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LITTLE MISS BEE IS LIVING A DOUBLE LIFE.

By day, she’s a high-powered working professional proudly shattering glass ceilings and climbing the corporate ladder. But off the clock, she’s a kink-positive, active member of the rope bondage community. 

In the final episode of the 3rd season of the GETSOME Podcast, we discuss personal authority, self-acceptance, and keeping it kinky. Our guest, Little Miss Bee, manages to keep her professional and personal worlds completely separate without losing touch with either side of herself. Ultimately, her openness and experiences give us the space to reflect on our own desires and boundaries, helping us find a path towards our own sexual, personal, and professional empowerment.

Show Notes:

• [00:00:30] Little Miss Bee describes her very clear sense of direction and openness to various sexual and non-sexual experiences. 
• [00:01:00] The dichotomy of Little Miss Bee's life: a professional by day, exploring her deepest desires by night.
• [00:03:00] Discusses the importance of consent and boundaries within the kink community, emphasizing her role as both a top and a bottom.
• [00:05:00] Little Miss Bee's passion for rope bondage, known as Shibari, and her journey from being tied to becoming a rigger.
• [00:10:00] Talks about seeking connections that go beyond physical interactions, aiming for a deeper, more meaningful connections.
• [00:15:00] Little Miss Bee reflects on her sexual evolution from a "desirous, sex-positive teenager" to  moving slower, taking in the sensuality of it all.
• [00:20:00] The challenges of maintaining non-monogamy, dealing with societal expectations, and the joys of living authentically.
• [00:25:00] The allure and etiquette of sex parties, describing them as spaces where consent and hedonistic desires meet.
• [00:30:00] A perplexing moment when Little Miss Bee confronted prejudice  while revealing her open relationship status.

Imagine being stuck in the “in betweens” of your sexuality.

You’re not “gay enough,” but you’re not “straight enough.” Your sexuality is constantly oversimplified, or oversexualized. You’re stuck wondering… “Am I bisexual enough???”

Though that may not be the reality for all bisexual men, it certainly is a struggle that a lot of people face. Our guest on today’s episode, West, is a bisexual man who learned to embrace his sexuality and accept that he is “enough” exactly as he is. 

In his young adulthood, West thought his bisexuality might just be youthful curiosity. But, as his life continued to progress and West continued to mature, he came to realize that his sexuality wasn’t a “phase” or “curiosity.” It was who he was. His journey to this discovery was filled with societal pressures, self-doubt, and uncertainty. But ultimately, West found acceptance, pleasure, and confidence in his sexual identity. 

If you have any questions, thoughts, or stories to share after listening to this episode, I’d love to hear from you. Michelle@GETSOME.ca

Show Notes

• [00:00:00] West recounts a story of a dating app match that missed reading his bisexual identity listed on the profile and her reaction once finding out.
• [00:00:32] Discussion about the common challenges faced by bisexual individuals.
• [00:01:05] West reflects on his journey of self-discovery and the stigma associated with his sexuality.
• [00:02:03] Content Warning - Trigger warning for a discussion about sexual abuse.
• [00:03:14]West shares insights into how he recognized his attraction to both sexes early in his life.
• [00:06:08] Impact of Abuse - A candid discussion about how the impact of sexual abuse complicated his bisexual journey.
• [00:08:00] West discussed societal expectations and how they impacted his bisexuality.
• [00:8:04] Unlearning Sexual Shame Module awareness segment.
• [00:09:25] West discusses how his past experiences influenced his views on consensual sexual relationships.
• [00:17:30] The dating scene and challenges and observations from West’s experiences with online dating as a bisexual man.
• [00:21:01] West shares his approach to online dating as a bisexual man and how his focus on honesty and self-acceptance gets quality matches.

Guest: West

Host: Certified Sex Therapist Michelle Fischler

Production: Katie Jensen at Vocal Fry Studios

Listener Note:

• This episode contains discussions about sexual abuse that may be triggering for some listeners. Please take care while listening.

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Ever found yourself on a date, debating between leaving on a high or just gritting your teeth to the finish? In this episode, we're uncovering the art of gracefully wrapping up dates, with a spotlight on our comfort and safety. Let's navigate the intricacies of those initial encounters. Eager to dive deep? Let's get rolling!

Show Notes 

[00:00:00] - Introduction

• Ending dates and the decision to leave.

[00:00:30] - Slowing down the intimacy of a date 

• The importance of not rushing into physical intimacy.

[00:00:43] - Ending the Date with Kindness

• Strategies for ending the date while respecting personal boundaries.

[00:01:20] - Pre-Date Communication

• Setting time limits beforehand.
• Suggestions for limited-duration activities.
• Why bad dates feel like a wasted night.

[00:02:02] - Addressing Concerns and Fears

• Overcoming the fear of other people's reactions.
• Prioritizing personal feelings over societal pressure.

[00:02:40] - Handling Potential Negative Reactions

• Fears of confrontation or anger.
• The importance of safety and recognizing potential danger signs.

[00:03:16] - Safety Tips for First Dates

• Keeping personal details private.
• Limiting access to personal information.

[00:03:39] - Prioritizing Personal Safety

• Safeguarding personal information.
• The danger of sharing too much too soon.

[00:04:14] - Addressing Ghosting

• The downsides of ghosting.
• Effective ways to communicate disinterest.

[00:04:39] - Clear Communication Post-Date

• Importance of clear communication.

[00:05:19] - Closing Thoughts

• The importance of self-respect and avoiding enduring unfavorable situations.
• Advocate for personal boundaries in dating and intimate situations.

[00:05:38] - Outro

• Gratitude for listeners and encouragement to join the next discussion.

Guess what? Even 'Curb Your Enthusiasm' missed the mark on Orthodox Jewish sex! I've got Shely Esses on the show today—a Sex Therapist from Toronto, Canada. With her expertise in Jewish healing, she's here to bust myths and shine a light on the cultural nuances surrounding intimacy within the Orthodox Jewish community. Let's shtup in!

Show Notes

[00:00:00] Shely explains Judaism's sex-positive perspective: Emphasis on marital context for sexual activity.

[00:00:38] Jewish Myths Debunked: The "sheet with a hole" myth from Curb Your Enthusiasm and its origins linked to tzitzit - a traditional Jewish garment.

[00:01:50] Orthodox Jewish Marital Practices: Emphasizes on sexual satisfaction in marital agreements, the importance of physical intimacy, and the varying levels of observance and practice.

[00:03:26] Relationship with Local Orthodox Rabbis: Insights into personal connections, guidance, and the role of Yoetzet – female advisors.

[00:03:54] Mikveh and its Significance: Explores the role of menstrual blood in religious purity, and emphasizes on self-care, rejuvenation, and marital intimacy.

[00:07:21] Addressing Sexual Challenges: Approaches to tackle challenges like low desire and painful penetration, the importance of communication, techniques like dilator work, Sensate Focus, and the role of body image and sexual self-esteem.

[00:10:49] Premarital Counseling in the Jewish Community: Combines religious teachings with modern sexual health approaches while emphasizing pleasure and intimacy.

[00:12:33] Sexuality & Jewish Traditions: Highlights the significance of Shabbat in marital intimacy and the role of traditions in guiding sexual practices.

[00:13:27] Birth Control & Hasidic Community: Navigates the balance between religious beliefs and personal choices, and highlights the importance of rabbinical guidance and personal well-being.

[00:14:54] Addressing apprehensions around first-time intercourse.

[00:15:19] Shely's resources and methods:

• Recommends website OMGYES.
• Describes orgasms with the metaphor of waves.
• Discusses the importance of understanding the nervous system.

[00:15:51] Cultural insights: The significance of post-marriage intercourse in the Jewish tradition.

[00:16:12] The long-term approach to intimacy: Insights on grounding oneself before intimacy, differentiating between calmness and boredom, and advocating for meditation before sex.

[00:17:03] Michelle's input: Points out the resistance against integrating mindfulness and introduces Lori Brotto's workbook.

[00:17:24] Shely on dealing with trauma: Introduces the ventral vagal anchor technique as well as planning sex.

[00:17:48] Scheduled vs. spontaneous intimacy: Discusses the concept of Mikvah Night and addresses misconceptions about spontaneity in intimacy.

[00:18:16] Embracing terminology with confidence: Encourages understanding and confidently using terms related to sexual health and anatomy.

[00:18:49] Michelle's question on addressing shame: Shely emphasizes seeking sex therapy, particularly from professionals familiar with Jewish traditions.

[00:19:25] Resources: Dive into sex-positive aspects of Judaism with recommended readings like works by Dr. Ruth and The Kosher Kama Sutra by Shmuley Boteach.

[00:19:52] Closing remarks: Expresses gratitude to Shely for her invaluable insights and contributions.

Production Credits: katie@vocalfrystudios

About Shely:

Shely Esses RP (Qualifying) holds a marriage and family therapy (MFT) graduate degree from Iona University and currently resides in Toronto, Canada.

Shely is guided by a systemic lens, a way of seeing you as an individual with interpersonal and wider-world impacts on your life. She is passionate about helping people feel comfortable in their own skin. She is delighted to help individuals, couples, and families find balance and healing in their lives.

She is knowledgeable about the Orthodox community, ensuring clients feel understood halachically while discussing mental and physical health. She is also skilled at helping clients with pre-and post-marriage halachot.

Shely focuses on helping clients experiencing discomfort or anxiety about their sexual self-esteem, self-worth, and relationships. She is particularly interested in working with often overlooked or underserved communities, such as those in conservative religious minority groups and people in alternative relationships. Shely is skilled at weaving together practical and holistic techniques to promote nervous system regulation & deep mindfulness. 

Resources For Professionals:

1) Heavenly Sex: sexuality and the Jewish Tradition Dr Ruth & Jonathan Mark

2) The kosher Sutra: Eight Sacred Secrets for Reigniting Desire and Restoring Passion for Life by Rabbi Shmuleyu Boteach

3) Kabbalah and Sex Magic By Marla Segol

Podcast: Intimate Judaism with Talli Rosenbaum and Rabbi Scott Kahn

Fun reads: I will watch you: four short tales of Jewish love and Lust by Shoshana Pearl

Classes Taught by Shely: 3 CEs available! https://modernsextherapyinstitutes.com/product/sex-intimacy-and-connection-through-the-lens-of-the-sefirot-10-emanations-from-jewish-mysticism-3-ces-2023/

Disclaimer
 

Today we're diving deep into the nuances of initiation. We'll discuss sexual initiation, its dynamics, and why understanding our preferences is more crucial than we might think. If you've ever felt a little out of sync with your partner or just curious about how to create a bridge to sexual connection, this episode is for you. Let's get started!

Show Notes 

Intro:

• [00:00:00] Introduction and the importance of understanding sexual initiation preferences.

Desire Discrepancy:

• [00:00:15] The challenge of aligning desires in long-term relationships.
• [00:00:28] The evolving nature of sexual desires and the fluidity of sex.

Initiating Sex:

• [00:01:00] How people approach the initiation of intimacy.
• [00:01:19] Michelle introduces a conceptual exercise to understand intimacy better.

The 0 to 10 Scale of Sexual Initiation:

• [00:01:30] Visualization of sexual initiation, from no thought of sex to after-sex activities.
• [00:02:06] Different perspectives on what constitutes the beginning of sexual encounters.

Practical Exercise:

• [00:02:34] A guide on how couples can use the exercise to discuss their ideal sexual encounters.

Conclusion:

• [00:03:06] The importance of open communication about sexual experiences.
• [00:03:30] The goal: a shared, satisfying sexual experience.

Outro:

• [00:03:50] Closing thoughts, hope for listeners to have more fulfilling intimate relationships.

Resources & Links:

• Research on post-sex cuddling and relationship satisfaction:  https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/24777441/
• Exercise adapted from Barry McCarthy's model - 5 Dimensions of Touch in the book Discovering Your Couple Sexual Style 

In this evocative episode, Toronto-based Rahat Pye, MSW, RSW — an adolescent, individual, family, and couples therapist — unravels the deeply personal story of her mother, a Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) survivor from Bombay, India. Diving deep into the trauma, defiance, and resilience, Rahat sheds light on the stark realities of FGM and its profound effect on her mother's life. As the narrative unfolds, we explore the paradox of a mother who, despite her own harrowing experiences, championed the significance of sexual health, intimacy, and pleasure. Tune in for this captivating and insightful conversation you won't want to miss!

Show Notes

[00:00:00] Rahat shares her perspective on FGM and believes it should not happen to anyone.

[00:00:17] Introduction to Rahat, a social worker from Toronto who tells the story of her mother, a survivor of FGM from Bombay, India.

[00:00:43] Explanation of FGM and its severe consequences, including that it's illegal in Canada.

[00:01:14] Rahat mentions her grandfather’s political involvement and how her mother was raised with a mix of tradition and resistance.

[00:01:33] Michelle touches on the trauma of FGM and its implications on her mother's relationship with sex.

[00:02:08] Rahat describes her mother’s painful experiences related to childbirth and FGM.

[00:03:16] Rahat shares that her mother underwent FGM as a young girl in Bombay.

[00:04:09] Rahat contemplates the impact of FGM on her mother's life and her defiance against it.

[00:05:53] Rahat emphasizes that her mother saw sex as important, valuable, and as a means of connection, despite her FGM experience.

[00:06:35] Michelle queries how Rahat learned about her mother’s FGM experience.

[00:07:39] Discussion on how Rahat's mother emphasized the importance of knowledge about their own bodies and sexual health.

[00:09:47] Rahat reflects on her mother’s will to learn and teach about the body and pleasure.

[00:10:57] Rahat provides a backstory on her mother’s immigration to Canada.

[00:13:14] Rahat discusses her mother’s experience with the medical system, trauma during childbirth, and how this affected their relationship.

[00:15:37] Rahat describes her mother's trauma and difficulty around FGM, and how it related to her trust in her body and how it functioned.

[00:15:57] Rahat's mother felt isolated and different due to her FGM experience, especially in a community where she was the only person of color.

[00:16:28] Michelle mentions the fear FGM survivors face when visiting a new doctor or gynecologist, fearing both physical examination and the doctor's reaction.

[00:17:29] Rahat and Michelle discuss the shame and societal perceptions associated with women who have undergone FGM.

[00:18:07] Rahat recalls her mother's bold and rebellious behavior, which she believes may have been her way of reclaiming her body after the trauma of FGM.

[00:18:48] Rahat reflects on her mother's openness about sex and sexuality while growing up.

[00:19:28] Rahat attributes her ease in discussing sexuality to her mother's openness and lack of shame about the subject.

[00:20:06] Michelle emphasizes the significance of Rahat's mother transforming her traumatic experience into a positive force for Rahat and her sister.

[00:21:56] Rahat reflects on her complicated relationship with her mother, admiring her resilience and ability to turn traumatic experiences into positive life lessons.

[00:23:46] Rahat comments on the continuation of FGM in certain parts of the world.

[00:25:46] Rahat describes her mother's determination to reclaim her sexuality.

[00:26:42] Rahat believes her mother would be proud of her for participating in this interview and openly discussing FGM.

[00:27:26] Rahat delves into her mother's attachment trauma and reflects on her own experiences related to childbirth, finding a connection between the two.

[00:28:48] Michelle discusses the intergenerational impact of trauma, highlighting the ripple effects of Rahat's mother's experience on Rahat.

[00:29:49] Rahat emphasizes the importance of understanding and discussing the realms of sex, pleasure, and intimacy and the significance of culture and belief systems in shaping one's identity.

[00:31:41] Michelle If you are in Canada and you believe you or someone you know is at risk of undergoing FGM, please seek assistance through your local police or child protective services. In addition, if you or the person at risk is a Canadian citizen abroad, please contact the nearest Canadian embassy or consulate. Call 1 613 996 8885.

We're excited to share a recording of the Sex in Space podcast interview with Andrew Gurza and Heather Morrison, co-founders of Handi. Handi makes sex toys designed by and for disabled people. The mission behind Handi is that everyone should be able to ‘get off’. Listen in to hear about how Handi came to be, the hands on research behind Handi and how the bendable, flexible design of the Bump'n Joystick has revolutionized the accessibility of pleasure for all.

Show Notes:

 [00:00:17] Introducing the Sex in Space podcast trio and their mission to create a space for discussing sex across all dimensions. [00:00:46] Interview introduction for Andrew Gurza, a queer, disabled porn star who creates sex toys for people with limited hand movement. [00:01:15] Discussion on consent and disabled people's experiences with touch.

 [00:01:46] Transition to Andrew Gurza's interview.

[00:03:12] Lack of recognition of disabled people as sexual beings and the need for education in this area. [00:04:00] Discussion on the struggle for disabled people to achieve sexual pleasure on their own. 

[00:04:30] Lack of products specifically designed for disabled people's sexual needs. 

[00:05:00] Introduction to Handi, a company creating sex toys for disabled people. 

[00:05:34] Andrew and Heather Morrison, co-founders of Handi, discuss their journey and the origin of the company. 

[00:06:28] Heather and Andrew's frank conversation that led to the idea of creating sex toys for disabled individuals.

 [00:08:00] Handi's name as a playful way to reclaim the term "handicap" and address the needs of people with hand limitations. [00:08:59] The decision to write a book to share experiences and educate about sex and disability.

 [00:10:00] Launching Handi as a brand during International Masturbation Month. 

[00:10:39] The process of creating the book "Sex and Disability."

[00:11:00] Andrew Gurza's Journey as a Disability Consultant

[00:11:00] Andrew's transition from seeking a traditional job to becoming a freelance disability consultant. [

00:11:23] Andrew's early work as a disability speaker, writing articles on queerness and disability. [00:11:57] The impact of Andrew's photo shoot for a gay magazine on challenging perceptions of disability and sexuality. 

[00:13:00] The relevance of disability stories to both disabled and non-disabled individuals. 

[00:14:00] Andrew's experience reading the book "Sex and Disability" and the roller coaster of emotions it evokes. [00:15:00] The relatability of the book's stories despite different disabilities. 

[00:15:39] The impact of the book on changing perceptions and educating about disability and ableism.

[00:16:00] Discussion on Differences and Similarities: 

[00:16:00] The duality of being the same and different when it comes to sexuality. 

[00:16:31] The importance of sharing experiences and representation in breaking down societal barriers.

 [00:17:13] The bravery and confidence gained through representing disability and sexuality in media. 

[00:18:00] Andrew's journey as a freelance disability consultant and speaker. 

[00:18:29] The global impact of Andrew's work in challenging perceptions of disability and sexuality.

[00:19:00] Handi's Sex Toy Development Process

[00:19:00] Collaboration with University to validate the need and create concepts. 

[00:19:48] Testing concepts with occupational therapists and the disabled community globally. 

[00:20:59] Sending 10 prototypes to testers for feedback and collaborative refining of the design. 

[00:21:18] Continuation of testing and validation as they move toward the launch.

[00:31:19] Heather and Andrew discuss the huggable nature of their sex toy design, which allows for increased intimacy and positive emotional responses in both disabled and able-bodied individuals. They talk about how it breaks the negative cycle of anxiety for people with hand limitations, preventing worries about fatigue or inability to orgasm. 

[00:31:48] They mention that some users found comfort in the huggable nature of the toy, which helped them overcome anxiety and negative thoughts during self-pleasure. 

[00:32:22] Heather shares that the design process debunked their assumption about gender preferences in sex toys. They realized that men who thought they didn't like vibration hadn't actually tried it and found that vibration could be a better option for those unable to get an erection. 

[00:33:00] They discuss the importance of involving disabled people in the design process and how this approach led to unexpected positive consequences in their design. 

[00:36:23] Heather talks about their plans to have a range of different toys and products to cater to various needs in the market. [00:39:00] Andrew explains how their design provides a comforting, emotional experience beyond just sexual pleasure, leading to a deeper understanding of pleasure-based sexuality.

 [00:43:41] They discuss other companies in the market working on sex toys for disabled individuals, such as Hot Octopus 

[00:45:11] Andrew shares the importance of communication, consent, and sense education for disabled individuals, especially when dealing with doctors, medical professionals, and caregivers. 

[00:48:00] They discuss the lack of education around sexuality for disabled teenagers and the need for parents to have open and honest conversations with their children about their bodies and desires. 

[00:53:00] They emphasize the significance of communication, especially for disabled individuals who need to navigate intimate conversations about their bodies and needs. 

[00:57:13] The interview concludes with thanks and recommendations to check out Handi's website, book, and podcast.

Check them out on social media:

AndrewGurza_ on all social channels:

Websites:

AndrewGurza.com

https://getbumpn.com/  to find the Bump'n Joystick and their Book:The Bump'n Book of Love, Lust & Disability )

Andrew also has award winning podcast of his own, called Disability After Dark that won gold in the Outstanding Adult Series at the Canadian Podcast Awards.

https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/episode-242-acknowledging-disability-is-like-opening/id1151890990?i=1000521820212

Make sure to check out Sex in Space on all major podcast platforms. For more information about Sex in Space visit www.sexinspace.com

Reminder to check out our book, available at sexinspace.com/book or simply search for "The Organ Education Forgot" on Amazon.

Ever wondered how to flirt or wished someone would teach your partner? Michelle dives into the question "How do you flirt?" in today's episode. Flirting is all about personal attraction, confidence, playful gestures, and engaging body language. Michelle reminds us to pay attention to the other person's cues to see if your flirtation is reciprocated. If you are unsure, ask! If you get a green light, go ahead, unleash your inner flirt and potentially make someone's day a little brighter!
 

Show Notes:

[00:00:31] Michelle compares being asked how to flirt to being asked how to have sex, emphasizing that both are highly individual experiences.

[00:01:12] Flirting is described as an act driven by personal attraction and confidence, without knowing the other person's feelings.

[00:01:41] Eye contact is highlighted as an important aspect of flirting, along with playful touches and engaging body language.

[00:02:49] Michelle acknowledges that the other person may not respond due to disinterest or distractions, and it's essential to be okay with that.

[00:03:11] The importance of respecting boundaries and paying attention to the other person's body language is emphasized.

[00:03:38] Michelle encourages having personal feelings but recognizing that acting on them may not be appropriate in certain situations.

[00:03:51] She invites listeners to reflect on how they would explain flirting to someone who is unsure or believes their partner doesn't know how to flirt.

[00:04:00] Michelle signs off, wishing everyone a great day.

[00:04:07] End of the episode.

This is a story about how one couple embarks on a journey of rediscovering their sexual chemistry after 15 years, employing mindfulness, cannabis, and flowstate. Listen as host, Certified Sex Therapist Michelle Fischler, interviews Ellevan and Winny Clarke, hosts of the Disciplined Stoners on how covid helped to reopen their door to sexual exploration.

Show Notes:

[00:00:17] Michelle introduces the topic of rediscovering sexual chemistry after 15 years using mindfulness and cannabis.

[00:02:39] Ellevan talks about mindfulness, flow state, and his interests, including being a freestyler, comedian, singer, and cook.

[00:08:26] Winny opens up about her recent transformation, breaking free from old patterns and becoming more confident and curious.

[00:13:14] Michelle explains the concept of mindfulness and sensate focus therapy for deeper connections during sex.

[00:18:14] Ellevan and Winny's journey with mindfulness and its impact on every aspect of their lives, including sex and eating.

[00:22:30] COVID brought them closer and deepened their intimacy, leading to more open discussions about sex and their needs.

[00:27:21] They discuss jealousy in their relationship and how they navigate it through open communication.

[00:31:00] Winny shares her fantasy but also admits that she's not ready to put it into practice.

[00:35:53] The episode ends with a discussion about the importance of embracing mindfulness and breaking societal taboos around sex and body image to create a healthier and more fulfilling intimate life

[00:36:11] This show is produced by Katie Jensen at Vocal Fry Studios.

Winny Clarke is Netherlands born, Canadian raised, and resides in Toronto. She has been passionate about acting from a very young age, always involving herself in school and community theatre. In 2006, she attended The American Musical and Dramatic Academy in Los Angeles, where she studied for two years. Upon the program's completion, she moved to Vancouver, where she took to the stage in plays "Here on the Flight Path", "The Wedding Singer", and "Alice in Wonderland". In 2013, Clarke moved to Toronto with a dream of film and television. Since then, Clarke has appeared in 14 feature films, most notably being "Christmas By Chance" airing on Lifetime and the SuperChannel. Clarke is also a yoga teacher with over ten years of experience in the field, a dedicated meditation practitioner, and an animal lover and advocate. Disciplined Stoners is a space where Winny can explore and question her upbringing, decision making, and life’s purpose

Ellevan is an internationally loved vocalist, producer and entertainer from Toronto, Canada. With over 10,000 hours in the field, Ellevan earned his stripes by setting a world record of recording, producing and shooting 365 songs and music videos, in 365 days in 2018. With the buzz of his world record, he then went on an international freestyle tour throughout Indonesia, Jamaica, and U.S.A, sharing his passion for music abroad. He’s written for and collaborated with platinum status artists, Karl Wolf and Craig Smart. When he’s not in the studio, you can find him on stage for the cannabis friendly series Disciplined Stoners Live, where he, along with a live band, creates songs on the spot via audience interaction and suggestion.

Where to find DIsciplined Stoners:

Disciplined Stoners: https://www.instagram.com/disciplinedstoners

Winny Clarke: https://www.instagram.com/winnyclarke

Ellevan: https://www.instagram.com/ellevanmusic

Sign up for Winny’s Mailing List here: http://eepurl.com/gCIZg1

Follow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/1XDoMv08pT9EfyBaCXNnaj?si=7a557f0e0bf14d4d

Follow and Listen to Ellevan on Spotify:

https://open.spotify.com/artist/0G1sZ8clT2oSvzQ3IL2ZRd?si=vJVw9FLyS6GtF453Ny21kQ

Disclaimer

Is sex therapy really effective? In this episode, Michelle tackles common questions she gets asked before potential clients decide if sex therapy is the right fit. She emphasizes the importance of finding a good fit and comfort level before diving into therapy. With a solid therapeutic alliance and a willingness to delve deeper into their sexual narrative, sex therapy can truly work wonders.

Show Notes:

[00:00:00] [THEME SONG]

[00:00:33] Michelle introduces the topic and explains the importance of establishing a good fit and comfort level before starting sex therapy.

[00:01:08] She discusses the common questions clients ask, such as the effectiveness of sex therapy and the expected number of sessions.

[00:01:37] Michelle shares her observations from her practice, mentioning that therapy rarely makes things worse and helps clients gain insight.

[00:02:15] She highlights that clients who are patient, committed, and willing to work on their relationship have the most success in therapy.

[00:02:48] The limitations of therapy are discussed, with the reminder that therapy sessions are just a small portion of clients' overall lives.

[00:03:00] Couples have the choice to engage in the work, and hesitation may indicate underlying issues to be addressed.

[00:03:19] The effectiveness of sex therapy is linked to the therapeutic alliance and clients' willingness to explore deeply held concerns.

[00:04:00] The importance of both partners taking responsibility and not blaming each other is emphasized.

[00:04:22] Michelle expresses her strong belief in the effectiveness of sex therapy, attributing it to the therapist-client relationship and clients' openness to doing the work.

[00:04:53] Michelle concludes the episode and signs off.

[00:05:00] End of the episode.