Deliberate Motherhood Podcast – Details, episodes & analysis

We see you.

Hair a mess...

Laundry piled up...

Lists unfinished...

Showers untaken...

We hear them...

The kids… 

Fighting and crying...

Wanting the best of you...

Wanting ALLLLL of you...

Getting excited...and getting let down

...and struggling with the multitude of tiny transitions that come with this time of year.

We see your heart...

The guilt of all the 'no's you had to give this season...

The pressure to make everyone's memories sweet and meaningful...

The weight of shopping for gifts that are "even-ish" so that siblings don't compare...

The burden of being the one-woman holiday elf A-team of your family...

The overwhelm of gifts, and meals, and plans, and family, and friends, and events, and homeschooling, and cleaning...and how you'll have to balance being a "part" of everything with being the backbone of everything moving forward and going smoothly.

And we just want to tell you...you are doing beautiful work.

We see you. 

Our Father in heaven sees you.

It feels messy, it feels overwhelming, it seems like all the important things won't come together...but they will. 

The ones that matter will happen and the ones that don't...won't. And that's okay.

Our prayer over you…

....Never forget...you are doing beautiful work.

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Do Less.

All those hopes...all those dreams...all those GREAT ideas...say no to them.

Your brain is gonna argue with you and tell you how good all those things are...

It's gonna tell you how impactful, meaningful, and memory stacking they're going to be for your kids...for you...for your family.

But the truth is, kids are gonna whine, someone's going to lose their shoes, siblings are going to find a reason to argue...and you're gonna come home tapped out...

That's okay for some things...that are actually worth it...but for all the rest...it won't be.

It's going to leave you feeling resentful, tired, and asking why you even do these nice things if your kids are just going to complain about it and fight the whole time. 

• The Calendar (01:05)
• Prayerful Discernment (05:11)
• The Best Yes (07:40)
• Less Chaos Through Planning Like a Mother (11:35)

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In this episode we have Amy!  An amazing momma who made the difficult decision to “retire” from her career as a full spectrum small town family physician to homeschool. 

Amy's family is really interesting because they do what she calls, "hybrid school". They live in a small town, her oldest two (8, 5) go to public school in the afternoons, and her youngest two go to daycare three days a week.

She's a self-described homeschooling rebel 😂  (but we think she's a wonderful example of someone who's thoroughly explored the possibilities and found what works well in her family and small community). 

• The Schantzen Family (01:30)
• Jumping in with Both Feet (06:09)
• Supporting a Homeschool (07:55)
• Small-Town Life (08:50)
• Homeschool Space (11:05)
• Homeschooling Happens... (11:45)
• Curriculum (19:30)
• Incorporating Faith (25:20)
• Fear & Flex (29:15)
• Advice for a New Homeschool Mom (36:25)
• A's to Our Q's (39:25)

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Momma, the goals you go after, the little battles you fight every day...they are changing lives 

(truly they are)

 And IF you take the time to assess what you've been living, you're going to learn the lessons that have been available to you the WHOLE time...

Which is why, today we'll be walking you through the 30-day motherhood assessment that's included in the Deliberate Start Guide

• 30-Day Motherhood Assessment (01:40)
• You are here (01:51)
• Where you met resistance (03:15)
• What went well (05:42)
• How did I pause or cope (08:37)
• What I said yes/no to that was good/bad (10:10)
• My wins (16:00)
• Resources I loved or enjoyed (22:40)
• What I learned (24:20)
• The ONE thing I want to prioritize in the next 30-days (27:40)
• Recap (29:50)
• Mom Wins (30:50)
• Invitation (33:50)

Come back and do this assessment each month...DO IT momma...it really will change your motherhood. It's here FOR you and it's free because it's our mission to serve mommas.

We believe that an empowered, encouraged and equipped mother will change her family. 

And if you would rather have it in an easy to use and pretty to look at format you can print again and again, go get our Deliberate Start Guide.

It's a life and goal planning guide that capitalizes on the power of reflection (that we've been talking about all week), the excitement of new beginnings, and the power of strategic goal planning that was created specifically with the challenges of motherhood in mind. 

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Looking for items shared in our podcasts?!

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• For the Favorites List, go here.

Today we're going to embrace the suck.

Because motherhood is HARD.

There's no ifs, ands, or buts, about it.

We are too often battling spirits of overwhelm, despair, anxiety, and exhaustion along-side these beautiful joys that also accompany our days. 

Discouragement can be seen and felt...everywhere right now.

And while we're not celebrating all of us feeling discouragement...it does mean we aren't alone. 

Because when we're seeing all the highlights it's so easy to feel alone.

Like the problem is with YOU...

That your goals and dreams keep failing, because you are a failure....

Or because there's just not enough of you to do it all.

BUT

You aren't alone.

And We're all feeling it.

However...It's important that we aren't giving in to our own desolations, that we're battling them and winning...even just a little bit each day.

You heard from some mommas in our last podcast doing JUST THAT. And you'll get to hear some more at the end of this podcast.

btw...Keep the wins coming because your wins are worth celebrating! Just email or message them and we'll take care of the rest.

The real truth is that Motherhood IS hard...

The real beauty is that in the struggle...we are becoming. 

And it means that…

We're in the game! We're doing the things!

These challenges we're coming up against are shaping us into the best version of ourselves...

We aren't staying steeped in our perceived failures or difficult struggles.

They still come to visit, but we're acknowledging them and sending them on their way.

Momma, the work you do every day, the goals you go after, they are changing lives (we're not even exaggerating here).

...but the reality is that in this everyday work, in these goals...we meet resistance.

It comes in all forms too...

Surprise visitors

Everyone getting a stomach bug

A child leaving your garage freezer open and all your stock defrosting and going bad

School started (or stopped)

Kids routines being thrown off

A hurricane or other natural disasters

The babysitter canceling last minute

And when these issues come up, we all need tools in place to overcome them.

In podcast 65 we talked about taking your goals and breaking them down into mini goals and action steps.

This week we're speaking directly to how these goals, mini goals, and actions steps meet resistance in the days, weeks, and months of our motherhoods and giving you tools to greet them where they are.

Today we're taking those same steps we talked about in episode #68 and we're looking at them from mountain top view, with a weekly perspective.

• Before the Mess (03:47)
• In the Mess (15:05)
• After the Mess (21:05)
• Recap (23:08)
• Wins (24:33)

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Looking for items shared in our podcasts?!

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• Here's our Homeschool Plan Like A Mother Guide!
• For the 12 Week Planner, click here! (Use code PODCASTMOM for 20% off!)
• Get your FREE Meal Planning Kit here.
• For the Favorites List, go here.

This week we want to honor the struggle.
Because motherhood is HARD.
There are spirits of defeat, discouragement, fear, inadequacy, and sadness that we’re fighting Every. Single. Day.

And frankly...Discouragement is everywhere you look.You can feel it and see it...like at the beginning of the pandemic.

But ESPECIALLY after 2022.

And while that's not something to celebrate, the truth is, when everything looks good (social media highlights) it's easy to feel lonely.
Or like the problem is with YOU. 
That your goals and dreams don't work because you don't work hard enough.
Or because you aren't enough to do it all.

BUT

You aren't alone.
We're all feeling it, but there are mommas fighting against these same demons and winning. You heard some mommas' wins in our last podcast and you're going to hear some more!
PSST...Keep the wins coming! We'll let you know how you can send them in at the end...
Motherhood IS hard BUT you can struggle on the daily and still accomplish big things. 
The beauty here in the struggle is...we are becoming. 
These challenges are what shape us into the best version of ourselves...
Going after these goals means we're in the game! We're doing the things!
We're in the arena (maybe even with real lions).
We aren't living in our defeat, discouragement, fear, inadequacy, or sadness.
They might still come to visit, but we're hugging them and sending them on their merry stinking way.
Your goals will change the world (we're not even kidding here)...but the reality is life is going to happen.
Your kid is going to have an accident when you're walking out the door.
A cold is going to run through the house the last 5 weeks of the year.
Your cat is going to eat 4' of yarn (financial freedom year).
Someone is going to break something
Your travel plans are going to have a hitch...like a flat tire, or a snowed in cabin.
You'll throw your hip out while you're putting on your pants and have to rest instead of exercise.
You'll have nights where no one sleeps and you're so sleep deprived only survival is possible the next day.
And when it does...you're going to need tools to deal with it.
So how do we recommit to moving forward, to getting back on track, when it does?
In podcast 65 we talked about taking your goals and breaking them down into mini goals and actions steps.
This week we're speaking directly to how these goals, mini goals, and actions steps meet resistance in the days, weeks, and months of our motherhoods and giving you tools to greet them where they are.

Today is all about daily resistance.

• Before the Mess (04:56)
• In the Mess (19:55)
• After the Mess (33:42)
• Recap (37:48)
• Wins (38:35)

We want to keep this beautiful thing going! 

If you’d like to send your mom wins in, we would LOVE to sha

Find the complete podcast notes on our website.

To find The Deliberate Day on Instagram, click here.

Looking for items shared in our podcasts?!

• Get the Editable Homeschool Clipboard Template here!
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• For the 12 Week Planner, click here! (Use code PODCASTMOM for 20% off!)
• Get your FREE Meal Planning Kit here.
• For the Favorites List, go here.

All last week we told you, YOU GET TO HAVE GOALS!

Today we’re going to introduce you to some mommas who had goals and crushed them!  

First, we’ll talk about why goals succeed!  Jon Acuff always says, “Success leaves clues.”  So, today we’ll talk about the two areas where you’ll succeed with goals, first in the setting of the goals, and then in the execution of the goals.  

• Success in Setting Goals (01:15)
• Success in Executing Goals (14:05)
• Recap (36:50)
• Wins (37:40)
• Invitation (54:44)

Momma you get to have goals, if you don't have the Deliberate Start goal planning guide yet, we want to give you a small taste of what's in there by sharing the personal reflection and personal beginning pages for free. 

You can get it: 

On Instagram (Thedeliberateday) -- DM us with the words:  Sneak Peek

Or by emailing us at Brittany@thedeliberateday.org

Happy goal planning momma!

Find the complete podcast notes on our website.

To find The Deliberate Day on Instagram, click here.

Looking for items shared in our podcasts?!

• Get the Editable Homeschool Clipboard Template here!
• Here's our Homeschool Plan Like A Mother Guide!
• For the 12 Week Planner, click here! (Use code PODCASTMOM for 20% off!)
• Get your FREE Meal Planning Kit here.
• For the Favorites List, go here.

Momma, all last week we told you, YOU get to have goals!  

If you were with us for last week’s podcast, you walked with us through our beloved goal planning guide The Deliberate Start.  That was borne from so many years of goal planning with the experts, testing out all their methods, all while making tweaks and changes, because motherhood is really unique.  It’s a unique vocation, a unique job, a unique calling…there are challenges unique to motherhood that you just don’t see in the rest of the world.  

We were really looking to make The Deliberate Start very accommodating to moms and the specific challenges we’re faced with every single day.  

• Why Goals Fail (01:20)
• Failure in Goal Setting (02:00)
• Failure in Goal Execution (12:35)
• Recap (45:40)
• Invitation (47:05)

Momma you get to have goals, if you don't have the Deliberate Start goal planning guide yet, we want to give you a small taste of what's in there by sharing the personal reflection and personal beginning pages for free. 

You can get it: 

On Instagram (Thedeliberateday) -- DM us with the words:  Sneak Peek

Or by emailing us at Brittany@thedeliberateday.org

Happy goal planning momma! 

Find the complete podcast notes on our website.

To find The Deliberate Day on Instagram, click here.

Looking for items shared in our podcasts?!

• Get the Editable Homeschool Clipboard Template here!
• Here's our Homeschool Plan Like A Mother Guide!
• For the 12 Week Planner, click here! (Use code PODCASTMOM for 20% off!)
• Get your FREE Meal Planning Kit here.
• For the Favorites List, go here.

Moms get to have goals too…whether you’re a stay at home mom who’s busy raising little ones, a mom who feels like she’s barely surviving, or a mom who is balancing homeschooling, a side hustle, or ALL OF THE ABOVE. We’re here to tell you, you get to have goals.

We’re continuing to take you step by step through goal planning for moms, 

We're talking honest to goodness moms who are living life balancing all the things and all the people. We started with self-reflection in podcast #61, unpacked a vision for your future in #62, and learned how to set priorities and align our goals in podcast #63, yesterday in podcast #64 we did Chose our big goals. Today we're breaking down ONE of those big goals with you into manageable and achievable steps.

The Deliberate Start came about from years of trial and error testing programs and suggestions from all kinds experts & resources. The only problem was none of them were made specifically taking the daily challenges and important mindset work unique to mommas.

This is a beautiful and heartfelt resource created exactly with mommas in mind. It includes 3 sections, the Deliberate Reflection, Deliberate Beginnings, and Deliberate Goal Planning. The prompts are designed to guide you with good questions, and checklists that solve the 'blank page problem' and will carry you through when your mom brain feels too exhausted to answer the deep questions. Whether you’re brand new to goal planning or a seasoned planner, we promise you, you’re going to hear something on this podcast, or you’re going to find something in the Deliberate Start that you’ve never considered before. I don't think there's any possible way you could do this guide and come away unchanged.

• Goal Breakdowns (02:30)
• Examples (04:20)
• 30-Day Goals Assessment (15:10)
  • Assessment Questions (16:50)
• Invitation (20:20)

So, if you just jumped in on this podcast or you've been with us all along, we created a beautiful guide that walks you through getting a Deliberate Start on your life.  It takes you step by step from reflection to a goals assessment made specifically with the unique beauties and challenges of motherhood in mind. It's all our podcasts in this series wrapped up in a comprehensive and lovely workbook, if that gets you fired up...NOW is the time for action. Go to here and get a copy of The Deliberate Start Guide!

Find the complete podcast notes on our website.

To find The Deliberate Day on Instagram, click here.

Looking for items shared in our podcasts?!

• Get the Editable Homeschool Clipboard Template here!
• Here's our Homeschool Plan Like A Mother Guide!
• For the 12 Week Planner, click here! (Use code PODCASTMOM for 20% off!)
• Get your FREE Meal Planning Kit here.
• For the Favorites List, go here.

Moms get to have goals too…whether you’re a stay at home mom who’s busy raising little ones, a mom who feels like she’s barely surviving, or a mom who is balancing homeschooling, a side hustle, or ALL OF THE ABOVE. We’re here to tell you, you get to have goals.

We’re continuing to take you step by step through goal planning for moms, 

We're talking real mom-life moms, the ones balancing all the things and all the people. We started with self-reflection in podcast #61, unpacked a vision for your future in #62, then we learned how to set priorities and align our goals with them in podcast #63, and today is all about THE GOALS!

We've tried ALLLL the goal planning things and it's because of this that we created The Deliberate Start.  It's designed by moms FOR moms. The experts have incredible suggestions, steps, and programs, but they always need tweaking to be able to apply them to the unique challenges and struggles of motherhood.

The Deliberate Start was created from its conception WITH the unique call to motherhood in mind. It has 3 sections, the Deliberate Reflection, Deliberate Beginnings, and Deliberate Goal Planning. The prompts are designed to guide you through with good questions and checklists that save you from overthinking or getting hung up staring at a blank page. Whether you’re brand new to goal planning or a seasoned planner, we promise you, you’re going to hear something on this podcast, or you’re going to find something in The Deliberate Start that you’ve never considered before. And dare we say, you cannot come away from this guide unchanged.

• Goals (02:15)
• Dreaming on Paper (03:25)
• Connecting Your Dreams with Your Big Picture (07:40)
• Narrowing Your Focus (11:00)
• Invitation (14:10)

If you're all in on this goal planning journey, OF COURSE YOU ARE! We've created a beautiful workbook that walks you through step by step with easy templates and checklists and even goes more in-depth than we're able to here on the podcast, if that gets you excited...head here, and get a copy of The Deliberate Start Guide!

Find the complete podcast notes on our website.

To find The Deliberate Day on Instagram, click here.

Looking for items shared in our podcasts?!

• Get the Editable Homeschool Clipboard Template here!
• Here's our Homeschool Plan Like A Mother Guide!
• For the 12 Week Planner, click here! (Use code PODCASTMOM for 20% off!)
• Get your FREE Meal Planning Kit here.
• For the Favorites List, go here.