Thanks for joining me on the Born to Know podcast. I’m Eyla Cuenca, for over a decade I’ve been guiding women and families on their path to reclaiming their self-sovereignty through the scope of fertility, conception, birth & postpartum.
You may know me for exposing the various ways in which disempowering narratives and systems claim to be giving us choice, convenience & freedom from suffering.
And just when it seems like I'm going to pull off the culprit's villain mask, I like to reveal how you've been in the driver's seat all along. We decide when we are ready to receive, to drop the struggle, to make the change, to walk toward life.
The Born To Know podcast brings you conversations with world-renowned experts & thought leaders in every field to peel back the layers of this epic world we live in and see where choice really resides for each of us, every day.
We are all born to know and to live as our most authentic and liberated selves.
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Welcome to Born To Know with your host, Eyla Cuenca. For this premiere episode, she will explore the transformative power of self-responsibility and empowerment in childbirth and beyond. Eyla critiques the conventional medical system, urging women to take back their autonomy and make informed choices. As a certified childbirth educator and doula, she shares her insights on how reclaiming birth experiences can shift them from traumatic to empowering. Learn how delving into family systems and addressing deep-rooted traumas can lead to profound healing and personal growth. Join Eyla as she unpacks societal narratives, encourages introspection, and inspires a path toward authentic and fulfilling living.
Eyla Cuenca is a Childbirth Educator, Doula, health freedom advocate & birth trauma alchemist.
Her work is dedicated to offering guidance that supports women and men in returning to their deepest knowing about birth, individual sovereignty, and the body’s innate intelligence.
With a BA in Anthropology and Ethnographic photography from Bennington College, Eyla studied family systems and is passionate about helping change the conversation around the way women birth and initiate into the world. She brings an anthropological lens to her work, with an eye for institutional critique.
Eyla trained with the AAHCC founded by Robert A. Bradley, MD, where she specialized as a Birth Educator and Doula. Her work as a Guardian Ad Litem for the 11th Judicial Circuit of Florida as well as attending over 200 births as a Doula – in both hospital and home settings – brought her into health freedom and advocacy work.
Eyla thoroughly believes that it is everyone’s right to have access to empowering education from conception to parenting and that by using the tool of birth we can understand the origin of chronic illness, and access freedom, connection and the most authentic version of ourselves.
Timestamps:
5:57 Understanding the core of why trauma persists.
14:51 Making different decisions that align with your instinct.
24:24 Developing a healthy permission field for others.
30:31 Taking responsibility for your own choices and healing.
Want to connect with Eyla through education or training? Check out her offerings at the Uncovering Birth Website and use discount code BTK10 on any Uncovering Births Digital products or classes.
Another way to connect with Eyla is through her Instagram.
002. How to Touch Your Spouse, How to Be Better at Receiving & More with Whitney Lowery
Episode 2
Tuesday, October 15, 2024 • Duration 01:25:46
Learn to speak your needs and feel safer in your body with the signature course from Uncovering Birth, Creating Safety in the Body. Use the code BTK10 for 10% off!
In this episode, Eyla sits down with Whitney Lowery, an embodiment facilitator who works with women and couples on self-awareness and personal sovereignty. Whitney shares some simple tools, like somatic exercises and grounding techniques, that will help you manage the inevitable stresses of today’s world plus enhance your relationship dynamics. Tune into this episode to learn all about balancing self-care with partnership responsibilities, breaking old patterns, and genuinely connecting with your own desires.
I am Whitney Lowery, an embodiment facilitator focused on helping women feel safer and more at-ease with pleasure, rest, and doing things their own way. The women I work with are great at pushing themselves onward and enduring lots of discomfort to achieve their goals. Relaxing only makes them more tense and pleasure is just another place to perform. Just another chore to check off the list making it another goal to achieve. The self-care they choose is mostly about self-improvement rather than joy or adding to their aliveness. Even embodiment is effortful and filled with the pressure to do it right and be good at it. I use moving meditations and simple exercises so women can practice sensing their body's feedback and moving for their body's pleasure rather than mirroring me or moving to my body's rhythm. It's like choosing your own adventure so I constantly give you options for personalizing things to your body's preferences. You expand your capacity to feel yourself, release built-up tension, and come home to your body.
Timestamps:
5:41 How to use different nervous system tools to manage stress.
7:09 Why grounding yourself before social interactions matters.
003. Why It's Not Your Husband's Responsibility To Change with Kelley Cama
Episode 3
Tuesday, October 22, 2024 • Duration 01:18:44
In this episode, Eyla interviews Kelley Cama, a relationship expert and creator of the Beloved Program. Kelley dives deep into the evolution of modern relationship dynamics, emphasizing the importance of communication and personal responsibility. She shares her transformation journey from struggling with relationship challenges to embracing femininity and building a successful marriage. Tune in to learn actionable strategies for fostering open communication, setting clear boundaries, and transforming your relationship dynamics. Kelley's insights promise to inspire and empower your approach to love and partnership.
Kelley Cama helps women become submissive in their relationships. She coaches partnered women to soften into their femininity and let their man lead, as well as coaches single women to attract their future husbands.
Timestamps:
10:32 Practice feminine communication to express unmet needs effectively.
13:18 Use both softness and strength to communicate in relationships.
23:01 Focus on filling your own cup to invite your partner to lean in.
32:01 Peel back layers of resentment to uncover the tender desire.
35:26 Approach your partner with softness to change defensive dynamics.
50:24 Communicate relationship needs with clarity and set boundaries.
58:33 Use feminine tools to step out of the victim mindset and alchemize relationships.
Ready to soften into your feminine essence and experience the relationship you dream of? Learn how through Kelley’s Intimate Coaching Program: How to Feel Seen, Safe, and Feminine in Love.
004. Are Your Fertility Problems Caused By A Lack Of Protein? With Lily Nichols
Episode 4
Tuesday, November 5, 2024 • Duration 01:05:43
Every woman deserves to start or grow her family on her own organic timeline. If you’re ready to take your fertility into your own hands, take my masterclass on Getting Pregnant After 35.
In this episode, Eyla interviews Lily Nichols, a renowned dietitian and certified diabetes educator with deep expertise in prenatal and fertility nutrition. It’s a fact that what you eat impacts your fertility, so what does that mean for you? Is a plant-based diet the best? What is the role of protein? What are the common misconceptions about eating for fertility that you need to be aware of? Tune in to learn the answers to these questions and understand the incredibly powerful connection between what you eat and your reproductive well-being.
Lily Nichols is a Registered Dietitian/Nutritionist, Certified Diabetes Educator, researcher, and author with a passion for evidence-based nutrition. Her work is known for being research-focused, thorough, and sensible. She is the founder of the Institute for Prenatal NutritionⓇ, co-founder of the Women’s Health Nutrition Academy, and the author of three books: Real Food for Fertility (co-authored with Lisa Hendrickson-Jack), Real Food for Pregnancy, and Real Food for Gestational Diabetes. Lily’s bestselling books have helped tens of thousands of mamas (and babies!), are used in university-level maternal nutrition and midwifery courses, and have even influenced prenatal nutrition policy internationally. She writes on her website.
Timestamps:
5:30 How protein stabilizes energy levels and improves performance.
9:01 Are you underestimating your protein needs?
12:37 The importance of animal fats in fertility and overall health.
20:14 Debunking the myth that low fat is best.
007. Reclaiming Our Forgotten Instinctual Movements with Bam Lionheart
Episode 7
Tuesday, December 10, 2024 • Duration 59:31
Explore the power of Primal Movement and learn how it impacts birth and pregnancy in Eyla and Bam’s online course.
Bam Lionheart is a movement expert and founder of Primal Movement.
In this episode, you're going to learn how movement can alleviate chronic pain and stiffness, the importance of natural resting positions like squatting, how childhood habits influence adult movement and posture, practical tips to improve your work and rest environments for better alignment, and why movement is essential for overall health and vitality.
Bam is a movement enthusiast, coach, and founder of Primal Movement. His teaching focuses on mastering human movement and the fundamental movements that all humans naturally do. He has been coaching for 10 years extracting his knowledge from world experience as a mixed martial artist, 911 EMT first responder, endurance running and swimming, weightlifting, surfing, dancing and more. Through his teaching, many clients experience massive pain reduction, a deeper connection with their bodies, and a refinement of their kinesthetic awareness. He believes everyone can heal and live a pain-free life by disrupting the status quo of how they move and relearning our human instinctual, natural movement patterns.
Timestamps:
[03:00] Why chronic pain is not a natural part of aging
[05:57] Similar patterns in different movement practices
[07:15] Why children are instinctual movers
[08:18] How modern conditioning limits natural movement
[09:28] Why sedentary lifestyles harm the body
006. Solving Generational Trauma using Family Constellations with Amerly Centeno
Episode 6
Tuesday, November 26, 2024 • Duration 52:46
Amerly Centeno is a family constellations master with expertise in neuro-linguistic programming, transactional analysis, and psychotherapy.
In this episode, you're going to learn what family constellations are and how they differ from traditional talk therapy, why unresolved family patterns can influence your life and how to recognize them. You’ll also learn the role of saying "yes" to life as it is and its impact on personal growth, how rejecting or embracing your parents affects areas like money and relationships, and the importance of integrating both parental energies to unlock success and fulfillment.
The founder of Quanta Systemic Academy. Amerly Centeno is a Mother of 2, Athlete (triathlon), lover of the ocean, facilitator and master practitioner of Family Constellations and systemic therapy for over 20 years. Amerly brings intuition and compassion into a sacred space for upliftment, growth, and healing and she now trains facilitators in Family Constellations.
In Amerly's words:
On my journey, I've cultivated a blend of formal education, career experiences, and valuable tools that have shaped me into a compassionate and empathetic individual. I deeply value empathy, respect and non-judgment in supporting others.
To enhance my ability to serve you effectively, I've pursued education in various fields. I hold a degree in Social Science with a Major in training and development, along with an MBA focused on management and leadership and a Masters in Psychology.
My passion lies in helping individuals like you discover their full potential, embrace their destiny, and surrender to the essential next step. I firmly believe in the power of personal growth and transformation, as we came to this life experience gifted with all the resources we need to overcome challenges.
005. Why Hospital Birth Is Riskier Than Ever: Avoiding Unproven Interventions with Dr. Stuart Fischbein
Episode 5
Tuesday, November 12, 2024 • Duration 01:12:02
Dive deeper into preparing for birth, navigating the system and becoming fully prepared for an empowered postpartum & parenting journey. Your peaceful pregnancy begins here.
Dr. Stuart J. Fischbein is a community-based obstetrician with decades of experience attending births. His current focus is on teaching breech and twin birth skills.
In this episode, you're going to learn about the six high-risk interventions commonly used on pregnant women that have never been tested or proven to be safe, why modern hospital birth models have worse outcomes than those of 50 years ago, the cascade of medical interventions that leads to unnecessary C-sections, why many birth complications are caused by the hospital environment itself and how women can make more empowered choices to avoid unnecessary medical interventions during childbirth.
Stuart J. Fischbein, MD, is a community-based obstetrician and an Associate of the American College of Obstetrics & Gynecology, published author of the book “Fearless Pregnancy, Wisdom & Reassurance from a Doctor, A Midwife and A Mom” and peer-reviewed papers: Homebirth with an Obstetrician, A Series of 135 Out of Hospital Births and Breech birth at home: outcomes of 60 breech and 109 cephalic planned home and birth center births.
After completing his residency at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center in Los Angeles, Dr. Stu spent 24 years assisting women with hospital birthing and for the last 13 years has been a home birth obstetrician who works directly with midwives.
Since retiring from attending home births in 2022, Dr. Stu has turned his focus to travelling around the world as a lecturer and advocate for reteaching breech & twin birth skills, respect for the normalcy of birth and honouring informed consent.
008. Why So Many Relationships Fail with Bishop RC Blakes, Jr.
Episode 8
Tuesday, December 24, 2024 • Duration 56:44
Are you looking to uplevel, heal, step into your calling and serve your community with purpose and joy? Join us for the transformative Uncovering Birth Doula Training.
RC Blakes Jr. is a pastor, author, and teacher who focuses on empowering individuals through spiritual and personal growth.
In this episode, you're going to learn how to create personal initiation rituals to transition into adulthood, the importance of reparenting yourself to fill the gaps from childhood, how to align relationships with personal growth and purpose, why selflessness is a cornerstone for strong partnerships, and what it means to cultivate a "queen consciousness" or "king consciousness" mindset for individual and relational success.
RC Blakes, Jr. is the husband of Lisa Blakes and father of four beautiful children and three grandsons. He and his brother work together to oversee the New Home Family of Churches, a ministry encompassing six locations from Louisiana to Texas. He has been in ministry for forty two years and has been pastoring for 36 years. He serves as the Senior Pastor of the New Home Family Worship Center in New Orleans, Louisiana and Houston, Texas. RC has a Master of Theology from the Christian Bible College of Louisiana and is an internationally sought after teacher of the word of God.
His literary works include: The Father Daughter Talk, Queenology, Kingology, Imperfectly Holy, Me, My Mind, Wisdom for Women In Ministry, Soul Ties, and his newest release Training For Reigning. He and his wife, Lisa are also Authors of the book, "God's Playbook For A Winning Family" which has brought restoration to many families.
RC’s transparency and integrity have drawn thousands to his life application and empowering messages. People have gained a workable knowledge of the Word of God, as he expounds on the scripture and sheds light in dark areas. The ministry of RC Blakes is characterized as Empowering, Positive, Practical and Prophetic.
011. The Mind-Blowing Science of Flower Essences with Katie Hess
Katie Hess is a flower essence expert and founder of Lotus Wei.
In this episode, you're going to learn how flower essences can address emotional and physical imbalances, why the mother’s healing journey can transform her entire family, how subtle fears influence everyday decisions and ways to unravel them, how plants connect with humans through unseen energy exchanges, and practical steps to identify the flowers or plants that can best support your well-being.
Katie Hess is an expert in flower alchemy - using the healing power of flowers to awaken our true potential. She travels in search of rare flowers with the healing qualities most needed today, from the forests of British Columbia to sacred sites in India, rainforests in Costa Rica, hot springs in Iceland and the jungles of Taiwan. Katie captures the activating life-force potential of flowers and translates it into an accessible method to bring more happiness into our daily lives.
One of the most sustainable forms of natural medicine, flower remedies are known for their short-term benefits like clarity, focus and sleep, with long-term benefits of rapid personal growth.
Having gathered empirical research from thousands of private clients, Katie created a flower essence library with over 150 elixirs now used by people in more than 50 countries.
Rough Timestamps:
[03:21] How Katie discovered flower essences
[06:15] The world’s openness to natural healing now
010. How to Build Containment and Trust with Om Rupani
In this episode, you're going to learn what containment means and why it’s essential in personal and relational dynamics, how men and women can create healthier interactions through understanding boundaries, how agency and consent transform challenging dynamics into healing opportunities, why men struggle to step into their dominance, and practical advice for improving relational dynamics, whether in parenting, partnerships, or professional settings.
Om Rupani is an expert and teacher in the field of man-woman relating as well as the founder of Om Rupani's School for Dominance & Submission and leader of BDSM trainings, workshops and communities.
Timestamps:
[03:16] What is containment?
[06:48] The importance of containment for children
[10:16] How boys learn containment from older men
[12:01] Why men benefit from role models
[14:30] The concept of coolness in masculinity
[16:34] How lack of boundaries affects relationships
[18:22] Why containment improves relationships
[22:32] Why consistent containment is necessary
[24:15] How gratitude affects relationships
[26:51] The difference between consensual and non-consensual dynamics
[30:10] Why BDSM is about mutual self-interest
21:56 How to differentiate between pushing yourself to the edge and self-abuse.
24:37 Why microdosing discomfort can help you grow.
35:55 How to practice receiving in small, tangible ways.
43:51 Why recognizing entitlement dynamics can improve relationships.
52:19 How changing your behaviour can shift the dynamics in your relationship.
Whitney offers 1:1 Coaching for Couples to build deeper trust and intimacy, while also taking women on their own journey of discovery and healing.
Connect with Whitney through the Being With Your Body Website.
Work with Eyla 1:1 to understand your story better in an Alchemy Session. We visit from anything to birth trauma or releasing fear around conception, to birthing or postpartum. This also doesn't have to be about birth. Let's alchemize whatever block is coming up for you.
The Art of Receiving and Giving by Betty Martin | Book or Audiobook
Connect with Eyla through the Uncovering Birth Website and her Instagram.
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Eyla loves Lotus Wei’s potent flower elixirs because they help women get into their body and “out of the story”. Check out Luscious Embodiment and the Healing From Loss bundle.
Love & Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs | Book or Audiobook
Connect with Eyla through the Uncovering Birth Website and her Instagram.
29:40 Why nutrition during preconception is critical for fertility.
47:03 How poor nutrition impacts the success of IVF.
50:13 Improving sperm quality by avoiding processed oils and sugars.
If you’re a health practitioner ready to up-level your knowledge of prenatal nutrition, visit the Institute for Prenatal Nutrition website and check out their mentorship program.
Do you feel called to hold space for women through the arc of conception, pregnancy, birth and postpartum? You can become a doula in 5 months with Eyla’s online doula training, certification and mentorship program.
He hosts a weekly podcast with co-host Blyss Young and together they offer hope, reassurance and safe, honest evidence-supported choices for those women who understand pregnancy is a normal bodily function not to be feared.
Timestamps:
[03:29] Dr. Stu’s experience with hospital and home births
[08:25] Common medical interventions and their risks
[13:19] Differences between home birth and hospital birth environments
[17:07] How interventions lead to unnecessary C-sections
[22:24] Importance of partner support during labour
[31:28] Vaccine safety concerns during pregnancy
[38:40] Breech birth misconceptions and why they are labelled high-risk
[47:14] How doctors' fear affects birthing choices and outcomes
Confused about medical information or hearing advice that just doesn’t sit well with your intuition? Work with Dr. Stu!
Connect with Eyla through the Uncovering Birth Website and her Instagram.
Along with the many hats RC wears, his greatest love is to serve mankind. His heart for the underserved, underprivileged and mistreated in this society has been demonstrated in his many community outreaches on a national level. RC believes the greatest office that anyone can hold is that of a servant. One of his greatest passions is working with his wife Lisa in the healing and empowerment of women across the globe.
Timestamps:
[05:05] RC Blakes shares his personal story of redemption
[07:39] Overcoming shame and rebuilding self-worth
[10:12] Importance of combining therapy and spirituality
[12:49] Letting go of relationships that hold you back
[15:07] Understanding the concept of queen consciousness
[18:49] Why individuality is essential before relationships
[21:21] Social media’s impact on personal identity
[23:16] How to create personal initiation rituals
[26:02] Reparenting yourself to fill childhood gaps
[27:33] Finding mentors and accountability
[30:24] Navigating relationships with misaligned partners
[35:00] Recognizing emotional unavailability
[39:02] Avoiding toxic cycles in relationships
[43:13] Family dynamics and preserving generational values
[46:51] Conscious planning before starting a family
[50:46] Building selflessness in relationships
[53:08] Defining roles for sustainable partnerships
[54:43] Aligning with values in relationships
If you want to learn more from RC Blakes, Jr, click here for lifetime access to his online programs.
Connect with Eyla through the Uncovering Birth Website and her Instagram.
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