Sex, Love & Money with Rebecca Antonucci – Details, episodes & analysis

You've had great sex that left you feeling nothing.

You've had a man who did everything right, and woken up emptier than before. You told yourself it was him. You moved on. You tried again. Same result, different man.

It was never him. And it was never the act of intimacy. It was the absence of everything that needed to come first.

Vanilla sex has nothing to do with what's happening in the bedroom. It's sex without roots. Sex without time. Sex without knowing someone, and being known back. And if you've been cycling through men wondering why nothing ever feels like enough, this episode is going to name something you've felt but never quite had the words for.

I recorded this 48 hours after a real epiphany hit me mid-dating: live, unfiltered, and straight from Bali. I tell you the full story of the man I've been dating, the padel court where it started, the wine cellar date, the comedy show, the cup of tea that wasn't just a cup of tea, and the moment I caught myself about to do the exact thing I tell every woman not to do.

Because the truth is: if you're using sex to try to feel something, no man will ever be able to give you what you're actually looking for. Time and time again you will be setting you and him up to fail. And the sooner we name that, the sooner everything changes.

Raw, real, and recorded live in Bali two days after the epiphany hit. You're welcome.

WHAT WE GET INTO

— What vanilla sex actually is, and why it has nothing to do with the bedroom

— Why the f*ck and chuck cycle is grief in disguise, not cruelty

— The Healthy Man Starter Pack: how to tell if it's real or just an act

— Why making him wait isn't about games, it's about you finding out the truth

— The Bali dating story unfolding right now, live revelations and completely unfiltered

TIMESTAMPS

00:00: What vanilla sex actually is, and what it has nothing to do with

01:20: Sex without roots: why connection can't be rushed into being

07:25: The f*ck and chuck cycle isn't cruelty, it's grief

22:17: The Healthy Man Starter Pack, how to know if it's real or an act

29:36: Why dating too fast is setting you up to feel nothing

54:05: Why no man will ever be able to give you what you're actually looking for

Connect with me on socials by saying hi over on IG: @rebecca.antonucci (http://www.instagram.com/rebecca.antonucci)

Apply to work with us in Breakthrough School by booking your introductory call here. (https://calendly.com/annakrystyna/bridge-clarity-call-clone)

He was a little boy. You were the woman who paid for it. 

You didn't fall in love with a man. You fell in love with a seven year old who hadn't grieved his childhood yet.

And until he does,  he will sabotage every relationship that gets close enough to matter.

Ryan Moresby-White works with hundreds of men, fathers, CEOs, men in their 70s, helping them do the one thing society never taught them: grieve. He's built a multi-million dollar company doing it. And he's one of the most embodied, present men I've ever sat across from.

In this episode, Ryan gets completely honest about the relationship he lost because of his own unresolved wounds, the four hours he spent on a bathroom floor in Bali vomiting after she left, and the nine months on the grass on the Sunshine Coast that changed everything.

This is the episode I made for the women in my world who are tired of carrying men who don't know they're still boys. And it's for the men who are ready to find out.

What we get into:

• Why most men are emotionally operating as 7-year-olds, and what to do about it

• The real reason men sabotage relationships (it has nothing to do with you)

• The post-breakup level up, and the two very different paths it leads to

• How to support a man on his healing journey without becoming his mother

• What a truly safe man looks like, and why he can feel so confronting

Timestamps:

00:00: Most men are little boys walking around in adult bodies

01:15: What a rite of passage actually is, and why men don't get one anymore

06:12: Why women become the unintentional initiators for uninitiated men

11:03: The tree ring analogy: you're not dating one man, you're dating all of him

26:47: Ryan ends a year-long relationship, and shares why live on air

37:24: The bathroom floor in Bali: 4 hours of vomiting after she left

43:08: The post-breakup level up, two paths, two very different men

57:51: What women can do to actually support a man on his healing journey

Find Ryan: @@ryanmoresbywhite) (https://www.instagram.com/ryanmoresbywhite/) on Instagram and YouTube

Connect with me on socials by saying hi over on IG: @rebecca.antonucci (http://www.instagram.com/rebecca.antonucci)

Have you ever sworn you were “done” with a man, a job, a pattern… and then found yourself right back in it? This episode is a deep dive into why we loop the same patterns over and over again, and what it actually takes to be complete, not just “healed enough” to cope.

I share the story of a Bali clothing brand I adored but that kept leaving me feeling disrespected, and how walking out of that store for the last time cracked open a much bigger pattern of self-abandonment, body image, and identity. I also take you into the trauma-bonded relationship with my ex, the man my inner child went to for safety, and the final straw that forced me to create that safety inside myself instead.

This is an episode about energetic real estate: why nothing new can land when you’re still half in, half out with the old.

For the woman who knows better in her mind, but her body keeps going back.

For the woman who can feel a bigger life calling, but is still entangled with past pains and limitations. 

Timestamps

 00:00: Why you keep looping patterns in love, work and behaviour (even when you “know better”)
 04:00: “Readiness isn’t being healed, it’s being complete” – the distinction that changes everything
 07:02: The Bali goddess clothes: loving the product, hating the disrespect, and starting to outgrow an identity
 21:08: The stylist, the changeroom and old bullying wounds – when body image trauma hijacks your self-expression
 39:22: The $650 bag and the full-body “never again” – declaring completion and finding a new store the same night
 47:01: The ex who felt like safety: trauma bond, little-girl need, and the sentence that shattered my nervous system
 53:03: Creating safety for the inner child instead of acting from the wound, and finally cutting the cord
 59:01: Energetic real estate, calling in the final lessons, and becoming a magnet for what (and who) you actually desire

Connect with Me:

Want to work with me? Click this link (https://rebeccaantonucci.com/breakthrough-call) to book a breakthrough call and join my upcoming Mastermind, Breakthrough School, today.

Want to join our September Somatic Expansion Retreat? Click this link (https://rebeccaantonucci.com/breakthrough-call) to book a connection call and find out more details. 

Ready to join us at The Bridge Experience in Gold Coast this February? Sign up www.thebridgemethod.org and use the code SEXANDLOVE to save 20% off your enrolment.

Connect with me on socials by saying hi over on IG: @rebecca.antonucci (http://www.instagram.com/rebecca.antonucci)

Are you afraid of getting everything you have ever wanted? The dream relationship, the sex life, the pleasure, the aliveness, the lifestyle, your own business… 

So many women voice to me what it is they want out of life, but then will share they are too afraid to go after it. What if they get it and can’t hold it? What if they get it and don’t feel deserving of it?

On today’s episode, Nik Cherwink, brand builder, coach to artists and host of the Headliner Mindset Podcast joins me to discuss everything from learning to lean into your fear and FOLLOW your intuition, to how long it took to making a true living in business PLUS what he learned from working at Capitol Records with David Guetta.

Join us as we explore the mindset blocks that can hold you back from pursuing your deepest desires, pleasures and carving out your own unique life path and profession. Together, Nik and I discuss powerful strategies to help you OVERCOME these challenges and guide you towards a life of fulfilment.

Tune in if you are ready to:

🦋 Break free from fear and pursue a life that aligns with your deepest desires

🦋 Silence imposter syndrome and step into your full confidence

🦋 Stop overthinking and start taking ACTION

🦋 Learn how to create a niche professional path that is reflective of your unique soul signature AND make money doing it

Want to learn more about Nik Cherwink? Follow his IG over @nikcherwink or head over to his website www.nikcherwink.com

Find out more about working with me here - https://shor.by/mSuQ 🦋

I get SO lit up by every single conversation I have with my community. 💜 If you loved this episode, screenshot it, tag me, and come and say hi on Instagram @bekantonucci.

When we talk about feeling ‘unsafe’ in your body, what does that mean to you?

Do you feel like you don’t love yourself? Maybe there are parts of you that you are yet to accept? Or perhaps you feel like you don’t deserve the life you’d love to have.

On today’s podcast Kari Azuma returns, Kari is a certified coach from the Newfield Network Institute and has coached executives and board members of influential companies, entrepreneurs, mothers, coaches, and leaders in the health and wellness sectors.  In her work now she now supports ALL women in excavating layers of safety patterns through a combination of deep intuitive work with sub-conscious, somatic practices, and traditional ontological coaching.

Her mission is to support true feminine leadership by helping women build massive safety in their bodies in order to courageously live their values.

Kari and I cover what the nervous system is, how you can access safety and begin to embrace fear and pain instead of running away from it or freezing. If you have wanted to learn more about regulation and how to truly feel safe from within, this episode is for you. 

You’ll hear: 

🦋 Why so many of us feel shame around being scared and how to navigate it

🦋 The mental shift that will help you get the MOST our of nervous system work 

🦋 A personal story about a recent event that was incredibly dysregulating for me and how I worked through it

🦋 How to actually go ‘ALL IN’ and embrace your fear and pain productively

…and so much more.

Want to learn more about Nervous System Regulation?

Listen to the first episode with Kari here on Apple and Spotify 

And the second episode here on Apple and Spotify 

You can find Kari Azuma on Instagram @kariazuma and on her website www.kariazuma.com

Find out more about working with me here - https://shor.by/mSuQ 🦋

I get SO lit up by every single conversation I have with my community. 💜 If you loved this episode, screenshot it, tag me, and come and say hi on Instagram @bekantonucci.

Did you know that Anxious attachment styles are MORE likely to be jealous partners.

On today’s podcast, Jayden Leigh Hargreaves returns to discuss the intricacies of emotional healing, navigating attachment styles, and the journey towards self-discovery and authentic expression.

I LOVE having Jayden on the show because he is a WEALTH of knowledge when it comes to attachment styles and trauma - working exclusively in the space of women navigating through their relationships.

Together we cover how to discover your TRUTH and set aside the mask, the attachment dynamic that is the MOST common and also the most destructive, and whether you can truly heal from being a jealous person.

You’ll hear: 

🦋 The difference between the four styles of attachment and WHY we have these 

🦋 Whether your jealousy stems from INTERNAL trauma or external circumstances and how to navigate this

🦋 Why you may have had a good childhood and STILL have attachment issues

🦋 How to move on when you have been grieving for 5, 10, 15 years…

…and so much more.

Want to learn more about Anxious Attachments? Listen to Jayden and my FIRST episode together that helped SO many women here.

Find Jayden in his FB group here or over on his website at www.jaydenleigh.com

Find out more about working with me here - https://shor.by/mSuQ 🦋

I get SO lit up by every single conversation I have with my community. 💜 If you loved this episode, screenshot it, tag me, and come and say hi on Instagram @bekantonucci.

How can I experience true intimacy when I deeply fear herpes transmission?

Today’s episode is my second Q&A segment where I get the opportunity to help you work through your life challenges like a real coaching call. 

I answer the following 3 questions:

• I'm disclosing and yet I still can't get over my fear of what if I do actually transmit to that person?
• I have disclosed to someone I have feelings for, and now he is questioning the transmission rates, how do I handle this?
• I didn’t disclose when I was intimate with someone, and now I want to disclose. How would you go about it?

Together we will cover: 

🦋 How to move past YOUR own transmission fear when your partner accepts your disclosure,

🦋 A script to help you disclose to your sexual partner AFTER being intimate,

🦋 Three words that will shift your entire relationship with herpes disclosure,

🦋 How to stop projecting VICTIM CONSCIOUSNESS onto the people you are dating,

🦋 How you can have a thriving dating life with herpes

…and so much more.

Episodes I recommend you go back and listen to 💜

🎧 My most recent Q&A

🎧 How to Disclose AFTER Being Intimate and Do I Have to?

🎧 Setting Boundaries to ENHANCE Your Sex Life (and my new 4-piece disclosure)

🎧 Breaking the Stigma and Empowering Men with Herpes

🎧 Disclosing Your HSV Diagnosis with CONFIDENCE

🎧 Navigating Herpes, Intimacy & Rejection

🎧 Herpes Spotify Playlist is here.

Are you ready to break free from the shame you feel about herpes and start to feel empowered? I’ve created a Spotify playlist that holds all of my herpes-related episodes. This is a space for you to learn and heal so whether it’s for you, or someone you know who needs support, save my playlist so you can return to it when you need it.

Find out more about working with me here - https://shor.by/mSuQ 🦋

I get SO lit up by every single conversation I have with my community. 💜 If you loved this episode, screenshot it, tag me, and come and say hi on Instagram @bekantonucci.

Are you one hard day away from packing up your life and moving to Bali? Listen to this first.

After recording our last episode, Sarah and I KNEW that we had so much more to say and had only scratched the surface of what it means to TRULY live out your desires INCLUDING all of the not-so-sexy sacrifices this commitment takes. 

We speak into the freedom you are able to access whilst importantly sharing with you the pains that must be faced to create that felt sense. 

If you missed our last episode (go back and listen to it), Sarah left her white picket fence dream as a successful lawyer and almost perfect lifestyle in Sydney to pursue FREEDOM and a life of choosing HERSELF first in Bali. 

This episode delves into the nuanced truths of what it actually means to live a freedom lifestyle in Bali. We explore the highs and lows of a digital nomadic lifestyle, the EMOTIONAL & social challenges that accompany this incredible life, and the REALITIES of Bali life versus the romanticised perceptions. 

Together we will cover: 

🦋The TRUTH about living a digital nomadic lifestyle and is it REALLY for you?

🦋Why you should ALWAYS look at social media critically - are people as successful as they seem?

🦋Whether moving to Bali (or abroad) is the RIGHT decision for you

🦋What nobody talks about - the impact living in Bali has on DEEP and LASTING friendships AND finding love

…and much more

Listen to part one of the TRUTH behind a life of freedom with Sarah here 💜

Find Sarah on IG @sarahscullyleaf or over on her website www.sarahscullyleaf.com

Find out more about working with me here - https://shor.by/mSuQ 🦋

I get SO lit up by every single conversation I have with my community. 💜 If you loved this episode, screenshot it, tag me, and come and say hi on Instagram @bekantonucci.

Do you avoid creating a deeper relationship with God because of your judgments around what it means to be religious?

Many times on Instagram I will speak about my own relationship with God and whenever I do it is always met with the same question, are you religious?  

I love this topic SO much and I thought there was no better person to delve into this subject with than Amy Rushworth.

This is Amy’s second time on the podcast but if you haven’t met her before, Amy is a transformational mentor, healing facilitator and sexual wellness educator whose PASSION is to help activate the unapologetic woman within her clients. She is SO incredibly expanding for me, and her perceptions and views on life are incredibly valuable.

In our conversation, we delve into our individual spiritual journeys, offer guidance for perfectionists seeking self-compassion, and discuss how women can tap into their inner strength through faith.

Together we will cover: 

🦋 Exploring God's role in both our healing journeys

🦋Tips on how to move PAST deep shame, begun to access self compassion and shift your life into a place that you can move FORWARD from

🦋Why chemistry isn’t the most important part of a relationship, and what IS

🦋The difference between God and your intuition

🦋Amy’s very own miracle involving a little green frog in Bali

…and so much more.

Find Amy over on IG @thisisamyrushworth, her website www.amyrushworth.com or catch her over on her own podcast The Amy Rushworth Show on Spotify or Apple.

Listen to Amy’s first appearance on the show where we spoke about Becoming the Unapologetic Bad Bitch here.

Find out more about working with me here - https://shor.by/mSuQ 🦋

I get SO lit up by every single conversation I have with my community. 💜 If you loved this episode, screenshot it, tag me, and come and say hi on Instagram @bekantonucci.

What does it take to actually be vulnerable?

This is another podcast that comes with a “Mother DO NOT LISTEN to this episode” disclaimer. 🔥

Are you excited? 💦

If you have been curious about the doors that will open once you are confident in expressing your TRUTH, then this episode is for you.

God loves to give me opportunities to practice my four-part disclosure piece and in my latest opportunity, I get to teach you how to work with self-trust and inner safety to be able to access the same levels of empowered and authentic communication as I am able to.

Together we are exploring the power of holding vulnerable conversations and the steps you need to take to GET yourself into a place where you can communicate with confidence and NEVER self-abandon again.

In today's episode, we cover: 

🦋 Dialogue that you can use to walk yourself through vulnerable conversations

🦋 How you can build your self-trust through daily activities

🦋 My most recent HOT & HEAVY experience where I put my teachings to the test

🦋 The POWER you have over your life once you’re comfortable having hard conversations

🦋 How inner safety can bring in the partnership that you CRAVE 

…and so much more.

Want to learn more about having hard conversations? Queue up this episode next. 

Find out more about working with me here - https://shor.by/mSuQ 🦋

I get SO lit up by every single conversation I have with my community. 💜 If you loved this episode, screenshot it, tag me, and come and say hi on Instagram @bekantonucci.