Be There in Five – Details, episodes & analysis

A casual late night monologue, gabbing about things on Kate's mind, including but not limited to:

Hilary Duff's new single "Mature"

Speaking of age gaps, Kat Stickler and John Mayer dating??

Celeb plastic surgery content

Danielle Bernstein's wedding, which turned out was the engagement party

Shay Mitchell's new company selling SHEET MASKS TO THE CHILDREN

Performing beauty rituals in front of young kids

What Kate, an adult, used on her face/skin in that pope video

One month of Life of a Showgirl

Rosalia's Lux and the joy of a creative risk that challenges your attention span

Lily Allen's West End Girl and discourse about the discourse

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This week, Kate's trying something new during her off week: a Fall/Halloween-themed mashup episode pulling together some of her favorite topically adjacent clips from the past 7+ years of Be There in Five. Includes segments from Make Your Christian Brothers Autumnal, Ween Pics, Spooky Snorkel, and Wicked Witch of the Midwest, covering foliage conspiracies, cozy chasing, how Claire ate the muffins, Now & Then-style seances and sleepover occult rituals, ghost fashions, the historical context of witches, why millennials are attached to fall, and so much more. Enjoy!

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Hey Beths, did you know all of your favorite podcasts, including Be There in Five are on Amazon Music? We all know finding the best listening platform can be a challenge, but Amazon Music does it right. They make the process seamless from start to finish. You can even listen on any Alexa-powered devices you have. All you have to say is 'Alexa, play the podcast Be There In Five on Amazon Music.' Or if you're listening on your phone, just download the Amazon Music app, search for "Be There In Five" and click "Follow."

This week, Kate's interviewing Lee Tilghman, also known as @LeeFromAmerica, who was one of the very first major wellness influencers on social media. To her nearly 400k followers, she shared daily updates on everything from skincare and sleep hacks to smoothie bowls, travel tips, and workout routines, and her sponsorships netted an income of over $300k a year. On the grid, her life seemed perfect. But behind her carefully curated posts, Tilghman was in crisis, suffocating from the unrelenting demand of keeping up her online facade. She found herself viewing everything she did as potential content for Instagram, her relationships suffered, and her job's focus on food led her to develop an unhealthy obsession with eating "perfectly." After a stay in a mental health facility to address her disordered eating and psychological decline, Tilghman quit influencing as her primary career and set out to discover who she really was by leaving it all behind. Or did she?

In this episode, Kate and Lee discuss her memoir (out Tuesday Aug 12) "If You Don't Like This, I Will Die," with topics including the pressures of influencer culture, the evolution of wellness trends, and the complexities of social media addiction. They explore Lee's journey through extreme wellness practices, her current POV on her treatment for orthorexia, and her departure from the influencer world. Ultimately, while Lee shares a compelling personal story, the conversation reveals notable inconsistencies between her current perspectives and her memoir's narrative, so Kate also contemplates how curated online personas continue to shape real-life accountability in her outtro and will continue the conversation over at patreon.com/bethereinfive.

Note: This episode covers eating disorders and wellness culture. For resources and support, visit NEDA.org

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This week, Stephanie McNeal (former culture reporter for BuzzFeed, currently a senior editor at Glamour Magazine, and the recent nemesis of Tom Sandoval's nail beds) returns to the podcast to discuss her new book about the lives of influencers called Swipe Up For More. First, Kate reminisces about their first convo in 2020, does a brief snorkel about Caroline Calloway's upcoming $65 book made from Italian paper (?), and then Kate and Stephanie dive into topics from her book, e.g. what it was like to shadow Shannon Bird IRL, her pilgrimage to the Utah suburbs, how/why she chose which influencers to feature, virality versus consistency in audience building, the difference between bloggers, influencers and content creators, which platforms prioritize the success of their creators, and other insights behind the curtain and into the 'secretive real world of influencers,' per her subtitle. Enjoy!

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This week, Kate finally digs into the Duggar world after finding the Prime Video documentary Shiny Happy People particularly riveting/alarming, and explores topics adjacent to the crimes, controversy, and cultural relevance of the family, along with the connections of the IBLP to homeschooling and extensive political pipelines designed to infiltrate positions of power with individuals groomed with fundamentalist beliefs. Kate discusses her taste in reality tv, her history with TLC programming, researches a little more about wisdom booklet teachings, briefly spirals about the "He Gets Us" Super Bowl campaign/Hobby Lobby CEO, and shares some of her own POV regarding the glorifying of religious authority and how it mimics abusive dynamics.

TWs: SA, CSAM, religious trauma, among other horrifying topics. Please only listen if you've watched the doc and are familiar with the subject matter.

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This week, Kate interviews Yseult Mukantabana and Hannah Summerhill (from The Kinswomen podcast) about their book, Real Friends Talk About Race, which uses their own friendship and experiences from different racial backgrounds to offer guidance on navigating layered conversations between friends. They talk about how they met and started these conversations in living rooms, why they wanted to provide a resource for bridging the gap through uncomfortable conversations, how they approach uncomfortable moments in their friendship, representation online and in pop culture, and more. Enjoy!

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This week, Kate reviews the Bama Rush doc on (HBO) Max and discusses why she thinks the doc fell short of our expectations as viewers and voyeurs of this Tiktok phenomenon. First, she reviews her initial reaction, the director's role in it, why she realized it would be impossible for cameras to get on the inside, and reviews some of the core themes that were touched on but not explored. She also speculates about the important things, like sticker gate with Holiday. Then, Kate is joined by another Kate (from Reality Life with Kate Casey), and they pick up where the convo left off on her podcast (link below) and discuss more sorority lore, questions the doc left unanswered, and even do a role-playing exercise where one Kate asks the other if certain behaviors would get PNMs the boot from recruitment. She also provides a detailed list of what's on this week's must-watch list. Enjoy!

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This week, Kate answers listener voicemails, with topics including (but not limited to) a listener's romantic tryst with one James Marsden, a mysterious voicemail about Kate's signature sign-off, the use of the term of endearment "mama," a Bachelor lore snorkel regarding which season Kate would go on if she were here to make friends, thoughts on baby naming trends/Utah spellings, and celebrity privacy and parasocial relationships, discussed through the lens of the recent car chase with Meghan & Harry and Taylor Swift's new (maybe) relationship (but undeniable platforming) of Matty Healy. Enjoy & don't forget to call in for the next one - 312.379.9676.

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This week, Kate muses aloud about her feeling like influencer and affiliate marketing has pyramid scheme vibes, then goes off on a tangent about vague marketing jobs in the context of being "pink collar" jobs that aren't treated the same as more technical roles, then eventually gets back on topic an interviews Emily Lynn Paulson (author of Hey Hun: Sales, Sisterhood, Supremacy, and the Other Lies Behind Multilevel Marketing) about the good, the bad, and the cringy of her time bossbabing as a top earner in an MLM. Enjoy!

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This week, Kate interviews Sara Petersen, author of Momfluenced: Inside the Maddening, Picture-Perfect World of Mommy Influencer Culture, and they discuss all sorts of topics regarding the performance of motherhood online, from the origin of the 'cult of domesticity' to modern moms rebooting civilization as homesteaders and beyond. Enjoy!

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