An unfiltered exploration of modern and mature masculinity. This podcast reveals the stories, lessons, and truths that turn men into leaders, lovers, and legends.
Each episode is a deep-dive conversation with extraordinary thinkers, experts, and trailblazers who share potent wisdom, raw insights, and untold stories.
This isn’t just another podcast; it’s a call to action. A space where we challenge outdated narratives and redefine what it means to live a life of purpose, courage, and authenticity.
Our mission? To equip men with the tools, mindset, and support to lead meaningful, connected, and successful lives.
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How clear are you about the direction your relationship is going?
How much time have you and your partner spent creating a shared vision for your life together?
Do you have the tools and frameworks you need to navigate conflict, emotional charge, and old wounds when they arise in your connection?
Most people spend more time planning a holiday than they do planning their relationship.
Yet your intimate relationship will shape so much of your life. It can become one of the most beautiful, challenging, healing, and confronting parts of your human experience.
But love alone is not enough.
Without the right structure, language, and shared agreements, even well-intentioned couples can find themselves stuck in unhealthy patterns, repeating unresolved childhood wounds, and living past each other instead of growing together.
In this episode, Matt and Gareth explore what it really takes to build a healthy, conscious, and lasting relationship.
They get into the importance of understanding the wounds you bring into love, how to create a shared relationship vision, and why a simple weekly rhythm can help you and your partner stay connected, honest, and aligned.
If you want your relationship to become a place of deeper intimacy, truth, repair, and shared growth, this conversation will give you a powerful place to begin.
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Together, you will create a shared vision, clear agreements, and a practical framework for navigating the hard parts with more honesty, care, and connection.
#76 Relationship Pillar 4: Keeping The Fire Alive in Your Relationship
Season 2
Tuesday, June 23, 2026 • Duration 22:34
In this episode, Gareth and Matt unpack what really happens when sexual connection starts to fade in long-term relationships and why it is rarely about attraction. They explore how desire gets lost through pressure, disconnection, and unspoken expectations, and what it actually takes to rebuild it from within.
What you'll learn:
“Dead bedroom” dynamics are rarely about lost attraction, but about pressure, distance, and outsourced sexual responsibility.
Desire does not just fade after big life shifts like having a child. It gets disrupted by identity change, hormones, and role overload.
Self-pleasure is often not self-connection. When it is driven by porn or fantasy, it becomes outsourcing rather than ownership of desire.
Healthy sexual polarity does not come from one partner “creating” desire. It comes from two self-activated people.
Shame around sexuality does not disappear. It goes underground and shows up as pressure, silence, and emotional withdrawal.
Rebuilding sexual connection starts with reclaiming your own body and building a conscious self-pleasuring practice that is not dependent on porn, fantasy, or partner validation.
If this hits close to home, the Magnetic Masculine Masterclass unpacks the six core mother wounds that shape how you give and receive love, including how you experience intimacy and desire in relationships. It's free, about an hour, and gives you a clear starting point for deeper work.
#75 Relationship Pillar 3: Regulate Yourself or Wreck Your Relationship
Season 2
Tuesday, June 16, 2026 • Duration 17:25
In this episode Gareth and Matt break down why most relationship blowups come down to an untrained nervous system, not a character flaw and what to do about it.
What you'll learn:
Triggers aren't proof of a broken relationship, they're a map pointing at what still needs healing in you.
Kids and animals naturally express big emotions through their bodies. But as adults we learn to suppress them. This suppression is what causes relationship blow-ups.
The four trauma responses: Fight (rage, argue), Flight (withdraw), Fix (people-please), Freeze (shut down) - and which one you default to when stressed.
The real marker of relationship maturity: choosing to respond with awareness rather than react unconsciously.
Tools to start using:
Notice the trigger, take a real pause, and move the energy with breath, movement, and sound.
Get curious about which of your core wounds (abandonment, rejection, etc.) just got activated.
Come back to the conversation once you're regulated, prioritising connection over being right.
Ready To Go deeper? If this hit close to home, the Magnetic Masculine Masterclass unpacks the six core mother wounds that determine how you give and receive love. It's free, about an hour, and opens the door into The Tribe so that you can work through this alongside other men.
Make sure you subscribe so you don't miss Pillars 3 and 4.
And if you want to watch episode 1 of the series check it out here:
#73 Relationship Pillar 1: Inner Work - The Foundation
Season 2
Tuesday, June 2, 2026 • Duration 16:05
The Four Pillars of a Relationship. Pillar 1: Inner Work: The Foundation
Most men want to fix their relationship. When we work with them, they realise the relationship isn't the problem.
In the first episode of our Four Pillars series, Gareth and Matt lay the foundation that supports everything else: the inner work most men skip. They also unpack why skipping the inner work means repeating the same pattern in every relationship you have. Doing the inner work changes everything. It starts by seeing yourself clearly.
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The Fathers Sons Brothers Podcast is hosted by Gareth Pickering and Matt Dahse.
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#72 You're Not Dating Her, You're Dating Your Mother Wound - 6 patterns sabotaging your relationship
Season 2
Tuesday, May 5, 2026 • Duration 22:44
The relationship challenges you’re experiencing today didn’t begin with your partner.
They began with the very first intimate relationship you ever had.
Long before you knew what love was supposed to look like, your nervous system was already learning: whether it was safe to be seen, whether your needs would be met.
That teacher was your mother.
And the strategies you developed to navigate that first relationship followed you into every connection you’ve had since. They may be shaping how you love, how you shut down, and why some men find themselves repeating the same relationship patterns no matter how much they want things to be different.
In this episode of the Father Sons Brothers Podcast, Gareth and Matt explore the six core mother wounds at the root of most relationship patterns in men, and the shadow work required to finally break the cycle.
In this episode, you will discover:
The six core mother wounds: the Approval Seeker, the Emotional Caretaker, the Avoidant Man, the Good Boy, the Hyper-Independent Man, and the Little Prince. Find out which one is most alive in you
Why the Good Boy is the most common relationship wound Gareth and Matt see in men, and how niceness, agreeability and hidden desire slowly drain polarity from your relationship
What reparenting means in practice, and the three S’s of transformation that take a man from recognising his childhood patterns to genuinely changing them
Why doing this shadow work alone can make lasting change harder to reach, and what real brotherhood looks like for men serious about growth
Whether you're deep in this work or just beginning, this episode will give you something real to take into your relationships. Press play.
Additional resources:
In this episode Gareth and Matt reference Dr. Robert Glover’s work on the Nice Guy, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy. If the Good Boy wound resonated with you, Ep 39 is a great next listen.
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#71 Relationships - Your Greatest Playground for Transformation with Simon Paul Sutton
Season 2
Thursday, April 30, 2026 • Duration 01:20:58
Your relationship will either wake you up or wear you down.
It is one of the most powerful vehicles for personal transformation. It is also one of the most meaningful parts of a well-lived life. Yet almost no one teaches you how to do relationships well.
So, you improvise.
Well-intentioned men and women spend years stuck in the same loops, arguments and emotional explosions.
They feel the pain, but they do not understand the pattern. They want depth, but they do not have the tools.
In this episode of the Father Sons Brothers Podcast, Gareth talks with Simon Paul Sutton, internationally recognised facilitator, coach, speaker, and author.
Simon spent two days with Gareth at his home on the Garden Route in South Africa, where this raw and honest conversation was recorded.
They go deep and speak about the truth about shadow, intimacy, breakups and personal growth.
In this episode, you will discover:
Why most couples avoid radical honesty, and how that avoidance destroys connection
A simple and playful framework to meet the different parts of your psyche, including the ones you try to hide
How Simon used parts work to navigate his most recent relationship ending with maturity and self-leadership
How Gareth and Simon found their way into men’s work, and why expanding consciousness is not optional for anyone who wants to live a powerful life
If you want a better relationship, start by becoming a better man - press play.
Additional resources:
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We've just released a brand-new masterclass: The Magnetic Masculine - Relationship Fundamentals for Men.
This 3-part video training gives you the relationship tools you should have learnt in school but didn't.
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#70 Slow The F#ck Down
Season 2
Thursday, February 5, 2026 • Duration 16:44
I sit down with co-creator, Lenerd Louw to explore a radical idea in a world that won’t stop moving: what if the real power move is to slow the fuck down?
We unpack the cost of over-scheduling, burnout, and living on autopilot, and contrast it with what becomes possible when a man designs his life in alignment with his soul. This conversation isn’t about doing more or fixing yourself. It’s about tuning into the truth that already lives inside you and having the courage to listen.
This episode also offers a behind-the-scenes look at the inspiration behind Soul Safari — our transformational men’s retreat into the wilds of South Africa. Created for men who feel the quiet whisper of their soul calling for something more, Soul Safari is an invitation to unplug, reset, and reconnect to what really matters.
SOUL SAFARI: 17-27 MARCH 2026 | SOUTH AFRICA
You weren’t put on this earth to grind, scroll, and survive until the weekend.
Over 11 days in South Africa’s wildest landscapes, you’ll step out of your normal routine and into a sacred container of brotherhood, stillness, and soul-awakening clarity. We strip back the noise. Go off the grid. Sit in silence. Share around the fire. And listen deeply to what life is really asking of you.
This isn’t just a retreat. It’s a reset. And it might just change the next decade of your life.
An integrated leader recognises that we all have inner work to do. So, these new-paradigm leaders seek out people, processes, and places that help them identify and integrate their blind spots.
Each month, Fathers Sons Brothers hosts the King's Circle, a free two-hour transformational leadership training experience. It’s a men-only space where visionaries gather to learn tools and frameworks that make them better communicators and more integrated leaders.
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#69 Death as a Doorway to Life
Season 2
Tuesday, January 27, 2026 • Duration 18:48
Most of us spend our lives avoiding the one thing that’s guaranteed: death.
In this raw and honest exchange, Lenerd Louw and I unpack what changes when we stop running from death and start learning from it.
We share personal stories of loss, grief, identity-death, and what it takes to transform our relationship with the unknown. This is not a morbid conversation; it’s a wake-up call.
Because the more you face death, the more you start to really live.
If you’ve been in a season of transition, heartbreak, loss, or change, this one will meet you where you are.
This episode also offers a behind-the-scenes look at the inspiration behind Soul Safari - our transformational men’s retreat into the wilds of South Africa. Created for men who feel the quiet whisper of their soul calling for something more, Soul Safari is an invitation to unplug, reset, and reconnect to what really matters.
Soul Safari: 17-27 March 2026 | South Africa
You weren’t put on this earth to grind, scroll, and survive until the weekend.
Over 11 days in South Africa’s wildest landscapes, you’ll step out of your normal routine and into a sacred container of brotherhood, stillness, and soul-awakening clarity. We strip back the noise. Go off the grid. Sit in silence. Share around the fire. And listen deeply to what life is really asking of you.
If you’ve been looking for a sign - this is it. And it might just change the next decade of your life.
An integrated leader recognises that we all have inner work to do. So, these new-paradigm leaders seek out people, processes, and places that help them identify and integrate their blind spots.
#68 - Beyond the Mind: How meditation can level up your life with Brian Tremblay
Season 2
Friday, January 16, 2026 • Duration 01:59:00
What if the peace you’re chasing isn’t something to find, but something to remember?
This conversation unfolded through a series of voice notes exchanged inside our private men’s WhatsApp group.
What emerged was too powerful not to share.
Gareth and Brian Tremblay had a conversation on meditation, the monkey mind, ego, impermanence, and the pursuit of a more present, peaceful life. From psychedelic sound baths to 10-day silent Vipassana retreats, we share personal stories that bring these ideas to life. If you’ve ever struggled to “just be,” this one’s for you.
Expect practical tools, personal transmissions, and reflections on how meditation can rewire your inner world and reshape your reality.
What you’ll learn:
Why the mind resists stillness and how to work with it
The real reason silence feels so loud at first
How ego throws everything it can to stay in control - and how to remain in the driver’s seat
The beauty of dissolving old identities and how the disorientation creates your new reality
A powerful 3-step framework for real transformation: Awareness, System, Support
Why meditation isn’t about getting somewhere, but about becoming a new you.
Note: Since this wasn’t recorded in a studio, there’s some minor mic feedback in parts, but the message is well worth it.
If you’re looking to go deeper with lifestyle design tools like these, join us inside the FSB Tribe, our private men's community where transformation happens every day: https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/gettribe.
If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to check out episode 60 of the show “From stuck to unstoppable - with Todd Jason". In that episode, he and Gareth dive more deeply into the 10-day silent meditation retreat called Vipasana.
#73 Relationship Pillar 1: Inner Work - The Foundation
We’ve just released a brand-new masterclass: The Magnetic Masculine: Relationship Fundamentals for Men.
This potent 60-minute training gives you the relationship tools you should have learnt in school but didn’t. Around 30 minutes of teaching, followed by 30 minutes of powerful journaling prompts.
Whether you’re single and searching, recently heartbroken, or in a relationship that needs some spark. This free training is for you.
Gareth Pickering is an artist and thought leader. His inspiration is to create spaces for men to have open, honest conversations that shift their mindsets and help them live life to the fullest. He’s a human connection specialist who guides others to level up with their lives through “relationships”. Relationships are a rocket ship for personal development. Gareth provides the tools and maps to fly and land your rocket safely.
Simon Paul Sutton is an internationally recognised facilitator, coach, speaker, sex-educator, tantric practitioner, author, and podcast host. From a journey through crime and addiction to embodied truth and radical honesty, Simon has impacted thousands worldwide.
Author of Self Love Now and Burglar to Buddha, Simon is also the creator of ROOTED, somatic coaching for men’s emotional maturity, conscious sexuality, and embodied presence. He co-created Naked Soul, immersive group experiences for a new story of humanity, and Enlighten Up!, a transformational mashup of teachings, music, spoken word, and unapologetic fun.
Simon reminds us: life is a gift, pleasure is a portal, love is the answer, and play is the way.
Gareth Pickering is an artist and thought leader. His inspiration is to create spaces for men to have open, honest conversations that shift their mindsets and help them live life to the fullest. He’s a human connection specialist who guides others to level up with their lives through “relationships”. Relationships are a rocket ship for personal development. Gareth provides the tools and maps to fly and land your rocket safely.
When you regularly invest in this type of training:
- You gain access to a space where men from all over the world support and encourage you to show up at your best. - You get clear on what you came here to do. - You reconnect with your mission. - You recognise where you’re leaking energy, and you reclaim that power to allocate towards serving your mission. - You develop more trust in yourself, and this improvement is reflected in all your relationships. - You feel inspired and excited about our brave new world, as you connect deeper with the other Integrated Leaders through the King’s Circle.
All growth after puberty is optional and the men who attend our circle have a growth mindset like you.
We support each other in becoming the new paradigm of courageous leaders we've been waiting for.
Lenerd achieved success relatively early in his life, running Marketing and Advertising for a big direct insurance group in South Africa in his early thirties and becoming a CEO in his early forties. However, in his mid-forties, he had a strong inner voice telling him to change everything in his life. It did not make any sense, so he distracted himself with sex, drugs and jacuzzis for four years. What seemed glamorous on the outside was actually a deep, dark, desperate time on the inside.
Eventually, in 2013, after this deep dark night of the soul, he heeded the call, resigned, sold and gave away most of his possessions, bought a backpack and a one-way ticket to Lima in Peru, which started a five-year, 35-country journey around the world. He attended numerous workshops and initiations on spirituality and sexuality around the world.
His next destination was always based on where the next learning opportunity was. In 2019 Lenerd’s memoir, JUMP! An epic soul and sex adventure was published across all major bookstores in Southern Africa which led him to being approached by men in similar situations to which he was in, way back then.
Gareth Pickering is an artist and thought leader. His inspiration is to create spaces for men to have open and honest conversations that shift their mindset and live life to the fullest. He’s a human connection specialist who guides others to level up with their lives through “relationships”. Relationships are a rocket ship for personal development. Gareth provides the tools and maps to fly and land your rocket safely.
Each month, Fathers Sons Brothers hosts the King's Circle, a free two-hour transformational leadership training experience. It’s a men-only space where visionaries gather to learn tools and frameworks that make them better communicators and more integrated leaders.
When you regularly invest in this type of training:
You gain access to a space where men from all over the world support and encourage you to show up at your best.
You get clear on what you came here to do. You reconnect with your mission.
You recognise where you’re leaking energy, and you reclaim that power to allocate towards serving your mission.
You develop more trust in yourself, and this improvement is reflected in all your relationships.
You feel inspired and excited about our brave new world, as you connect deeper with the other Integrated Leaders through the King’s Circle.
All growth after puberty is optional and the men who attend our circle have a growth mindset like you.
We support each other in becoming the new paradigm of courageous leaders we've been waiting for.
Lenerd achieved success relatively early in his life, running Marketing and Advertising for a big direct insurance group in South Africa in his early thirties and becoming a CEO in his early forties. However, in his mid-forties, he had a strong inner voice telling him to change everything in his life. It did not make any sense, so he distracted himself with sex, drugs and jacuzzies for four years. What seemed glamorous on the outside was actually a deep, dark, desperate time on the inside.
Eventually, in 2013, after this deep dark night of the soul, he heeded the call, resigned, sold and gave away most of his possessions, bought a backpack and a one-way ticket to Lima in Peru, which started a five-year, 35-country journey around the world. He attended numerous workshops and initiations on spirituality and sexuality around the world. His next destination was always based on where the next learning opportunity was.
In 2019 Lenerd’s memoir, JUMP! An epic soul and sex adventure was published across all major bookstores in Southern Africa which led him to being approached by men in similar situations to which he was in, way back then.
Gareth Pickering is an artist and thought leader. His inspiration is to create spaces for men to have open and honest conversations that shift their mindset and live life to the fullest. He’s a human connection specialist who guides others to level up with their lives through “relationships”. Relationships are a rocket ship for personal development. Gareth provides the tools and maps to fly and land your rocket safely.
An integrated leader recognises that we all have inner work to do. So, these new-paradigm leaders seek out people, processes, and places that help them identify and integrate their blind spots.
Each month, Fathers Sons Brothers hosts the King's Circle, a free two-hour transformational leadership training experience. It’s a men-only space where visionaries gather to learn tools and frameworks that make them better communicators and more integrated leaders.
When you regularly invest in this type of training:
You gain access to a space where men from all over the world support and encourage you to show up at your best.
You get clear on what you came here to do. You reconnect with your mission.
You recognise where you’re leaking energy, and you reclaim that power to allocate towards serving your mission.
You develop more trust in yourself, and this improvement is reflected in all your relationships.
You feel inspired and excited about our brave new world, as you connect deeper with the other Integrated Leaders through the King’s Circle.
All growth after puberty is optional and the men who attend our circle have a growth mindset like you.
We support each other in becoming the new paradigm of courageous leaders we've been waiting for.
Brian is a mechanical design engineer based in Boulder, Colorado, with decades of experience building medical devices for infant care, cranial and spinal neurosurgery. A creative builder and lifelong learner, Brian has led teams to distill complexity into real-world, user-centered solutions. Now in a season of career reinvention, Brian is expanding into teaching and mentoring around leadership, mindset, and life transitions—grounded in meditation and wellness practices that strengthen resilience, clarity, and decision-making under pressure.
Gareth Pickering is an artist and thought leader. His inspiration is to create spaces for men to have open and honest conversations that shift their mindset and live life to the fullest. He’s a human connection specialist who guides others to level up with their lives through “relationships”. Relationships are a rocket ship for personal development. Gareth provides the tools and maps to fly and land your rocket safely.
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