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What if the biggest thing keeping you disconnected from your spouse isn’t about spending more time together or even putting in more effort? So many couples focus on what’s missing in their marriage, but what if the real secret to reconnecting is something completely different? In this episode, I’ll help you shift your mindset and show you a powerful way to start feeling closer to your spouse again—without forcing anything or twisting yourself into a pretzel.

Tune in to discover:

• Why feeling disconnected has more to do with how you see your spouse than what they’re actually doing

• How to stop your brain from only noticing the things they aren’t doing

• The subtle but powerful mindset shift that makes everything feel easier

• Why focusing on the proof of your spouse’s love can create a ripple effect of connection

• A simple challenge to help you start seeing your spouse in a new way—starting today

This episode will change how you think about connection in your marriage. Share it with a friend and don’t forget to send me your review of the podcast for my free gift to you to celebrate 200 episodes!

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Something sneaky is quietly eroding connection in so many marriages, and chances are, it’s happening in yours too. It’s not just the big fights or major betrayals. There’s something else that builds up over time, leaving you feeling frustrated, unseen, and disconnected. But here’s the good news—once you recognize it, you can clear it out and finally feel like you’re in this together again.

Tune in to discover:

• Something that happens all the time—intentionally or unintentionally—that creates disconnection (and what to do instead)

• Why missing your spouse’s bids for connection is more damaging than you think

• The shift that stops you from feeling like you’re carrying everything alone

• How to express what you need in a way that actually gets heard

• Simple strategies to replace resentment with real partnership and connection

FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets

Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie

Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: 

https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

The holidays can be an overwhelming time, especially for couples already feeling the strain of marriage shutdown. Many couples find themselves struggling even more during this season, and divorce filings spike right after the holidays for a reason. In this episode, I’ll share practical, research-backed strategies to help you avoid becoming part of that statistic, feel more connected to your spouse, and create the holiday season you truly want.

Tune in to discover:

• The staggering statistic about divorce after the holidays (and what it means for your marriage)

• Why holiday stress puts extra strain on marriages (and how to counteract it)

• How to avoid fights or de-escalate them before they spiral out of control

• The importance of clearly communicating your needs (and not assuming your spouse can read your mind)

• One simple question to ask yourself daily to ensure you’re staying aligned with what truly matters

• Why expert support can make all the difference when your marriage feels stuck

FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets

Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie

Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: 

https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Can our relationship really survive time apart from each other? Managing our day-to-day life on its own can be a challenge, but also remaining connected to our spouse while they’re away…it’s tough. And THRIVING in our marriage while apart... well, is that even possible?

I absolutely hate being separated from my spouse, but we have learned how to create positive and long-lasting benefits in our relationship during these times. We have core aspects of our relationship that we focus on every time we’re away from each other that not only keep us connected, but actually strengthen our relationship. Listen in to find out how! 

We’re exploring:

• How to get laser-focused on what your needs are in the relationship

• The one trap to avoid to prevent unhappiness while your spouse is away

• What factors are impacting your relationship negatively, even though they are often out of your control

• What you can do before approaching a difficult topic with your spouse to have the best outcome possible

• The key to having a successful conversation, even when you disagree

• Tips on what you can be doing to strengthen your marriage while your spouse is away

Celebrate this 100th episode with me! Two military spouses will be selected to access my new course for FREE when you join in! Click here for the details.   

Join the waitlist for my new course (coming VERY soon!), In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Curious about the #1 issue I work on with my coaching clients? I haven’t seen anyone else talking about this publicly, and yet it is something that can make the biggest difference between flourishing in your marriage or staying stuck (and having arguments over and over again).

In this episode, I am giving you the essential tools to get what you need from your spouse in the most productive and healthy way. Tune in if you are done with the criticizing and defensiveness from your spouse, and instead desire to listen openly to each other about issues, continue having conversations together, and create greater happiness in your marriage. 

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• The role of defensiveness in your marriage (and what defensiveness can lead to)

• What a “soft start-up” is and why this is crucial in any marriage to get results

• How to start difficult conversations with your spouse so they actually want to continue talking instead of getting defensive and critical

• Guidelines to follow when having these hard conversations

• What research says about the link between conflict discussions and divorce

• Specific examples of how to approach your spouse when experiencing marriage issues

Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

To be happy in your marriage, it’s incredibly important to first be happy yourself. In this episode, we demonstrate that our body health, mental health, and spiritual health, are all connected to our marriage. Listen for encouragement and ideas to incorporate healthier options into your day, even when it feels like there’s no extra time to focus on yourself.

Special guest Kristen Noriega is a registered dietician, nutritionist, military spouse, homeschooling work-from-home mom of 4, and essentially living proof that we can include good nutrition and movement even in the midst of chaos. Her goal is to empower busy moms and military spouses to feel their best NOW. 

We’re sharing:

• Kristen’s experience of trying to lose weight (and keep it off!) after having children

• The relationship between your health and your marriage

• Bite-sized health strategies to easily incorporate into your daily life

• How to maximize the hours in your day (and use pockets of time for your health)

• Tips for military spouses who want to start their health journey

• How to keep moving forward when you get off track

Connect with Kristen:

• Baby Weight Nutritionist Podcast

• Website

• Instagram

Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

I’ve been holding something back from you. Something that’s been on my heart for a while, but I didn’t know how to share it until now. As vulnerable as it is, I am opening up in this episode because I know I’m not the only one feeling this way.  

Step aside guilt and shame - I’m only allowing room for acceptance and validation of my opinions and feelings from now on.

In this episode, I’m sharing:

• What I am REALLY feeling these days (and why I refrained from sharing this until now)

• How to not make yourself wrong for what you are feeling (and what to do when you find yourself spiraling)

• The truth about unpopular opinions (and how to accept them)

• How to stay on the same team as your spouse (or in any relationship) even when you have different opinions

• The one question that will shift your focus toward marriage growth

Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Military life is hard enough, without the added layer of marriage problems too. 

I get how frustrating it is when there seems to be no solution to the problems you’re facing, or your spouse is not doing what you think they should be doing to solve those problems. But in this episode, I challenge you to look at marriage problems differently. 

If you feel like you have a lot of problems in your marriage or are often anxious about something in your relationship, you’ll want to tune into this episode. I have helped numerous couples make sure they are solving the RIGHT problem, which isn’t always what couples initially think it is. I want you to get comfortable looking at your marriage problems this way, so that you and your spouse can feel closer than ever before!

In this episode, you will hear:

• How to view problems in your marriage through a new lens

• Lots of examples to help you understand problems vs. tradeoffs and solidify why this is so important

• What solving the right problem looks like, no matter how strong your marriage is

• How to identify the goal of your arguments to create more understanding and connection

• One simple and effective tip to help you work on problems and increase joy in your marriage

• The secret to getting your spouse to be more vulnerable

Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

If you're looking for the secret ingredient to overcome the challenges and loneliness of military life, this episode is for you. Building resiliency is key as a military spouse to identifying your needs, finding your community, and tapping into needed available resources. 

Joining me in this episode is Manda McVey, a resilience and wellness coach and community building expert. We share ways to feel more included and understood in your community, as well as what you can do when loneliness and unhappiness creep in (especially when moving somewhere new). Don’t miss out on hearing Manda’s inspiring stories as a military spouse and how she makes this lifestyle work for her when challenges arise. 

In this episode, you will hear:

• The difficulties of finding your community as a “late career” spouse

• Manda’s ultimate dream of sharing resources with other military spouses

• What she recommends for building community, no matter how long or little you are in any installation

• Our challenge to you if you feel like you already have enough friends and don’t need any more

• What to expect when moving somewhere new (and what can motivate you to get connected!)

Connect with Manda:

• Website: https://www.thehealitaryspouse.com/

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thehealitaryspouse

Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Feeling a bit more like roommates rather than lovers these days? 

We’re bringing the heat and getting spicy in this episode! I’m sharing my version of what leads to long-term happiness and how to maximize the time you spend with your spouse, whether at home or away, regardless of how busy your schedules are. Step out of your regularly scheduled routine and breathe fresh air into your relationship, starting today. 

In this episode, I’m exploring:

• The key to bringing more fun into your relationship

• What a recent study shares in the correlation between chores and sex

• Two small yet effective things you can do physically to improve your relationship now

• One way to bring back those early lovey-dovey feelings in your relationship

• How to become a calm space for each other (and bond deeper as a team)

• Why planning for spicy moments is so important in long-lasting marriages

Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869