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You have pyrobably heard it your whole life: "You're too sensitive." If you feel things deeply, get overwhelmed easily, and notice every detail of everything, you might be wondering why you process the world with such extraordinary depth. Today we explore what it actually means to be a Highl Sensitive Person (HSP) and why it is a neurophysiological trait rather than a stress response.

Muriel Kosovsky is a business owner and coach who has worked internationally for over two decades as a teacher, senior leader, and mentor to support highly sensitive leaders and contributors navigating the workplace. She's the author of the forthcoming book, HSPedia,  a comprehensive blueprint for highly sensitive people. 

 

In this episode, Jay and Muriel Kosovsky discuss:

► The four levels of sensitivity that can be activated in highly sensitive people

► Why many HSPs struggle at work—and the kinds of support that actually help

► The non-negotiable qualities HSPs need for relationships to be sustainable and healthy

► The surprising variant of HSP that craves intensity, adventure, and even danger

► The one quality successful HSPs tend to organize their lives around

 

Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Highly Sensitive People (HSP) and Personal Journeys
03:02 Understanding the HSP Trait and Its Impact
05:51 Strategies for Managing Sensitivity in Daily Life
09:10 Identifying HSP Traits and Characteristics
11:47 The Connection Between HSP and High Sensation Seeking
14:58 Navigating Life as a Highly Sensitive Person
17:56 Ambition and Drive in Highly Sensitive Individuals
24:07 The Ambition and Drive of Highly Sensitive People
27:00 Challenges in Professional Relationships for HSPs
30:37 Navigating Power Dynamics in Relationships
33:16 The Importance of Non-Judgmental Relationships
36:40 Lessons Learned as a Highly Sensitive Person
39:39 Introducing HSPedia: A Resource for HSPs
45:47 Practices for Staying Grounded as an HSP

Learn more about Muriel Kosovsky
► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/murielkosovsky/
► Book waitlist and newsletter: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe9ByfcCz2jio8OxKhzWI68LxxfGKr6w3QUEXLUbQ2Fey1jFw/viewform

 

If you loved this episode, please help get it to others by subscribing, rating the show, or sharing it with a friend! You can learn more about how to support Jay's work and the show at https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields

 

Stay connected with Jay

► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com
► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/
► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B
► Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching
► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

Have a question for the podcast? Send it in — it may be featured in a future episode.

 

Credits

This podcast was produced by Viv – First Click VA.
For podcast support, contact: viv@firstclickva.com
For collaborations or general inquiries, contact: hello@jaymoonfields.com

Original Music produced by Dalton Grant

 

Lily Shepard walks (and dances) her talk. She's a trauma-informed movement educator and somatic stress relief practitioner who teaches women how to live and lead from their bodies, not just their heads or conditioning. We discuss what happens when you realise you have been taught to perform as a person, and how to transition from performing your life to actually living it. Discover practical tools for learning how to use your body as an ally, overcoming being fragmented by the different roles you play, and claiming your birthright to pleasure.

In this episode, Jay and Lily discuss:
► Why real power isn't a perfect performance and how movement aids self-expression and healing
► How exhausting it is to negotiate your presence in multiple roles and how to move fluidly between them
► Practical exercises for arriving, grounding yourself when entering a room, and staying present
► Why optimising life can kill pleasure, and why it's about small daily moments rather than Instagram-worthy experiences
► How to avoid becoming the sum total of the expectations of everyone around you

 

Chapters

00:00 - Embodiment and Movement: A Personal Journey

10:05 - The Shift from Performance to Healing

20:11 - Navigating Fragmentation in Roles

30:03 - Creating Rituals for Transition and Presence

36:41 - Embodiment and Accessibility

47:44 - The Pleasure Principles and Ongoing Journey

 

Learn more about Lily Shepard

► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bodyintelligence_academy
► Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lily-shepard/
► Lily is giving away 3 free copies of her audio book Pleasure Principles for Driven Women to the first 3 people who reach out to her on IG or through email.

 

If you loved this episode, please help get it to others by subscribing, rating the show, or sharing it with a friend! You can learn more about how to support Jay's work and the show at https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields

 

Stay connected with Jay

► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com
► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/
► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B
► Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching
► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

Have a question or suggestion for the podcast? Send it in — it may be featured in a future episode.

 

Credits

This podcast was produced by Viv – First Click VA.
For podcast support, contact: viv@firstclickva.com
For collaborations or general inquiries, contact: hello@jaymoonfields.com

Original Music produced by Dalton Grant

Betrayal is a uniquely painful human experience that can shatter your sense of self, your health, and your ability to trust. What if there was a predictable path to move through the devastation and emerge stronger on the other side?​

Imagine turning your deepest personal pain into a mission to heal others. That is exactly what today's guest, Dr. Debi Silber, did. After experiencing life-altering betrayals, she embarked on a PhD to study the topic, uncovering three groundbreaking discoveries about how we can heal and transform. Dr. Silber found that while you can't count on time to heal the wounds of betrayal, there is a proven, research-based roadmap to move from breakdown to breakthrough.​

Dr. Silber is the founder and CEO of The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and a leading expert on healing from betrayal. In this conversation, she and Jay explore the science and soul of recovery, including why this particular type of trauma requires a different approach.​

In this episode, Dr. Silber discusses:
► Her personal story of betrayal and what led her to research the topic.​
► Post-Betrayal Syndrome and its common physical, mental, and emotional symptoms.​
► The five predictable stages of healing from betrayal, and how to know if you are stuck.​
► Why it's possible to not only heal but to become a new, transformed version of yourself.​

To learn more about Dr. Debi Silber and her work, visit her company's website at https://thepbtinstitute.com.

Connect with Dr. Debi Silber:
► Official Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com
► Podcast: https://thepbtinstitute.com/podcast/
► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/
► TEDx Talk, "Do You Have Post Betrayal Syndrome?": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iyqOR69dHiU
► Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform
► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/

 

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Use code "heywait" at checkout to get 15% off your order!

And to stay connected with Jay, head over to https://jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode.

Connect with Jay:
► Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/
► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/
► (Book) less lost: finding and being yourself in the wilds of ordinary life https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B/ref=sr_1_1?crid=221PWAS0W0ZLC&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.-eRJFgQB4PnBUu9EFA5KH0qjLkBb0WOaS_HjQyUF2kw.CNtBvCKk6A0VuF_beHrhgWISjOophnXc2zr577YZlOk&dib_tag=se&keywords=less+lost+jay+fields&qid=1759192701&sprefix=less+lost%2Caps%2C181&sr=8-1
► "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching
► Jay Moon Fields' Books Less Lost and Teaching People Not Poses on Amazon
► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

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Do you ever feel like you're dating the same person in a different body, repeating the same painful relationship patterns over and over? Many of us search for a love that completes us, only to find we've lost ourselves in the process. This cycle of relating is more common than you think, and it has a name: love addiction.

That is what today's guest, Jodi White, is here to unpack. Jodi is a licensed therapist, coach, and podcaster specializing in codependence and love addiction. Drawing on her professional training and her personal recovery after a 25-year struggle, she helps clients heal relationship patterns rooted in childhood trauma and cultural conditioning.

For both Jay and Jodi, a huge "Hey, Wait" moment was the realization that these patterns weren't about love, but about a process addiction. It's an addiction to seeking the safety and validation externally that we needed to develop internally. Understanding this is a powerful first step toward breaking the cycle and building a fulfilling relationship with yourself and others.

In this episode, Jodi talks about:
►  The difference between codependence and love addiction.
►  The three core symptoms of a love addict.
►  How cultural messages and childhood experiences create these patterns.
►  What the recovery process looks like and how to start healing.

To learn more about Jodi White, visit her website or listen to her podcast, Journals of a Love Addict.

Connect with Jodi White:
►  Official Website: https://www.jodiwhiteonline.com/
►  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jodiwhite_
►  Podcast: Journals of a Love Addict

 

Saint Solaire Skincare--the absolute best sunblock for your face. It's healthy for you, and healthy for the planet. https://saintsolaireskincare.com/
Use code "heywait" at checkout to get 15% off your order!

 

And to stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode.

Connect with Jay:
► Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/
► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/
► (Book) less lost: finding and being yourself in the wilds of ordinary life https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B/ref=sr_1_1?crid=221PWAS0W0ZLC&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.-eRJFgQB4PnBUu9EFA5KH0qjLkBb0WOaS_HjQyUF2kw.CNtBvCKk6A0VuF_beHrhgWISjOophnXc2zr577YZlOk&dib_tag=se&keywords=less+lost+jay+fields&qid=1759192701&sprefix=less+lost%2Caps%2C181&sr=8-1
► "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching
► Jay Moon Fields' Books Less Lost and Teaching People Not Poses on Amazon
► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

This podcast was produced by Scufd Studio Pvt. Ltd. For permissions, inquiries, or collaboration, please contact hello@scufdstudio.com 

Is your relationship with work your most unhealthy one? In a culture that prioritizes constant production and consumption, it's easy to feel like you're just a cog in a machine, disconnected from your own vitality and purpose. The pressure to hustle is relentless, and the system can feel impossible to escape.

What if the antidote isn't working harder, but divesting from that system altogether? That is the question today's guest, Megan Leatherman, helps us explore. Megan is an anticapitalist teacher, writer, and vocational guide who teaches people how to "compost capitalism" by reconnecting to the land, the seasons, and their own inner knowing.

For both Jay and Megan, the realization that our lives and bodies are not meant to operate like machines was a huge "Hey, Wait" moment. They discuss how capitalism is both powerful and precarious, and how small, gentle acts of rebellion, like watching the sunset or paying attention to the seasons, can help us reclaim our life force.

In this episode, Megan talks about:

► What it means to "compost capitalism" and live an anti-capitalist life.​
► How to find your true vocation when you feel trapped by the need to earn a wage.​
► Using the wisdom of the seasons, especially autumn, to practice letting go.​
► Simple, accessible ways to reconnect with the land, even if you live in a city.​

Connect with Megan Leatherman:

►  Website: https://awildnewwork.com/
►  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/awildnewwork/
► Podcast: A Wild New Work https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-wild-new-work/id1437555777

And to stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode.

Connect with Jay:

► Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/
► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/
► (Book) less lost: finding and being yourself in the wilds of ordinary life https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B/ref=sr_1_1?crid=221PWAS0W0ZLC&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.-eRJFgQB4PnBUu9EFA5KH0qjLkBb0WOaS_HjQyUF2kw.CNtBvCKk6A0VuF_beHrhgWISjOophnXc2zr577YZlOk&dib_tag=se&keywords=less+lost+jay+fields&qid=1759192701&sprefix=less+lost%2Caps%2C181&sr=8-1
► "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching
► Jay Moon Fields' Books: Less Lost and Teaching People, Not Poses on Amazon
► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

This podcast was produced by Scufd Studio Pvt. Ltd. For permissions, inquiries, or collaboration, please contact hello@scufdstudio.com

Have you ever felt like an imposter, terrified of being "found out" as unqualified, despite your successes? What if the key to overcoming that fear wasn't to "get it together," but to get radically honest and build your own unique toolkit for mental fitness?

You may know Stephanie Szostak from her roles in hit films and shows like The Devil Wears Prada, Iron Man 3, and A Million Little Things. But behind the Hollywood success was a decade-long struggle with imposter syndrome that came to a head after she landed her first lead role. Paralyzed by fear and self-criticism, she realized the only way forward was to stop trying to be who she thought she should be and start building a practice to reconnect with herself.

That is the "Hey, Wait" moment that led Stephanie to create her "Personal Playbook," a daily practice of mental fitness that became the foundation for her book, Self!sh. It's a powerful tool for anyone who wants to move from self-doubt to self-discovery and live with more confidence, joy, and meaning.

In this episode, Stephanie talks about:
► Her journey from the corporate world at Chanel to pursuing acting at age 29.
► The powerful story of how she overcame debilitating imposter syndrome.
► The "Personal Playbook": what it is and how to create your own.
► Finding your "glimmers" and why being "selfish" is essential for your wellbeing.
► What she learned about tough love from playing a real-life mother in her new film, Soul on Fire.

To learn more about Stephanie's work, visit her websites and check out her book, "Self!sh: Step Into a Journey of Self-Discovery to Revive Confidence, Joy, and Meaning."

And to stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode.

Connect with Stephanie Szostak:

► Official Website: https://www.stephanieszostak.me
► Playbook Website: https://selfishplaybook.com
► Book (Self!sh): https://stephanieszostak.me/selfish/
► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stephshortstak
► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephanie-szostak-86556b213/

Connect with Jay:

► Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/
► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/

► (Book) less lost: finding and being yourself in the wilds of ordinary life https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B/ref=sr_1_1?crid=221PWAS0W0ZLC&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.-eRJFgQB4PnBUu9EFA5KH0qjLkBb0WOaS_HjQyUF2kw.CNtBvCKk6A0VuF_beHrhgWISjOophnXc2zr577YZlOk&dib_tag=se&keywords=less+lost+jay+fields&qid=1759192701&sprefix=less+lost%2Caps%2C181&sr=8-1

► "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching
► Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/
► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

What happens when your job becomes your entire identity? For many high-achievers, the line between a strong work ethic and a work addiction can become blurry, leading to burnout and a disconnect from what truly matters.

Imagine building your identity around being "good at work" since elementary school, only to realize that the success you chased left you feeling empty and anxious. This was the reality for today's guest, Kyle Elliott. He turned his personal struggle with work addiction and mental health into a powerful mission as a trauma-informed coach, helping people navigate their careers with authenticity and intention.

Kyle's journey from workaholic to finding a balanced, value-driven life was his "Hey, Wait" moment. He discovered that true success isn't just about performance, but about aligning your work with your most authentic--most fabulous--self.

In this episode, Kyle talks about:
► His personal story of work addiction and the "aha" moment that changed everything.
► What it means to be a trauma-informed career coach and how trauma can show up in our work.
► How to define and practice authenticity in the workplace without compromising your well-being.
► Actionable tools to find career clarity and manage stress, including his "Next Job Manifestation Guide."

To learn more about Kyle Elliott, visit his website at https://caffeinatedkyle.com

To get free actionable tools for your career, visit https://caffeinatedkyle.com/freebies/

And to stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode.

Connect with Kyle Elliott:
► Official Website: https://caffeinatedkyle.com/
► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/caffeinatedkyle/
► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kylecromerelliott/

Connect with Jay:
► Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/
► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/
► "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching
► Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/
► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

Aging is part of the human experience, but as our bodies change, so must our approach and mindset toward caring for them.

Imagine going from being an elite athlete and coach to Olympic track and field athletes, to barely being able to move only a few years later. When you have spent your 20s identifying as strong, physical, and healthy, losing the ability to move freely can feel like a devastating loss.

That is exactly what today's guest, Coach Ashley Selman, experienced. After having a hip replacement and going into perimenopause in her early 40's, her body began to take a turn. She needed to find a solution and eventually discovered BFR, or Blood Flow Restriction training.

BFR is something both Jay and Coach Selman have in common, and discovering it was a huge "Hey, Wait" moment for them both. It's a powerful tool not only for women navigating menopause, but for anyone with an aging body.

In this episode, Ashley talks about:

• Her path toward becoming a coach

• Blood Flow Restriction: what it is and how it works

• Women losing muscle mass sooner than men due to Human Growth Hormone
  
  

To learn more about Coach Seli and BFR, visit her company's website at selishttps://www.selistrength.com/#via=heywait

To sign up for the Hey, Wait cohort for BFR training, visit https://www.selistrength.com/#via=heywait 

And to stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode.

Connect with Coach Ashley Selman:

 

• Official Training Website:https://www.selistrength.com/#via=heywait 

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/selistrength

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ashley-selman 

Connect with Jay:

 

• Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ 

• "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching

• Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields

Why is it so hard for so many of us… to simply be ourselves?

No one becomes a Somatic Healing Coach by accident. Learning to connect with what you feel on the inside doesn't always come easily. For Jay, that realization began after one of the most painful experiences of her young life, separating from her first husband.

In this very special and illuminating episode of the Hey, Wait Podcast, Jay sits down with former guest Sara Rusbatch, who turns the tables by interviewing Jay about her own life experiences. Together they trace the moments of trauma and transformation that shaped Jay into the person, author, coach, and educator she is today.

In this episode, Jay talks about:

• Her childhood and feeling disconnected with her inside
• Getting married young and experiencing separation and divorce
• The value in working one-on-one with clients vs. corporate
• Her mission & her legacy
  
  

To stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode.

Connect with Jay:

 

• Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ 
• "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching
• Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields

Connect with Sarah Rusbatch:

 

• Official Website: https://sarahrusbatch.com/
• Sarah's Book, "Beyond Booze": https://sarahrusbatch.com/beyond-booze
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrusbatch/
• "The Women's Wellbeing Collective" on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/342319476897067/ 
• Sarah's FREE Guide, "100 Things to Do Instead of Drinking": https://sarahrusbatch.com/free-guide-100-things-to-do-instead-of-drinking 

The world may try to tell you otherwise, but you have the sovereignty to choose the kind of life you want to live.

When we think of improv, we often picture shows like Whose Line Is It Anyway? or Saturday Night Live. While improvisation on TV can be incredibly entertaining, choosing to improvise in life by saying "yes, and…" can move you away from the scripted path others expect and toward a life that truly feels right for you.

In today's episode, author, artist, entrepreneur, and improviser Amanda Hirsch joins Jay for an inspiring off-the-cuff conversation. Amanda shares her story of reclaiming her own life and offers practical tips and exercises you can start using today. Together, they explore how asking "why?" (or "Hey, wait") and making a "new choice" can better align your desires, passions, and energy.

In this episode, Amanda talks about:

• Choosing a different life path than the scripted one in front of you
• Daring to ask "Why?"... Sometimes more than once
• Noticing what is a "yes" and what is a "no"
• Making a "new choice" beyond the practical and obvious

To learn more about Amanda's book, "Improvising Adulthood" visit her website at amandahirsch.com/improvising-adulthood 

And to stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode.

 

Connect with Amanda Hirsch:

• Personal Website: https://www.amandahirsch.com/
• "Improvising Adulthood" Book: https://www.amandahirsch.com/improvising-adulthood 
• "Mighty Forces" Company Website: https://www.mightyforces.co/ 
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mightyforcesamanda 
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amandahirsch 

Connect with Jay:

 

• Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ 
• "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching
• Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields