Nothing Confidential the Podcast – Details, episodes & analysis

Today's topic is one that a lot of people find intimidating, yet so many are curious about. We're talking all things KINK and I can't wait to share this expansive conversation with all of you. 

Here's a bit about my guest:

Katherine Friedman (she/her) is a psychotherapist and intimacy consultant living and working in New York City and the Hudson Valley.  She is a New York Licensed Mental Health Counselor, an Oregon Licensed Professional Counselor, and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist.  She uses her mindful, embodied approach to assist people in all areas of sex therapy and exploration, with a particular enthusiasm for working with people from marginalized communities and those pursuing alternative sexualities and relationship styles to meet their unique desires.  As a teacher, Katherine provides classes on mindfulness, embodiment, kink, empowerment, and trauma in an array of venues. As a provider, she provides both long-term therapy and short-term consulting based on the needs and locations of clients.

Katherine also happens to be OG Nothing Confidential Alum! And I am SO EXCITED to welcome her back on the show! You can listen to our first conversation here:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/nothing-confidential-the-podcast/id1490318058?i=1000472980657

In THIS sit-down, we're venturing into the world of kink and exploring:

• The evolution of Katherine's trauma adaptations
• Healing trauma through kink
• Bondage & Why you need to know what a Non-collapsing single column tie is ;)

• Why everyone is confused about kink 

• What NOT to do when getting into kink

• What NOT to do when getting into kink 

• The biggest problem with the 50 shades franchise 

• Tips for getting better at dirty talk 

• And Katherine's Car Wash Kink (trust, you do not want to miss it!)

Resources/Links

Work with Katherine!

www.articulatedesire.com 

E-mail Katherine: 

hello@articulatedesire.com 

Read Katherine's Writings & Follow Her on IG:

https://www.instagram.com/articulatedesire/

Kink Books:

The New Bottoming Book

The New Topping Book

Playing Well with Others

Educators:

https://www.avgisaketopoulou.com/ 

https://www.instagram.com/mollena_lee_williams_haas/

https://www.instagram.com/stellaharriserotica/?hl=en

https://planetmidori.com/

**PART 2**

Former party boy turned podcast host, Dustin Rybka hosts Sex Party, a show where he talks about all things sex and relationships with a different guest each and every Wednesday. As with any good party though, sometimes things get messy...

Like this 2-part conversation you're about to hear! 

In today's episode(s), my pal Dustin and I will be taking you on a journey through the many twists and turns of his reluctant quest for self-betterment. 

I went in with some expectations (which almost got me in trouble)... But when I dropped those (20-30 minutes in), what got to happen instead was an incredibly layered, multi-dimensional, textured conversation that wreaks with humanity, honesty, and innate goodness. 

A few things we're excavating are:

• Exploring the pain threshold: Self-punishing or healing?

• How terrifying vulnerability can be+Vulnerability with boundaries.

• Trusting the consistency/predictability of painful experiences over the vulnerability of hopefulness...

• What happens when we believe that our pain and struggle are the most interesting things about us...

• How scary/painful that moment before choosing healing/transformation can be.

• AND ALL KINDS OF THINGS YOU NEVER SAW COMING!

This is one of those conversations that will leave you with more questions than answers and I LOVE THAT. It takes courage to examine the parts of you that are incongruent. It takes courage to be in messy process. It takes courage to keep asking the hard questions of ourselves and those around us in order to gain clarity about where we're going and who we ultimately want to be. 

We hope this conversation gives you permission to be messy. Be curious. Be human. 

XO,

Christin & Dustin 

Connect with Dustin

IG:

https://www.instagram.com/dustinrybka 

Listen to My Interview with Dustin on Sex Party!

(And check out the other steamy episodes on ALL THE THINGS!)

IG:

https://www.instagram.com/sexpartyfm   

Referenced Material

Existential Kink by Carolyn Elliott

We're BACK! 

No, we didn't ghost you.

No, it's not YOU. 

Yes, it's us. 

Yes, we're still here! And we're excited to close out Season 2 with this juicy, cosmic AF conversation. 

Vanessa Cuccia is the Founder and CEO of Chakrubs, the original crystal sex toy company. She is also a writer, artist, musician, and 100% that witch! We are so excited to share her powerful story of past trauma, self-love, healing, and innovative transformation. 

In this episode:

-Sex crystals! (What are they? How do they work?)

-Past trauma and how to begin healing 

-Sex as a sacred practice 

-Building a company/brand that flows from feminine energy

-Pleasure alchemy 

-Lots more witchy magic! 

You can learn more about+SHOP Chakrubs at:

www.chakrubs.com 

Use our special code: 'NothingConfidential' for 10% OFF!

Follow on Instagram:

@Vanessa_cuccia

@chakrubs

@frequemagazine 

This conversation (and others like it) are the reason we do what we do. It's juicy, and twisty, and we cover a lot of unexpected territories. 

What we're sharing this week:

• How we consciously build fires on the "hearth" of our relationships when they're in their "winter" season.
• The cultural glamorization of toxic "love", and how it has impacted our connection with romantic partners (past and present).
• The sneaky ways our trauma adaptations show up in partnership.
• Creating space for Eroticism in long-term partnerships. 
• Whatever else popped into our brains.

If this conversation gifts you an "ah-ha!", we would LOVE to hear about it. Shoot us a DM on Instagram or leave a comment/review on the podcast. We crave dialogue with our people (YOU!). 

XO,

Christin & Jo 

YA'LL. IT'S OUR 50TH EPISODE, BABEEEEE!

And today's guest is truly ICONIC...

As CEO of Dame Products, Alexandra Fine translates the nuances of our sexualities into human-friendly toys for sex. A lifelong student of sexual health, Fine earned her Masters in Clinical Psychology with a concentration in sex therapy from Columbia University. Realizing that her skills would be best put to use making concrete improvements to people’s lives, Fine began developing her own vibrators at home and asking friends to give her their feedback. She was gaining startup experience with an organic shampoo company and decided the time was right to put her passions and her business acumen to use in the world of sex toys. Over the past six years, Alexandra has led Dame’s team to sell over 150K products in retailers all over the world. Perhaps more importantly, she’s translated her role as CEO into one of a dedicated activist for women’s health, gender equity, and prioritizing pleasure, leading efforts to uncover sexism in the industry at every turn.

We talked to Alex for 2 hours straight - it was one of those conversations that just flowed and dipped and flipped with ease. We talk about her personal experience as a human who identifies as a Non-binary woman, motherhood, running a multi-million dollar sex toy empire, relationship fluidity, what we're all looking for in our dream #momsquad, and so much more. We split this convo up into 2 parts for easier digestion. Be sure you listen to both and don't miss our podcast post-mortem at the end of part 2.

XO,

Christin & Jo 

Links:

Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/afinehuman 

Shop Dame Products! Use our code 'NCPOD15 ' for a special discount! :)

https://www.dameproducts.com/ 

YA'LL. IT'S OUR 50TH EPISODE, BABEEEEE!

And today's guest is truly ICONIC...

As CEO of Dame Products, Alexandra Fine translates the nuances of our sexualities into human-friendly toys for sex. A lifelong student of sexual health, Fine earned her Masters in Clinical Psychology with a concentration in sex therapy from Columbia University. Realizing that her skills would be best put to use making concrete improvements to people’s lives, Fine began developing her own vibrators at home and asking friends to give her their feedback. She was gaining startup experience with an organic shampoo company and decided the time was right to put her passions and her business acumen to use in the world of sex toys. Over the past six years, Alexandra has led Dame’s team to sell over 150K products in retailers all over the world. Perhaps more importantly, she’s translated her role as CEO into one of a dedicated activist for women’s health, gender equity, and prioritizing pleasure, leading efforts to uncover sexism in the industry at every turn.

We talked to Alex for 2 hours straight - it was one of those conversations that just flowed and dipped and flipped with ease. We talk about her personal experience as a human who identifies as a Non-binary woman, motherhood, running a multi-million dollar sex toy empire, relationship fluidity, what we're all looking for in our dream #momsquad, and so much more. We split this convo up into 2 parts for easier digestion. Be sure you listen to both and don't miss our podcast post-mortem at the end of part 2.

XO,

Christin & Jo 

Links:

Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/afinehuman 

Shop Dame Products! Use our code 'NCPOD15' for a special discount! :)

https://www.dameproducts.com/ 

Today we're taking a deep dive into the rich and powerful topic of astrology. We're getting our charts read LIVE and learning how understanding the stars can shape our path, purpose, and relationships. 

Our guest of honor, Hannah Siddiqui, is a 22-year-old writer, educator, and spiritual coach from the sunny San Francisco Bay Area. Her purpose in life is to help people uncover their own spiritual power through utilizing the tools of manifestation, positive affirmations, and astrology. On her social media platforms she coins affirmations, horoscopes, and "real life" talks daily, inspiring thousands of people to turn inwards and begin to recognize their own power. As one fan notes, Hannah has cultivated a "welcoming and inclusive community," and has "helped people everywhere find their voice and confidence within themselves." Her career began at the tender age of 16 with the founding of The Road to Hannah, a lifestyle blog that quickly gained traction due to her "punk rock nature" and "no-filter attitude". After participating in national ad campaigns, collaborating with some of the world's most notable brands, and even giving a TEDx talk in 2017, she began to set her sights on photography (which she retired from in 2020) and has worked alongside the likes of Adidas, Facebook, Toyota, and more. As of 2019 she is also a certified meditation and breathwork instructor and teaches both online and in-person at Anchor Meditation in San Francisco, California. Hannah is also a recent graduate of the University of California, Berkeley, having studied Sociology and English Literature (Go Bears).

Links:

www.instagram.com/theroadtohannah 

www.tiktok.com/@theroadtohannah_ 

www.theroadtohannah.com  

Ann is a Vietnamese American Women’s Sexual Empowerment coach whose work centers on pleasure as a liberatory practice & fuel for personal empowerment. She teaches women how to love their bodies, to see sexuality as sacred, and how to channel orgasmic pleasure into better relationships, careers, leadership, and self-love. Through her coaching and online programs, she reconnects women to the power of their sexuality and facilitates deep transformation for sexual reclamation. Most of all - she’s here to make our modern-day sexual revolution fun & accessible to all <3

 Freebie: https://theannnguyen.mykajabi.com/freesensualradianceactivation

Current programs open: https://www.theannnguyen.com/workwithme

IG link:

www.instagram.com/theannnguyen  

Website:

www.theannnguyen.com 

Today we depart from our usual soft structure to include you in the MOMENTOUS OCCASION that is our 1 YEAR FRIENDAVERSARY! 

We're taking you back to the beginning of it all and divulging the most intimate details and inner-workings of our relationship. We're also keeping it festive with LIVE play of our favorite conversation game, "We're not really strangers". And trust us-it gets juicy! :-*

As per usual, we laugh, we cry, we GUSH. We hope you find value and/or entertainment in this episode...but if you don't, well, honestly? This one is mostly for US. 

XO,

Christin & Jo 

Today we're talking all things witchy moon magic, periods, cycle-syncing, the feminine mystique, matriarchal societies, and everything that branched off from there with our BFF, the BRILLIANT and fascinating Rachel Moranis. Who, NBD, totally created the hottest new period tracking app that we're both OBSESSED WITH, Stardust (now available on itunes)!

Are you a RED WITCH or a WHITE WITCH?! WE want to know!

Hitch your wagon to this star!

https://www.instagram.com/stardust/