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#53: Wild Pregnancy & Free Birth - with Bec Oakaiah

In this raw and activating episode, I sit down with traditional birthkeeper Bec Oakaiah, The Jurassic Coast Birthkeeper, for a powerful conversation on wild pregnancy, freebirth and reclaiming physiological birth in a culture that has almost forgotten what women's bodies are capable of.

This is a conversation for any woman who is dreaming of pregnancy, preparing for conception, already pregnant, or simply feels a quiet pull that birth could be more wild, more holy, and more hers than the stories she's been given.

Together we dive into:

• The true meaning of wild pregnancy and freebirth beyond the online controversy

• How our own birth imprints become the first lens through which we experience life

• How hospital environments, timelines and authority can interrupt physiology

• The rising caesarean rates and why Bec believes this has "fuck all to do with physiology"

• Using the menstrual cycle as monthly ritual to clear fear and prepare for future rites of passage

• Why unpacking our birth stories, motherline and cultural conditioning matters long before labour

• How unprocessed fears in pregnancy often surface in labour if they're never fully met

• The importance of environment, food, rest, and who you invite into your birth space

• Authority dynamics in medical systems, and why so many women feel they "had no choice"

• Why no professional – midwife, doctor, doula or birthkeeper – is more of an expert on your baby than you are

• Walking with death as a companion through pregnancy, and birth as death-rebirth for mother, placenta and identity

• Postpartum as the true gestation of the Mother, and why postpartum planning is just as vital as "birth plans"

• How long healing can really take, and why sensitivity in the body is a feature, not a flaw

• Unpacking our relationship with authority as essential preparation if we choose to interact with the system at all

• Why Bec believes physiological birth is on the cusp of extinction – and what it means to be part of its reclamation

• Birth, miscarriage, abortion, postpartum and menstruation as one continuous feminine continuum of death–rebirth

About Our Guest, Bec, The Jurassic Coast Birthkeeper

Bec is a traditional birthkeeper rooted on England's Jurassic Coast. She midwifes the soul through holistic birth, death and all the thresholds in between. Her work centres on the liberation and protection of physiological birth, the remembrance of ancient and indigenous birth wisdom, and guiding women back to unshakeable trust in their own bodies, babies and inner authority.

She walks with women – especially first-time mothers – who are called to wild pregnancy, freebirth and home birth, and also tends to the wider field of birthworkers through education, mentorship and community devoted to the reclamation of birth as a rite of passage.

Connect with Bec

Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/becoakaiah/

Mother + holistic birthkeeper. remembering the ancient ways of sacred birth.

Connect with Melissa

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Website — www.melissasanger.com

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This episode is an offering to every woman who has ever bled, will one day birth, has birthed, has lost, or is simply remembering that her body was always designed for the wild, intelligent mystery of life moving through her.

In this raw, deeply intimate and important episode, I sit down with menstrual artist, feminine embodiment mentor, and founder of Sacred Woman, Jasmine Alicia Carter, for a profound conversation that lives at the intersection of the womb, death, rebirth, grief, power and feminine initiation.

Both myself and Jasmine experienced conscious abortions within the last two years. This episode is a rare and necessary dialogue, one that dissolves taboo, unravels shame, and opens a doorway into the spiritual, emotional, energetic and physical dimensions of abortion as a rite of passage.

This is a conversation for any woman who has walked this path, loves someone who has, or desires to understand the deeper feminine mysteries that live within the threshold between life and death.

Together we dive into:

• The untold emotional, spiritual and psychic landscape of conscious abortion

• How abortion can initiate a descent into the dark feminine, shadow, and underworld

• The difference between cultural guilt and true inner knowing

• Listening to the body's wisdom through pregnancy, grief, and choice

• How to navigate the polarity, projections, and judgments from family, culture, and community

• The mystical dimension of womb consciousness and feminine spiritual awakening

• Meeting death through the womb and returning to the mystery

• The role of ritual, prayer, blood offerings, and conscious completion

• How grief cycles through the womb over months and how to process it safely

• Why abortion is often the gateway that brings many women home to their womb for the first time

• Post-abortion care: nourishment, womb massage, steaming, sisterhood, ritual, and tending to the cervix

• How to relate to the spirit of the child with reverence, closure, and connection

• The importance of support, from partners, sisters, and bodyworkers, in healing the emotional and spiritual layers of the experience

• Abortion as an initiation into the maturity, depth, and power of the feminine

• How to reconnect with God, intuition, and personal truth through the process

• Why both Melissa and Jasmine see abortion, miscarriage, birth, and menstruation as part of the same feminine continuum
  
  

About Our Guest, Jasmine Alicia Carter

Jasmine is a menstrual artist, feminine embodiment mentor, mother, wife and founder of Sacred Woman, a global brand devoted to empowering women to return to holistic balance, womb-centered living, and embodied feminine truth.

She is also the creator of the Menstrual Art Movement, a nonprofit with thousands of women worldwide, and the owner of Sacred Woman Boutique, offering tools for sexual sovereignty and feminine awakening.

Connect with Jasmine
Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/jasminealiciacarter/
Sacred Woman Website — www.sacredwoman.com
Menstrual Art Movement — @menstrualartmovement
Sacred Woman Boutique — @sacredwomanboutique
Abortion PDF: https://omniform1.com/forms/v1/landingPage/63ca7ff4243dfa1cf3aa6bde/68fb2eee2d00685cde953df8

Connect with Melissa
Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/iammelissasanger
Website — www.melissasanger.com
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This episode is an offering to every woman who has ever held life, released life, grieved life, or discovered herself through the womb's deepest mysteries.

This is a new age where right and wrong isn't so black and white for every idea and there are beautiful people leading the way through these discoveries. Samantha Moyo is a social change advocate, nature enthusiast, and a living example of diving into the mystery of evolution. Today we speak on her journey into masculine energy and incorporating it through a woman's body. Samantha defines herself as she/her and can utilize the embodiment of a male construct in not just sexuality, but within her soul's expression. Join us as we open the discussion to break the limiting box of sexuality and embrace the deepest expressions of our lives.

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Timestamps:

02:10 Who is Samantha and how does she serve the world?

05:20 Exploring gender and divine energies in a woman's body

10:30 Her first masculine embodied energy experience

19:10 The beginning of her incorporation to her new masculine energy

25:26 How the start of this new age brings new ideas around gender

32:56 Who do you want to be today?

41:59 How to find Samantha

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Instagram ||  @mysticmoyo

Website || https://www.samanthamoyo.co.uk/

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Connect With Melissa Sanger the Womb Witch:

Instagram || @iammelissasanger   

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Listen in on this conversation with the man rewriting a new script for male sexuality. Cam Fraser is the leading sex coach in Australia. From a personal journey in his youth being questioned in his masculine and healing the sexual trauma within himself, Cam studied sexology on an academic level to help men feel empowered as the sexual beings they are. It is his mission is to heal men experiencing a lack of connecting with their sexual organs so they can improve not just their lives, but remove the western ideology from the intimate parts of their life. Listen in as we speak on erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, nervous system regulation, true pleasure, and tools to start your own journey now.

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Timestamps:

01:45 Cam Leads us through a guided meditation

04:53 Who is Cam Fraser and how he serves the world?

08:31 How did Cam get into sexology and coaching?

22:11 Why men's premature ejaculation led Cam to commit to the education of sexology

32:11 Exploring the definition of premature ejaculation

39:48 What paths can men start on to heal sexual dysfunctions?

48:39 How to expand pleasure and confidence in your sexual life

56:06 Why you start with rewiring your brain and habits

1:03:10 Talking about men's locker room talk and expressing true desires to your partner.

1:16:35 Three pieces of fundamental masculine wisdom Cam would tell his younger self?

1:22:30 Where to Find Cam Fraser

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Instagram ||  @thecamfraser

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Instagram || @iammelissasanger   

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Do you know how to ask for your desires? Continuing our riveting conversation with Nero, part two dives back into the experiences of safe spaces like cuddle parties. We also dive deeper into communication and understanding. There is so much healing in your truest expression and Nero shares how he guides others in the art of slowing down to connect, participate with active listening, and removing taboo from sensual touch with other men. He also shares perspective as a man in how to relate to women during their menstrual cycles and how rejection is medicine with the right perspective. I hope you enjoy part two as much as I did.

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Timestamps:

01:03 How Nero leads exercises for others to express their boundaries in a cuddle party

07:48 How do these open safe spaces unlock true expression?

13:58 What is the importance of boundaries and conscious touch for expression?

19:11 Finding modalities that teach us to communicate better

22:50 How has Nero's past sculpted him into being the man he is today?

30:05 Nero shares his story on rejection and pursuing desires

33:30 How feedback from your sexual partners will improve those relationships

38:20 Some perspective as a man in how to relate to a women's menstrual cycle

43:37 The incredible presence masculine energy can offer as a pillar

46:12 What is Nero's relationship with sensuality in brotherhood?

54:04 Three pieces of fundamental masculine wisdom Nero would tell his younger self?

56:26 How to connect with Nero?

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Instagram ||  @neriya_noylander

Website || https://visio-nero.com/ 

Connect With Melissa Sanger the Womb Witch:

Instagram || @iammelissasanger   

My Website || www.melissasanger.com 

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How do you live from your truest self to deeply connect with others? Nero is a man who weaves the sacred masculine with safe intimate spaces for men and women. First, as an event producer for other conscious gatherings to standing in front as the facilitator, he started this deeply spiritual journey taking a leap of faith to another country around no one who knew him. This led Nero into sacred healing spaces and to discover tantric relating practices anyone can participate in. Here he reveals triggers and highs for others and uplifts them through understanding boundaries and pleasures. Join us for part one in this beautiful conversation where we speak on cuddle parties, surrendering to life, and conscious expression.

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Timestamps:

02:12 Join us for a quick drop in

04:30 What was Nero's connection to the sacred masculine being a young man?

12:51 How Nero's path led him to Mexico

15:06 What was the moment he realized his purpose?

20:32 An explanation of cuddle parties and their benefits 

26:48 How Nero surrendered to life's journey

32:07 Melissa speaks on her experience being in her first cuddle party

35:39 Nero helps you visualize a cuddle party

41:15 How Nero leads exercises to express their boundaries

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Connect with Nero:

Instagram ||  @neriya_noylander

Website || https://visio-nero.com/ 

Connect With Melissa Sanger the Womb Witch:

Instagram || @iammelissasanger   

My Website || www.melissasanger.com 

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"The wound is not your fault, but the wound is your responsibility."

On today's episode of the Sacred Masculine Series, Ben Bidwell is a heart led man who's deeply tapped into his emotions. As a human potential coach he helps men peel back the layers of the self to reveal the truth of who they are. Instead of focusing on their happiness Ben looks to bring awareness towards their fulfillment and purpose. We also talk about inviting more play and not being just serious when diving into sexuality, that sex is a journey not a goal, and releasing the feelings of judgement around our sacred sexual lives. Join us in this beautiful conversation about the sacred masculine and how the sacred feminine intertwines. 

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Timestamps:

03:56 Who is Ben Bidwell?

09:43 How did he go about seeking a coach?

15:25 What does being a man mean to Ben?

20:06 Ben explains his journey towards reconnecting to his emotions

30:03 How can men begin to start connecting to their heart?

39:56 What will it take for men to be vulnerable enough to feel all emotions?

47:40 The connection between your heart and sacred sexuality

54:05 How to remove the goal in having sex

1:02:53 A message to women to honor a man's awakening from Ben

1:10:10 Three pieces of fundamental masculine wisdom Ben would tell his younger self?

1:13:31 Where to find Ben

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Connect with Ben Bidwell:

Instagram ||  @benbidwell_thenakedprofessor 

Website || https://benbidwell.com 

Connect With Melissa Sanger the Womb Witch:

Instagram || @iammelissasanger   

My Website || www.melissasanger.com 

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I'm welcoming Peter Eugené Bennett to the Sacred Masculine Series today. He is a men's work coach who helps men stop from running unconscious stories back into true wholeness.

Peter teaches men to navigate suppressed anger and other heavy emotions to uncover what's real in their bodies. Peter explains how the challenges of life are for him, not against him and that men are stronger together than alone in the world. Listen in, as we talk about what it means for Peter to embody the masculine as a man.

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Timestamps:

03:19 Peter explains his journey to being a men's work coach

09:03 What was Peter's connection to the masculine in his teenage years?

11:25 How to process suppressed anger and all the benefits of doing that

20:52 What does being a man mean and what happens in men's circles?

26:52 Facing off with the challenge of the lone wolf mentality as a man

39:25 How to really get the benefit of personal development work?

46:07 How to tap into the emotional regulation of crying?

49:53 Peter's relationship with his father and how emotions were treated growing up

56:06 Three pieces of fundamental masculine wisdom Peter would tell his younger self?

1:00:30 How to find Peter Eugene Bennett 

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Connect with Peter Eugené Bennett:

Instagram ||  @mensworkcoach 

Website || https://www.mensworkcoach.com 

Connect with the Sacred Sons || @sacredsons

Connect With Melissa Sanger the Womb Witch:

Instagram || @iammelissasanger   

My Website || www.melissasanger.com 

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What does it look like to heal through what society deems taboo? Through an intense wake-up call, Nick realized he was not ready for the challenges of life. So, he went on a journey of self discovery through travel and mentorship. Nick has spent the last decade exploring the connection between Tantra and holistic health practices  – spiritual, mental, emotional and physical, as well as, taking full ownership and full responsibility in life. Join us as we demystify tantra, discuss the difference between ejaculation and orgasms, speak on non ejaculatory orgasms, and how to improve your sexual journey as a man.

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Timestamps:

02:36 Who is Nick Perry and what does he give to the world?

14:10 What hat does being a man mean to Nick?

23:10 What Sacred Masculine means To Nick?

26:44 Demystifying the meaning of Tantra 

34:45 What sex was like before weaving in Tantra?

43:01 Ejaculation vs. orgasm for men

49:12 Explaining the stages of non-ejaculation

59:27 Where to start this practice?

1:03:56  When is it important to actually ejaculate?

1:07:54 The benefits of tantric orgasms

1:19:10 3 pieces of fundamental masculine wisdom Nick would tell his younger self?

1:21:34 How to connect with Nick

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Connect with Nick Perry:

Instagram || @rhythmhealth

Website || https://www.rhythmhealth.com.au 

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Instagram || @iammelissasanger   

My Website || www.melissasanger.com 

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"The issues are in the tissues."

What is the difference between sexuality and sacred sexuality?

In the Sacred Masculine Series, today I am interviewing Diego Garcia who is on a mission to help others feel empowered, self-determined, happy and confident. Through battling a porn addiction and also a heartbreaking depression from the loss of his father he learned to alchemize the lessons and reclaim his power within. Through yoga and tantric teachings he changed his moments of pleasure into a beautiful sacred expression. This new walk of life called him forward to help heal the divine masculine in men and women. We dive deep into releasing the need for quick dopamine hits to allow a higher vibration, how the reward of quick ejaculations can create negative side effects in the brain and using self-pleasure practices to release tension and boost confidence.

01:10 How Diego and Melissa met 

05:00 Who is Diego Garcia? 

19:53 Why do so many men have addictions to porn?

28:00 Jealousy and premature ejaculation ruined his self esteem

34:38 What is sublimation?

41:55 Naomi Wolf's explanation of porn explained with neuroscience

48:40 Starting a semen retention journey for improved sex life

56:40 Going to in person tantra healing events

1:05:51 Utilizing cock gazing with other men for the sake of healing, honoring and confidence

1:19:11 3 pieces of fundamental masculine wisdom diego would tell his younger self

1:21:47 Where to find Diego

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Connect with Diego Garcia:

Instagram || @diegocesaryoga 

Website || https://diegocesaryoga.com/blog/

Connect With Melissa Sanger the Womb Witch:

Instagram || @iammelissasanger   

My Website || www.melissasanger.com 

Support The Series || https://bit.ly/3vHgfYs