Every Part of Us – Details, episodes & analysis

In this real-time demonstration of a therapy session, we see Poul Perris help a couple connect to the pain underneath their decade’s long relationship struggles.

Poul Perris, MD is the director of the Swedish Institute for CBT & Schema Therapy located in Stockholm,Sweden. The institute is a private training center with University status that offers psychotherapy training programs at various professional levels, combined with a clinical outpatient setting. 

Poul served as the President of the Swedish CBT association from 2010-2016 and has contributed to making SchemaTherapy an integral part of national mental health services in Sweden. Poul has been teaching and supervising cognitivebehavioral therapists and schema therapists internationally for over a decade.He is a certified schema therapy trainer for both individual and couples and his Institute has been offering ISST approved training for certification since 2005. Poul specializes in the treatment of personality disorders, and in couples therapy for complex relational problems. Poul has co-authored a handbook on Schema Therapy in Swedish, as well as several bookchapters on working with couples and core emotional needs. Poul is committed to bring ingSchema Therapy to theattention of the general public and, to this end, has been involved in several productions for Swedish National Television that promote the schema therapists understanding of the centrality of core emotional needs, what happens when theyare not met, and the schema mode model. In 2012 he treated 6 authentic couples with ST-C. All sessions were filmed and later edited into 6 episodes that were aired on Swedish National TV.

For more information about Poul’s work go to https://cbti.se/kunskap/medarbetare/poul-perris/

For more information about the series andtraining go to https://www.schematherapycanberra.com.au/everypartofus.html and ⁠https://schematherapyforcoupleslondon.co.uk/every-part-of-us/⁠

The information that we provide is informational and does not constitute any “health” advice. We provide this information for your general use only. Your personal situation has not beenconsidered when providing the information, so any reliance on this information is at your sole risk, and you should always seek independent professional advice before reliance on the information.

All case examples are de-identified to maintain confidentiality.

What do we as therapists do in the aftermath of a betrayal when the betrayed partner can’t let go of their mistrust and has the urge to keep punishing the other? If there has been a building of trust and changes made by the parter who has acted out, what is going on for the partner who may be stuck in their anger?

Wendy Behary brings insight to guide us through this tricky landscape and demonstrates how to bring healing to partners stuck in this painful dynamic.

Wendy Behary has been treating clients, training professionals and supervising psychotherapists for more than 20 years. She is also on the faculty of the Cognitive Therapy Center and Schema Therapy Institute of New York, where she has trained and worked with Dr. Jeffrey Young since 1989. Wendy is a founding fellow (and supervisor) of The Academy of Cognitive Therapy (Dr. Aaron T. Beck). She was also the President of the International Society of Schema Therapy (ISST) from 2010-2014.

Wendy Behary has co-authored several chapters and articles on Schema Therapy and Cognitive Therapy. She is the author of “Disarming the Narcissist…Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed” (New Harbinger Publications). Now translatedin 15 languages. Wendy has a specialty in treating narcissists and the people who live with and deal with them. As an author and an expert on the subject of narcissism, she is a contributing chapter author of several chapters on Schema Therapy for narcissism (Wiley and APA Press). She lectures both nationally and internationally to professional and general audiences on the subject of Schema Therapy, and the subject of narcissism, relationships, and dealing with difficult people.

Find out more about Wendy's work and training at the following links: ⁠https://disarmingthenarcissist.com/⁠

⁠https://courses.schematherapytrainingonline.com/p/empathic-confrontation-wendy-behary⁠

For more information about the series and training go tohttps://www.schematherapycanberra.com.au/everypartofus.html  and ⁠https://schematherapyforcoupleslondon.co.uk/every-part-of-us/⁠

The information that we provide is informational and does not constitute any “health” advice. We provide this information for your general use only. Your personal situation has not been considered when providing the information, so any reliance on this information is at your sole risk, and you should always seek independent professional advice before reliance on the information.

All case examples are de-identified to maintain confidentiality.

When there is a long history of sexual acting out, possible sex addiction or multiple betrayals of a sexual nature, the recovery and healing process is much more complex. How does Schema Couples Therapy help people heal and process this level of trauma? How do you help couples get to “full disclosure” when there may be years of lying and acting out?

Liz Lacy has worked for more than 16 years with addictions, particularly sex/love. She has completed post-masters trainingat the American Institute for Cognitive Therapy (specializing in CBT), NY/NJ Institute for Schema Therapy, Beck Institute, and New York City Center for Emotion Focused (EFT) Couples Therapy.

For more information on Liz’s work go to elizabethlacy.com

For more information about the series and training go to https://www.schematherapycanberra.com.au/everypartofus.html

 and ⁠https://schematherapyforcoupleslondon.co.uk/every-part-of-us/⁠

The information that we provide is informational and does not constitute any “health” advice. We provide this information for your general use only. Your personal situation has not been considered when providing the information, so any reliance on this information is at your sole risk, and you should always seek independent professional advice before reliance on the information.

All case examples are de-identified to maintain confidentiality.

How do we help a couple when they literally become one to grapple with are they attached or entangled?

Here’s Jeff Conway to help us consider the cling factor and how to help bring relief to partners in this dynamic.

Jeff Conway is a founding member of The International Society for Schema Therapy and the past President of the International Society of Schema Therapy. He is a Certified Advanced Level Trainer-Supervisor in Schema Therapy (since 2008). Jeff has a private practice in Mid-Town Manhattan where he works with Individuals, Couples, and Groups. Jeff has trained in Emotion Focused Therapy, and is a founder of The NY Center for Emotion-Focused Therapy.  He is also a Certified Group Therapist and his most recent work involves an in-depth exploration of co-dependency and the Enmeshment Schema.

For more information about the series and training go to https://www.schematherapycanberra.com.au/everypartofus.html and https://schematherapyforcoupleslondon.co.uk/every-part-of-us/

The information that we provide is informational and does not constitute any “health” advice. We provide this information for your general use only. Your personal situation has not been considered when providing the information, so any reliance on this information is at your sole risk, and you should always seek independent professional advice before reliance on the information.

All case examples are de-identified to maintain confidentiality.

This episode highlights how to work with narcissistic hyper sexuality. How we need to "dig deep" to help with resistance and how does shame block empathy for the partner who has been betrayed?

Wendy Behary has been treating clients, training professionals and supervising psychotherapists for more than 20 years. She is also on the faculty of the Cognitive Therapy Center and Schema Therapy Institute of New York, where she has trained and worked with Dr. Jeffrey Young since 1989. Wendy is a founding fellow (and supervisor) of The Academy of Cognitive Therapy (Dr. Aaron T. Beck). She was also the President of the International Society of Schema Therapy (ISST) from 2010-2014.

Wendy Behary has co-authored several chapters and articles on Schema Therapy and Cognitive Therapy. She is the author of“Disarming the Narcissist…Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed” (New Harbinger Publications). Now translated in 15 languages. Wendy has a specialty in treating narcissists and the people who live with and deal with them. As an author and an expert on the subject of narcissism, she is a contributingchapter author of several chapters on Schema Therapy for narcissism (Wiley and APA Press). She lectures both nationally and internationally to professional and general audiences on the subject of Schema Therapy, and the subject of narcissism, relationships, and dealing with difficult people.

Find out more about Wendy's work and training at the following links:https://disarmingthenarcissist.com/

https://courses.schematherapytrainingonline.com/p/empathic-confrontation-wendy-behary

For more information about the series and training go tohttps://www.schematherapycanberra.com.au/everypartofus.html

The information that we provide is informational and does not constitute any “health” advice. We provide this information for your general use only. Your personal situation has not beenconsidered when providing the information, so any reliance on this information is at your sole risk, and you should always seek independent professional advice before reliance on the information.

All case examples are de-identified to maintain confidentiality.

Couple conflict often has roots in unmet needs from childhood. Do I feel safe to be vulnerable?

Are you going to be there for me?

Do I feel worthy of love?

These are some of the fundamental questions that Schema Couples Therapy explores. The hosts of Every Part of Us discuss how this framework can build profound intimacy and help couples to connect and heal.

For more information about the series and training go to https://www.schematherapycanberra.com.au/everypartofus.html

The information that we provide is informational and does not constitute any “health” advice. We provide this information for your general use only. Your personal situation has not been considered when providing the information, so any reliance on this information is at your sole risk, and you should always seek independent professional advice before reliance on the information.

All case examples are de-identified to maintain confidentiality.

Coming January 2024, a limited series podcast exploring how Schema Couples Therapy provides a powerful and unique toolkit to help therapists work with complexity in couples. We will be interviewing experts on topics such as couples and affairs, addictions, enmeshment and how to use schema therapy to formulate and work with these issues. This podcast is for everyone who wants to understand what helps couples thrive and what can go wrong, for therapists and those wanting to improve their relationships.

Join your hosts, Ruth Holt and Ruth McCutcheon to explore every part of us!

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One of the most powerful and effective tools for gealing and change in Schema Therapy is Imagery Re-scripting. But how does this work with couples? Poul Perris talks us throughhow to create a safe space for Re-scripting, how Imagery works and then demonstrates using Imagery Re-scripting to build connection, understanding and empathy with a couple.

Poul Perris, MD is the director of the Swedish Institute for CBT & Schema Therapy located in Stockholm, Sweden. The institute is a private training centre with University status that offers psychotherapy training programs at various professional levels, combined with a clinical outpatient setting. 

Poul served as the President of the Swedish CBT association from 2010-2016 and has contributed to making SchemaTherapy an integral part of national mental health services in Sweden. Poul has been teaching and supervising cognitivebehavioral therapists and schema therapists internationally for over a decade. He is a certified schema therapy trainer for both individual and couples and hisI nstitute has been offering ISST approved training for certification since 2005. Poul specializes in the treatment of personality disorders, and in couples therapy for complex relational problems. Poul has co-authored a handbook on Schema Therapy in Swedish, as well as several book chapters on working with couples and core emotional needs. Poul is committed to bring ingSchema Therapy to theattention of the general public and, to this end, has been involved in several productions for Swedish National Television that promote the schema therapists understanding of the centrality of core emotional needs, what happens when theyare not met, and the schema mode model. In 2012 he treated 6 authentic couples with ST-C. All sessions were filmed and later edited into 6 episodes that were aired on Swedish National TV.

For more information about Poul’s work go to https://cbti.se/kunskap/medarbetare/poul-perris/

For more information about the series and training go to https://www.schematherapycanberra.com.au/everypartofus.html

 and ⁠https://schematherapyforcoupleslondon.co.uk/every-part-of-us/⁠

The information that we provide is informational and does not constitute any “health” advice. We provide this information for your general use only. Your personal situation has not been considered when providing the information, so any reliance on this information is at your sole risk, and you should always seek independent professional advice before reliance on the information.

All case examples are de-identified to maintain confidentiality.

One of the strangest and most powerful elements in SchemaCouples Therapy is chairwork. Putting parts of self in chairs and standing above those chairs provides an opportunity for empathy, seeing the self differently and allowing for change. But how does it work? Eckhart walks through the neuroscience as well as demonstrating how to work with a couple using chairs.

Dr Eckhart Roediger is a specialist in Neurology, Psychiatry andPsychotherapy and Psychotherapeutic Medicine. Since 2007 he has been working in private practice in Frankfurt and as a lecturer and supervisor for behavior therapy and schema therapy. He also holds teaching positions in Cologne and the Kath. Stiftungsfachhochschule in Munich. Since June 2008 he isthe first fully licensed Schema Therapist in Germany and member of the founding board of ISST, founded and director of the Institute for Schema Therapy-Frankfurt (IST-F). Eckhart has served as a member of the ISST Board since 2008, past-President and now honorary member.

For more information about Eckhart’s work and training goto https://www.schematherapy-roediger.org

For more information about the series andtraining go to https://www.schematherapycanberra.com.au/everypartofus.html

 and ⁠https://schematherapyforcoupleslondon.co.uk/every-part-of-us/⁠

The information that we provide is informational and does not constitute any “health” advice. We provide this information for your general use only. Your personal situation has not beenconsidered when providing the information, so any reliance on this information is at your sole risk, and you should always seek independent professional advice before reliance on the information.

All case examples are de-identified to maintain confidentiality.

Professor Dave Edwards talks to us about how to establish shared goals with a couple and create a good therapy alliance at the outset of sessions. He also gives a practical demonstration of how to help couples align together on the kind of connection they want from Schema Couples Therapy.

David Edwards is a Professor Emeritus at Rhodes University, South Africa where he was involved in the professional training of clinical and counselling psychologists from 1980 to 2009. He was fortunate to be connected to the beginnings of schema therapy when he attended seminars with Jeffrey Young while training in cognitive therapy at the University of Pennsylvania in 1984. His enthusiasm was refreshed when, at a conference in Barcelona in 2007, he met Arnoud Arntz, one of the leaders in the Dutch group and attended a workshop presented by him the following year. He joined the newly formed International Society for Schema Therapy (ISST) and is certified as a schema therapist and trainer in individual ST and in ST for couples. He was President of the International Society for Schema Therapy for two terms from 2016-2020. Now retired and working part time for the University, he conducts and publishes research on aspects of psychotherapy and supervises research students. For more information about Dave’s work go tohttps://stisa.org.za/about/david-edwards/

For more information about the series and training go to https://www.schematherapycanberra.com.au/everypartofus.html and ⁠https://schematherapyforcoupleslondon.co.uk/every-part-of-us/⁠

The goals for couples handout is available at:https://www.schematherapycanberra.com.au/everypartofus.html

The information that we provide is informational and does not constitute any “health” advice. We provide this information for your general use only. Your personal situation has not been considered when providing the information, so any reliance on this information is at your sole risk, and you should always seek independent professional advice before reliance on the information. All case examples are de-identified to maintain confidentiality.