Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After Betrayal – Details, episodes & analysis

In this encore episode, I sit down with Lauren, a former client who bravely shares her journey through discovering decades of hidden infidelity and the powerful transformation that followed. What began as a devastating revelation ultimately became a catalyst for profound personal growth, courage, and rebuilding a life on her own terms.

Lauren opens up about the moment she uncovered the truth about her husband's long history of betrayal and how she navigated the emotional shock, grief, and fear that followed. She shares the pivotal role that trusting her intuition, facing painful truths, and envisioning new possibilities played in helping her move forward.

Together we talk about the importance of reclaiming your voice, creating a plan for your future, and refusing to settle for a life that keeps you small. Lauren's story is a powerful reminder that even after deep betrayal, it is possible to rebuild a life filled with peace, confidence, and purpose.

If you are navigating infidelity or questioning what comes next in your life, this episode will remind you that your future is still yours to create.

In this episode, we cover:

• Your body often knows the truth before your mind is ready to accept it
• Healing requires feeling the pain rather than avoiding it
• Creating a vision for your future opens the door to new possibilities
• You deserve a life filled with peace, joy, and self-respect

If you're ready to reclaim your life after infidelity, I invite you to reach out and explore how we can work together.

More from me:

• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles

In this encore episode, I sit down with relationship and infidelity coach Luke Schillings to talk openly about betrayal from a man's perspective. Luke shares his experience of discovering his wife's affair, navigating divorce, co-parenting through heartbreak, and ultimately rebuilding his life from the inside out.

We talk about the shock of confirmation, the unexpected relief of knowing you weren't "crazy," the struggle with resentment when children are involved, and the powerful shift that happens when you focus on what you can control instead of what you can't. Luke shares how journaling, forgiveness, and personal responsibility became the turning points in his healing.

Most importantly, this conversation is about resilience — and hope.

In this episode, we cover:

• Why confirmation can bring relief after suspicion
• How to identify what you can and cannot control
• The role forgiveness plays in your own healing
• Why putting yourself first actually serves your children
• How resilience is built one decision at a time

If this episode resonates with you, I invite you to reach out. You do not have to navigate betrayal alone.

Luke's Info:

• Website: https://www.lifecoachluke.com/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mylifecoachluke
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mylifecoachluke/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mylifecoachluke/
• After the Affair Podcast on Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/after-the-affair/id1648061200

More from me:

• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes!

For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/

© 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles

In this encore episode, I'm teaching you how to make decisions with clarity, confidence, and self-trust — especially when the stakes feel high and the fear of "getting it wrong" feels paralyzing. If you've ever second-guessed yourself, stayed stuck in indecision, or looked outside yourself for answers you already have, this conversation is for you.

I walk you through a simple three-step decision-making process: exploring your options, deciding deliberately, and then committing — again and again — even when your brain wants to panic or pull you backward. I explain why indecision often feels safer to our brains, how to recognize when fear is driving your choices, and how to reconnect with your wise, grounded self so you can move forward with intention.

I also share personal examples, including one of the hardest decisions of my life, and how learning to trust myself changed everything. You don't need perfect certainty to decide — you just need self-honesty and the willingness to follow through.

Key takeaways:

• Indecision keeps you stuck, even when it feels safer
• You can learn to trust your own judgment again
• Commitment builds confidence over time
• Cast Not Away Therefore Your Confidence by Jeffrey R. Holland: https://youtu.be/pCSs4f9DlVM?si=OihbR5qlp-5c1Nky

If you're facing a decision right now and feel overwhelmed or unsure, reach out. Schedule a call with me so we can talk about you joining the small cohort of my January group. https://calendly.com/andreagilescoaching/get-your-life-back

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More from me:

• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

Do you struggle with people-pleasing? Is it getting in the way of making clear decisions for yourself in the after-math of infidelity?

In this 2-part series, Andrea and Sara Fisk talk all things people-pleasing. You will learn:

• How we are all deeply wired to people-please
• How it is likely affecting you post-infidelity to people-please
• How taking responsibility for our own growth (and letting go of people-pleasing) is crucial to healing

Sara Bybee Fisk is a Master Certified Coach and Instructor who teaches women how to tame the rampant people-pleasing, perfectionism and codependency that is causing them so much frustration and resentment. She is an anxious optimist and born again feminist who listens to more books than she actually sits down to read. She loves a good hike, good dark chocolate and good conversations. Her big dreams include learning to sail and to sing and dance like JLo and helping thousands of women create the big, juicy lives they want to be living. She is a wife and mom of 5 and she enjoys those roles most of the time.

To learn more from Andrea, be sure to join her email list at: https://andreagiles.com/lies-about-infidelity/

To learn more about working with Andrea, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/

Follow Andrea on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you!

For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/

© 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

In this episode, I interview a former client, Lauren. Be prepared for an episode you will go back to again and again as there were so many gems and truths in her words.

Lauren not only shares in depth her personal story with her spouse's infidelity, but she shares her journey of coming back to herself after years of feeling like she wasn't enough.

I guarantee you will relate to many of the things she shares, and feel inspired by how she has taken charge of her own life to make it something beautiful.

To learn more from me, be sure to join email list at: https://andreagiles.com/lies-about-infidelity/

To learn more about working with me, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/

Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you!

For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/

© 2020 - 2023 Andrea Giles

How do you define healing?

If you think it means never hurting again, you can be setting yourself up for even more pain in the future.

In this episode, I cover various ways we can sabotage our own healing, and clearly define what it actually means.

You will also learn how to evaluate how far you have come, and what to be focusing on next.

When we learn to change our expectations, everything feels less urgent, there is less pressure, and we grow our capacity to hold space for ourselves.

To learn more from me, be sure to join email list at: https://andreagiles.com/lies-about-infidelity/

To learn more about working with me, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/

Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you!

For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/

© 2020 - 2023 Andrea Giles

After infidelity, it is easy to fall into the trap of trying to take control of the healing and recovery of your partner.

In this episode, you will learn why this is not a healthy, long-term solution and what to try instead.

We will cover:

• Differences between men and women and why our healing looks different
• Why learning to create more internal safety will get you the best results
• Why trying to control our spouse often back-fires

If you want help navigating the aftermath of infidelity, don't miss this one!

To learn more from me, be sure to join email list at: https://andreagiles.com/lies-about-infidelity/

To learn more about working with me, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/

Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you!

For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/

© 2020 - 2023 Andrea Giles

Sometimes we can use popular opinion against ourselves. We can listen to the opinions of others, rather than deeply searching our own hearts for what is true.

In this episode, I use a powerful analogy to teach you how to do your own "investigating" into what is true, beyond what outside sources may tell you.

You will learn how to see the full scope of your situation, rather than focusing only on the things that feel the biggest or scariest.

When we learn to get a broader view, we make more informed decisions that become easier to back up over time.

To learn more from me, be sure to join email list at: https://andreagiles.com/lies-about-infidelity/

To learn more about working with me, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/

Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you!

For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/

© 2020 - 2023 Andrea Giles

Romantic infidelity and financial infidelity often go hand in hand. Money is frequently spent on the affair partner, and in high-control relationships, spouses can feel like they have no say about where the money goes.

In this episode, guest Tracy Coenen and I discuss:

• Hidden money
• Financial rights for stay-at-home moms
• Divorce settlements
• Financial options, even if you are staying married

Tracy has been investigating fraud for more than 25 years, but she didn't always want to be a forensic accountant. With a dream of one day being a prison warden, Tracy went to Marquette University in Milwaukee, WI to get a criminology degree. A class on financial crime investigations reminded her how much she loved Encyclopedia Brown books as a kid. She continued her criminology degree but added accounting and economics courses so she could become a CPA ... and here Tracy is, finding money in cases of corporate fraud, high net worth divorce, and other financial shenanigans.

Learn more from Tracy at: https://www.fraudcoach.com/infidelity

To learn more from me, be sure to join email list at: https://andreagiles.com/lies-about-infidelity/

Infidelity is one of the few things that can change everything, forever. There is no going back.

How we deal with the "after" in infidelity is crucial. It presents an opportunity to change old patterns, learn new ways of being, and new ways to interact with one another.

In this episode, you'll learn how changing up the old patterns will serve you, whether you stay with your current spouse or not. You'll understand why the only way forward is if both partners commit to being vulnerable, clumsy and to putting their best foot forward.

Register for the free class, "How to Get Your Life Back After Infidelity."

To learn more from me, be sure to join email list at: https://andreagiles.com/lies-about-infidelity/

Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you!

For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/

© 2020 - 2023 Andrea Giles