Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage. – Details, episodes & analysis

Janna chats with Michael Kaufman, the author of The Time Has Come: Why Men Must Join the Gender Equality Revolution. Michael, a renowned advisor, activist, and keynote speaker, shares his insights on how traditional male roles in the bedroom and beyond often don’t benefit women. They dive into why it's crucial for men to confront their own privilege and engage in open dialogues about gender equality.

Michael also discusses the rapid shifts in societal roles for both men and women. By listening to women's voices and addressing their own defensiveness, men can better contribute to a more equitable world. Tune in to hear Michael's innovative approaches for transforming men's lives and fostering positive change for a more equitable society.

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Michael Kaufman: https://michaelkaufman.com/the-time-has-come/

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Janna speaks with Ericka about the use of alcohol and how it can become a crutch in intimate situations. Ericka started drinking in high school, initially finding that alcohol eased her anxiety and helped her feel more relaxed before sexual encounters. However, this pattern led to risky situations and a troubling reliance on alcohol to numb out her fears and concerns about sexual performance. The result was a disconnection from her true feelings and intuition.

Now four years sober, Ericka has created a valuable resource kit for women navigating intimacy and sobriety, available at sobrietycurious.com. She’s seen many women in online sobriety groups struggle with the question, "What do I do about sex now that I’m not drinking?" Listen as Ericka shares her journey to a healthier, more authentic way of rediscovering intimacy and self-worth without the haze of alcohol.

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At 51, Heather is finally discovering what truly brings her pleasure in sexual experiences by asking herself, “What do I need?” Although she was once a curious and precocious sexual being, her desire diminished during marriage when sex became an expectation and duty. The traditional formula of what sex should be didn't work for her and depleted her natural libido, but she couldn’t articulate why. 

It wasn't until she and her husband participated in the Doing It Together program that she realized she had been missing the nuances of true intimacy and neglecting the acts that brought her real pleasure and enjoyment. Listen to how Heather learned to unfollow the "media sex formula" rules, give specific directions, set boundaries, and savor the wide range of possibilities in the buffet of the sexual experience.

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1. The importance of looking at the real motivations behind sex.

2. Shifting your mindset from sex being a chore.

3. How to enjoy an orgasm for yourself without feeling guilty.

4. The struggle of being intimate in the early days of motherhood.

5. How to create a sex life that is more authentic, equitable, and nourishing.

*Please note that this conversation includes real experiences that are sometimes traumatic in nature. This may be triggering for some listeners.

GUEST BIO:

Melissa is a busy mom of 4 (ages 19 years - 8years) who breastfed till her children self-weaned, co-slept and practised attachment parenting with the support of her local La Leche League community. She is a feminist who loves deep conversations, scrapbooking, camping, and dogsledding with her huskies. She is ever so grateful for the knowledge gained in the Wanting it More Program which has allowed her to redefine intimate experiences with her husband of 23 years.

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1. Why media is so damaging when it comes to our understanding of sex.

2. How cultural expectations define our expectations for sex and what the intentions can be instead.

3. The major problem with mainstream advice for low libido.

4. The magic ingredient essential to a wonderful sex life that so many professionals ignore.

5. The most important mindset shift to go from having duty sex to having sex for pleasure and enjoyment.

*Please note that this conversation includes real experiences that are sometimes traumatic in nature. This may be triggering for some listeners.

GUEST BIO:

For this week's episode on The Wanting it More podcast, I speak with my close friend, colleague and alum of my program, Laura Froyen, PhD. Laura is a Marriage and Family Therapist who not only took sex therapy classes in graduate school but worked with couples in their sexual relationships and recieved sex therapy herself. In her professional life, she now helps individuals, partners, and co-parents become the parents they are longing to be.

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Connect with Laura:  Podcast l Website l Instagram

Janna's Program: Wanting It More

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1. Why feeling alone, broken and guilty started my journey as a Desire Expert

2. How my struggles in the bedroom led me to designing a program for women about intimacy

3. Who my guests are and why they are willing to share the juicy details of their sex lives

4. Who I serve and what my core values are

5. How these real, honest and vulnerable conversations can improve your sex life

BIO:

I’m Janna Denton Howes, a Desire Expert and Creator of The Wanting It More Program. I have spent hundreds of hours helping thousands of women want and enjoy intimacy more. I was married young at 17 and 21 years later am still married to my wonderful husband who is an engineer. We live on Vancouver Island with our two teenage girls. I love long walks at the beach, dancing while I rollerblade, and time in nature. I love, love, love people and discovering what talents, ideas and perspectives they have. Join me for honest conversations with women who have experienced low libido in their relationships, as we discuss the details nobody else talks about.

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It's our 100th episode! To celebrate, I'm announcing a big change: a name change. As I've evolved over the years and learned from the couples I've served, so has my program. After adding an entire men's coaching and education program to Wanting It More, I realized the name needed to reflect a broader perspective. I was no longer exclusively speaking to women with low libido; I was teaching couples to work together to achieve fulfilling sex lives in their marriages.

So, as of today, the Wanting It More program and this podcast will now be called Doing It Together. I will continue to share the stories of men and women to help you better understand your own journey and to ultimately know that you aren't broken, you never were, and there's a better way forward.

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Crystal is a self-defined good girl. Since childhood, she was expected to, and praised for, doing as she was told and not rocking the boat. While this behavior was effective in her formative years, her passive nature had consequences on multiple levels in her 25-year marriage, including in the bedroom.

Crystal shares her struggle with speaking up for herself or asking for help, and how her lack of assertiveness resulted in years of emotional and physical suffering. She sought help for her low sexual desire through multiple doctors and therapists, but nothing worked until she found Janna. She describes Janna’s program as having "transformed" her marriage, and she explains why she thinks the lessons she and her husband learned are essential for a successful marriage.

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Tyler and his wife struggled with intimacy throughout their 11 years of marriage. After meeting at 16 and waiting until marriage four years later, they both expected that the sexual experience would bring joy and fun to their lives, but it did not. His wife was plagued by pain, and after having two children, the exhaustion and stress of their lives dimmed all expressions of genuine connection and intimacy.

Tyler thought that doing more around the house would help, but this only turned the experience into a transaction, which felt inauthentic and forced. After many failed attempts to fix their problem, his wife found Janna’s podcast and realized they weren’t alone in their struggle. Tyler shares the difficulties they both faced unlearning a lifetime of inaccurate information and how they are rebuilding their connection today.

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Emma vividly remembers losing her libido during her honeymoon. She and her husband had waited until marriage to have intercourse for the first time, and both were eagerly anticipating it. Initially, the experience was wonderful, but soon her desire vanished and never returned.

For years, she tried everything she could think of to "fix" herself. She believed she was fundamentally broken or that something was wrong with her clitoris. She visited doctors and sex therapists, read countless books, and followed all the advice she could find online. Desperate to save her marriage, she decided to take one last chance on Janna and her program. Emma shares her story of how she finally regained her libido and what she and her husband learned that restored their intimacy.

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