The View from my Soapbox – Détails, épisodes et analyse

We spend so much of our lives in between -- between milestones, between jobs, meetings, relationships, seasons of our lives, versions of ourselves. Isn't it time we get comfortable in the gap between where we left and where we're going?

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Today I'm diving into my theory (which has probably been said before) about the appeal of trashy "reality" shows. No shame here, I'll never say no to a little Too Hot to Handle or The Circle or (unpopular favourite) Marriage or Mortgage.

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This week we talk about actionable ways to get started on actually working on yourself, featuring my housemates doing their laundry. <3

References:

CMHA Fast Facts on Mental Illness: https://cmha.ca/fast-facts-about-mental-illness#:~:text=In%20any%20given%20year%2C%201,some%20time%20in%20their%20lives. 

For more information on stress and health, read Why Zebras Don’t Get Ulcers by Robert Sapolsky. 

National Institute on Alcohol Use and Alcoholism on AUD: https://www.niaaa.nih.gov/alcohols-effects-health/alcohol-use-disorder 

Keng, S-L., Smoski, M. J., and Robins, C. J. (2011). Effects of mindfulness on psychological health: a review of empirical studies. Clinical psychology review, 31(6), 1041-1056. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.cpr.2011.04.006

Interesting resource on mindfulness from the Mind & Life Institute: https://web.archive.org/web/20140322013413/http://www.mindandlife.org/dialogues/past-conferences/ml18/

University of Oxford podcast, Mark Williams on the Science of Mindfulness (2011): https://podcasts.ox.ac.uk/science-mindfulness 

Ten Percent Happier podcast with Dan Harris: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast 

Suggested reading/listening:

Jonathan Haidt, The Happiness Hypothesis: https://www.amazon.ca/Happiness-Hypothesis-Finding-Modern-Ancient/dp/0465028020

Brene Brown’s books & podcasts: https://brenebrown.com/books-audio/

Unf*ck Your Brain podcast with Kara Loewentheil: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/ 

Ten Percent Happier podcast with Dan Harris: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast 

Super Soul podcast with Oprah, baby! : https://open.spotify.com/show/0nMF1JL5tNJW7B0teIFWxV 

The Happiness Lab with Dr. Laurie Santos: https://open.spotify.com/show/3i5TCKhc6GY42pOWkpWveG?si=WZwBujpbRWODLxJNZ1NmmA

Anna Akana on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/AnnaAkana 

Psych2Go on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/Psych2GoTv

The School of Life on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/schooloflifechannel 

Connect with me on Instagram: @francescsivilotti or by email: theviewfrommysoapbox@gmail.com

What does it actually mean to be "working on myself"? This two-part series delves into this confusing but essential process.

TL;DR: Perfectionism is the armour that you think will protect you from seeming flawed to the rest of the world, but that is actually so heavy and cumbersome to carry around that it won’t even let you move. Be gentle with your flawed self, and the flawed selves of others. Also, read Brené Brown's books.

References:

Daniel Gilbert, The psychology of your future self, TED 2014. https://www.ted.com/talks/dan_gilbert_the_psychology_of_your_future_self/transcript?language=en 

Brene Brown, I Thought It Was Just Me (But It Isn’t). Avery, Penguin Random House LLC, 2007.

Sebene Selassie, The difference between pain and suffering, Ten Percent Happier. https://www.tenpercent.com/meditationweeklyblog/the-difference-between-pain-and-suffering 

Anne Lamott, Bird By Bird: Some Instructions on Writing and Life. Anchor, 1995. 

Thank you to Adam Sunavsky for editing help, check out his YouTube channel on finances & the stock market! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCEKFR7GuFImvoFJm-1iX9pg

Reach out to me anytime at theviewfrommysoapbox@gmail.com if you're Brené Brown and want to collab, or if you're anyone else and you just want to say hi :)

This week we dive into our happiest memories to answer Nietzsche’s eternal recurrence thought experiment! Also, we learn how to pronounce "Nietzsche." [I’m so sorry that I say the words “hold space” three times in this episode. I know it’s kinda gross and self-help-y but that was what resonated with me today.] Happy Thursday!

References:

Friedrich Nietzsche, The Gay Science, 1882. 

Philosophize This! Podcast by the delightful Stephen West (episode #128: Gilles Deleuze pt.4 - Flows). 

Drake, “6PM In New York”, If You’re Reading This It’s Too Late (2015 Cash Money Records). 

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Reach me anytime at theviewfrommysoapbox@gmail.com with your stories, topic suggestions, or just to say hi!

Ever wondered where the picture on the cover of this podcast comes from? That story, and more. And happy 91st birthday to my one and only nonno! Thank you for your gentleness and for always staying near me no matter the distance.

References from today's episode come from Gregory Hayes's translation of Meditations, as well as Ryan Holiday's podcast The Daily Stoic.

As always, you can reach me at theviewfrommysoapbox@gmail.com with questions, topic suggestions, feedback, or even just to say hi :)

I forgot to plug in my microphone and only realized after I was done, so I apologize if the audio sounds gross. This is my "gift of imperfection" for you today (Brené Brown would be so proud)! Now go forth and embrace your own imperfections!

Email me anytime: theviewfrommysoapbox@gmail.com

You can also find me on TikTok but I'm not going to link it because it's cringy and I'd honestly pretend the account doesn't exist, so you can find it if you'd like, but I'm not gonna make it easy.

Favourite moment of this episode? "Your precious eyeballs." ... It tasted good in my head, but not in my mouth. Chloe, if you're reading this... you know.

We're trying something new this week and oh baby, this one's fun. I don't even know what to write here - just listen. Listen, then think for yourself.

As always, email me anytime at theviewfrommysoapbox@gmail.com and tell me all the ways you disagree with me.

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References:

Randy E. Barnett, Restitution: A New Paradigm for Criminal Justice, 87 Ethics 279 (1977) https://scholarship.law.georgetown.edu/facpub/1558/ 

John Howard Society, Financial Facts on Canadian Prisons, 2018. https://johnhoward.ca/blog/financial-facts-canadian-prisons/ 

Centre for Addiction and Mental Health: Mental Illness and the Prison System, n.d. https://www.camh.ca/en/camh-news-and-stories/mental-illness-and-the-prison-system 

If you go to Dalhousie University, I highly recommend HIST 3226: Law & Justice in Canada to 1890.

Resources:

Police-reported crime statistics in Canada up to 2019: https://www150.statcan.gc.ca/n1/pub/85-002-x/2020001/article/00010-eng.htm 

Canadian DOJ on the overrepresentation of Indigenous people in the criminal justice system: https://www.justice.gc.ca/socjs-esjp/en/ind-aut/uo-cs

BLM Legal Resources: https://blacklivesmatter.ca/legal-resources

Some tough love (and a dash of stoicism) to help you ward off the Sunday Scaries. Happy week 9; don't forget it's all optional and life is meaningless!

“The wealth required by nature is limited and easy to procure. But the wealth required by vain ideals extends to infinity.” ~ Epictetus, Principle Doctrine #15

Sorry about how many times I say *y'all* in this episode. Also, sorry if the way I pronounce "exercise" aggravates you.

Email me anytime at theviewfrommysoapbox@gmail.com , let's vibe!

We were never meant to be bombarded with bids for our attention during every minute of our lives. But in today's attention economy, stillness, and idleness, is a skill and a talent.

This evening, we meditate on dishwashers, seasonal depression, and Truman Burbank (with spoilers).

Connect with me at theviewfrommysoapbox@gmail.com and tell me about the angst-inducing cycles in your life!

Happy reading week everybody. Yours,

Francesca