a LOT of Christian men, who want to have great sex and NOT let go of their faith. I want to support them in their desires for that, and so whatever positive content I can create to help these men and their partners, the better.

EPISODE TIMES & TOPICS:
00:00 - Intro
01:28 - Opening
03:34 - Kevin's Background
09:17 - The Conflict Between Sexuality and Spirituality
12:22 - Epistemology & the Ways of Knowing
19:20 - Christian Views on Sex & Masturbation
23:17 - Sex Positive View within Christianity
31:45 - The Original Intent about Sexuality in the Bible
36:59 - The Church & The Dichotomy of Healthy Sexuality
41:48 - The Myth of Onan & Is Masturbation Sinful
48:07 - The Christian View of Male/Female Dynamic in Society
53:24 - "Porneia"  
59:17 - Prayerful Sex
1:05:41 - Kevin's Journey of Sharing His Work in The (Christian) World
1:12:02 - In & Out Group in the Christian Community
1:15:31 - How to Connect with Kevin
1:16:46 - Christian Trauma

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🔱  CONNECT WITH KEVIN:
🔸 Special page for Sex Upgraded podcast listeners
🔸 Kevin’s Website
🔸 Kevin's Instagram: @drkevinjenson

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🔱  TAYLOR'S SEXUAL MASTERY COURSES:
🔸 Orgasmic Mastery Course
🔸 Semen Retention Mastery

🔱 TAYLOR'S FREE GUIDES:
🔸 Free 7-Day Semen Retention Challenge
🔸 Free Ejaculation Control Guide

🔱 CONNECT WITH TAYLOR:
🔸 Sex Upgraded Podcast
🔸 Instagram
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This is a serious and sensitive episode... for any man who has ever hurt a woman - accidentally or otherwise. Specifically, for any man who has caused harm (myself included), and who wants to do better... Who wants to heal, offer repair, get humble, grow and become a better version of themselves.

There's no shaming in this episode... Papillon and I wanted to create this for all of the men who want to improve themselves, but don't know where to go or what resources to turn to.

EPISODE TIMES & TOPICS:
00:00 Intro
01:28 Opening
03:02 Papillon's Professional Background
03:58 Sexual Assault & Crossing Boundaries
09:35 Self-Reflection on Causing Sexual Harm
14:47 Finding a Therapist to Talk with
17:40 Other Options to Help with Self-Reflection
21:28 Healing Without Contacting the Person You've Sexually Assaulted
29:21 Recognizing When We Have Harmed Another Person
35:56 Finding Space to Share And Reflect
38:25 What to Do If You Realize You Have Assaulted Someone
47:40 Centering The Survivor's Needs
52:56 Facing the Pain of the Realization
54:55 Can a Changed Person Be Seen in a New Light
57:02 Restorative Justice
58:54 Accountability and Developing Self-Awareness
1:05:33 Resources and Materials to Look Up


GENERATED EPISODE DESCRIPTION:
In this episode, Taylor explores how we can prioritize survivors' needs in sexual assault cases, with insights from returning guest, Papillon, a licensed clinical mental health counselor specializing in sexual trauma.

Discover scenarios where boundaries are crossed, emphasizing humility, growth, and understanding survivors' needs before personal desires. Delve into the challenges survivors face, the impact of public disclosure, and the potential for restorative justice processes.

Listen now, as Taylor and Papillon reflect on their past actions, and discuss learning from mistakes with empathy and accountability. The conversation touches on sociopathic tendencies, self-reflection, and finding support in affinity groups, offering condensed insights into the complexities of addressing sexual harm and promoting healing.


🔱  PAPILLON’S WEBSITE & RECOMMENDATIONS
🔸 Papillon's Website
🔸 Consent “Cup of Tea” Cartoon
🔸 Consent “Cup of Tea” Cartoon for Kids
🔸 Consent “Cup of Tea” Cartoon (Clean Version)
🔸 Feel free to send us more resources on this that you recommend.

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🔱  TAYLOR'S SEXUAL MASTERY COURSES:
🔸 Orgasmic Mastery Course
🔸 Semen Retention Mastery

🔱 TAYLOR'S FREE GUIDES:
🔸 Free 7-Day Semen Retention Challenge
🔸 Free Ejaculation Control Guide

🔱 CONNECT WITH TAYLOR:
🔸 Sex Upgraded Podcast
🔸 Instagram
🔸 Website

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What is the difference between Neo Tantra and Classical Tantra? What do they have in common, and what can we learn from them both, to implement into our own lives?
 
 In this episode, Taylor explores tantric wisdom and history with Hema; a gifted mentor and teacher offering unique perspective from her upbringing and life full of experience with tantric traditions. 

Press play to learn about the historical complexities of Tantra, its cultural branches, the way it challenges societal norms, and can guide you beyond better sexual experiences and into deeper spiritual growth.

EPISODE TIMES & TOPICS:

00:00 Intro & Welcome

02:36 Hema’s Story

05:03 Neo Tantra & Classical Tantra Explained

10:21 What is the history of Tantra?

19:10 Why Tantra is considered the “left hand path” in India

21:46 Tantra as a practice of deconstructing the ego

28:47 Sexuality as the primordial force where we get our power

33:53 Tantra for Common Householders

37:13 How we can be overly attached to sex

39:14 Meditation practices for deep states of bliss

43:00 How Taylor first found deep presence & bliss

45:25 Enlightenment through Tantra

50:11 “Spiritual Psychopaths” in Tantra

57:48 Practices Hema Recommends

1:01:42 Closing

🔱  CONNECT WITH HEMA:

🔸 Work with Hema: https://talk2hema.youcanbook.me/ 

🔸 Hema’s Website: https://hemaholisticmystic.com/ 

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🔱  TAYLOR'S SEXUAL MASTERY COURSES:

🔸 Orgasmic Mastery Course: https://www.taylorjohnson.life/orgasmic-mastery-course/

🔸 Semen Retention Mastery: https://www.taylorjohnson.life/semen-retention-mastery/

🔱 TAYLOR'S FREE GUIDES:

🔸 Free 7-Day Semen Retention Challenge: https://learn.taylorjohnson.life/free-7-day-semen-retention-challenge

🔸 Free Ejaculation Control Guide: https://learn.taylorjohnson.life/Free-Ejaculation-Control-Training

🔱 CONNECT WITH TAYLOR:

🔸 Sex Upgraded Podcast: https://www.taylorjohnson.life/podcast

🔸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taylorclarkjohnson

🔸 Website: https://www.taylorjohnson.life/

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#neotantra #tantra #tantricsexuality

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Tantra is a spiritual system that invites you to experience sex and life in a more powerful way. Your sexual energy can be rocket fuel for your entire life, but most men waste it - and waste their lives away in the process. In this episode you'll learn how to harness it so you can truly thrive in sex AND life.

Shawn Roop is an expert on both classical and modern Tantra (Neo Tantra), and he focuses on helping men thrive in both sex and life. In this episode you'll learn about Tantric sex, ejaculation mastery and semen retention from the Tantric perspective, non-ejaculatory orgasms (Kria Vati), how to increase your capacity to hold more sexual pleasure and much more...

🔴 🎥 - You can also watch this episode on Youtube.

EPISODE TIMES & TOPICS:
00:00 Intro & Welcome
02:13 Why Tantra is Important for Men
08:37 Common Questions (What is a Tantra Chair? Is Tantra Dangerous?)
10:22 Tantric Sex Positions & Kamasutra
13:56 Ejaculation Mastery
16:09 Alternatives to Ejaculatory Orgasm
19:16 Non-Ejaculatory Orgasms (Kriya Vati - Multiple Orgasms for Men)
30:35 Shawn's Experiences with Ejaculation Growing Up
33:05 Taylor's Most Amazing Sexual Experiences
36:15 Want to Last Longer in Bed? (Most Women Won't Like It)
41:50 Is Tantra Dangerous?
44:00 Redefining the Concept of Sex
53:37 Emotional Intelligence is KEY to Sexual Mastery
1:00:15 Build Your Capacity for Sexual Energy

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🔱  CONNECT WITH SHAWN:
🔸 Shawn's Upcoming Workshop (Discount Code: "Taylor"):
🔸 Shawn's Website "Tantra Quest"

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🔱  TAYLOR'S SEXUAL MASTERY COURSES:
🔸 Orgasmic Mastery Course (Begins February 8th, 2024)
🔸 Semen Retention Mastery (Self-Study Enrollment is Open Now)

🔱 TAYLOR'S FREE GUIDES:
🔸 Free 7-Day Semen Retention Challenge
🔸 Free Ejaculation Control Guide

🔱 CONNECT WITH TAYLOR:
🔸 Instagram: @taylorclarkjohnson
🔸 Taylor's Website

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