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Love and Abuse
Paul Colaianni: Relationship and Emotional Abuse Expert
Frequency: 1 episode/15d. Total Eps: 179

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Don't gaslight yourself into thinking you're the abuser
Episode 155
lundi 17 novembre 2025 • Duration 01:09:14
The emotionally abusive relationship is confusing and draining. If you don't get a grip on what's going on, you may start to believe perhaps you are the problem and they are a saint. Let's fix that faulty thinking.
The feelings of guilt and shame after leaving the abusive person
Episode 154
jeudi 6 novembre 2025 • Duration 33:29
If you've ever questioned how to forgive yourself for choosing your own well-being over an abusive partner, you're not alone. If you're feeling guilt or shame for leaving an abusive person, this is an important episode to listen to.
The love of my life is the abuser in my life
Episode 145
lundi 7 juillet 2025 • Duration 40:36
Love can feel like a double-edged sword, cutting deep despite the tender moments. Or is that really love? Caring and kindness mixed with toxic, controlling behaviors create a dangerous emotional cocktail of bonding and trauma.
How incompatibility can lead to hurtful and emotionally abusive behavior
Episode 55
samedi 18 juillet 2020 • Duration 30:33
Simple incompatibilities are common in relationships, but what happens when they lead to emotionally abusive behavior? In this episode, I talk about the potential for hurtful and controlling behavior from someone who may not be able to accept your incompatibilities. They don't want you to be you, they want you to be an extension of them.
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Breaking the patterns of bad behavior that diminish your worth and well-being
Episode 54
mercredi 1 juillet 2020 • Duration 28:43
Every now and then someone you care about makes a mistake and says or does something to make you feel bad. These one-offs are forgivable. They could be having a bad day or perhaps they just had a lot of pent up energy they needed to release and you were just an unlucky target. But what about when bad behaviors are repeated over and over again? You could be looking at an emotionally abusive relationship and it might be time to take a stand for your own worth and well-being.
Visit https://loveandabuse.com/ for more episodes and The M.E.A.N. Workbook on manipulation and emotional abuse
Not everyone is going to agree with the decisions you make for yourself
Episode 53
jeudi 25 juin 2020 • Duration 42:36
What happens when you create a show about abusive behavior? You hear from people that aren't happy that they are being called out on that behavior. On today's episode, I read a letter from someone that thinks I'm dangerous and should find other things to do with my time. This is a special episode for both the abuser and the victim.
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Toxic relationships can disintegrate your strength and confidence, but you can get it back
Episode 52
mardi 16 juin 2020 • Duration 24:32
When the toxic relationship has worn you down and taken away your ability to even think clearly, let alone chiseled away at any confidence and mental strength you had left, it's time to pivot your trajectory to rebuild yourself and make healthy decisions.
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I want you to change: The toxic elements of the difficult relationship
Episode 51
jeudi 4 juin 2020 • Duration 39:18
We can spend so much time hoping the other person will change so that our life will be better, but we end up missing out on a lot of time that could be spent doing what we need to do for ourselves. In this episode, I talk about the elements that make up the emotionally abusive relationship and how knowing both sides, the victim and the abuser, can be helpful to determine the path you need to take for yourself.
Visit https://loveandabuse.com/ for more episodes and The M.E.A.N. Workbook on manipulation and emotional abuse
Emotional abuse drains you and makes you believe terrible things about yourself
Episode 50
vendredi 22 mai 2020 • Duration 31:18
There is a direct cause and effect when you are exposed to manipulative and controlling behavior. It can take a physical toll on you and cause you to believe things about yourself that simply aren't true. In this episode, I read a message from someone who got out of a twenty-year emotionally abusive marriage to discover his health and well-being suddenly increase.
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You don't have to forgive the person that hurt you
Episode 49
jeudi 7 mai 2020 • Duration 22:10
If someone hurt you, abused you, or wronged you in some way and you're still holding on to upset or anger toward them, how can you let it go and heal? There are some people in the world that we don't want to forgive, but we also don't want to hold on to anger or pain because of what they did. That is the topic of today's episode.
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