The Open Bedroom Podcast – Details, episodes & analysis

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Intro (00:00:00)

Jennifer shares insights about her relationship with Scott and their polyamorous journey.

Fluidity in Relationships (00:02:23)

The concept of fluidity in relationships is explored, highlighting changes over time.

Navigating Open Relationships (00:03:36)

Jennifer discusses her experiences and challenges in transitioning to an open relationship.

Exploring Relationship Configurations (00:04:40)

Different relationship configurations are examined, including throuples and dating couples.

Desire for a Closed Throuple (00:05:39)

Scott expresses a wish for a semi-closed throuple, emphasizing safety and commitment.

Updating Dating Profiles (00:07:41)

The couple updates their dating profiles to reflect their new relationship intentions.

Successful Matching Experience (00:08:52)

Jennifer recounts a successful match with a woman interested in their dynamic.

Unexpected Connection with a Man (00:10:03)

Jennifer shares an unexpected connection with a man looking for a couple for his wife.

Embracing Polyamorous Vibes (00:11:54)

Jennifer expresses excitement about the positive dynamics with their new partners.

Desire for Shared Experiences (00:12:54)

Jennifer reflects on the importance of shared experiences and connections in polyamory.

Dating Apps as a Portal (00:13:57)

Jennifer views dating apps as a magical portal for finding compatible partners.

Current Relationship Configurations (00:14:53)

Jennifer outlines her current relationships, including two throuples and solo dating.

Encouragement for Partner Support (00:15:53)

Jennifer encourages partners to support each other in finding additional partners.

Shared Efforts in Dating (00:16:51)

The couple collaborates on dating efforts, ensuring mutual understanding and communication.

Challenges with New Partners (00:17:46)

Jennifer discusses the challenges of integrating new partners into their relationship.

Alignment and Intentions (00:18:49)

Emphasizing alignment in dating profiles, Jennifer highlights the importance of clear intentions.

Podcast Introduction (00:20:07)

Jennifer thanks listeners and encourages them to like, subscribe, and share the podcast for more discussions.

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Michael Hollis started The Play, a lifestyle sex party where art meets erotic expression located in Los Angeles to be a place for people in open relationships that was different.

This is Part 1, where we discuss who The Play is For, The Price, the STI Testing policy, what to expect, and more.

Part II coming out soon...

Introduction (00:00:00)

Becoming Ethically Non-Monogamous (00:00:52)

Michael shares his and his wife's transition to ethical non-monogamy and its impact on their lives.

Experiences in the Lifestyle (00:01:13)

Discussion of various party experiences, from large hotel takeovers to intimate gatherings in Joshua Tree.

Inspiration for Play Parties (00:04:08)

A memorable movie night sparks the idea for a party focused on self-expression and artistic performances.

Establishing Party Pillars (00:06:13)

Michael explains the foundational pillars of health, consent, intimacy, and artistry in his play parties.

Testing Process and Inclusions (00:09:27)

Michael details the STI testing requirements and how they accommodate individuals with different health statuses.

Community Health Focus (00:12:06)

The importance of community health and regular testing is discussed, highlighting the growth of the play community.

Handling STI Outbreaks (00:14:50)

The protocol for attendees who experience outbreaks is explained, emphasizing community support and understanding.

Inclusivity of the Play Parties (00:17:54)

Michael discusses who the play parties are for, emphasizing inclusivity and the intersection of art and sexuality.

Overview of a Night at the Play (00:19:03)

An outline of what attendees can expect during a night at the play party is provided to manage expectations.

Expectations Based on Pricing (00:20:06)

Discussion on how price points create expectations and power dynamics at play parties.

Diversity in the Community (00:24:03)

Michael highlights the diverse makeup of attendees, ensuring a welcoming environment for all.

Artistic Expression at Parties (00:25:55)

Exploration of how guests' fantasies are realized through creative performances at play parties.

Unique Experiences at Each Party (00:30:02)

Every play party is different, with new themes and guests creating unique atmospheres.

Preparation and Boundaries for Couples (00:34:07)

Discussion on how couples should communicate their boundaries before attending play parties.

Navigating Open Relationships (00:36:39)

Michael advises on the necessary conversations for couples exploring open relationships and boundaries.

Introduction to Intimacy at Play Parties (00:39:27)

Discussion on boundaries and the role of intimacy in play parties.

Overview of Play Party Structure (00:39:49)

Michael explains the preparation and entry process for attendees at play parties.

Encouraging Creative Expression (00:41:17)

Attendees are encouraged to bring creative items, enhancing the party's atmosphere.

Phone Policy to Reduce Anxiety (00:42:11)

The importance of phone checks to maintain focus and reduce distractions during the event.

Rules for Entry (00:42:57)

Three core rules: no phones, no money, and no hierarchy to ensure equality.

Building Authentic Connections (00:47:02)

How the initial activities foster intimacy and authentic connections among attendees.

Boundary Conversations (00:47:32)

Encouraging attendees to discuss their boundaries as a way to enhance communication.

Understanding and Respecting Boundaries (00:48:38)

The significance of boundary conversations for respectful interactions at play parties.

Consent Education (00:52:12)

Discussion on what consent looks like and emphasizing the importance of enthusiastic yes.

Responding to No (00:54:10)

Advice on how to gracefully accept a no and maintain respect for personal boundaries.

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Jealousy and Compassion (00:00:03) Jennifer discusses experiencing compersion and joy on the other side of jealousy and encourages allowing oneself to feel jealousy.

Online Coaching Services (00:01:13) Jennifer mentions her online coaching services in the sex and relationships space, focusing on topics such as open relationships, polyamory, swinging, the lifestyle, online dating, and conscious uncoupling.

Starting with Friendships (00:02:28) Jennifer advises starting friendships with mixed sexes to overcome jealousy and encourages allowing and encouraging partners to have friends of the opposite sex.

Breakfast or Lunch Dates (00:04:46) Jennifer suggests trying breakfast or lunch dates as a non-threatening way to overcome jealousy in open relationships.

Dinner/Playdate Scenarios (00:05:51) Jennifer discusses moving into dinner/playdate scenarios and the evolving dynamics of open relationships, including setting boundaries and flexibility.

Tips to Move Through Jealousy (00:09:46) Jennifer provides three tips to help move through jealousy, including scheduling a massage, journaling, seeking coaching or counseling, and going out with friends.

Compassion and Joy (00:11:56) Jennifer discusses the concept of compersion and joy on the other side of jealousy, emphasizing the importance of allowing oneself to feel jealousy and processing through it.

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@ruanwillowauthor is an erotic author & narrator who not only creates her own content, but also is the voice for lots of different vanilla & erotic authors too. This is the first interview I’ve done where we’ve hidden the guest’s face in order to help keep her anonymous. Ruan has a very public life as an author and narrator in the “vanilla” world that she is keeping separate from her s/xy erotic life, so we are preserving her anonymity. In this episode we talk about how she got into erotic writing, voiceover work, how erotic audiobooks are the modern day p0rn, and how to start your own creative writing career in this space! Link in bio to our podcast OR Resources: QuinnAudio Erotica: https://tryquinn.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ruanwillowauthor/ Ruan’s Podcast: https://ohfckyeahwithruanwillow.buzzsprout.com/ All of Ruan’s Audiobooks, Books, Articles, Voice for Hire Info: https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Jen’s Insta: https:// www.instagram.com/jenniferkayloruscinpodcast/

My first podcast episode with Cashelle (#53: BDSM 101 From Submissive) was such a hit that we decided to make another one, delving deeper into how exploring trauma through BDSM can actually be a really healing experience.

In today’s episode, Cashelle walks us through some of her own trauma, and how BDSM helped her break through the chains it held her down by, and how some common traumas can be worked through with different BDSM techniques.

Some examples of the BDSM technique that correlates with the trauma:

Domination = Needing to feel Safety

Impact Play = Dissociation

Daddy = Father Abandonment

Enjoy!

Jen

Links:

Jen's Instagram

Cashelles Website

Danielle Addison, owner of Simply Magnetic is a coach that teaches others how to harness the power of magnetism and feminine energies to get what you want. I had Danielle on Episode #31: The Energy of $20K months: what it takes for creating multiple 5 figure months with ease. I’ve been fangirling her for years, and am in her Facebook group (it’s super sexy, y’all!), and am so honored to have her live on the show again! Today we’re talking about Seducing the Universe: How To Get What You Want. Did you know even your coffee can be sexy? Danielle shows us how. 

Resources: 

Jen’s Instagram 

Danielle’s Instagram 

Danielle’s Facebook Group 

Seducing the Universe Freebie

Danielle’s Website 

Ep#56: Sexcapades Podcast Episode

Dr. Joli Hamilton is the relationship coach for couples who color outside the lines.

She is a research psychologist, TEDx speaker, best-selling author, and AASECT certified sex educator.

Joli also co-hosts the Playing With Fire podcast with her anchor partner, Ken.

Joli’s been featured in The New York Times, Vogue, NPR, and The Atlantic.

She’s spent the past two decades studying and reimagining what love can be if we open our imaginations to possibility.

Joli helps people create non-monogamous partnerships that are custom-built for their authentic selves, no more shrinking, pretending, or hiding required through the creation of Individuation Relationships.

Links:

Jen's Instagram

Dr. Joli's Instagram

Dr. Joli's Relationship Style Quiz

Dr. Joli's Website

Classically trained opera singer @lanaviolette was repeatedly told she had no place on the stage or in the arts.

Lana found Burlesque, and she found her Tribe as well as an empowering, body-positive space that allowed her to mix all of her talents: opera singer + dancer + production manager + pasties artist into one fabulous outlet.

Let us take you on a journey with a behind-the-scenes look at what becoming a burlesque artist looks like, what it takes to be a burlesque performer, and how difficult the system currently is to even have burlesque performed in your local city.

Links:

Lana's Instagram

Lana's Pasties

@jenniferkayloruscinpodcast

Follow Lana's fellow Burlesque dancers: 

@wholesomesleaze (Pepper Darling) 

@bombaycabaret 

@miki_gaynor 

@maxiefauna8118 

@krystal_bijoux 

@arshakeshakers 

@ravenroseburlesque 

@sassafrasopal 

@the_siam_fox 

@truegritandgrind 

@barebookclublr 

Upcoming Shows: https://night-muses.ticketleap.com/oh-dear-another-year/?fbclid=IwAR1ZiHJthNlB38WEdIAqTNGs3zQrBenwvvwrWo1dCb_GFo3FvrXiZZl9cQ8&mibextid=Zxz2cZ

So… you’ve decided to open your relationship… now WTF do you do?

This podcast is for you!

We cover where to start, where to go, where NOT to go, the different dynamics of each spot from your local Swinger Club to S*x Clubs and Dungeons.

Justin and I have got you covered!

Topics:

• 3:03 - 3:57 What It’s Like to Run a Swinger Club
• 8 - 9:05 Make Swinger Friends Before you Go Out
• 11 - 11:48  Move at the Pace of the Slowest Person
• 11:48 - 13:38 Swingers Parties Are a Great Place to Be a Voyeur
• 18:31 - 19:17 Lifestyle Humans = Communication, Consent & Meeting Me Where I’m At.
• 20:46 - 21:11 + 21:38 -  22:03 ETHICALLY Non-Monogamous Meaning
• 24 - 24:40 Sharing Your Dynamic

Links:

OTB Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ontheborderls/

Swinging 101 with @theconfidentswinger, Jo Leavitt in Episode #55 (https://anchor.fm/jennifer-ruscin/episodes/55-Swinging-101-with-Jo-Leavitt-e1o4h43/a-a8jblur).

@ontheborder_ls_group

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Today’s podcast is something really different.  

I get real-time coaching on my relationship from Alexandra Stockwell, MD, also known as "The Intimacy Doctor".  

She is an Intimate Marriage Expert who specializes in showing couples how to build beautiful, long-lasting, passionate relationships.   

She’s also the bestselling author of "Uncompromising Intimacy" and host of The Intimate Marriage Podcast.  

A wife of 26 years and mother of 4, Alexandra believes the key to passion and fulfillment, intimacy, and success isn't compromise - it's being unwilling to compromise - because when both people feel free to be themselves, and know how to love and be loved for exactly who they are, the relationship is juicy, nourishing, and deeply satisfying.  

Hot topics: 

6:32 7:15 Who is Alexandra? 

7:22 - 8:15 This podcast is actual 1:1 coaching between Alexandra & Jennifer 

9:52 - 10:32 Compromising in Your Relationship = A Bland, Pleasant Companionships 

11:27 - 12:15 What UNcompromising Looks Like 

13:24 - 14:17 Uncompromising is not amputating parts of yourself to make your relationship work. 

27:37 - 28:48: His “No” Stems From So Many Things 

42:01 - 42:51 He’s Playing in my World

Find Alexandra and I:

https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/

Alexandra's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/

Jennifer's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jenniferkayloruscinpodcast/