Consent-Based Everything – Details, episodes & analysis

I chat to Sari and Becka about the nuts and bolts of deschooling: what it is, what it looks like, the places we get stuck and the ways we get ourselves out of them. I absolutely love how real they are about their own struggles and process, and how nuanced their understanding of deschooling is.

Must-listen for anyone in the weeds of deschooling (and isn't that every single one of us?!).

A bit about Sari & Becka:

Sari González and Becka Koritz are unschooling moms, youth liberation advocates, podcasters, parent coaches, facilitator trainers, consultants & founders of Radical Learning™️. Together they have 35+ years of experience supporting kids, adults & educational projects. They provide support at the intersection of unschooling, parenting, relationship & community building - empowering adults to support kids’ self-directed learning, autonomy and freedom. They also run Explora ALC, a pop-up Agile Learning Community in Puerto Escondido, Mexico, advocating for children’s rights & freedom. They see unschooling and parenting as collective liberation work where we develop practices centered in not just youth rights, but also human rights, social justice and building trusting & equitable relationships. They believe that by honoring the dignity of every individual, we can create more authentic relationships and strengthen the fabric of our world.

Connect with them @radicallearning

Some info about decolonized NVC that they mention in the episode, if you'd like to look at that further: https://www.meenadchi.com

Fran chats to Deena Barselah about our relationships with food and how to parent in ways that connect us and our children to the food we eat, as well as diet culture, anti-fat bias, whether food is really neutral and how do we partner with our children around food.

Deena Barselah is a Holistic and Integrative Health Coach who guides mothers and families all over the world to remove the chore from food and cultivate a more joyful, connected, easier, and confident relationship with food.  She's supported her own disordered eating, autoimmune conditions, and chronic digestive distress with gentle shifts in diet, habits, nervous system healing, and truly learning how to trust her body.  Deena believes there's no one-size-fits-all to food and that by cultivating a system that works well for your unique body and family, you can let go of the "shoulds" that weigh you down.  She lives in Encinitas, CA with her husband and son.  Previously, Deena worked in the corporate world in areas of Organizational Psychology and People Development.  

You can find Deena at her website, or on instagram.

Fran chats to Sara about all things living and learning without school, including the ways we see children, how we respect consent when things need to get done, "non-negotiable", building community and of course the every-present question of: how will they learn if we don't force them? ;)

Sara is a Mum of four girls from Brisbane, Australia. Her children have never been to school and instead live an unschooling life where they live and learn naturally from the world around them, with her help and support. Sara started sharing her family's experience with unschooling, as well as other thoughts on parenting and children's rights, 8 years ago on her blog, 'Happiness is Here'. Her goal was to spread the word about this alternative lifestyle and show people it was an awesome way to educate children, and that there are more cohesive and respectful ways to live with children. Happiness is Here continues to gain many new readers daily, and is now the largest unschooling blog in the world.

Find Sara on Instagram here.

Read Sara's blog here.

Follow Fran on insta here.

Fran chats to Rosalia Rivera about talking to children about consent as a way to educate them about their bodies and their right to safety and bodily autonomy. They chat about what this might look like, how it's a gradual process, how to chat to other adults in our lives about consent-based parenting and why creating a culture that is anti-abuse matters. They also talk about creating consent cultures within schools and other institutions, online safety, and changes that are happening on a wider scale.

About Rosalia:

Rosalia Rivera ia a passionate consent educator, child sexual abuse prevention expert, sexual literacy advocate, TEDx speaker, change agent, and survivor turned thriver. She's also the host of AboutCONSENT™ Podcast, the founder of CONSENTparenting™ and creatrix of CONSENTwear™.

The Brave Movement: https://www.bravemovement.org/

CONSENTparenting™: http://www.consentparenting.com

Instagram: http://Instagram.com/consentparenting

Facebook: http://Facebook.com/consentparenting

Fran chats to Eloise Rickman about parenting rooted in children's rights and why research around children's rights and education can be so gatekeepy and obscure. They also talk about writing about adultism and how it shows up, about the way we see children, and what child liberation is and can look like!

More about Eloise:

Eloise Rickman is an author, home educating parent, and founder of A Beautiful Childhood. She works with clients around the world through online courses and coaching. Her work focuses on children’s rights and liberation, and asks what parenting and education can look like through this lens. Extraordinary Parenting (Scribe, 2020) is her first book, and she is currently working on her second book on children’s liberation. She is currently working towards an MA in children’s rights.

She lives in South London with her husband and daughter (who has never been to school) and their lovely cat.

Find Eloise on instagram @mightymother_

A Beautiful Childhood website

Find Fran on instagram @bigmothering

Fran talks to Sherene Cauley about gentle parenting and how we can reframe it, about the role of presence in our lives and our relationships with our children and others, and why boundary work is not really what we think it is! 

Sherene Cauley is a Board Certified Health and Wellness Coach, the founder of The Nurtured Life, and the Associate Director of The Whole Health Center Bar Harbor. She provides wellness coaching services for clients across the country and hosts numerous programs on attuning to our inner and outer realities to build supportive, sustainable lifestyles. Sherene’s writing and programs, such as SOUNDheart and Respecting Organic Boundaries, aim to support us with moral fortitude and emotional integrity to confront the conflicts of our times and cultivate a culture of wellbeing. Sherene combines her knowledge in health coaching, peace studies, and wisdom traditions to offer coaching around barriers to peace, equity, and social justice. Sherene is a Doctoral student working towards her Doctor of Ministry with a focus on social transformation from Untied Theological Seminary, Twin Cities.

Sherene is a mother and step-mother of four children ages 26-10. She lives on the coast of Maine with her husband, mother, and several of her children. You can read her full bio here:

https://www.thenurturedlife.org/about

Website:

https://www.thenurturedlife.org

Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/thenurturedlife_sherene/

Facebook:

https://m.facebook.com

Tending Tender Boundaries Program:

https://www.thewholehealthcenter.org/registration/p/grove-immersion-pathway-summer-2022

The Nurtured Life

www.thenurturedlife.org

The Whole Health Center

www.thewholehealthcenter.org

410-440-8780

You can find Fran (the host) at @bigmothering on Instagram

In this episode Fran chats to Nadia Erlendson about creating and running a self-directed, consent-based community of young people in Pai, Thailand. They talk about how consent-based decisions are made, gathering as a group, respecting autonomy in our young people, the ways relationships can control and empower, and much more.

Nadia is an International School Educator turned Unschooling parent and Self Directed Education facilitator. After years of exploring humanistic approaches to teaching and learning in the classroom, Nadia left the school system to explore how she could contribute to community as an educator outside of schools. While in search of an unschooled community for own children, her and her partner decided to open their own mixed age, consent-based, self directed learning community in the mountains of Pai, Thailand.

You can find Nadia @regenerativeparentingedu

Find Fran @bigmothering

Fran chats to Erica Scott, creator of The Consent Culture Intro Workshop and co-author of the book "Creating Consent Culture: A Handbook for Educators". As a survivor of child sexual abuse, 20 plus years of working in a male dominated industry, and as a mother of young adult children, they feel the urgency to bring more effective consent education to a wider audience. She is the CEO of Creating Consent Culture and has taught consent in Canada, India and the US. In 2019 she was given the Rex Karmaveer Global Award for Social Innovation.

**Just a heads up that we talk briefly about child abuse and rape culture in this episode**

Resources:

Erica's website: https://www.creatingconsentculture.com and IG handle: @creating_consent_culture

Marcia Baczynski's website: https://askingforwhatyouwant.com

You can find Fran on IG @bigmothering 

I chat to Sophie Christophy about all things consent-based-ness: living in partnership with our children, practicing consent at home, in a setting, and out in the world; and creating cultures where consent thrives.

You can find Sophie at her website, and on instagram.

I chat to Amanda Diekman, parent coach and autistic mother of neurodivergent children, about Low-Demand Parenting, her journey to celebrating her family's Neurodiversity, and her new book! It's a beautiful chat and we talk about radical acceptance, permissiveness, inner work and so much more.

You can find Amanda on instagram @lowdemandamanda